this is still the part that i don't get - so let's for a moment assume that it is true that women crave a genuine connection and emotional intimacy, while simultaniously also craving for security. what's the silver bullet? i'm thinking of something like talking about your feelings with your wife, but without being ever negative or emotional about it, but constructive and confident.  then there's my second question:  > honey, i want you to open up more!  what's the strategy here, how do you answer this "request", since it's obviously a double bind like op correctly assumed? i cannot think of anything to say here that does not sound defensive. and it's such an important moment, because literally every woman does this at some point during the relationship, in order to establish dominance.
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