i'm thinking about leaving my girlfriend. it's been about 3 and a half years together. i'd intended on marrying her, we've talked at length about that and our plans for the future from early in the relationship, and just a few months ago i was looking at rings. since september she's grown incredibly distant and i don't really see what else i can do but walk away at this point. we've had some rough patches before and been through nasty things together including a cancer diagnosis so stress and giving space when needed isn't anything new for us but this seems different. i can fight circumstances but i can't fight her for her anymore than you can save someone from themselves. i love her dearly but the harder i try to bridge the gap the more distant she seems to become. at this point i feel more alone when i'm with her than when i'm by myself and it just seems like she's only ever going through the motions to placate me at best. tthe way i've been feeling it seems like it will be less painful overall to just rip off the bandaid and face the consequences so i can start moving on.
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