Multivideo player with histograms?
IDK how well this would work. Prob. not at all for vids with differing GOPs, but you could try using something to mirror your keystrokes to multiple windows.

Autohotkey can do that on Windows.  On GNU/Linux, Terminator can send keystrokes to multiple gnome-terminal tabs at once, so you could control mplayer that way (since it reads the tty as well as accepting keystrokes to its windows.)  I'm sure there's a way to dual-box games on GNU/Linux by mirroring keystrokes to arbitrary windows, I've just never had occasion to go looking.

If any open-source player has the kind of histogram you're looking for, and an existing API for writing GUI frontends, then in theory it shouldn't be too hard to (pay a coder to) hack something up that sends seek-to-a-position commands to multiple instances of a player.  This could solve loss of sync problems after seeking, if you get that with blindly driving multiple players.

ffmpeg has a histogram filter. From an example in the ffmpeg docs: play a vid with a filtered version side-by-side: -vf 'split[a][b]; [a]pad=iw*2:ih[src]; [b]histogram[filt]; [src][filt]overlay=w'. I just changed deshake to histogram.