ity ▁in ▁order ▁to ▁obtain ▁something ▁of ▁value . ▁The ▁concept ▁is ▁controvers ial , ▁especially ▁in ▁view ▁of ▁fundamental ▁soci etal ▁disag re ement ▁over ▁the ▁definition ▁and ▁importance ▁of ▁vir gin ity . ▁ ▁The ▁arch et yp al ▁case ▁is ▁of ▁a ▁woman ▁who ▁f als ely ▁claims ▁to ▁be ▁a ▁vir gin ▁for ▁the ▁sake ▁of ▁marriage ▁to ▁a ▁man ▁whom ▁she ▁suspect s ▁of ▁ins isting ▁on , ▁or ▁at ▁least ▁valu ing , ▁vir gin ity ▁in ▁his ▁b ride . ▁( Other ▁situations ▁– ▁such ▁as ▁two ▁lo vers ▁who ▁claimed ▁to ▁lose ▁their ▁vir gin ity ▁together ▁on ▁the ▁internet ▁as ▁a ▁public ity ▁st unt ▁– ▁may ▁techn ically ▁qual ify , ▁but ▁are ▁rarely ▁discussed ▁in ▁the ▁same ▁context .) ▁ ▁Oper ating ▁concept ▁of ▁vir gin ity ▁ ▁Fem ale ▁vir gin ity ▁may ▁either ▁be ▁defined ▁sole ly ▁according ▁to ▁the ▁presence ▁or ▁absence ▁of ▁a ▁h ymen , ▁or ▁else ▁according ▁to ▁more ▁ambigu ous , ▁philosoph ical ▁criteria . ▁ ▁In ▁many ▁soci eties , ▁for ▁a ▁woman ▁to ▁date ▁or ▁have ▁boy fri ends ▁– ▁even ▁if ▁ref ra ining ▁from ▁full ▁sexual ▁inter course ▁– ▁would ▁already ▁be ▁viewed ▁as ▁a ▁viol ation ▁of ▁traditional ▁values . ▁( See ▁technical ▁vir gin ity ; ▁honor ▁killing .) ▁On ▁the ▁other ▁hand , ▁les bian ▁sexual ▁activity ▁would ▁not ▁normally ▁be ▁an ▁object ▁of ▁concern . ▁Meanwhile , ▁a ▁ra pe ▁victim ▁would ▁be ▁viewed ▁as ▁having ▁lost