what am i missing here? i'm literally a big fat man (but also in shape and built like a lineman, work out every weekday) and for years i always thought i wasn't good enough for any woman then i started to just say "fuck it" and chat casually with women at my gym like normal people and they're very receptive and smiling most of the time actually paying attention to what i have to say. i've found the key is to first build a small rapport to show you aren't a maniac or some shit then slowly try to find common interests (which in my case would be working out) and try to build them up a bit if they're low self esteem. works like a charm.  i may still be a 30 year old kissless hugless handholdless dateless virgin, but until this year i purposely ignored all women but not i'm talking to them all the time.  i'd rather my first time be with someone i'm comfortable with, too.
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