it's just how women think. this is also why you're expected to "have hobbies" and "he ambitious" and "be well groomed" and be able to regurgitate normie opinions on "what's trending" - they're all proxies for assessing whether you're likely to be a bum and leave her / not be able to provide for her if she decides to have your child, by seeing if you're aware enough to know that you're supposed to do those things and put in the effort to actually do them. the problem of course is that this just becomes more and more its own self-contained little game detached from whether you're competent at what you're actually supposed to be doing, which is why decadent societies are almost always described as being "ruled by women" before they collapse, because all the highly ambitious and competent people dedicate ever more of their time and energy into this black hole of "court politics" while everything else starts to come apart at the seams around them
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