och ism ▁... ▁the ▁often ▁very ▁little ▁' real ised ' ▁aspect ▁of ▁the ▁app reh ension ▁of ▁others ▁in ▁the ▁practice ▁of ▁certain ▁of ▁these ▁per versions ". ▁In ▁his ▁w ake , ▁others ▁would ▁stress ▁how ▁" there ▁is ▁always , ▁in ▁any ▁per verse ▁act , ▁an ▁aspect ▁of ▁ra pe , ▁in ▁the ▁sense ▁that ▁the ▁Other ▁must ▁find ▁himself ▁drawn ▁into ▁the ▁experience ▁despite ▁himself ▁... ▁a ▁loss ▁or ▁abandon ment ▁of ▁subject ivity ." ▁ ▁Similarly , ▁object ▁relations ▁theory ▁would ▁point ▁to ▁the ▁way ▁" in ▁per version ▁there ▁is ▁the ▁ref us al , ▁the ▁terror ▁of ▁str angen ess "; ▁to ▁the ▁way ▁" the ▁' per vert ' ... att acks ▁imag in ative ▁elabor ation ▁through ▁comp uls ive ▁action ▁with ▁an ▁accomp lice ; ▁and ▁this ▁is ▁done ▁to ▁mask ▁psych ic ▁pain ". ▁Emp ir ical ▁studies ▁would ▁find ▁" in ▁the ▁per verse ▁relationships ▁described ... an ▁absolute ▁absence ▁of ▁any ▁shared ▁ple asures "; ▁while ▁at ▁the ▁theoretical ▁level ▁" per versions ▁involve — the ▁theory ▁tells ▁us — an ▁attempted ▁den ial ▁of ▁the ▁difference ▁between ▁the ▁sex es ▁and ▁the ▁gener ations ", ▁and ▁include ▁" the ▁wish ▁to ▁damage ▁and ▁de human ize ▁... ▁the ▁mis ery ▁of ▁the ▁driven , ▁dam aging ▁life ". ▁ ▁See ▁also ▁▁ ▁David ▁Morgan ▁( ps ych ologist ) ▁ ▁F ixed ▁fant asy ▁ ▁H ent ai ▁ ▁K ink ▁( sex ual ) ▁ ▁Richard ▁von