Can I bore a 4inch hole through my ceiling joists?
Looks like you have your specs and they don’t allow it. But no I would never drill that big a hole in joists. It’s common to do so on rim joists however as they are supported underneath by the foundation.
For any vent the best choice is to have it as direct and short as possible with as few as corners as possible. The best choice is usually through straight up through the roof.
I have seen some interesting choice for exhaust pipe too. Try to avoid flex hose as that limits air flow.