The Call

God has been working on me for a long-time to share my story; in fact, He has been leading me for most of 2013. In December, I decided to make the leap of conviction and do what I feel called to do.

My personal resolution is to add at least one post per week during 2014. Moreover, I want my posts to provide an appropriate level of detail, in raw form, about my story. There is both pain and magnificence. There is dishonesty and truth. There is shame and praise. Infidelity is wrong. People get hurt. Living without God can be ugly.

This is my inaugural post and I debated for a long-time on the topic. Should I start with one or more events? Various emotions? The affairs? A memory or two? The children? Family? Her? Me? Others involved? Humorous moments? This list goes on. However, I concluded that there is no single, best topic. I just need to write and let God lead.

That said this post is short and simple. Yet, I hope it contains a powerful message that captures many attributes of what happens when infidelity punctures a marriage. This is an audio recording of me attempting to understand what was happening at the time. In this recording, I am trying to speak with one of the men having an affair with my now ex-wife. He is married and has a child. If you listen closely, I did not hang up the phone completely, and you can hear my sighs at the end. He was warned by my ex-wife prior to my call. He never spoke with me. Their names are masked and the voice altered to protect them.

It may seem obvious, but adultery affects others and breaks up families. I believe that people committing infidelity may overlook that fact, and they may believe they will never get caught. They selfishly think of themselves. If you have ever had to confront the other man or other woman, you may be able to relate to this difficult act. If you are in an affair or pondering an affair, would you want your spouse to make a similar call?

Last and most importantly, God is a loving and forgiving God. He loves even the most vile and will forgive the most egregious sins. God offers forgiveness and a new beginning to all the accept Christ.