How is an aircraft with a stabilator trimmed?
Trim is simply a force that offsets the neutral position of the control surface. On aircraft with mechanical controls it is provided aerodynamically via trim tab, but it can also be provided by springs, hydraulics, or simply by adding the selected offset in the fly-by-wire computer. Since F-16, F-18 and F-22 are all fly-by-wire, the last option is most likely.

In fact, all these fighters are aerodynamically unstable, which requires using “cooked” controls where centred stick commands the computer to maintain straight flight and the computer then adjusts the stabilators accordingly, doing small corrections all the time since the flight path would quickly diverge without that. So there is no trim in the traditional sense at all.