Is there a way to delete an app of an iPad that used the same Apple ID without touching it?
It's bought &amp; paid for - you own it forever, you can't send it back.

If you can't physically delete it from your friend's iPad, then there's no way to remove it. They won't ever be able to update it without knowing your Apple ID log &amp; pass, but it will remain until they choose to delete it.

Removing it from any/all other devices will not affect that one.