evidence: Viktor Frankl was a Psychologist who served three years in Auschwitz and later on wrote his famous book, "Man’s search for Meaning". One of his many famous quotes talks about the power of pausing. [...] Second, once we have taken the time to pause and create a space between ourselves and what is happening to us, then we can access our power to choose our response. Knowing when and where we have power and when we don’t, is really the key to making wholesome choices. Tying back previous posts on MYOB, when something is not your business, you generally have no power. Power goes along with authority, responsibility and accountability. They all have to be balanced. If you take on all the responsibility for someone else but have no authority to hold them accountable, you are powerless. This is the kind of soup many of us get into with our spouses, siblings, parents and children. We get mixed up between Power and Powerlessness and we set ourselves up for heart breaks, helplessness and suffering. The reverse is also equally true. In situations where we have power, we fail to set healthy boundaries, take back our sovereignty and choose what is safe and known versus what is right and unknown. So, the key to making healthy choices is to first align with our sovereignty.