ArtM Fertility clinics also don’t evaluate a potential parent’s ability to provide a happy and nurturing home. As painful as it can be to observe, LW2 expressing concern will likely not be well-received. A relative’s marriage was on the rocks and they already had two healthy children of the same gender, but they were very vocal that they wanted a child of the other gender. The parents went through IVF to have a child of the desired gender. The entire extended family cringed and we expressed our concern amongst eachother, knowing that future child was going to be born into an unhappy home where screaming matches were already a regular occurrence. Nobody said anything and if someone did, the parents would have told anyone questioning their decision to mind their own business. The child was born just as COVID lockdown started - spoiler, the baby didn’t save the marriage. Two years after the birth, the mother initiated an extremely nasty divorce that will likely drag on for years and the older children are severely negatively impacted. But the situation would have occurred even if someone spoke up. The potential adoptive parent in LW2’s case probably already has their mind made up. Maybe they are hoping another child will save the marriage.

ArtM Fertility clinics also don’t evaluate a potential parent’s ability to provide a happy and nurturing home. As painful as it can be to observe, LW2 expressing concern will likely not be well-received. A relative’s marriage was on the rocks and they already had two healthy children of the same gender, but they were very vocal that they wanted a child of the other gender. The parents went through IVF to have a child of the desired gender. The entire extended family cringed and we expressed our concern amongst eachother, knowing that future child was going to be born into an unhappy home where screaming matches were already a regular occurrence. Nobody said anything and if someone did, the parents would have told anyone questioning their decision to mind their own business. The child was born just as COVID lockdown started - spoiler, the baby didn’t save the marriage. Two years after the birth, the mother initiated an extremely nasty divorce that will likely drag on for years and the older children are severely negatively impacted. But the situation would have occurred even if someone spoke up. The potential adoptive parent in LW2’s case probably already has their mind made up. Maybe they are hoping another child will save the marriage.

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