socializing comes at a cost. you get other people's baggage. and they can even influence your life negatively too. working hard for yourself and securing yourself a life is a safe bet instead of relying on the charity of others because you emotionally gratify them. i have had numerous chances to socialize and change the direction of my life but i refused. it's like placing your fate in another persons hands which i refuse to do. here's some examples. bosses friend who was the ceo of the company i worked for wanted to include me in some activities his friends did. that's an opportunity to meet his friends and network with them in a shared activity. also to get on the ceos good side for the possibility of a raise.  another time i met his guy who celebrating his bachelors party. he took a good liking to me and wanted to party. of course he was wealthy because he a had a limo. another chance to make a friend and network. however that i clearly decided this would be too risky.  here's another one. i met his family man who wanted to introduce me to his daughter. obviously he wanted me to date/marry her. people are annoying.
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