IR2184 Driver Failure
So after many hours of testing, and rebuilding it all on a breadboard I think I found my mysterious issue. Seems that my reflow oven is the culprit. The data sheet specifies that the leads should not exceed 300℃ for longer than 10 seconds. It doesn't appear to heat up the board that high during the reflow process. But hand soldering the chip on by hand at a much lower temp made everything work fine.