iCloud is full, but no way to delete photos/backups anything
this is so confusing! even if i turned off all the services that still didn't do anything. 

i finally found it. 


  settings > icloud > storage > manage storage > start turning **** off and it will actually delete on iCloud. 


it was storing all kinds of things i never authorized! like "health data" podcasts, photos.. this really sucks.