> this. having a virgin woman at 34 is just creepy as fuck women can't be creepy. > no need to fear having a handful of sexual partners there are plenty of men who don't feel comfortable in the current sexual culture and will see her as relatable. hopefully she finds a good one. if she doesn't others will still sympathize with her. she won't be "ruined" if her first relationship doesn't work out because what these men are looking for isn't "purity", but rather just a fellow traveler. her history is more than her body count. i struggle to connect with women who lost their virginity at the "normal" age, not because i expect women to remain virgins forever, but because i was constantly told that everything is objectification, everything is rape, everything is male privilege etc. this meant i couldn't feel comfortable escalating relationships when i was in my prime, i need to make sure i understand what is or isn't acceptable first, and by the time i've done that i've missed out. when i see women with "normal" sex lives, i see a kind of privileged alien. someone who spends their life being selfish while expecting total selflessness from others. i can't relate to people like this. they told me that i needed to spend my prime reflecting on what behaviors are and aren't appropriate(is telling a girl you like her when you aren't perfect appropriate?), that i need to not treat women like objects (is casual sex objectification?) that i need to not be too possessive (is wanting a serious relationship possessive?) etc. if they had just let me live a normal life then i would be willing to accept a sexual past. if they expect me to abstain while i sort out all the morality that they dump on top of me then i will expect them to wait for me. what i expect from women is just a reflection of what they expect from men.
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