this is a good point and one thing where second and third worldies get right: arranged marriages are far more common throughout history than non-arranged ones. sure, you should probably get some say in who you marry but successful families will seek to intermarry naturally and love can blossom. it doesn't always work out but it's worked out way more than modern dating has over the last century because of societal and familial expectations over the needs of the individual. it created a state of stability via compromise and a social contract that was mutually beneficial for families, individuals and society as a whole.
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