The objective of this paper is to deconstruct the dualistic concept of aggressor/executioner-offended/victim in the context of domestic violence. Thus, it focuses on the change of a reprimand perspective to a pedagogical one concerning to men who perpetrate violence, as a way of ensuring greater effectiveness to public policies for women's safety and violence prevention. In addition, violence against women as a public health problem need to be highlighted, as well as the stereotypical view about gender roles, which demonstrate the problem of society connivance with aggressive behaviors against women and its difficulty on recognizing them as violence. Furthermore, it is intended to support the understanding that the implementation of education and reflection programs for male aggressors must become a priority of the State (lato sensu) and not just a possibility prescribed by the Law 11.340/06.