What relay do I need
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Figure 1. (a) What you did. (b) What you intended.

Relay coils have a high resistance relative to your motor load. When wired in series as in Figure 1a the relay finds it's 'neutral' connection through the load. Its high resistance lets a small current through and this isn't enough to start the motor. If you put an AC voltmeter across the motor you would only read a few volts.

Wiring the relay in parallel with the load as shown in Figure 1b will give the desired result. Both the relay and the motor have a live and a neutral connection.



The ASCII schematics were a noble attempt although they might be clearer using | - and + characters.

N     P
|     |
|     |
|     +----+ A1   | 1
|     |   +++     |
|     |   | |      /
|     |   | |     /
|     |   +++     |
+----------+ A2   | 2
|     |
+-( )-+


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