> "making friends" is something you have to do when you're young or it's over. you can always make friends it just won't be hot girls or succesful beautiful people. they will be old, fat and/or deranged. but they will come. and then you work yourself up. the fuckladder and the friendladder, they both exist. it's just a matter of work. for you it's real work. for others it's more fun. maybe because they are all mildly narcissistic. or they have always gotten something out of it in the end, like sex or dates. while you have always gone home alone, and concluded it's all a waste of time. and now you have to push yourself, to try again. look, in the near future friendships will ensure your survival. right now they are a good way to organize resistance. until now they were very much only hedonistic in their nature, i.e. boring.   > if you failed to get a social circle in high school it usually means you have some kind of mental illness or trauma holding you back which will continue into adulthood, where it is even more difficult to socialize. this is true. and for example being overwheigt is a trauma. being obese even more so. people have to work on that and reenter whenever they've dealt with it. many if not most guys have issues and women will just dismiss them for that really quickly. the guys don't even realize what minor things will keep them out of the dating pool. women just claim that mating is a competicion and there are no consolidation prizes. they are not going to help you ever, the will just piss in your soul and damage you more for asking for help or even understanding.
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