Title: 12 Signs You Have a Possessive Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Partner (and What to Do) ⋆ LonerWolf
Headings: 12 Signs You Have a Possessive Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Partner (and What to Do)
12 Signs You Have a Possessive Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Partner (and What to Do)
There is a very fine line between having a protective lover and a possessive lover …
12 Major Signs You Have a Possessive Boyfriend / Girlfriend / Partner
1. You must appease their wishes all the time.
2. They control where you go, when, and why.
3. They stalk you.
4. They are needy and clingy.
5. They try to sabotage your friendships.
6. They don’t respect your personal boundaries.
7. They get extremely jealous and paranoid of “other women/men.”
8. They control what you wear.
9. They constantly message you when you’re out.
10. They want to be involved in all of your decision-making.
11. They are emotionally or psychologically manipulative.
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12. They say that “it’s all just love.”
How to Handle Controlling Behavior
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Content: Prepare yourself for this beforehand to ensure that you keep your cool. It is vital that you keep your cool at all costs. Be very clear about what you want to change in the relationship, e.g. you want more equality in decision making, you would like them to stop speaking harshly about your family, etc. Remember, if you emotionally react (with anger, tears, shouting) the conversation is over as all valuable communication ceases once egos get involved. If they agree to change, help them out by drawing attention to any possessive behavior in the future and setting “time out” periods where you sit together and talk about the progress being made. Be patient. Possessiveness can’t be cured overnight. Give an ultimatum (if necessary). If you can’t carry out these recommendations (e.g. due to domestic abuse, cultural expectations, egotism, etc.) it is best to consider ending the relationship, and build a support network for yourself.