The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)
[{'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on February 24, 2018', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-5 review-rating', 'review_body': 'The book helped me understand the following:\n\n1. I can’t blame my parents for how they raised me. That’s what they were taught by their parents and the environment around them.\n\n2. I am responsible for my own thoughts, emotions and actions. No one can force me to do anything unless I choose to .\n\n3. People’s perspectives are based on their own experiences. I don’t have to react to them since they are not mine.\n\n4. It’s possible to be authentic with yourself and others.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on June 6, 2018', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-5 review-rating', 'review_body': 'The wisdom in this book has completely transformed my life, more than anything thing else I\'ve ever read or meditated on. This is not hyperbole. The Four Agreements showed up in my suggested titles, as I\'ve purchased books on Buddhism and meditation. It was relatively inexpensive so I thought, "why not?"\n\nOnce I began the chapter on the First Agreement, I found myself resting my eyes on phrases, sentences, and truths that just stood out from the page with child-like simplicity and tremendous depth. As I started to unpack what I was learning, I cried some good tears. This happened over and over, like the wounds in my soul were beginning to heal. They were healing through my active attention and I learned how to speak to myself without being judgmental. I thought I already knew how to do this through meditation and therapy, but this book uncovers something for me that I just can\'t explain.\n\nI don\'t want to give away too much of this book, because the way everything is explained is so brilliant and builds in layers. The way it is told is important. You can feel the kind and loving intent within every word. This book is very easy to read and understand; you really don\'t need advanced philosophy to move mountains of the mind.\n\nI feel like Don Miguel Ruiz is right next to me, gently and lovingly help me to see the real beauty in me, the real beauty in the universe and how we are all connected. It has the same force of an elder looking you in the eyes and telling you truths that come from years and years of contemplation, experience and wisdom. The best part is that I\'m learning how to be me, really me. I\'m learning how to love me, not things *about* me, but the real me way down inside that doesn\'t have to puff up or put up guards. I\'m learning to be vulnerable and relate to others with far less fear and self-doubt. What a gift. What a treasure.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on April 25, 2017', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-5 review-rating', 'review_body': 'I should start off by stating my background. I am an undergrad student of philosophy and linguistics, a branch of the humanities. I also deeply love this series of books because of its obviousness and simplicity. It has personally helped me triumph over many, many challenges. This is why I decided to write a review here.\n\nThere is a huge tradition of skepticism in linguistics, especially about how language is used in various cultures to create belief systems. A belief system is basically a set of instructions inside your brain based on language. These instructions help you navigate the stressful world around you so you can survive. We are psychologically wired to think our belief systems are accurate and experience deep stress if we find them to be inaccurate.\n\nThe trouble is, our belief systems are ALWAYS inaccurate. Yes, I used the word "always" for a reason.\n\nWithout going deeply into the study of philosophy and linguistics, I will give you an overview here:\n\nPhilosophy - When you study philosophy, you study belief systems about how the world works and explore important questions like "is there a God?" or "What is consciousness." You may not be surprised to find out that philosophy majors have not come up with answers to these questions because there is always a case where we are going to be wrong or have a counter argument. Much of the study of philosophy is the collection of vocabulary words to describe beliefs. They even have a mathematical component called propositional logic, where one takes sentences and reduces them to symbols and creates "proofs" but even prop-logic is under fire from academics for its complete inability to predict anything. In other words, it isn\'t the answer either.\n\nLinguistics - When you study words and language, you realize that all our beliefs are based on language and this language can never "touch reality" in that language is just an arbitrary description of reality, posing as real. I believe Miguel Ruiz must have taken a linguistics course as well--as his first agreement attests to the power of language. The four agreements pulls heavily from Saussure and Derrida. Both Saussure and Derrida (and many, many others) did work on how we form ideas in our heads based on language. The gist is this: we have something called a "symbol" in our brain which is composed of two parts: the word and the visual representation of the object (look up semiotics for further detail). These symbols are in our mind and work together to form meaning, then belief. The unfortunate thing is that they are entirely made up. It isn\'t real. Our ideas of it aren\'t real.\n\nIf you really want a deeper understanding on how linguistics has saturated our belief systems I recommend reading some of their academic essays or get Rivkin and Ryan\'s literary theory books. They are excellent and will take you further down the rabbit hole. Most of the essays are dense but worth the effort!\n\nTo simplify: scientists and academics in the millions have tried and tried and tried to find "the true belief" for thousands, maybe tens of thousands of years and we have not yet arrived at any truth. Because of domestication, we think other people have it, but they don\'t! "Truth" is defined as that which has the most predictive power. So far, mathematics, geometry, and physics has the most predictive power. Our belief systems simply do not.\n\nSo any beliefs about yourself can be true and they can also be false. We can\'t know. So why not pick something positive? If no one knows anything, then how can you even know anything?\n\nBut you don\'t need to study this yourself. All you have to do is think back to your past self, let\'s say ten years ago. Did that person have a belief system that you now consider to be faulty? How is that possible? What about your future self? Will that person believe you have a faulty belief system? Probably! How is this possible? How can you be SO WRONG? Is it because you "haven\'t learned?" I highly doubt it!\n\nBut we have to be right! We ARE RIGHT! At least we think we might be . . . maybe?\n\nThe need to be right is so ingrained within us that we create a huge drama when someone contradicts our beliefs. We end relationships over it! We storm out! We write angry twitter updates.