How can isostatic compensation of the crust be reconciled with a relatively strong upper mantle?
Because it is not the strong portion that gets displaced. The mantle just below the crust bends, just like the crust above it, together they make up the lithosphere,  It is not the thing being displaced it is the thing doing the displacing. The asthenosphere is being displaced. 

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