9 6 3 , ▁and ▁remained ▁involved ▁in ▁the ▁DO B ▁until ▁joining ▁the ▁National ▁Organ ization ▁for ▁Women ▁( NO W ) ▁as ▁the ▁first ▁les bian ▁couple ▁to ▁do ▁so . ▁ ▁Both ▁women ▁worked ▁to ▁form ▁the ▁Council ▁on ▁Religion ▁and ▁the ▁Hom osex ual ▁( CR H ) ▁in ▁northern ▁California ▁to ▁persu ade ▁minister s ▁to ▁accept ▁hom osex uals ▁into ▁churches , ▁and ▁used ▁their ▁influence ▁to ▁dec riminal ize ▁hom osex ual ity ▁in ▁the ▁late ▁ 1 9 6 0 s ▁and ▁early ▁ 1 9 7 0 s . ▁They ▁became ▁polit ically ▁active ▁in ▁San ▁Francisco ' s ▁first ▁gay ▁political ▁organization , ▁the ▁Alice ▁B . ▁Tok las ▁Democratic ▁Club , ▁which ▁influenced ▁then - may or ▁D ian ne ▁Fe in stein ▁to ▁spons or ▁a ▁city wide ▁bill ▁to ▁out law ▁employ ment ▁disc rim ination ▁for ▁g ays ▁and ▁les bi ans . ▁Both ▁served ▁in ▁the ▁White ▁House ▁Conference ▁on ▁A ging ▁in ▁ 1 9 9 5 . ▁ ▁They ▁were ▁married ▁on ▁February ▁ 1 2 , ▁ 2 0 0 4 , ▁in ▁the ▁first ▁same - sex ▁wed ding ▁to ▁take ▁place ▁in ▁San ▁Francisco ▁after ▁Mayor ▁G av in ▁News om ▁ordered ▁the ▁city ▁cl erk ▁to ▁begin ▁providing ▁marriage ▁lic enses ▁to ▁same - sex ▁cou ples , ▁but ▁that ▁marriage ▁was ▁void ed ▁by ▁the ▁California ▁Supreme ▁Court ▁on ▁August ▁ 1 2 , ▁ 2 0 0 4 . ▁They