probably something like:  family is those close to you. you expect them to be able to do / think like you, if they're almost you. when they don't, you see it as their failure, because you were able to do it. so you withhold love, but only for their own good. your love is amazing, so they naturally want it, and they'll get it as soon as they do what you want. for their own good of course. this hurts your more than it does them, but you're willing to do it because you're a good person, and an even better parent. they're lucky to have you. and it's their fault for not recognizing that. niggers.
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