How much variation in the human genome for humans
You are correct in saying that the human genome sequenced in the project was contributed by a dozen anonymous volunteers. However, the final sequence that is used as a standard reference is a somewhat arbitrary construct that represents a collection of consecutive segments taken from one or other of the contributors. It is a haploid sequence, plus a Y and an X chromosome.

Now you ask how different are the genomes of any two subjects, taken at random from a population. Imagine for simplicity looking at your own genome. For each of the 22 autosomes, you know you have two copies, one transmitted from your father, the other from your mother (for the X chromosome you have two copies, if you are a girl). Now imagine comparing the sequence of each of your pair of homologous chromosomes side by side; remember that they are derived from very different individuals (unless your parents are close relatives), so that they will not be identical, as they represent independent evolutionary histories.

Then, the question becomes: how much variation is there between the sequences of your paired chromosomes? And the answer is known: approximately every 1,000 base pairs your chromosomes show a base pair in one chromosome and a different base pair in the other; otherwise they are identical. The sites where this variation occurs are called SNP, for Single Nucleotide Polymorphisms (many other kinds of variation exist, but SNPs are the more common). We can generalize this observation, as it remains true for any pair of chromosomes chosen at random from any pair of subjects. Therefore, we can say that humans are identical for 99.9% of their genomes, whereas the genetic variation responsible for the differences that allows us to recognize ourselves as unique are limited to 0.1% of our genome.