Title: The Art of Resilience | Psychology Today
Headings: The Art of Resilience
The Art of Resilience
Research on resilience breaks down the myth that a troubled childhood
leaves us emotionally crippled as an adult.

Content: In reality you have considerable capacity for strength, although you might not be wholly aware of it. Sometimes it is easier to be a victim; talking about how other people make you do what you do removes the obligation to change. And sympathy can feel sweet; talk of resilience can make some feel that no one is really appreciating exactly how much they have suffered. Wolin defines resiliency as the capacity to rise above adversity—sometimes the terrible adversity of outright violence, molestation or war—and forge lasting strengths in the struggle. It is the means by which children of troubled families are not immobilized by hardship but rebound from it, learn to protect themselves and emerge as strong adults, able to lead gratifying lives. Resilient people don't walk between the raindrops; they have scars to show for their experience. They struggle—but keep functioning anyway.