Rape Me

"Rape Me" is a song by the American rock band Nirvana, written by vocalist and guitarist Kurt Cobain. It is the fourth song on the band's third and final studio album, "In Utero", released in September 1993. It is also Nirvana's last single release before Cobain committed suicide four months later.
"Rape Me" was released as the album's second single in December 1993, packaged as a double A-side with "All Apologies". The single reached number 32 on the UK Singles Chart.
Background and recording.
"Rape Me" was written by Cobain on an acoustic guitar in Los Angeles in May 1991, around the time the band's second album, "Nevermind", was being mixed. It was first performed live on June 18, 1991, at The Catalyst in Santa Cruz. The earliest live versions of the song featured a guitar solo instead of a bridge.
The song's lyrics led to controversy even before it had been officially released. The band had wanted to play "Rape Me" during their appearance at the 1992 MTV Video Music Awards, but the network believed the song was a direct attack on them, and insisted they perform their breakthrough single, "Smells Like Teen Spirit," instead. The ongoing argument between MTV and Cobain escalated over the span of several days, with MTV threatening to cut Nirvana from the show, to stop playing the band's music videos, and even to boycott other artists on the band's management company, Gold Mountain. Cobain only relented after being informed that MTV would fire Amy Finnerty, an MTV employee and friend of the band's, if the band played "Rape Me". The band ultimately agreed to play their latest single, "Lithium," but not before Cobain started playing the chords and singing the opening lines of "Rape Me," which resulted in the live broadcast almost going to commercial.
"Rape Me" was first recorded in the studio in October 1992, during a two-day demo session with Jack Endino at Word of Mouth in Seattle, Washington. Two takes of the song were recorded, one of which was instrumental, the other featuring lead vocals by Cobain and backing vocals by drummer Dave Grohl. Cobain was holding his then-infant daughter Frances Bean Cobain on his lap when he recorded his vocals, and she can be heard crying on the demo.
The final studio version of "Rape Me" was recorded in February 1993 by Steve Albini at Pachyderm Studio in Cannon Falls, Minnesota, for the band's third and final studio album, "In Utero". The instruments for the song were recorded on February 15. The following day, Cobain completed his vocals for the album during a reported six-hour session. Cobain used his Fender Jaguar guitar plugged into a Twin Reverb amp.
On September 25, 1993, the band performed the song, along with "Heart-Shaped Box," on "Saturday Night Live" at NBC Studios in New York City. It was the band's first show with second guitarist Pat Smear. The song was again performed on television on February 4, 1994 for the show "Nulle Part Ailleurs" in Paris, France.
The final live performance of "Rape Me" was at Nirvana's last concert, at Terminal Einz in Munich, Germany on March 1, 1994.
Composition and lyrics.
Music.
The song's instrumental opening bars, which features Cobain using pick scratching while playing the verse chord progression, has led to frequent comparisons to the guitar riff of "Smells Like Teen Spirit." Will Bryant of "Pitchfork" wrote that "the four-chord riff that drags the song through the motions is an almost direct inversion of the famous 'Smells Like Teen Spirit' riff," while Cobain biographer Charles R. Cross described the song as having "the same catchy soft/loud dynamic as "Teen Spirit," which "created a perfect Cobain aesthetic – beautiful, haunting and disturbing." "Rape Me" was written after "Smells Like Teen Spirit," but before "Nevermind" had been released.
Lyrics.
"Rape Me" is an anti-rape song, written from the point of view of the victim. "It's like she's saying, 'Rape me, go ahead, rape me, beat me,'" Cobain told Darcey Steinke of "Spin" in 1993, "'You'll never kill me. I'll survive this and I'm gonna fucking rape you one of these days and you won't even know it. Gllian G. Garr described the song's lyrics as "part submissive invitation, part defiant taunt, a mix that confused and disturbed many listeners", and led to Cobain frequently having to explain the song's meaning.
When asked by MUCH's Erica Ehm in an August 1993 interview how the band was helping to raise awareness about sexism, Cobain replied, "By writing songs as blunt as 'Rape Me.'" He stated that it was a song meant to be so blunt that no one could misinterpret its meaning.
American musician Tori Amos commented on the song in a 1994 interview with the "NME", saying that she "thought it was very clear what it was about...It's a defiant song. But the scariest thing to a rape victim are the words 'rape me'. When I first heard it I broke out in a cold sweat, but when you get over that you realize he's turning it back on people."
