Is there a good German Stemmer?
Big problem and very good question! 

I used spacy in the past, which has a German module. I guess stemming is not supported, but lemmatization.

Looking at the output below, I don't think that spacy will solve your problem to be honest. However, I just wanted to let you know about this option.

Spacy Lemmatization:

#pip install spacy
#python -m spacy download de

import spacy
nlp = spacy.load('de_core_news_sm')

mywords = "Das ist schon sehr schön mit den Expertinnen und Experten"

for t in nlp.tokenizer(mywords):
    print("Tokenized: %s | Lemma: %s" %(t, t.lemma_))


Result:

Tokenized: Das | Lemma: der
Tokenized: ist | Lemma: sein
Tokenized: schon | Lemma: schon
Tokenized: sehr | Lemma: sehr
Tokenized: schön | Lemma: schön
Tokenized: mit | Lemma: mit
Tokenized: den | Lemma: der
Tokenized: Expertinnen | Lemma: Expertinnen
Tokenized: und | Lemma: und
Tokenized: Experten | Lemma: Experte