Shape of sp³ hybrid orbital
Don't put too much trust in the absolute signs of wavefunction, for they all are arbitrary anyway. Look at it this way: an s orbital has one sign (*). One lobe of p orbital has the same sign, so when they add up, it grows huge. Another lobe inevitably has the opposite sign, so when they interfere, it is reduced to a tiny pig tail.



(*) This is not quite true if we consider radial nodes. That's when things get really hairy.