And your boyfriend's not allowed to dictate who you can and can't talk to. The fact that he's doing this now is a sign that he might engage in even more controlling behavior in the future, like screening your calls or keeping you from talking to all of your friends.elp!!! Answer: What your boyfriend's doing to you is not only wrong, it's a sign of an abusive relationship. Honestly! Look at Sign #3. The whole I do it 'cause I love you so much excuse (a common thing that abusers say) is based on a twisted idea of love. Love isn't about control or jealousy, it's about respect.