Doctrine to address or alleviate someone's sense of betrayal?
The reasoning is along these lines and where the answer diverges that is due to self view and one then questions on whether it is appropriate to hold that view.
&quot;Who hurt you? Did the head hairs, body hairs, the teeth, the nails, the skin.. did the earth element, the liquid element, the wind element, the fire element or the space element hurt you?&quot;
&quot;Did the intellect element hurt you?&quot;
&quot;No but the person who has these elements hurt me:(&quot;
&quot;What do you think, bro: Do you regard form as the person?&quot;
&quot;Not rly.&quot;
&quot;Do you regard feeling as the person?&quot;
&quot;Not rly.&quot;
&quot;Do you regard perception as the person?&quot;
&quot;Not rly.&quot;
&quot;Do you regard fabrications as the person?&quot;
&quot;Not rly.&quot;
&quot;Do you regard consciousness as the person?&quot;
&quot;Not rly.&quot;
&quot;What do you think, friend: Do you regard the person as being in form?... Elsewhere than form?... In feeling?... Elsewhere than feeling?... In perception?... Elsewhere than perception?... In fabrications?... Elsewhere than fabrications?... In consciousness?... Elsewhere than consciousness?&quot;
&quot;Not really, no.&quot;
&quot;What do you think: Do you regard the person as form-feeling-perception-fabrications-consciousness [taken together]?&quot;
&quot;Nah brah.&quot;
&quot;Do you regard the person as that which is without form, without feeling, without perception, without fabrications, without consciousness?&quot;
&quot;Nope..&quot;
&quot;And so, Friend — when you can't pin down the person as a truth or reality — is it proper for you to declare, 'Friends, he/she betrayed &amp; abused me:( '
&quot;I guess not..&quot;
In the end one can only think in terms of true elements and can delineate the elements of delusion as the corruption of intellect element which like the other elements can be grasped with wrong view to be personal for this or that being, corrupted knowledge can be shown to beget wrong resolve, wrong action etc
So one breaks this idea of a person being a true element and likewise with the idea of the self who got abused.