The other parent will usually be allowed contact. A joint or shared order allows the child(ren) to alternate periods of residence between the homes of both parents. Shared residence refers to a situation where the children live in two (or more) households.he other parent will usually be allowed contact. A joint or shared order allows the child(ren) to alternate periods of residence between the homes of both parents. Shared residence refers to a situation where the children live in two (or more) households.