Anyone else fascinated by that such a huge majority of parents are prioritizing financial independence for their children above them having a family? I have a small child, and while I would love for her to have a good career and financial stability someday, I'm not raising her to be a worker. I want her to derive meaning and pleasure from her connections with people--whether she has children or forms a chosen family. I could care less what she does for a "living." (What a revealing phrase.)I wonder if my parenting priorities are shaped by my childhood with divorced parents; one family lived in deep poverty, and the other family was comfortably upper middle class. As a kiddo, there was great stress in my poorer parents' home, but there was unconditional love, warmth, and understanding. In my other home, I was blessed with piano, voice, dance, and ice skating lessons, as well as tutoring, camps, vacations, and other enrichment activities. And I was grateful for those opportunities but still longed for more warmth and love from my family.My husband and I are working to foster our child's compassion, open-mindedness, courage, resilience, independence, and sense of service. Like other parents in the article, we're much more invested in her emotional world than running her around nonstop to lessons and activities. It's hard work, but our family is happy. And we're proud of how our kiddo is growing.

Anyone else fascinated by that such a huge majority of parents are prioritizing financial independence for their children above them having a family? I have a small child, and while I would love for her to have a good career and financial stability someday, I'm not raising her to be a worker. I want her to derive meaning and pleasure from her connections with people--whether she has children or forms a chosen family. I could care less what she does for a "living." (What a revealing phrase.)I wonder if my parenting priorities are shaped by my childhood with divorced parents; one family lived in deep poverty, and the other family was comfortably upper middle class. As a kiddo, there was great stress in my poorer parents' home, but there was unconditional love, warmth, and understanding. In my other home, I was blessed with piano, voice, dance, and ice skating lessons, as well as tutoring, camps, vacations, and other enrichment activities. And I was grateful for those opportunities but still longed for more warmth and love from my family.My husband and I are working to foster our child's compassion, open-mindedness, courage, resilience, independence, and sense of service. Like other parents in the article, we're much more invested in her emotional world than running her around nonstop to lessons and activities. It's hard work, but our family is happy. And we're proud of how our kiddo is growing.

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