Do you write every character?
This is my personal experience:


You will remember and learn much more by writing things down than by using a computer
Chinese writing is notoriously hard and that's why schooling in China is much more full on and you will struggle if you don't push yourself as hard as a Chinese school student
Learning to write helps with learning to read. However, unless you are practicing regularly, you will forget how to write after a while. A quote from one of my Chinese friends yesterday: "Most of us have forgotten how to write. If someone asked me to write a letter today, I'd be lost."
I've seen many a demanding Chinese wife. Make yourself a level playing field and start asking for hand written 1k word essays once a week.