i work at a company that essentially makes bombs for the us government and i am still in the same boat as op. im a millennial/zoomer and i always hear the boomers complain how so much shit went down the drain. you go home (my moms) and outta nowhere its was so much harder back then to do everything and its my fault for not working hard enough. the real answer your family will not tell you is that forget about them and just penny pinch for yourself. if you are in a position where you dont have the life your parents or family had while having lived with them your whole life, its because they burnt out and are using you to retire
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