Why an asymmetric geometry with sp3d and sp3d3 hybridization?
As already stated in the comments, there is a considerable debate as to whether d-orbitals can be considered to take part in main group elements’ hybridisation at all.

d-Orbital hybridisation was invented by Linus Pauling to explain the bonds in sulfate and sulfur trioxide because he didn’t like the idea of separating charges. However, d-orbitals are far removed energetically compared to s- and p-orbitals — also the reason why 4s is filled before 3d. Technically, before a d-orbital hybridisation can be considered, the next shell s-orbital should be hybridised in first, following the path of lowest energy.

Conveniently, all the cases you presented in your question can be adequately explained using only s- and p-orbitals. See the links for $\ce{SF6}$, $\ce{PCl5}$ and $\ce{IF7}$ respectively. Many thanks to ron for providing them in his comments!