Can one of my three-way switches be configured to use a remote control?
Make up your mind :)

One of the tropes around here is people wanting a light to be controlled by a complex switch scheme, and also controlled by another complex switch scheme.  Somehow, these are supposed to play nice together. They don't.  And it degrades into a glitchy mess pretty fast.  

The best answer in this case is a networked smart-switch scheme that uses a programmable hub.  Now you can code in what each triggering action does.  This doesn't make it do what you want, but at least when it doesn't, you can improve the code to fix it.  

And as far as products, you can use a smorgasboard of remote controls made to work with that system, including, potentially, your phone.