▁the ▁under ▁ 3 ' s ▁to ▁a ▁stay ▁in ▁hospital ▁without ▁the ▁mother : ▁Protest , ▁Desp air ▁and ▁Den ial / Det achment ▁( James ▁Robert son , ▁ 1 9 5 3 a ). ▁ ▁Protest , ▁desp air , ▁det achment ▁▁ ▁Robert son ▁and ▁Bowl by ▁saw ▁breaks ▁in ▁a ▁child ' s ▁attachment ▁b onds ▁as ▁respond ed ▁to ▁by ▁' ph ases ▁of ▁protest ▁desp air ▁and ▁det achment '. ▁ ▁In ▁the ▁protest ▁phase , ▁the ▁child ▁is ▁vis ibly ▁dist ress ed , ▁c ries ▁and ▁calls ▁for ▁his ▁mother ▁' ▁– ▁dist ress , ▁angry ▁cry ing , ▁searching , ▁trying ▁to ▁find ▁the ▁mother ▁and ▁get ▁her ▁back '. ▁ ▁The ▁child ▁reun ited ▁at ▁this ▁stage ▁will ▁' us ually ▁be ▁quite ▁difficult ▁for ▁a ▁time . ▁It ' s ▁as ▁though ▁he ▁is ▁pun ishing ▁the ▁mother ▁for ▁going ▁away . ▁When ▁he ' s ▁got ▁those ▁feelings ▁off ▁his ▁ch est , ▁he ▁returns ▁to ▁normal ity '. ▁ ▁If ▁however ▁' the ▁separation ▁continued ▁for ▁longer ... the ▁child ▁may ▁go ▁on ▁to ▁the ▁stage ▁known ▁as ▁" des pair ". ▁He ' s ▁very ▁quiet , ▁with dra wn , ▁miser able ▁and ▁a path etic . ▁He ▁stops ▁playing   – ▁seems ▁to ▁lose ▁interest ▁in ▁everything '. ▁The ▁child ▁gives ▁up ▁hope ▁of ▁his ▁or ▁her ▁mother ▁returning ▁and ▁may ▁appear ▁to ▁be ▁" sett ling ▁down ", ▁to ▁the ▁satisfaction ▁of ▁un en light