yes, that is the solution i propose. just find a girl who thinks you're handsome. most people have extremely diverging ideas of what's attractive. take goth or e-girls for instance, i don't like them personally but the people who do don't care if they are fat or whatever so long as that's what they present.  there's a book called don't trust your gut, where the author goes over the stats of success and shows some counter-intuitive examples. one of his suggestions is to a/b test your dating (i've tried this) by presenting different sides of you. because the people in group a who like x and dislike y will have outliers that like x more than everyone else, whatever x may be. so start by what kind of woman you want, create signifiers that this type of woman may be attracted to, cross reference with surveys and you have a way to go about it. i found this study helpful: >   nals/behavioral-and-brain-sciences/ article/abs/sociosexuality-from-arg entina-to-zimbabwe-a-48nation-study -of-sex-culture-and-strategies-of-h uman-mating/e6442571b8e524ae8caf761 3bd4cecc8 funnily enough, chinks wont marry non-virgins, but in sweden it's considered strange/unattractive to not have had lovers before marriage. so maybe incels should look east
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