Sourcing slim 3.5mm stereo jack plugs
found them!

This company has cables on Digikey but these awesome plugs are not there, only on their site.  They are made to be over molded after the connections are made but they are perfect!  I was looking for these for a long time lol.

http://www.tensility.com/adtemplate.asp?invky=1304&amp;catky=