Controlling an MCP41HV31 Digital Potentiometer
I realize that this thread is old. I am providing an answer for anyone else who may end up here like I did a while back looking to solve this.
I have created an Arduino library on Github (https://github.com/gregsrabian/MCP41HVX1) which allows for control of this family of chips. The README.md within the github project documents all of the APIs and also provides the wiring diagram. There are also example sketches included.
I have created an article on Instructables (https://www.instructables.com/id/MCP41HVX1-Digital-Potentiometer-for-Arduino/) that provides a step by step on how to control this family of chips. There is also an explanation on how to solder the TSSOP chip.