Title: Working with People Who Aren’t Self-Aware
Headings: Working with People Who Aren’t Self-Aware
Working with People Who Aren’t Self-Aware
Understanding the problem
What’s behind the tension?
Where is this person coming from?
Helping the unaware
Am I the right messenger?
Am I willing to accept the worst-case scenario?
What to do if they don’t change

Content: Unsurprisingly, his superiors did not share his views and fired him several months later). The biggest difference between the unaware and the Aware-Don’t-Care are their intentions: the unaware genuinely want to be collaborative and effective, but don’t know they’re falling short. Whereas the Aware-Don’t-Care unapologetically acknowledge their behavior (“Of course I’m pushy with clients. It’s the only way to make the sale!”), the unaware can’t see how they’re showing up (“That client meeting went well!”). Helping the unaware
Once you’ve determined someone suffers from a lack of self-awareness, it’s time to honestly assess whether they can be helped. Think about their intentions and whether they’d want to change. Have you seen them ask for a different perspective or welcome critical feedback? This suggests that it’s possible to help them become more self-aware.