Why does methane have 4-different bond dissociation energies?
Bond energies are important, but you have to start somewhere. Actually, I'm surprised that the bond energies for the four dissociations are so similar. But that's a good start.
Now let's get into a bit more interesting compound: ethane. Very interesting!

The table is only part of the information on ethane given in an open access article (Ref 1). Note that the first C-H bond dissociation requires 422 kJ/mol, while the second requires 150 to 465 kJ/mol, depending on which bond you are breaking, because of what product you are making. Each line in the table is worth several paragraphs of explanation.
I admire your desire to tie up your knowledge neatly here - get a lot of string, because it's a very big package!
Ref 1. https://pubs.acs.org/doi/pdf/10.1021/acs.jpca.5b01346   Branko Ruscic, J. Phys. Chem. A 2015, 119, 28, 7810–7837