making the first move has always been difficult for "nice guys". cold cocking women almost never worked for average guys unless they had high level game, and most nice guys fear being thought of as creepy so are shy about hitting on strangers. if it's a girl you know, it's not easy taking the plunge and risking getting your soul crushed. back in the day, at least that was the extent of the risk. kids today face - at best - public humiliation over social media, and at worst being called a rapist and getting criminally charged. add to this the fact that young men have been raised to think they are toxic just for existing, and that the "future is female", it's no wonder they have no self-confidence and won't put themselves out there.
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