iTunes - reset sync settings on device
So the issue was the following:

Summary:


iTunes Backup changes to "iCloud" when "This Computer" is selected when iPhone is connected to iTunes.


Issue:


when connecting to iTunes in iPhone(YourIphone) > Summary > Backups the "iCloud" option was checked.  When I had set the "This computer" option. So when I set it again to "This computer" option and clicked "apply" and "sync" it would backup locally but then revert back to the "iCloud" option.  I thought the settings were corrupted locally. so was looking a way to reset the sync settings to clear out this issue.


Fix:


on your Device > Settings > Apple ID > iCloud > iCloud Backup > Turn on iCloud Backup (since it was off) > then Turn off iCloud Backup. Reconnect the Device to the computer.  Your settings will now remain on "This computer".


So I'm leaving this solution that took me over 5 hrs to figure out to save other people some time if this ever happens to someone else.

Hope it helps someone else