article_snippet: In the words of Robin Williams: ‘Your mother knows how to push your buttons because Your mother installed your buttons.
article_snippet: her mother is your first female role model, so that has profound influence on how you’re shaped and you view the world from an early age - your mother is integral to that.
article_snippet: her mother has a massive influence on you because her mother brings comfort and joy and her mother
article_snippet: her mother’s your safe haven.
article_snippet: When her mother starts to get older and nears a time that her mother might pass away, that safety net is pulled out from underneath you and
article_snippet: You don’t always answer the phone when your mother rings, you make promises you can’t keep, when which daughter rings the door you hide and you try to get her mother off the phone as quickly as possible when you do pick up.
article_snippet: Has her mother become the person that you say,
article_snippet: Oh don’t worry, it’s only my mother’ about when which daughter calls or makes plans that you want to avoid.
article_snippet: When her mother has been diagnosed with a mental illness, but
article_snippet: You might crave a mother who would make you feel secure and cherished and as you get older, you cannot rewrite the past.
article_snippet: her mother is totally self-absorbed, constantly criticises you and makes you feel like a nuisance.
article_snippet: her mother shouldn’t have been a mother at all.
article_snippet: You begin to hear phrases, expressions and tones of her mother voice in things you say that you swore that you’d never say or do.
article_snippet: You ring her mother at every chance you get.
article_snippet: You rely on her mother for everything from your washing on the weekends to advice on cooking, and when you can’t cook the dinner yourself, you go over and eat at her mother house.
article_snippet: You always talk about yourself and never ask how her mother is.
article_snippet: You her mother still sees her mother as a mother, not a person in her mother own right because you haven’t made that transition where you see her mother as a friend.
article_snippet: You might even be leaning on her mother to the point where you’ve become a bit of a burden, even though her mother’ll never say that because her mother’s her mother.
article_snippet: You have made the transition from mother and daughter to friends, but are also conscious that there is very little time left.
article_snippet: Your behaviour sometimes this spills over into dis-empowering your mother though, telling dis-empowering your mother what dis-empowering your mother should be doing.
article_snippet: You don’t like her mother and don’t think her mother deserves it.
article_snippet: it gets much better, but then as her mother gets much older the relationship becomes fractious again.
article_snippet: her mother had an expectation of you that you didn’t know about.
article_snippet: n’t meeting these expectations and her mother
article_snippet: You realise this as an adult when her mother comes to visit and her mother criticises how you’re raising your children.
article_snippet: That’s when a lot of these relationships break down, because you don’t want to allow her mother to criticise your children.
article_snippet: You will always seek her mother approval even though her mother will continue to criticise you.