evidence: Ever been in a conversation where you felt like the person you were talking to wasn’t listening to a word you said because they were too busy trying to convince you of their opinion? [...] If you’re currently dealing with tension in a relationship, I have a suggestion for you. Find some time to sit down and spend at least 15 minutes trying to understand their perspective more fully. Here are six ways you can listen better: [...] As I wrote in Brave, listening is the singular most valuable yet underutilized tool of communication. Ironically enough, the word ‘LISTEN’ has the same letters as the word ‘SILENT’. (Bet you didn’t know that huh?)