▁I ▁connect ▁with ▁an ▁a ura , ▁with ▁energy . ▁And ▁if ▁the ▁person ▁with ▁whom ▁I ▁connect ▁happens ▁to ▁be ▁a ▁female , ▁that ' s ▁just ▁the ▁way ▁it ▁is . ▁That ' s ▁what ▁makes ▁my ▁whe els ▁turn ." ▁ ▁On ▁January ▁ 1 7 , ▁ 2 0 0 8 , ▁L oken ▁announced ▁on ▁her ▁website ▁she ▁was ▁engaged ▁to ▁her ▁P ain k iller ▁Jane ▁co - star ▁No ah ▁Dan by ; ▁the ▁couple ▁ex changed ▁marriage ▁v ows ▁at ▁her ▁family ' s ▁farm ▁on ▁May ▁ 1 0 , ▁ 2 0 0 8 . ▁In ▁an ▁interview ▁published ▁on ▁November ▁ 1 6 , ▁ 2 0 0 9 , ▁she ▁announced ▁she ▁was ▁separated ▁from ▁Dan by , ▁and ▁was ▁d ating ▁a ▁woman . ▁ ▁L oken ▁gave ▁birth ▁to ▁a ▁son , ▁Thor , ▁in ▁May ▁ 2 0 1 6 ▁with ▁her ▁boy friend ▁Jonathan ▁B ates , ▁a ▁man aging ▁director ▁at ▁J P ▁Morgan . ▁ ▁Film ography ▁ ▁Film ▁ ▁Television ▁ ▁Video ▁games ▁ ▁Awards ▁and ▁nomin ations ▁ ▁References ▁ ▁External ▁links ▁▁▁▁▁▁ ▁Category : 1 9 7 9 ▁birth s ▁Category : L iving ▁people ▁Category : American ▁people ▁of ▁Sc and in av ian ▁descent ▁Category : 2 0 th - century ▁American ▁actress es ▁Category : 2 1 st - century ▁American ▁actress es ▁Category : Act ress es ▁from ▁New ▁York ▁( state ) ▁Category : American ▁child ▁actress