is determinism = non determinism for one counter automata?
You are right: the language $L$ from your question is accepted by a (nondeterministic) one-counter automaton.

Now for the deterministic case. Counter automata are a special case of push-down automata, where one only uses a single stack symbol (apart from a bottom-of-stack). Every (deterministic) one-counter language is also a (deterministic) push-down language. So in order to demonstrate it is not a deterministic one-counter language, I show a stronger result: it is even not accepted by a deterministic PDA.

According to Ogden, in his paper introducing Ogden's Lemma, that same language $L$ is inherently ambiguous context-free, meaning that every possible context-free grammar for the language is ambiguous, i.e., it has a string with two different succesful derivation trees. 
On the other hand, it is known that every deterministic PDA can be transformed into a non-ambiguous CFG. In fact I believe the standard construction PDA to CFG does the trick (but that is not obvious). 
Hence as there is no non-ambiguous CF grammar for $L$ (Ogden), there can be no deterministic PDA for $L$, and in particular no deterministic one-counter automaton.

Conclusion: for one-counter automata determinism is less powerful than the general model, using your example.

(In an edit I moved info from comments into this text.)
Reference, see also Wikipedia: Ogden, W. (1968). A helpful result for proving inherent ambiguity. Math. Syst. Theory 2, 191–194.