. ▁N est or ▁also ▁tells ▁the ▁story ▁of ▁how ▁when ▁Alex ▁was ▁born ▁Sul i ▁was ▁ter r ified ▁and ▁wor ried ▁about ▁Alex , ▁but ▁he ▁still ▁saw ▁her ▁perfect ▁the ▁way ▁she ▁is . ▁He ▁never ▁press ured ▁her ▁to ▁make ▁a ▁decision ▁about ▁her ▁own ▁body , ▁whereas ▁Sul i ▁tried ▁to ▁take ▁control ▁of ▁Alex ' s ▁body ▁a ▁few ▁times . ▁Sul i ▁wanted ▁to ▁operate ▁right ▁when ▁Alex ▁was ▁born , ▁but ▁N est or ▁cal med ▁her ▁down ▁and ▁talked ▁her ▁out ▁of ▁it . ▁He ▁may ▁seem ▁absent ▁mind ed ▁throughout ▁the ▁movie ▁because ▁he ▁didn ' t ▁know ▁Alex ▁stopped ▁taking ▁her ▁medicine ▁to ▁dimin ish ▁her ▁mascul ine ▁attributes ▁when ▁Sul i ▁pointed ▁it ▁out ▁to ▁him . ▁But ▁that ▁may ▁not ▁be ▁what ▁the ▁director ▁was ▁trying ▁to ▁dep ict . ▁It ' s ▁possible ▁he ▁was ▁trying ▁to ▁show ▁how ▁Sul i ▁was ▁obs essed ▁with ▁Alex ▁being ▁the ▁daughter ▁she ▁dream t ▁of ▁whereas ▁N est or ▁already ▁saw ▁Alex ▁perfect ▁anyway ▁– ▁whether ▁she ▁was ▁taking ▁the ▁medicine ▁or ▁not . ▁Of ▁course , ▁N est or ▁was ▁taken ▁back ▁after ▁seeing ▁Alex ▁and ▁Al var o ▁having ▁sex … ▁but ▁what ▁parent ▁wouldn ' t ▁be ▁taken ▁back ▁by ▁seeing ▁their ▁kid ▁have ▁sex ▁for ▁the ▁first ▁time ? ▁Another ▁example ▁of ▁N est or ' s ▁un cond itional ▁love ▁was ▁when ▁he ▁stood ▁up ▁for ▁Alex ▁after ▁she ▁broke ▁her ▁ex ▁best ▁friend ' s