I keep blowing my SSR. What am I doing wrong here?
Your 1st problem is IN current is 15 mA absolute max while 11mA min.
The actual input is a 1V IR diode opto coupler

Therefore use 13mA or 36V/13mA= 2.78k or closest value

The second is the surge current on a 30A motor can be 8x or more rated current appears to exceed max load current.