it's all about setting expectations and setting a tone. especially if you're actually female. for one, you need to set the expectations. just have a playbook for how to handle certain outburst/disruptive situations (shouldn't be hard, i'm sure the school has a whole policy full of generic ideas for dealing with problematic and disruptive children). you then make these expectations clear to the class at the outset and remind them when needed. "if you do x in my classroom, y is going to happen." most kids do not get this kind of treatment, but it shockingly works for a lot of issues. that's why military bootcamp works as well as it does at indoctrinating young kids: clear rules. then you have to be willing to follow up and make good on expectations. remove them from the classroom. write them up. talk to them in the hallway one-on-one or make an example of them in front of the class to publicly humiliate them if need be (also works in the military). if you set a serious tone for your classroom and don't go soft on them, and hold yourself to a high standard, kids will tend to respect you. even if they don't like you. i have peers that are younger than me at my work who put on their serious faces and don't fuck around about work, and it makes me respect the hell out of them as an indirect superior. humans are social pack animals, this is all about disrespecting you because there are no consequences for doing so.
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