While Slant and other critics suggest that Perry may be homophobic , especially given her single `` Ur So Gay '' , which makes `` I Kissed a Girl '' seem like `` a classic example of the ` Guys kissing is gross , girls kissing is hot ' line of thought '' The Star Ledger quotes a listener who proposes that negative reactions to the song are due to homophobia , saying that it would not draw disapproval if sung by a male artist , and who compares the level of explicitness in the lyrics with other songs on the radio such as rap lyrics . Slant and other critics suggest that Perry may be homophobic , especially given her single `` Ur So Gay '' , which makes `` I Kissed a Girl '' seem like `` a classic example of the ` Guys kissing is gross , girls kissing is hot ' line of thought , '' which promotes hypersexualization of queer women and demonization of queer men .