it's an ideology. their ideology is that a man and a man is the same as a man and a woman no matter what you think, no matter how you feel about it, period.  trying to change such an ideology is like pissing in the wind. it's like trying to tell a muslim or a devout christian practising for 50+ years there's no such thing as god, it can't be done. whoever is right or wrong it just can't be done. and it can actually be dangerous.    your instinct to help these kids is appreciated but your best bet is to just try to move on. there are billions of kids in world (or at least 1 billion or thereabouts), and let's face it there's ones worse off. it can be very obnoxious but you can't do anything in this situation.
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