Title: Working with People Who Aren’t Self-Aware
Headings: Working with People Who Aren’t Self-Aware
Working with People Who Aren’t Self-Aware
Understanding the problem
What’s behind the tension?
Where is this person coming from?
Helping the unaware
Am I the right messenger?
Am I willing to accept the worst-case scenario?
What to do if they don’t change

Content: Third, if they agree, focus on their specific, observable behavior and how it’s limiting their success. End the conversation by reaffirming your support and asking how you can help. What to do if they don’t change
It’s easy to feel hopeless when you can’t help someone who is unaware. The good news is that although we can’t force insight on them, we can minimize their impact on us. Mindfully reframe their behavior: The popular workplace practice of mindfulness can be an effective tool for dealing with the unaware. Specifically, noticing what we’re feeling in a given moment allows us to reframe the situation and be more resilient. Here is one tool to notice but not get drawn in to our negative reactions to the unaware. I first came up with the “laugh track” when I had the misfortune of work­ing for an Aware-Don’t-Care boss. One day, after a particularly unpleas­ant encounter, I recalled my favorite TV show growing up, The Mary Tyler Moore Show.