Not sure whats happening here (cant update past 10.15.1 - late 2012 mac mini)
I found a solution:

So as unknown domain pointed out, I did originally after reinstalling catalina enroll in beta program only because my backups were in the beta installation.

But after realizing I could indeed get the info I needed from my backup disk with out having to be in the beta I unenrolled by clicking detail and restore to default.

As the internet points out that doesnt restore you back to non beta catalina. So what I did was redownload the catalina installation from the mac store and reinstall. I did not loose any data, it just installs it over top the beta version with out any data loss.

This solved my issue and now I am at 10.15.3 as we speak.

I can accept this answer in two days. I hope it helps others who might be in a similar situation.