Can't enter utilities when rebooting?
Assuming I understand your question correctly, it sounds like your booting your Mac to start up from macOS Recovery over the Internet. 

If this is what's happening, then your most likely pressing the Option Command R keys during bootup (instead of just CommandR).

If you're absolutely sure that you're only pressing the Command R keys, then perhaps try using the Command key on the other side of the keyboard (in case you've got a problem with your keys).

By the way, the full process to disable SIP is:


Start your computer 
Immediately hold down the commandR keys to boot into 
recovery 
Click the Utilities menu and select Terminal 
Type csrutil disable and press return 
Close the Terminal app 
Select Restart.... from the menu 


Let me know if this helps or if you're still having problems doing this.