i think both approaches are wrong. there are extremely valuable lessons that one can only learn while out struggling to make it. the nobles of old got this through things like military service, exploring some foreign land, trying to establish footings in the hinterlands or whatever. it wasn't quite the perma-safety net that people now think it was. that said, casting children out with no life lines and no hope of aid should things go terrible is equally wrong. it never shows them the value of building over time and unity.
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