Regarding situation #1: It would be naive indeed to expect a person over 50 to have survived life unscathed emotionally/physically. I would want to know only whether the potential mate was open to a physical relationship, intimacy. Which can look like many different things. I was trying to understand why a well educated intelligent man i met & had mutual attraction with was wearing old clothes & driving a dilapidated car. On our first date I asked if he struggled with an addiction disorder: "no". But he didn't tell me about the crippling debt he assumed from his previous marriage. There was no hope of paying it off in his lifetime. And a huge alimony payment pending years till completion. This was disclosed after about a month. So Wrong.

Regarding situation #1: It would be naive indeed to expect a person over 50 to have survived life unscathed emotionally/physically. I would want to know only whether the potential mate was open to a physical relationship, intimacy. Which can look like many different things. I was trying to understand why a well educated intelligent man i met & had mutual attraction with was wearing old clothes & driving a dilapidated car. On our first date I asked if he struggled with an addiction disorder: "no". But he didn't tell me about the crippling debt he assumed from his previous marriage. There was no hope of paying it off in his lifetime. And a huge alimony payment pending years till completion. This was disclosed after about a month. So Wrong.

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