> i'd never hit my own kids because i know from experience that it will make them fear me but not respect me. true i don't know my grandfather from my fathers side, he died too early for me to remember him. if i had to guess he was rather soft on my fathers and his siblings upbringing. they were the kind of people that'd find enemies outside the household, not within it. he later met my mom and moved away far with her. after a while something snapped in him and he became abusive towards me and my brother. now my father doesn't understand why we wont respect him because he himself wasn't taught that being feared  respect.
Poland