▁free ▁spirit ▁whom ▁Grace ▁was ▁once ▁close ▁to , ▁a ▁ch asm ▁came ▁between ▁them ▁when ▁Grace ▁learned ▁of ▁C ath y ' s ▁affair ▁with ▁her ▁father . ▁Jimmy ▁Han ad ark o ▁( M ike ▁Pav one ): ▁Grace ' s ▁brother ▁Jimmy . ▁Say re ▁Han ad ark o ▁( J ess y ▁Sch ram ): ▁Leo ▁Han ad ark o ' s ▁daughter ▁and ▁Grace ' s ▁nie ce ▁Buck ▁( J ake ▁M ux worth y ): ▁Pa ige ' s ▁husband . ▁ ▁The ▁De we y ▁family ▁Ralph ▁" R a fe " ▁De we y ▁( J ud son ▁M ills ): ▁Ham ' s ▁younger ▁brother , ▁Ra fe ▁was ▁a ▁lieutenant ▁in ▁the ▁Mar ines . ▁ ▁He ▁died ▁of ▁his ▁w ounds ▁after ▁fighting ▁in ▁the ▁mountains ▁of ▁Afghan istan . ▁Am anda ▁De we y ▁( A sh ley ▁Williams ): ▁Ra fe ' s ▁wid ow ▁Nick ▁De we y ▁( Jack ▁Con ley ): ▁Ham ' s ▁brother ▁Nick ▁is ▁gay ▁and ▁own s ▁an ▁art ▁gallery ▁in ▁town . ▁ ▁He ▁is ▁very ▁protect ive ▁of ▁Ham . ▁Dar l ene ▁De we y ▁( Rob yn ▁L ively ): ▁Ham ' s ▁ex - w ife , ▁whom ▁he ▁separated ▁from ▁and ▁divor ced ▁in ▁the ▁second ▁season . ▁ ▁O thers ▁Ron nie ▁Rod rig uez ▁( Jose ▁Z un iga ▁Se asons ▁ 1 - 2 / Ben ito ▁Mart ine z ▁Season ▁ 3