Audio resumes whenever bluetooth connects or disconnects - how do I stop this? This seems to be independent of which bluetooth device I connect/disconnect to (car audio, ear buds, etc), and is also independent of whatever the last app I was listening to (VLC, Pandora, etc).

When I tell an app to stop playing, I'd like it to STAY stopped... not automatically pick up where it left off simply because I stopped or started my car, or got in/out of range of one of my bluetooth audio devices.
You can try Bluetooth Connect &amp; Play app. It basically meant to start a specific music app playing when a specific Bluetooth device connects. But you can also select "Stop music from playing" option to keep any app from starting when the car connects to a Bluetooth device. I faced the similar issue on my Toyota and it did help.