▁He ▁said : ▁" After ▁all , ▁listening ▁to ▁a ▁child , ▁hearing ▁him ▁speak , ▁hearing ▁him ▁explain ▁what ▁his ▁relations ▁actually ▁were ▁with ▁someone , ▁adult ▁or ▁not , ▁provided ▁one ▁list ens ▁with ▁enough ▁sympathy , ▁must ▁allow ▁one ▁to ▁establish ▁more ▁or ▁less ▁what ▁degree ▁of ▁violence , ▁if ▁any , ▁was ▁used ▁or ▁what ▁degree ▁of ▁consent ▁was ▁given ". ▁ ▁He ▁veh ement ly ▁opposed ▁any ▁doubt ▁on ▁the ▁child ' s ▁ability ▁to ▁speak ▁about ▁the ▁facts : ▁" To ▁assume ▁that ▁a ▁child ▁is ▁in cap able ▁of ▁explaining ▁what ▁happened ▁and ▁was ▁in cap able ▁of ▁giving ▁his ▁consent ▁are ▁two ▁ab uses ▁that ▁are ▁int ol er able , ▁quite ▁un accept able . ▁( ...) ▁The ▁child ▁may ▁be ▁trust ed ▁to ▁say ▁whether ▁or ▁not ▁he ▁was ▁subject ed ▁to ▁violence ". ▁ ▁H oc qu eng hem ▁observed ▁that ▁the ▁trial ▁ceremony ▁const ra ins ▁the ▁child : ▁" The ▁public ▁aff irm ation ▁of ▁consent ▁to ▁such ▁acts ▁is ▁extremely ▁difficult , ▁as ▁we ▁know . ▁Every body   — ▁jud ges , ▁do ctors , ▁the ▁def endant   – ▁knows ▁that ▁the ▁child ▁was ▁consent ing   – ▁but ▁nobody ▁says ▁anything , ▁because , ▁apart ▁from ▁anything ▁else , ▁there ' s ▁no ▁way ▁it ▁can ▁be ▁introduced ". ▁ ▁He ▁str essed ▁that ▁it ▁is ▁impossible ▁to ▁express ▁a ▁complete ▁relationship ▁between ▁an ▁adult ▁and ▁a ▁child , ▁a ▁relationship ▁involving ▁all ▁kinds ▁of ▁affect