def detect_missing_relations(self, obj, exc):
        """
        Parse error messages and collect the missing-relationship errors
        as a dict of Resource -> {id set}
        """
        missing = defaultdict(set)
        for name, err in exc.error_dict.items():
            # check if it was a relationship that doesnt exist locally
            pattern = r".+ with id (\d+) does not exist.+"
            m = re.match(pattern, str(err))
            if m:
                field = obj._meta.get_field(name)
                res = self.get_resource(field.related_model)
                missing[res].add(int(m.group(1)))
        return missing