the reason men are not appealing to women anymore is that women earn equal or more money, male value propositions have evaporated (can buy blue-collar work, call police etc.) and they are too accustomed to men in general due to mixed schools that there is no mystique anymore. the average man is just a beige person with a penis attached which is a hard sell. add value propositions they are attracted to (which is either blueprints of how men are supposed to be, power gaps the publicly deny or fame) and then all out of the sudden they will with the same energy invent elaborate copes why your age gap does not matter / "it is different".
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