evidence: Question: What should I do whenever my wife verbally or physically abuses me for any reason or act violently towards me? [...] Abuse is absolutely impermissible in Islam by either the husband or the wife, and one should fear one’s accountability for this on the Day of Judgment. Please see the fatwa of the impermissibility of abuse here: [...] You should set boundaries with your wife and explain to her how her abuse makes you feel. If she doesn’t listen, you should involve a third party that she will listen to. Also, consider asking her to worship with you, take a marriage course with you, and a course on developing good character. She should also try an anger management course. When she is actually in the midst of being violent, you should defend yourself or leave the room. Lock yourself in a room if necessary.