- year ▁age ▁gap ▁between ▁A em ilia ▁and ▁Gra ves ▁did ▁not ▁bother ▁her , ▁she ▁said . ▁" Ro bert ▁was ▁great - looking ▁and ▁in ▁good ▁shape . ▁He ▁had ▁a ▁brilliant ▁mind , ▁was ▁very ▁fun ny ▁and ▁char ming ." ▁ ▁Gra ves ▁became ▁so ▁bes otted ▁with ▁A em ilia ▁that ▁he ▁bought ▁her ▁a ▁house ▁in ▁Puerto ▁Vall arta , ▁Mexico . ▁And ▁yet ▁she ▁took ▁a ▁lo ver , ▁the ▁beat ▁poet ▁Howard ▁Hart , ▁to ▁live ▁there . ▁Their ▁letters ▁are ▁documented ▁and ▁stored ▁at ▁the ▁University ▁of ▁Victoria . ▁ ▁Under ▁an ▁agreement ▁with ▁the ▁Gra ves ▁family , ▁they ▁were ▁not ▁to ▁be ▁read ▁until ▁his ▁wid ow ▁B ery l ▁had ▁died . ▁B ery l ▁died ▁in ▁late ▁ 2 0 0 3 . ▁ ▁A em elia ▁married ▁for ▁the ▁third ▁time ▁and ▁for ▁the ▁last ▁years ▁of ▁her ▁life , ▁after ▁her ▁third ▁divor ce , ▁retained ▁her ▁married ▁name ▁Em ilia ▁Mac K in ley . ▁She ▁lived ▁her ▁later ▁years ▁trav elling ▁between ▁Puerto ▁Vall arta ▁and ▁New ▁York ▁City . ▁ ▁References ▁ ▁External ▁links ▁Robert ▁Gra ves ▁fond s ▁at ▁University ▁of ▁Victoria , ▁Special ▁Col lections ▁ ▁Category : 1 9 2 5 ▁birth s ▁Category : 2 0 0 7 ▁death s ▁Category : American ▁artists <0x0A> </s> ▁is ▁a ▁Japanese ▁anim ator ▁and ▁character ▁designer ▁who ▁was ▁born ▁in ▁H iro sh ima . ▁He ▁is ▁known ▁for ▁working ▁with ▁Hay