For the Lender: You asked your husband point blank if the first check was a loan or a gift, and he answered that it was intended as help for people who needed it. You not have told us whether subsequent checks were intended by both you and Husband to be loans but you believed them to require repayment. Did the couple ask for a loan or a gift? Were the checks unsolicited? If my friends gave me a check, unsolicited and without repayment terms, I may not think of it as serious commitment as much as, "My friends says to repay it when I can because they are saving me the embarrassment of accepting their charity".  its possible the friends are thoughtless and spend too much $$, but maybe they don't want to talk about this low point of their lives, your intentions of the 'loans' or finances with their good friends. I would make sure to get on the same page as husband before initiating the shakedown

For the Lender: You asked your husband point blank if the first check was a loan or a gift, and he answered that it was intended as help for people who needed it. You not have told us whether subsequent checks were intended by both you and Husband to be loans but you believed them to require repayment. Did the couple ask for a loan or a gift? Were the checks unsolicited? If my friends gave me a check, unsolicited and without repayment terms, I may not think of it as serious commitment as much as, "My friends says to repay it when I can because they are saving me the embarrassment of accepting their charity".  its possible the friends are thoughtless and spend too much $$, but maybe they don't want to talk about this low point of their lives, your intentions of the 'loans' or finances with their good friends. I would make sure to get on the same page as husband before initiating the shakedown

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