To Know Him Is to Love Him  is a song written by Phil Spector, inspired by words on his father's tombstone, To Know Him Was To Love Him.. It was first recorded by the only vocal group of which he was a member, the Teddy Bears.Their recording went to number one on the Billboard Hot 100 singles chart in 1958.The Beatles ' version, To Know Her Is to Love Her, was not officially released until 1994, on their Live at the BBC compilation album.ohn Lennon recorded his own version of the song in 1973 (To Know Her Is to Love Her), but it would not see release until the 1986 compilation Menlove Ave. In 2007, Amy Winehouse recorded the song acoustically for a B-side of .