Determine polarity of IrED with multimeter
The direction with the lower voltage drop is likely the forward direction. The reason you get a voltage drop in the reverse direction is likely because when reverse bias, your IR emitter LED becomes a photo diode that's sensitive to same wavelength of IR. If you can get another strong IR source, shine it while it's reverse biased and see if it changes.

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