basically society has a choice, either you have the sexual revolution but understand that it's going to be messy and realise that wires are repeatedly going to be crossed and you're not getting prosecutions so the laws should be fairly lax as it's just two equal adults failing to communicate (which is the vast majority of "rape" cases). or you reverse the sexual revolution and have strict, punishing, but clearly defined rules between the sexes. but you can't have both systems mixed.
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