I knew a couple in their 60s who talked a lot about what they'd do once they retired from jobs they did not enjoy. He died two years before retirement. She bemoaned this fact, continued working, and then she too passed away a few years from retirement. They did not have children and they left behind an estate worth at least two million dollars. She could have retired, down-sized, and enjoyed her life. There's what's called the Arrival Fallacy. That we'll be happy when a certain thing arrives (marriage, a graduate degree, retirement, a sports car, etc.) But we get these things and realize we're the same old person we always were and that the thing that arrived presents it's own challenges and stresses. We really do need to organize our lives to find some joy and happiness in the present moments because we don't know what the future holds.

I knew a couple in their 60s who talked a lot about what they'd do once they retired from jobs they did not enjoy. He died two years before retirement. She bemoaned this fact, continued working, and then she too passed away a few years from retirement. They did not have children and they left behind an estate worth at least two million dollars. She could have retired, down-sized, and enjoyed her life. There's what's called the Arrival Fallacy. That we'll be happy when a certain thing arrives (marriage, a graduate degree, retirement, a sports car, etc.) But we get these things and realize we're the same old person we always were and that the thing that arrived presents it's own challenges and stresses. We really do need to organize our lives to find some joy and happiness in the present moments because we don't know what the future holds.

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