> everyone i don't like has npd > it's not uncommon for narcissists to accuse others of being narcissistic. this is a classic defense mechanism known as projection. when confronted with their own behavior, they deflect blame onto others to protect their fragile self-image. > projection is one way in which narcissists place their own insecurities onto someone else. projection is when the narcissist attributes their uncomfortable feelings to someone else as a way to not deal with them in themselves. narcissists have unstable senses of self, which makes it difficult for them to face feelings of uncomfortableness in themselves. to take blame for something, or believe something counter to their core belief, further disrupts their unstable sense of self. this is where they will deflect and defend themselves at the cost of those around them. > when they feel like they are not good enough at something or made a mistake, this leads to feelings of insecurity and re-enforces their low self-esteem. someone with narcissism wants to avoid these feelings at all costs so they project onto you. they make it seem you are the problem, you are why something didnt work out, or you are why the relationship will never improve. when they can blame you for everything, then they dont have to take responsibility for anything. they will continue to point the finger at everyone but themselves.   m/blog/am-i-really-the-narcissist-w hen-the-narcissist-accuses-you-of-b eing-the-problem
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