Is there an app like ROM-control for non-AOKP roms?
The answer is no, you cannot, because ROM Control is an app that is geared and orientated towards Android 4 and in this instance AOKP, hence internal API's are different. Back porting it into a non-ICS/non-AOKP ROM may fail due to the dependencies on the aspect of AOKP, such as settings, and ICS internals are vastly different to non-ICS code. 

If you are a programmer and like to torture yourself with the challenge of it, then maybe its possible to back-port certain aspects and build the ROM yourself.