▁has ▁one ▁hand ▁on ▁the ▁pen is ▁of ▁the ▁man ▁behind ▁him ▁and ▁the ▁other ▁hand ▁inserted ▁into ▁the ▁an us ▁of ▁the ▁man ▁in ▁front ) ▁and ▁the ▁circle ▁j erk ▁as ▁examples ▁of ▁sexual ▁contact ▁between ▁heter osex ual ▁men . ▁She ▁also ▁discuss es ▁male - male ▁sexual ▁activities ▁in ▁pr isons ▁and ▁the ▁military . ▁The ▁book ▁features ▁ex cer pts ▁from ▁Cra igs list ▁personal ▁ad s , ▁and ▁discuss es ▁a ▁number ▁of ▁reasons ▁why ▁straight ▁men ▁might ▁seek ▁out ▁sex ▁with ▁other ▁men , ▁such ▁as ▁fear ▁of ▁being ▁rejected ▁by ▁women , ▁or ▁finding ▁women ' s ▁bodies ▁gross . ▁ ▁The ▁term ▁" bro - job " ▁( anal og ous ▁to ▁b rom ance ▁and ▁a ▁play ▁on ▁blow job ) ▁refers ▁to ▁a ▁sexual ▁encounter ▁between ▁two ▁straight ▁men ▁who ▁are ▁often ▁close ▁friends . ▁Ward ▁express es ▁the ▁view ▁that ▁" bro - job s " ▁are ▁not ▁an ▁indic ation ▁that ▁a ▁man ▁is ▁actually ▁gay , ▁but ▁rather ▁a ▁means ▁for ▁straight ▁men ▁to ▁explore ▁their ▁own ▁sexual ▁identity . ▁Despite ▁having ▁been ▁cred ited ▁with ▁co ining ▁the ▁term ▁bro - job , ▁Ward ▁clar ified : ▁" I ▁do ▁describe ▁in ▁the ▁book ▁what ▁could ▁arg u ably ▁be ▁called ▁bro - job s , ▁but ▁I ▁never ▁once ▁use ▁that ▁word . ▁... It ' s ▁sort ▁of ▁like ▁a ▁game ▁of ▁tele phone , ▁four ▁blog s ▁down ▁the ▁line ▁I ' m ▁reading ▁stuff