Views 3: Getting related content from node ref field
Your question is not quite clear whether you want to show band information when viewing a band-story node or to show band stories when viewing a band node. I'm assuming it's the second one. 


Create a View with "Content" under "Show", and choose "Band Story" as the node type.

Clear the check box to create a page or make a block if you want. That's up to you: 
Save and continue to Views UI. 
In the Views UI, make sure you have 2 filters added - Node is published, and the node's type is Band Story. 
Default sort criteria would be "Newest first". Change it if you want. 
Add a new contextual filter. 
In the add contextual filter, choose the field that refers to Band node. This field should be in the Band Story node type.
Add the argument. You will get the argument's settings page. 
Under "When the filter value is NOT available", choose "Provide default value". Under "Type" select list, choose "Content ID from URL". 

You can optionally add a validation criteria if you allow the node reference field to refer other node types than "band" as follows. 



11.  That's it! Save the View and put the block (you have to give a name to it) in the sidebar (or anywhere else). it will inherit the current node's ID and will show Band Story nodes that have this node ID in its node reference field.