\n\nHOW THIS BOOK HAS PERSONALLY HELPED ME:\n\n- No one person\'s opinion will ever again have the power to limit what I can do, even if this person is an authority figure\n- No one group\'s opinion will ever again have the power to limit what I can do\n- No one has a clear idea of who or what I am, not even me!\n- When people talk, they are telling stories. I don\'t have to argue. I don\'t have to fight. I simply have to listen. WOW!\n- I cannot comprehend another person\'s dream. I can\'t mind read. I can\'t assume. I know nothing of their inner workings.\n- Even scary, aggressive people are just telling stories.\n- I no longer have to feel ashamed about who I am or what I\'ve done or where I\'m going. It\'s not my job to assign a story to my life, or a judgment.\n- I no longer have to pretend to be something or hustle to gain love. I just need to love who is willing to love back. It\'s so simple.\n- I take all gurus, religions, indictments and gossip with quite a high level of benevolent skepticism, which allows me to be free from the fear that goes along with these stories.\n- I don\'t take myself as seriously as I used to.\n\nProbably the most valuable of all . . .\n\n- I have a deep compassion for all people. We are all just stuck here together, trying our hardest and doing our best. I don\'t have to hate someone because their best wasn\'t up to some story I tell myself. I don\'t\' have to insist they believe in my story. I can just smile and listen and do what I can.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on May 8, 2019', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-5 review-rating', 'review_body': 'This book is amazing I stayed up late listening to it and going to listen to it many times over. Had a big break through and an ahh ha moment whilst reading it. I strongly suggest it to help break through your fear based “agreements.” You won’t regret buying and reading this book. I bought one for my mom for mother’s day because I think she too will enjoy it. I would love to buy more of them and give them to random people so they too can be free. It’s a wonderful book and the price is well worth the power of the book.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on April 24, 2018', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-5 review-rating', 'review_body': 'I came to this book later than most, but discovered it during a time of personal awakening and spiritual growth. The perfect time. The Four Agreements outlines how to live a life filled with love and joy, and how to start with loving yourself unconditionally, then spreading that love to the rest of humanity and creation.\n\nAs a believer in Christ, I see the Word and wisdom of God in these pages. As a spiritual being, I connected with each tenet and knew instinctively how profound but simple it all is.\n\nThese aren’t rules. These are beliefs you can adopt to guide your spiritual growth. I recommend this uplifting read to everyone seeking wisdom and joy.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on December 17, 2017', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-1 review-rating', 'review_body': 'Wow, this is a really poorly written and conceived book. While some concepts in this book make common sense (don’t take things personally, don’t make assumptions), these things are repeated OVER and OVER with absurd examples, such as “if someone tells you that you look like you have cancer and you believe it, you will get cancer” (Please tell me I am rich, young and beautiful so I can believe you and manifest it!!). Writing style also leaves much to be desired. Don’t waste your time'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on October 2, 2018', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-1 review-rating', 'review_body': 'Wow this is one of the worse books I’ve ever read. It is so poorly written and the author keeps repeating himself. I couldn’t even finish it. I stopped by the second agreement where it talks about how you shouldn’t take anything personally when people are saying good OR bad things about you and how you shouldn’t even listen to your own mind when it makes assumptions about yourself.... I’m sorry but what kind of crap is this?\nFor people who are thinking about getting it- just go to the store and read the first page of it and you’ll be done.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on August 9, 2019', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-1 review-rating', 'review_body': "This book has been touted in the spiritual community as some great new knowledge, so I had high hopes going in. But those hopes were dashed in the first chapter.\n\nI read all the way through, in the hopes it would get better and I'd see why people were raving about it. Instead, I got the equivalent of a high school paper with a LOT of broad assumptions and repetition. At least half of this book was just rewording the other half. Not only that, but it's full of victim-blaming, strange generalizations, and really dangerous statements. What stands out most in that latter territory is the idea that natural human emotions like sadness and anger are bad or unnatural. That is a harmful claim and not at all supported by psychology or reality in general. This book also totally dismisses things like slavery, human trafficking, abuse, sexual assault, mass shootings etc. by claiming that every single person on Earth is choosing to suffer. What?\n\nI found maybe two lines that were sort of agreeable, but overall, this was a hard read. I don't know if I've ever given a 1-star review, but I think this book may actually be more harmful than good, and that is a definite problem."}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on March 11, 2021', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-5 review-rating', 'review_body': ' For all who want to achieve personal improvement this is a must read.'}, {'review_meta': 'Reviewed in the United States on October 27, 2018', 'review_star': 'a-icon a-icon-star a-star-1 review-rating', 'review_body': "The four agreements seemed sensible in isolation. The book was recommended. So I bought it.\n\nThen I opened the thing up and learned that it was book on spirituality. Now mind you, I don't mind books on spirituality normally, But why is it that some people think they have to make up a new belief system when there are so many that have stood the test of time well? For me it is conservative Christianity. Others include Islam, Judaism and many eastern systems of thought. When a book opens up with a story of a person who lived thousands of years ago and realized he was made of light, that he was God and everyone was God. I just don't have time for this. What is your basis of stating these beliefs? Where is the proof? I suppose a lot of it makes sense if you think about it, but who has really tested all this and for how long? Why would you want to bother living your live according to these precepts instead of one of the systems of morality and beliefs that have been tested by untold millions, billions over the centuries?\n\nI have enough on my mind figuring out how to live a better life according to the spiritual and faith tradition I have been called to. I don't have time for this foolishness."}]