What are the similarities and differences of adiabatic and diabatic states?
A potential energy surface (PES) is generally the electronic energy written as a function of the nuclear coordinates. This is obtained by solving the Hamiltonian, considering explicit dependence on the electronic coordinates $r$, and parametric dependence on the nuclear coordinates $R$.

$\hat{H}\psi(r;R)=E\psi(r;R)$

Solving this, gives us the electronic energy as the function of the nuclear coordinates, $E(R)$. A plot of this function is the PES. This PES is obtained within the Born-Oppenheimer (BO) approximation, which allows us to assume that the kinetic energy of the nucleus does not matter. The physical interpretation is that the nucleus is very heavy compared to the electrons and, therefore, so much more slower that it can be considered almost stationary. This PES is generally written in the adiabatic basis, where the diagonal terms represent the electronic energy and the off-diagonal terms are the nuclear kinetic energy, $T_n$.

The off-diagonal terms can be neglected, as we already saw that $T_n$ is nearly zero. But in cases where two PESs come very close together (conical intersections and avoided crossings), there is coupling of the nuclear and electronic coordinates. This means that the nuclear kinetic energy can no longer be neglected, and there is a breakdown of the BO approximation. Further, the numbers become very high when the two states (PESs) cross as in a conical intersection and become too hard to handle. In such cases, a unitary transformation is done to change the basis from an adiabatic to a diabatic basis. By doing this, the diagonal term, $T_n$, gets converted to a potential energy term and is easy to handle. 

Therefore, adiabatic and diabatic PESs differ by the basis they are written in. They can both be used to describe the same process, but there is no real need to use the diabatic representation when the BO approximations holds.

They can be referred to as adiabatic/diabatic PESs, or states, or surfaces, or representations. The term 'process' here is incorrect as it refers to thermodynamics terminology.