How to Be Secure. Three Methods:Developing Emotional SecurityHaving a Secure Sense of SelfFeeling Financially SecureCommunity Q&A. Many of the decisions you make, both consciously and unconsciously, affect your sense of security. For some people, feeling secure means having a steady, enjoyable job with a good income. For others, security might involve emotional security, like developing trust in a relationship, or it might mean feeling secure in one's own body.