Title: Is Your Parenting Psychologically Controlling? | Psychology Today
Headings: Is Your Parenting Psychologically Controlling?
Nancy Darling Ph.D.
Is Your Parenting Psychologically Controlling?
Good parenting asks kids to DO things, not think or feel them.
THE BASICS

Content: Mislabeling the emotions of children confuses them and makes it difficult for them to know what they truly feel. It also erases the distinction between the self and needs of the child and the self and needs of the parent. If mislabeling feelings is accompanied by implicit or explicit guilt induction for not feeling what the parent wants or if it is accompanied by love withdrawal, it is also manipulative. ---------------
Parenting works best when it is straightforward and issue oriented. Set the table, we're going to eat. Do your homework, you have a test tomorrow. Can you help me pile the wood? It's going to rain. I need a hand building the pigeon coop. Can you come out and help hold the boards for me?