evidence: This can be infuriating to their parents, from whom young adults are freer than ever to estrange themselves – adding injury to insult. (Yes, that is what I meant to say.) [...] Ralph Waldo Emerson came at it from the angle of being the change you wish to see in the relationship. He said, "Men are respectable only as they respect." He was referring to the Golden Rule of treating others the way you would have them treat you. This goes beyond respect to dignity, understanding, the benefit of the doubt, etc.