this is harder than you think. i even just tried to find friends that are losers too. they always end up trauma dumping me, using my friendship when they are alone, my help, my time always being there for them. then once their lives are in order that toss me aside without ever offering a hand to pull me up with them. and half the time if they have a breakdown of some sort they crawl back to me to ask me to listen and help.
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