Manual Failover with AlwaysOn availability group
It looks like the answer is Server 2012 R2. 2012 R2 only includes the file share when there are an even number of nodes. So if DR goes offline then the file share will be included in the quorum until such time that DR comes back online.

It also looks like from testing that if you gracefully shutdown connections on secondary's then the primary stays up. So to run from DR for a planned outage means we could failover gracefully and then shut down the servers at the primary site. Because DR became the primary, it will remain up as the last node standing until such time that quorum is restored (and synchronization is complete)