, ▁on ▁November ▁ 1 4 , ▁ 1 8 6 5 . ▁ ▁Personal ▁life ▁In ▁August ▁ 1 8 6 1 , ▁Kir by ▁Smith ▁met ▁Cass ie ▁Sel den ▁( 1 8 3 6 – 1 9 0 5 ), ▁the ▁daughter ▁of ▁Samuel ▁S . ▁Sel den ▁of ▁Lyn ch burg . ▁While ▁recover ing ▁from ▁being ▁wounded ▁at ▁the ▁First ▁Battle ▁of ▁Man ass as , ▁he ▁still ▁found ▁time ▁for ▁w oo ing . ▁The ▁couple ▁married ▁on ▁September ▁ 2 4 . ▁Cass ie ▁wrote ▁on ▁October ▁ 1 0 , ▁ 1 8 6 2 ▁from ▁Lyn ch burg , ▁asking ▁what ▁to ▁name ▁their ▁first ▁child . ▁She ▁suggested ▁" something ▁un common ▁as ▁I ▁consider ▁her ▁an ▁un common ▁baby ." ▁The ▁new ▁baby ▁was ▁later ▁named ▁Caroline . ▁ ▁The ▁couple ▁briefly ▁reun ited ▁when ▁Cass ie ▁followed ▁her ▁husband ▁to ▁Sh re ve port ▁in ▁February ▁ 1 8 6 3 . ▁In ▁the ▁spring ▁of ▁ 1 8 6 4 , ▁she ▁moved ▁to ▁H emp st ead , ▁Texas , ▁where ▁she ▁remained ▁for ▁the ▁duration ▁of ▁the ▁war . ▁After ▁the ▁war ' s ▁end , ▁Cass ie ▁tra ve led ▁to ▁Washington ▁to ▁negoti ate ▁for ▁her ▁husband ' s ▁return ▁to ▁the ▁United ▁States ▁from ▁Cuba ▁where ▁he ▁had ▁fled . ▁ ▁In ▁ 1 8 7 5 ▁Kir by ▁Smith ▁accepted ▁an ▁appointment ▁as ▁a ▁professor ▁at ▁the ▁University ▁of ▁the ▁South ▁in ▁S ew