Current balance capacitor
Three capacitors in parallel will necessarily have the same voltage. As the charging current through each is C.dV/dt, they will also be necessarily equal, if the capacitances are equal.

That's at low frequency. At high frequency, the currents will split according to the impedances, which include the ESR and the ESL.

Unfortunately the OP has included no information as to the speed of the discharge (and the charge for that matter), or whether he is a hobbyist making a one-off, or a professional designer aiming to sell a product with a warranty, all of which are critical to the answer.

Unlike in a series connection, where imbalances in leakage current are dependent on dielectric impurities at very low levels, and so can vary by orders of magnitude between otherwise nominally identical components, the imbalances for a parallel connection, capacitance, ESR  and ESL depend on geometry, and show much less variation between components. They are also likely to be stable, whereas leakage might be expected to vary wildly with time and temperature.

To see whether ESR, ESL or capacitance are going to dominate the RMS current, the nominal discharge and charge currents need to be determined, either by measurement, or modelling with SPICE into the specific load.

If the discharge RMS is shown by modelling to be strongly dependent on ESR, and if the chosen capacitor shows a large ESR variation between units, and if that variation is significant in terms of the ratings, then there are two approaches, swamping, and trimming. In swamping, you would connect a resistor in series with each capacitor an order of magnitude larger than its ESR. This them dominates the split of current. It's also likely to change your experimental setup, and need a redesign. The alternative is trimming, where you measure all the capacitors, and add external resistance to those measured to have low ESR.

Calculations for ESL would follow a similar, though more difficult to measure, path. As a first step, to keep the external inductance equal, you'd obviously wire your capacitors symmetrically with respect to the terminals, and not use a long bus fed from one end. A star arrangement would be best, or a long bus but fed from opposite ends.

With capacitance variation, there's no practical external balancing that can or should be done. In theory, a large external series capacitor could trim the net capacitance. In practice it would probably be more trouble than it's worth. You can't trim with external resistance, though you can swamp for the dependence on current. However, as R is at right angles to C, you'd need a significant series R, which would almost certainly change the discharge into the load, and need a redesign. I wouldn't suggest you try to trim the C with external L, unless you model it thoroughly, and know exactly what overshoots are going to do in terms of discharge current and capacitor overvoltage.

The only two practical responses to capacitance tolerance are to either derate the datasheet RMS current limitation by the capacitance tolerance to get your working limit, or to design for a significant and discharge determining series resistance to be used with each capacitor. Manufacturers of pulsed power equipment like spot welders and motor magnetisers use the 'designed with a series resistor' approach to allow the discharge to be well controlled, even in the presence of varying external inductance, which also means the capacitors can be guaranteed to be operated well within their limits.

Are you a hobbyist or professional? If a pro, then you already know the answer. Don't use those capacitors. Use more, smaller ones in parallel, and lower voltage types in series if necessary, until the calculated RMS current is far enough below the rating that you meet your customary derating factor. 

If you are a hobbyist, then I'd say just go for it, as it is. By checking the specifications, you've already shown yourself to be far better than the typical power hobbyist, for which the mantra is 'turn it up until it catches fire, then back off a bit'. You may get a shorter life than expected from the caps, does that matter? That's not a flippant question, expected lifetime is a significant specification when designing power electronics.