It’s important to make a sharp distinction between love and lust in marriage. When a husband and wife love each other’s souls, time and aging only strengthen their love. Lust has the opposite effect. Understanding the differences between the two will help you address toxic tendencies directly.
Here are a few key distinctions between lust and love:
- Lust is selfish, love is selfless.
- Lust is shortsighted, love works with eternity in view.
- Lust is foolish, love is wise.
- Lust rushes, love is patient.
- Lust sees a person as an object to be used, love treats a person as a soul to be cherished.
Love is not bound by physical form or time. Love sees the soul and desires it, taking whatever body accompanies it. When you view each other through eyes of love, you see as God sees. Your attraction is as sure as the God in whose image you’re made. This enduring attraction is vital for ensuring that your marriage continues to be the only arena for sexual expression and satisfaction.
Consider the following passage:
“Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you.” (Proverbs 5:15-17)
Lust corrupts your marriage but love vigilantly guards its purity. Determine to love!
By choosing love over lust you’re choosing God’s way, which always leads to life.
What does it mean to “love your spouse’s soul”?
In your own words, what is the biggest difference between love and lust?
Discuss your answers with your spouse (and feel free to leave a comment below with your answers!).
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