▁equ ated ▁the ▁single ▁to ▁" five ▁minutes ▁of ▁slow - burn ing ▁fl ame ". ▁E lias ▁Le ight ▁of ▁Vog ue ▁felt ▁that ▁" S leep ing ▁with ▁the ▁One ▁I ▁Love " ▁ ▁was ▁" one ▁of ▁the ▁more ▁unusual ▁songs ▁on ▁radio ▁at ▁the ▁moment " ▁as ▁it ▁did ▁not ▁contain ▁strong ▁hip ▁hop ▁elements , ▁and ▁compared ▁it ▁to ▁Sh ir ley ▁Bas sey ' s ▁music . ▁ ▁" S leep ing ▁with ▁the ▁One ▁I ▁Love " ▁revol ves ▁around ▁Fant asia ▁feeling ▁torn ▁between ▁the ▁stability ▁of ▁her ▁boy friend ▁and ▁the ▁sens ual ▁ple asures ▁of ▁her ▁lo ver . ▁According ▁to ▁W anda ▁J . ▁Co pp age ▁of ▁Music ▁Times , ▁the ▁lyr ics ▁focus ▁on ▁" the ▁story ▁of ▁a ▁woman ▁in ▁search ▁of ▁love , ▁but ▁she ▁seems ▁to ▁find ▁it ▁with ▁the ▁wrong ▁type ▁of ▁men ". ▁Through out ▁the ▁single , ▁Fant asia ▁" c andid ly ▁and ▁gu ilt lessly " ▁discuss es ▁her ▁affair ▁by ▁singing : ▁" I ’ m ▁sleep ing ▁with ▁the ▁man ▁I ▁love ▁because ▁the ▁one ▁I ’ m ▁with ▁just ▁ain ’ t ▁good ▁enough .” ▁In ▁the ▁vers es , ▁Fant asia ▁s ings ▁about ▁her ▁conflict ▁with ▁choosing ▁between ▁the ▁two ▁men , ▁through ▁lyr ics ▁such ▁as : ▁“ Yes , ▁I ' ve ▁tried ▁to ▁sh ake ▁it ▁off , ▁and ▁I ▁even ▁tried ▁to ▁pray ▁/ ▁But ▁I ' m ▁still ▁w aking ▁up ▁in