Title: Self-Esteem Struggles and Strategies That Can Help
Headings: Self-Esteem Struggles and Strategies That Can Help
Self-Esteem Struggles and Strategies That Can Help
The Origin of Self-Esteem Struggles
Why Some People Struggle But Not Others
Challenges & Strategies to Build Self-Esteem

Content: In shaming environments, individuals internalize the idea that if they act out, they’re not just behaving badly, but they are bad, Howes says. “ A boy sneaks a cookie from the cookie jar — is he told that is the wrong behavior, or that he’s a bad boy? If the message that you are fundamentally bad is drilled in enough times, it tends to stick.” And this belief that you’re bad at your core colors your entire perspective on life. “ Good things that happen to them are a fluke, bad things are what they truly deserve and end up reinforcing their shame,” Howes says. According to Gertsen, “some people internalize negative events, see negative events as permanent and all encompassing (global) while others see [one] as temporary and don’t internalize the negative event.” Alternatively, believing that you’re a generally good person who makes mistakes helps you to accept your flaws and work on them, Howes explains. Thus, adjusting a distorted perspective is crucial in working through self-esteem issues. “ When people can take a non-distorted look at themselves, they’ll see they’re like everyone else, with strengths and weaknesses,” Howes says. Challenges & Strategies to Build Self-Esteem
“Trying to help someone accept that they are OK can be as difficult as telling them what they always thought was the color green is actually red,” Howes says.