is there a way to find out which quicktab tab is active?
After much consideration and a ton of tries I decided to go with cookies,I added this to my script file from
http://drupal.org/node/1454486

Drupal.behaviors.quicktabsHistory = {
attach: function(context, settings) {
  // enable accordion memory
  $('.quick-accordion', context).each(function() {
    var id = $(this).attr('id');
    var accordion = $.cookie(id);

    if (accordion != '') {
      $(this).find('h3 a[href="' + accordion + '"]').click();
    }
    $(this).find('h3 a').click(function() {
      $.cookie(id, $(this).attr('href'));
    });
  });

  // enable tab memory
  $('.quicktabs-wrapper', context).each(function() {
    var id = $(this).attr('id');
    var tab = $.cookie(id);

    if (tab != '') {
      $(this).find('ul.quicktabs-tabs a#' + tab).click();
    }
    $(this).find('ul.quicktabs-tabs a').click(function() {
      $.cookie(id, $(this).attr('id'));
    });
  });
}
};


thanks for your time and efforts