eldest has big problems with negative emotions was trying to let him just work it out at home too much time, too much exhaustion, i think degrades learning capacity therefore, physical correction introduced not hitting, just picking up, firmly bouncing a couple times to assert control then verbal cue to stop tantrum progress is now being made also, his behavior improves with rough play throwing around, chasing, torturing with tickles, all of this stimulates him while clearly demonstrating role of authority my two cents as one who appreciates gentle parent ideas reality is that people who expound these techniques typically have higher degree of opportunity, of luxury the techniques are not magic, you can't take them out of context they reflect the overall environment these people live in, but we must strive to create similar circumstances appropriate to our children don't fall for any traps, just stay aware of your children and what they're really trying to tell you
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