Why do we average gradients and not loss in distributed training?
The whole idea behind those distributed optimization methods is that data should be local in every node/worker. Thus, if you only send the loss value to the central node, this node can't compute the gradients of this loss, and thus can't do any training. However, if you don't want to send gradients, a family of distributed optimization algorithms called consensus-based optimization can be used to only send the local weight of the model to neighbouring nodes, and those nodes use their local gradient and the models from their neighbours to update their local models.