Connecting a time on/off circuit and my adafruit neopixel light strip
You cannot find a tutorial for controlling neopixel strips with a relay, because that just does not make any sense. You don't need a relay to control the strip.
The Neopixels consist not only of the LEDs themselves, but also of one LED driver chip per LED (WS2811 and it's siblings). These driver chips control the LEDs based on the data, that you send through the data pin. Actually one Neopixel LED consists of 3 LEDs inside a single package, one LED each for the colors red, green and blue (so that you can create all the other colors with a combination of them). The driver chip controlls the brightness of all three colors.
Thus you only need to connect your 5V power source to the strip (5V and ground) - Be sure to connect the power lines directly to your power supply, so that the LED current does not flow through the Arduino (because that can fry your Arduino) - and the data In pin of the strip to a fitting digital pin of the Arduino. You can use the Adafruit Neopixel library or the FastLED library for controlling them.
To turn the strip on, you set the needed pixels to the wanted color and then call the show method of the library (which sends out the color data through the data pin). To turn the strip off, you simply clear all the pixels (the libraries have extra functions for that), which basically means setting all pixel to black (red, green and blue components all zero).
So forget about the relay and just use the strip directly. Also Adafruit has a very good guide on how to use the Neopixels.