▁he ▁died ▁in ▁his ▁arms . ▁ ▁Some ▁fans ▁have ▁always ▁expected ▁to ▁see ▁a ▁relationship ▁between ▁Gr iss om ▁and ▁Catherine ▁Will ows , ▁in ▁whom ▁he ▁is ▁shown ▁conf iding ▁many ▁times , ▁once ▁even ▁li ken ing ▁her ▁to ▁being ▁his ▁" w ife ." ▁The ▁two ▁were ▁never ▁ ▁more ▁than ▁very ▁good ▁friends , ▁as ▁the ▁show ' s ▁produ cers ▁see ▁them ▁as ▁more ▁of ▁brother ▁and ▁sister ▁than ▁lo vers . ▁Catherine ▁has ▁many ▁times ▁encourag ed ▁Gr iss om ▁to ▁be ▁more ▁open ▁and ▁less ▁self - abs or bed , ▁and ▁to ▁purs ue ▁something ▁with ▁S ara ▁Sid le . ▁ ▁Gr iss om ▁has ▁been ▁alleg edly ▁involved ▁with ▁for ens ic ▁anth rop ologist ▁Ter i ▁Miller ▁and ▁with ▁S & M ▁par lor ▁operator ▁Lady ▁He ather , ▁whose ▁" s af ew ord " ▁it ▁has ▁been ▁suggested ▁that ▁he ▁knows — how ever , ▁as ▁all ▁he ▁says ▁is ▁" He ather , ▁stop !" ▁and ▁" I ' m ▁saying ▁stop ," ▁he ▁evidently ▁does ▁not ▁use ▁it , ▁as ▁" stop " ▁is ▁never ▁a ▁" s af ew ord ." ▁R ather , ▁this ▁is ▁a ▁reference ▁to ▁the ▁episode ▁" L ady ▁He ather ' s ▁Box ," ▁in ▁which ▁she ▁rem inds ▁Gr iss om ▁that ▁the ▁sub miss ive ▁is ▁in ▁control ; ▁Gr iss om ▁tells ▁her ▁when ▁they ▁begin ▁kiss ing , ▁" You ▁can ▁always ▁say ▁stop ," ▁and