Three way switch with dimmer control
The remote shut-off requirement may cause you to choose between two problems:

While the remote shut-off is activated the lights can't be turned on locally. Must walk to the remote location and re-enable.
or, by using the 3-way as you've drawn, the lights can always be turned on locally -- but you can't tell whether they're on or off from the remote location! (assuming that the lights are not visible from the remote location)

#2 can be mitigated, for example by wiring a pilot light at the remote location.
If the remote shut-off can be three switches rather than a single switch that makes things easier. There exist three-way capable dimmers, for instance.
A simpler way to implement this is to use &quot;smart&quot; light switches. The Lutron Caseta family, for example. You could install three Caseta dimmers locally near the lamps and pair each one with a Pico remote installed at the remote location. The Pico remotes won't give you feedback as to whether the lamps are on or off, but you can click the off button of each one to be sure.