▁the ▁use ▁of ▁non ox yn ol - 9 ▁among ▁men ▁who ▁have ▁sex ▁with ▁men , ▁question ing ▁the ▁role ▁of ▁heter osex uals ▁as ▁leaders ▁of ▁les bian ▁and ▁gay ▁organizations , ▁oppos ing ▁the ▁death ▁penalty , ▁even ▁in ▁cases ▁of ▁fatal ▁hate ▁cr imes , ▁critic izing ▁Will ie ▁Brown , ▁Mayor ▁of ▁San ▁Francisco , ▁for ▁using ▁a ▁pe jor ative , ▁" p ant y wa ists ," ▁to ▁ins ult ▁United ▁Airlines ' ▁air plan es , ▁and ▁supporting ▁state - m and ated ▁name ▁reporting ▁for ▁people ▁with ▁H IV . ▁Pet rel is ▁was ▁also ▁cred ited ▁as ▁the ▁architect ▁of ▁a ▁campaign ▁to ▁out ▁Jim ▁Kol be , ▁a ▁Republican ▁con gress man ▁from ▁Arizona , ▁after ▁Kol be ▁voted ▁in ▁favor ▁of ▁the ▁Def ense ▁of ▁Mar riage ▁Act ▁( DO MA ). ▁ ▁Fem ale ▁cond oms ▁for ▁gay ▁men ▁ ▁In ▁early ▁ 1 9 9 6 , ▁the ▁San ▁Francisco ▁Department ▁of ▁Public ▁Health ▁( SF DP H ) ▁agreed ▁to ▁offer ▁female ▁cond oms ▁to ▁men ▁who ▁have ▁sex ▁with ▁men , ▁as ▁protection ▁against ▁H IV ▁and ▁other ▁sex ually ▁transm itted ▁in fe ctions ▁during ▁anal ▁sex , ▁after ▁Pet rel is ▁ur ged ▁them ▁to ▁do ▁so ▁by ▁phone ▁and ▁letter . ▁Pet rel is ▁critic ized ▁the ▁ag ency ▁for ▁failing ▁to ▁hold ▁public ▁meet ings ▁about ▁the ▁female ▁cond om , ▁and ▁initially ▁failing ▁to ▁provide ▁ade qu ate ▁instructions ▁for ▁its ▁use