rac use ▁University ▁in ▁Sy rac use , ▁N . Y . ▁They ▁never ▁found ▁a ▁job ▁in ▁the ▁field ▁despite ▁their ▁knowledge ▁and ▁qual ifications , ▁likely ▁due ▁to ▁their ▁radical ▁st ance ▁on ▁aut ism ▁and ▁ne uro d iversity . ▁ ▁S inc la ir ▁was ▁the ▁first ▁person ▁to ▁" art ic ulate ▁the ▁aut ism - right s ▁position ." ▁ ▁View s ▁S inc la ir ▁wrote ▁the ▁ess ay , ▁“ Don ’ t ▁M ourn ▁for ▁Us ,” ▁with ▁an ▁anti - c ure ▁perspective ▁on ▁aut ism . ▁ ▁The ▁ess ay ▁has ▁been ▁thought ▁of ▁by ▁some ▁to ▁be ▁a ▁touch stone ▁for ▁the ▁fled g ling ▁aut ism - right s ▁movement , ▁and ▁has ▁been ▁mentioned ▁in ▁The ▁New ▁York ▁Times ▁and ▁New ▁York ▁Magazine . ▁ ▁You ▁didn ’ t ▁lose ▁a ▁child ▁to ▁aut ism . ▁You ▁lost ▁a ▁child ▁because ▁the ▁child ▁you ▁waited ▁for ▁never ▁came ▁into ▁existence . ▁That ▁isn ’ t ▁the ▁fault ▁of ▁the ▁aut istic ▁child ▁who ▁does ▁exist , ▁and ▁it ▁shouldn ’ t ▁be ▁our ▁bur den . ▁We ▁need ▁and ▁des erve ▁families ▁who ▁can ▁see ▁us ▁and ▁value ▁us ▁for ▁ourselves , ▁not ▁families ▁whose ▁vision ▁of ▁us ▁is ▁obsc ured ▁by ▁the ▁g hosts ▁of ▁children ▁who ▁never ▁lived . ▁Gr ieve ▁if ▁you ▁must , ▁for ▁your ▁own ▁lost ▁dream s . ▁But ▁don ’ t ▁m ourn ▁for ▁us . ▁We ▁are ▁alive . ▁We ▁are