tbh, at the end of the day the woman is the gate keeper to sex. and she most certainly was putting out to control him (thinking it would make him stay in the relationship etc). guys are sex addicts and women are the sex dealers and just like addicts, we will say, do and put up with all sorts of nonsense if we are getting sex. the older i get, the more i realise why we aren't supposed to have sex before marriage. it's the vetting process. for men, you need to see if this woman is toleratable and someone you can stand to be with if there was no sex on the table (is she a nagger, high maintenance, horrible/bitchy individual to begin with etc) and for women's it's the same thing, is this the type of guy who will stick around and love you clearly and plainly without sex or times you aren't able to provide it. sex distorts things for men and makes you tolerate or ignore red flags and women use it as a form of control.
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