Why does (not) the distribution of states depend on the policy parameters that induce it?
The reason you are confused is because this is not the full derivation of the Policy Gradient Theorem. You are correct in thinking that $\mu(s)$ depends on the policy $\pi$ which in turn depends on the policy parameters $\theta$, and so there should be a derivative of $\mu$ wrt $\theta$, however the Policy Gradient Theorem doesn't require you to take this derivative.
In fact, the great thing about the Policy Gradient Theorem is that the final result does not require you to take a derivative of the state distribution with respect to the policy parameters. I would encourage you to read and go through the derivation of the Policy Gradient Theorem from e.g. Sutton and Barto to see why you don't need to take the derivative.

Above is an image of the Policy Gradient Theorem proof from the Sutton and Barto book. If you carefully go through this line by line you will see that you are not required to take a derivative of the state distribution anywhere in the proof.