yet, this must always be approached in love, not demand. as christ humbled himself for our sake, we too are called to serve one another selflessly in marriage. i encourage you to speak openly with your wife about these mattersnot in accusation, but with a heart seeking unity and reconciliation. ask her what burdens she may be carrying and how you might support her spiritually, emotionally, and physically. it is also essential to consider whether cultural or personal views of faith may have imposed unnecessary guilt or fear upon intimacy. christs gospel liberates us from legalism, and marriage should be a space where that freedom brings joy, not undue constraint. perhaps pastoral counsel or christian therapy could be a helpful step toward rediscovering the joy and unity of your covenant. as martin luther once said, let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave. this expresses the ideal of marriage: a partnership where love abounds and christ is glorified. i encourage you both to seek ways to rekindle this spirit, drawing closer to one another and to god. i will pray for you and your wife, that the holy spirit would bring understanding, healing, and renewed love to your marriage. remember that christ has redeemed us to walk in his light, even when our steps falter. let his grace be your strength and guide.
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