Why can't object names start with a number?
Firstly, you need to distinguish between numbers (numeric literals), strings (string literals) and identifiers. '4aii' is a string literal, which can be a value of some "thing", but it does not identify (name) a thing. 4aii or [4aii] would be identifiers (if it were allowed).

The query parser needs to understand the meaning of a token that it is looking at. By allowing names to begin with digits, you by extension allow them to consist of digits exclusively. Then, given select 12345 from mytable, how would you (and the parser) know if 12345 is an integer literal or a name of a column? 

However, if you allow identifiers to begin with letters only (or underscore characters), you can unambiguously say if you're looking at an identifier (abc123) or a string literal ('abc123') -- the latter is enclosed in quotation marks.

Square brackets in SQL Server, backticks (`) in MySQL, and double quotes in ANSI SQL-compliant engines, signify identifiers, and you use them for when your identifiers cannot be readily distinguished from other tokens: start with a digit, have spaces or other special characters in them etc. Hence, [4aii] or "4aii" clearly tell the parser that it's dealing with an identifier.

A little dbfiddle demo.