Title: Self-Sabotage - Stress Management Training from MindTools.com
Headings: Self-Sabotage
Self-Sabotage
Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
What Is Self-Sabotage?
Signs of Self-Sabotage
Self-Sabotage and Self-Esteem
How Self-Sabotage Damages You
Defeating Self-Sabotage
1. Recognize Your Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
2. Understand the Emotions That Lead to the Behavior
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3. Spot the Thinking or Beliefs That Cause the Emotion
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4. Change Your Behaviors, Emotions and Thoughts
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5. Develop Self-Supporting Behaviors
Key Points

Content: In fact, your boss may have been deep in thought about something else, and would be shocked and sorry to realize that they'd upset you. But your emotional response doesn't take account of that. Always aim to manage your emotions , so that you don't commit to behaviors that have negative consequences, or that unjustly affect others. Check the warning signs of anger and anxiety before they get out of control. Warning: Take care not to ignore strong emotions – they're likely a sign that something is wrong. Take a look at our article What Are the HALT Risk States? for more on this. 3. Spot the Thinking or Beliefs That Cause the Emotion
Chances are, the emotion that led to your negative behavior was caused by irrational thoughts.