Title: Personal Values: How to Know Who You Really Are
Headings: Personal Values: How to Know Who You Really Are
Personal Values: How to Know Who You Really Are
Table of Contents
Need Help Figuring Out What to Give a Fuck About?
You Do What You Value
Our values are constantly reflected in the way we choose to behave.
The Great Value Disconnect
Discover Your Personal Values
Optional Gray Box of Doom: Why People Who Hate Themselves Hurt Themselves
You Are What You Value
Why Some Personal Values Are Better Than Others
Evidence-Based vs Emotion-Based Values
How to Focus On What Matters
Constructive vs Destructive Values
Controllable vs Uncontrollable Values
Defining Your Values and Finding Yourself
What does a successful and meaningful life look like to you?
What is it that I want from this life?
A List of Personal Values
Grounding
Family
Management
Relational Awareness
Systems Awareness
Expansion
Reinventing Yourself
Step 1: The Value Must Fail
Step 2: Have the Self-Awareness to Recognize That Our Values Have Failed
Step 3: Question the Value and Brainstorm What Values Could Do a Better Job
Living the Good Life
A Four-Step Guide to Living Your Values
How to Know Who You Really Are
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Content: When those things happen, you are making a simple, value-laden decision: your phone (or your toilet) is more valuable to you than this article. And your behavior follows that valuation accordingly. Our values are constantly reflected in the way we choose to behave. This is critically important—because we all have a few things that we think and say we value, but we never back them up with our actions. I can tell people (and myself) until I’m blue in the face that I care about climate change or the dangers of social media, but if I spend my days driving around in a gas-guzzling SUV, constantly refreshing my newsfeeds, then my behaviors, my actions tell a different story. Actions don’t lie. We believe we want to get that job, but when push comes to shove, we’re always kind of relieved that no one called us back so we can retreat to our video games again. We tell our girlfriend we really want to see her, but the minute our guy friends call, our schedule magically seems to open up like fucking Moses parting the Red Sea. The Great Value Disconnect
Many of us state values we wish we had as a way to cover up the values we actually have.