▁rarely ▁taken ▁into ▁account , ▁if ▁a ▁son ▁says ▁he ▁is ▁in ▁love ▁with ▁a ▁particular ▁Roma ▁girl , ▁his ▁feelings ▁may ▁be ▁considered , ▁although ▁the ▁same ▁is ▁rarely ▁true ▁for ▁girls . ▁A ▁husband - less ▁girl ▁who ▁has ▁reached ▁ 2 0 ▁is ▁often ▁thought ▁to ▁be ▁do omed ▁to ▁be ▁left ▁at ▁home ▁un mar ried . ▁Match making ▁for ▁mar ri ages ▁is ▁typically ▁carried ▁out ▁without ▁the ▁consent ▁of ▁the ▁two ▁sp ouses , ▁and ▁orch estr ated ▁by ▁a ▁match maker ▁who ▁is ▁experienced ▁in ▁match making . ▁When ▁wish ing ▁to ▁make ▁a ▁proposal ▁on ▁beh alf ▁of ▁his ▁son , ▁a ▁father ▁custom arily ▁goes ▁to ▁the ▁house ▁of ▁the ▁desired ▁wife , ▁and ▁states ▁“ we ▁have ▁come ▁to ▁seek ▁a ▁piece ▁of ▁bread ”. ▁Wed d ings , ▁mean while , ▁typically ▁consist ▁of ▁fe asts , ▁dan cing ▁and ▁music , ▁and ▁take ▁place ▁on ▁Saturday ▁or ▁Sunday . ▁They ▁are ▁often ▁not ▁recognized ▁because ▁the ▁sp ouses ▁are ▁typically ▁below ▁the ▁Alban ian ▁legal ▁age ▁of ▁marriage . ▁Roma ▁rarely ▁if ▁ever ▁have ▁religious ▁leaders ▁pres ide ▁over ▁wed d ings . ▁ ▁Ad ul tery ▁is ▁almost ▁un he ard ▁of ▁among ▁Roma ▁women ▁but ▁is ▁found ▁among ▁the ▁men . ▁Roma ▁men ▁may ▁marry ▁many ▁times ▁over ▁the ▁course ▁of ▁their ▁lives ▁although ▁subsequent ▁wed d ings ▁are ▁not ▁celebrated ▁in ▁the ▁same ▁way ▁as ▁the ▁first ▁one . ▁The ▁rem ar riage ▁rate ▁of ▁both ▁Je v