Using 1 IR receiver for 4 LED controllers
They are "cheap", why do you expect them to work? 


  I think my problem is that there is no common ground for the IR
  receiver. This maybe damaged all LED controllers


Not likely. You just need a simple troubleshooting procedure to isolate the problem part. IF they all work individually there is very few reasons a four will not work.  Either the PSU or IR receiver. 



Try the strips one at a time to ensure they all work.
Use red only at a dimmed level. (lowest wattage to test PSU)
Then add one at a time , testing after adding another all with dimmed red.  

If it only fails when adding the fourth strip, disconnect the working IR receiver from the working LED controllers.  The problem may be the receiver cannot driver 4 controllers.  

If none fail then change the color to white  and increase the intensity (highest wattage).  

The method to my madness is that if the strips work individually then nothing is broken.  Then you must isolate the problem to the IR receiver drive capability or the PSU (varying intensity).