▁sexual ▁behav iors , ▁including ▁through ▁sens ational ist ▁coverage ▁of ▁sex ▁sc and als , ▁public ▁z oning ▁initi atives ▁that ▁marg inal ize ▁the ▁sex ▁industry , ▁and ▁the ▁attempted ▁use ▁of ▁shame ▁to ▁manage ▁sex ually ▁transm itted ▁disease . ▁The ▁book ▁has ▁been ▁described ▁as ▁a ▁classic ▁of ▁the ▁deb ates ▁on ▁normal cy ▁as ▁a ▁goal ▁for ▁the ▁gay ▁rights ▁movement , ▁and ▁as ▁an ▁important ▁contribution ▁to ▁que er ▁theory . ▁ ▁Over view ▁The ▁Tr ouble ▁with ▁Normal ▁arg ues ▁that ▁same - sex ▁marriage ▁should ▁not ▁be ▁the ▁sole ▁goal ▁for ▁gay ▁rights ▁activ ism ; ▁that ▁gay ▁activ ists ▁should ▁work ▁toward ▁equal ▁benefits ▁for ▁domestic ▁partners ▁and ▁un con vent ional ▁families . ▁When ▁national ▁L GB T ▁activ ists ▁ins ist ▁on ▁the ▁overrid ing ▁importance ▁of ▁marriage , ▁the ▁book ▁arg ues , ▁it ▁st ig mat izes ▁que er ▁people ▁who ▁choose ▁other ▁types ▁of ▁relationships , ▁while ▁ign oring ▁a ▁broad ▁range ▁of ▁legal ▁benefits ▁that ▁could ▁help ▁the ▁entire ▁community , ▁not ▁just ▁leg ally ▁married ▁cou ples . ▁Crit ic izing ▁those ▁who ▁present ▁gay ▁marriage ▁and ▁the ▁repe al ▁of ▁the ▁Don ' t ▁Ask , ▁Don ' t ▁Tell ▁policy ▁as ▁the ▁sole ▁remaining ▁a ims ▁of ▁the ▁( American ) ▁gay ▁rights ▁movement , ▁Warner ▁cont ends ▁that ▁the ▁institution al ▁san ction ing ▁of ▁certain ▁types ▁of ▁relationship ▁always ▁comes ▁at ▁the ▁exp ense ▁of ▁others , ▁which ▁are ▁constit uted ▁by ▁contrast