Proper meditation at hard times ( to be kind, open mind and enjoy hard times )
In Buddhism, a type of meditation to be used is called EQUANIMITY MEDITATION. 

Equanimity meditation is: "OTHERS ARE PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS". 

Often we want to help another person but that other person cannot be helped. 

If your mother has had a stroke, you must be very patient &amp; gentle with her. 

You probably should ask your mother a question, such as: "Would you like to try to do some work? I will be here with you to help you". 

Instead of controlling your mother, try to assure your mother you will support her.

For example, Buddhism teaches to never teach another person Buddhism if that other person does not want to listen to Buddhism. 

It is the same with your mother. You should try to encourage your mother to make her own decision about her doing some work &amp; exercise. 

Also, I recommend you ask your mother's doctor, physiotherapist &amp;/or occupational therapist for some advice about methods of helping your mother. 

Also, you could ask an occupational therapist to visit your home to help you help your mother. If a professional occupational therapist visits your mother to help you help your mother, your mother may reduce fear &amp; trust you more because you have been taught to help her by a professional occupational therapist.