So, ?nobody? makes a high(er) current tri state driver chip?
That's probably because you are looking for the wrong term. At those currents you are likely to have to look for darlington transistor arrays, or NFET transistor arrays, not mere "drivers".

To charlieplex, you would need to combine low-side and high-side drivers.

It's similar to working with discretes, but a bunch of all the needed parts are inside just two ICs :)

You can also use H-bridge drivers (or motor drivers) for this purpose.