Can you damage a device using the wrong USB cable?
does this mean I cannot use a regular USB cable in a OTG (micro-B I believe) port


The USB-micro ports (A and B) always have 5 pins so there is no "regular" (4 pin) cable with a micro connector. Any micro usb cable can be used to power the device and no damage will occur.

This means every micro usb connector does physically support OTG. However this does not mean that the controller or the software will support it (You cannot assume that every micro usb device will support OTG).