The song has also been interpreted as an attack on the media for its perceived mistreatment of Cobain and his wife, Courtney Love. While most of the song was written before "Nevermind" was released, the bridge, which was written later, contains lyrics that address his occasionally contentious relationship with the media. As Cobain explained to Nirvana biographer Michael Azerrad, "It was actually about rape ... but now I could definitely use it as an example of my life for the past six months or year, easily." In line with this interpretation, Azerrad suggested that the chorus lyric "I'm not the only one" was Cobain's way of saying that Love and their infant daughter, Frances Bean Cobain, were being hurt along with him by the media and public attention. According to Azerrad, the bridge lyric "My favorite inside source" was a reference to the manager of an unnamed Seattle band Cobain and Love suspected of being anonymously interviewed for a controversial "Vanity Fair" profile of the couple published in September 1992.
Release and reception.
"Rape Me" was released as a double A-side single with "All Apologies" on December 6, 1993 on CD, cassette, and 7" and 12" vinyl record formats. The single was not released commercially in the United States.
The song was relabeled "Waif Me" on the censored Wal-Mart and Kmart version of "In Utero", released in March 1994. The chain stores had originally refused to carry the album because of the song's title, as well as the fetus collage on the back cover, which was also edited. The song's proper title was listed in the booklet, and the recording remained the same. Cobain defended the band's decision to release a censored version of the album by explaining, "One of the main reasons I signed to a major label was so people would be able to buy our records at Kmart. In some towns, that's the only place kids can buy records."
In her "Spin" cover story on the band, Steinke described the song as carrying a "quiet biblical angst." David Fricke, in his review of "In Utero" for "Rolling Stone", wrote that "'Rape Me' opens as a disquieting whisper, Cobain intoning the title verse in a battered croon, which sets you up beautifully to get blind-sided by the explosive hook line."
In November 1993, "Rape Me" was voted the third "Most Wanted to be Heard" song by listeners of the Hawaii Free Radio.
Criticism.
"Rape Me" has occasionally received criticism for its intentionally blunt handling of sensitive subject matter. John Mulvey of the "NME" wrote that "while you can't doubt Cobain's personal political correctness, there's a distinct moral dubiousness about welding the words 'RAPE ME!' to "In Utero"s best sing-along chorus." "Pitchfork's" Will Bryant wrote that the song, despite its victim-empowering intent, "comes off as a shallow and transparent attempt to court controversy."
In 2019, Jenna Bush Hager revealed that her father, George W. Bush, prior to becoming U.S. President, broke one of her Nirvana CDs due to the lyrics of "a really bad song" implied to be "Rape Me."
Legacy.
In 1999, "Rape Me" was voted number 90 in "Kerrang!"s "100 Greatest Rock Tracks Ever!". In 2015, "Rolling Stone" placed it at number 31 on their ranking of 102 Nirvana songs, with Julianne Escobedo Shepherd calling it "the closest to an actual Bikini Kill song that [Cobain] would ever write, using the lyrics as a woman-empowering taunt to show would-be rapists that their victims' spirits would not be tamped." In 2019, "The Guardian" ranked it at number 17 on their list of 'Nirvana's 20 greatest songs'.
"Rape Me" was re-released on both of Nirvana's greatest hits albums, "Nirvana" (2002) and "Icon" (2010).
Music video.
Although no music video was made for "Rape Me", two treatments for a proposed video were published posthumously in Cobain's "Journals" in 2002. They included scenes set in a prison, footage of flowers and seahorses as well as a man being prepared for a gynecological exam.
In 1999, the "Saturday Night Live" version of "Rape Me" began being aired as a music video on MTV2 to promote the album "Saturday Night Live: The Musical Performances, Volume 2".
Track listings.
Released as a double A-side with "All Apologies".
CD single and 12" vinyl
Cassette and 7" vinyl
UK promo single
US promo CD (includes lyrics)
In popular culture.
In "The Simpsons" episode "That 90's Show", guest star "Weird Al" Yankovic sings a parody version called "Brain Freeze". Homer also creates a band called "Sadgasm", a parody of Nirvana, and is seen singing "Shave Me".
In the "South Park" episode "Hummels & Heroin", Cartman, Kenny, Kyle, and Butters perform a Barbershop Quartet cover of "Rape Me" for a retirement home.