SQL Server memory usage
There are other memory consumers outside of the buffer pool.  For instance, SQL Server will use memory for worker threads, multi-page allocations, linked servers, extended stored procedures, CLR, etc.

The buffer pool is never going to equate to 100% of memory consumed by SQL Server.  It's a common misconception, as well as setting max memory will be the actual max memory SQL Server uses (not true).

EDIT:  Here's how I think you could get non-buffer pool memory size.  Note: wait for the input of other SQL Server professionals before taking this query as fact.  I cannot guarantee that it is absolutely correct.

declare 
    @data_cache_size_mb decimal(12, 2),
    @plan_cache_size_mb decimal(12, 2),
    @total_mem_mb decimal(12, 2)

select
    @data_cache_size_mb = count(*) * 8 / 1024.
from sys.dm_os_buffer_descriptors

select
    @plan_cache_size_mb = sum(size_in_bytes) / 1024. / 1024.
from sys.dm_exec_cached_plans

select
    @total_mem_mb = sum(pages_allocated_count) * 8 / 1024.
from sys.dm_os_memory_objects

select
    @data_cache_size_mb as data_cache_size_mb,
    @plan_cache_size_mb as plan_cache_size_mb,
    @data_cache_size_mb + @plan_cache_size_mb as buffer_pool_size_mb,
    @total_mem_mb as total_instance_mem_mb,
    @total_mem_mb - (@data_cache_size_mb + @plan_cache_size_mb) as non_buffer_pool_size_mb