LW1: I think Philip missed the mark this week. Is 10 weeks very early for these conversations? Of course. Unfortunately, as you know, you do not have the luxury of dating guys for months and months before bringing up this topic. And as many other commenters have said, egg freezing, adoption, and fostering are not the no-brainer solutions they are made out to be in this column, and if this "incredible guy" is the kind who is nearing 40 and still has the mindset of "I want kids eventually one day", then you need to know that as soon as possible. I am a very direct person, so if I were you I would say:"I've noticed that when I bring up relationship milestones like moving in together and having kids, you become a little more reserved. This makes perfect sense, because we have known each other for 10 weeks. However, having biological children is really important to me, and unfortunately the remaining time I have to make that happen is limited. I am not, repeat NOT asking you to commit to being my life partner or the father of my children in this very moment. But if you are not going to be ready to get serious about having children in the next few years, please tell me now. I have loved getting to know you but I don't want to waste either of our time if our plans for the future do not align." If he's scared off by your honesty, maybe it wasn't meant to be after all.

LW1: I think Philip missed the mark this week. Is 10 weeks very early for these conversations? Of course. Unfortunately, as you know, you do not have the luxury of dating guys for months and months before bringing up this topic. And as many other commenters have said, egg freezing, adoption, and fostering are not the no-brainer solutions they are made out to be in this column, and if this "incredible guy" is the kind who is nearing 40 and still has the mindset of "I want kids eventually one day", then you need to know that as soon as possible. I am a very direct person, so if I were you I would say:"I've noticed that when I bring up relationship milestones like moving in together and having kids, you become a little more reserved. This makes perfect sense, because we have known each other for 10 weeks. However, having biological children is really important to me, and unfortunately the remaining time I have to make that happen is limited. I am not, repeat NOT asking you to commit to being my life partner or the father of my children in this very moment. But if you are not going to be ready to get serious about having children in the next few years, please tell me now. I have loved getting to know you but I don't want to waste either of our time if our plans for the future do not align." If he's scared off by your honesty, maybe it wasn't meant to be after all.

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