middle path. animals and children's live in a dream like state, you are supposed to be their guide not their master. if a children cries you are supposed to get in the hole with them and climb out with them. if they are upset and you are not genuinely upset with them you simply teach them how to disassociate which causes narcissistic personality disorder or excessive self concern. yes this can be guiding them to be nonchalant, yes this can be imprinting a reaction like shrugging off small physical traumas with laughter however if a child is going through an episode of extreme emotional discomfort then being nonchalant is not the correct course of action. for instance if a child is crying on the floor of a shop the the way to get them out of it is to: > get on the floor at their level > say in a loud distressed voice 'this is so terrible we can't have what we want!!?' > 'what can we do now, it's so upsetting' > change tone to less distressed but still upset 'we should do something to cheer ourselves up' > 'why don't we play a game/figure out what we can afford' i'm this way the child is taught how to navigate their emotional journey although this is an ongoing process. deeper than that and broadly speaking, this is the original sin, the knowledge of good and bad. why is it bad/wrong for a child to cry? based on what evidence is a child who cries excessively becomes an maladjusted adult?
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