Can i set "accept incoming connection" option for Apple Remote Desktop (ARD)?
We set the user default on all machines and then automate changing it right before an IT / Admin connection needs to be made and then reset the default after the support engagement.

The command you need to craft is two versions of kickstart and then your admin can send the less restrictive command over ssh/ARD, then screen connect, then rest the default after using ssh/ARD remote command.


https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201710