Title: Stop Trying to Change Yourself—Change Your Actions | Mark Manson
Headings: Stop Trying to Change Yourself
Stop Trying to Change Yourself
What Is Change?
It’s not always about you (in fact, it rarely is)
Change Your Actions, not yourself
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Content: But does my definition of “change” mean anything? Not really. What Is Change? When people lie around whining to their therapists and ex-wives that they’re finally going to “change” themselves, they are promising something imaginary and made up. If they used to lie and now they stopped lying, have they “changed”? Are they permanently and irrevocably “fixed”? Will they never lie again? And even if they don’t, will it matter? Please tell us—millions of pissed off ex-wives would like to know. We don’t know what change is because we don’t know what the hell we are.