▁do ". ▁Er ick son ▁thus ▁used ▁this ▁as ▁the ▁basis ▁for ▁suggestions ▁that ▁deliber ately ▁played ▁on ▁neg ation ▁and ▁ton ally ▁marked ▁the ▁important ▁word ing , ▁to ▁provide ▁that ▁whatever ▁the ▁client ▁did , ▁it ▁was ▁benef icial : ▁" You ▁don ' t ▁have ▁to ▁go ▁into ▁a ▁tr ance , ▁so ▁you ▁can ▁easily ▁wonder ▁about ▁what ▁you ▁notice ▁no ▁faster ▁than ▁you ▁feel ▁ready ▁to ▁become ▁aware ▁that ▁your ▁hand ▁is ▁slowly ▁rising . ▁... ▁. " ▁▁ ▁Prov iding ▁a ▁Wor se ▁Altern ative ▁( The ▁' Double ▁Bind ') ▁- ▁Example : ▁" Do ▁you ▁want ▁to ▁go ▁into ▁a ▁tr ance ▁now , ▁or ▁later ?" ▁The ▁' double ▁bind ' ▁is ▁a ▁way ▁of ▁over loading ▁the ▁subject ▁with ▁two ▁options , ▁the ▁accept ance ▁of ▁either ▁of ▁which ▁represents ▁accept ance ▁of ▁a ▁th era pe ut ic ▁suggestion . ▁ ▁My ▁first ▁well - rem ember ed ▁intent ional ▁use ▁of ▁the ▁double ▁bind ▁occurred ▁in ▁early ▁boy hood . ▁One ▁winter ▁day , ▁with ▁the ▁weather ▁below ▁zero , ▁my ▁father ▁led ▁a ▁cal f ▁out ▁of ▁the ▁bar n ▁to ▁the ▁water ▁tr ough . ▁After ▁the ▁cal f ▁had ▁satisfied ▁its ▁th irst , ▁they ▁turned ▁back ▁to ▁the ▁bar n , ▁but ▁at ▁the ▁door way ▁the ▁cal f ▁stub born ly ▁b rac ed ▁its ▁feet , ▁and ▁despite ▁my ▁father ' s ▁des perate ▁pulling ▁on ▁the ▁hal ter , ▁he ▁could ▁not ▁bud ge