are you an average man? based on what you wrote, you aren't. so why would you expect average outcomes for yourself. that's a self-limiting and defeatist mindset. the whole age gap thing only exists in your mind, there's so many stable and happy couples where the man is around 10 years older, you can't count them. yes, even in austria. everything you think is holding you back only exists in your mind. you can achieve much more than you think, the magic formula is simple: take action. fortis fortuna adiuvat.
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