article_snippet: It's better to distance yourself from It at times when it's feeling overwhelming, and dip back into It as you need to, to touch base with other people.
article_snippet: she suggests offering to replay a One Direction concert, or if the pain is still too raw, go for a walk or do something else.
article_snippet: but if it's going on for a couple of days, you might say, "passively coping and just being sad probably isn't going to work for you in this or in life in general
article_snippet: so what can you do to make you feel better," Porter says.
article_snippet: But Miller says if the grieving goes on for longer than a couple of days it may be advisable to talk further and perhaps seek external help.
article_snippet: In doing this now, in what is really distant from them, then you're giving them a wonderful scaffold to fall back on when in the real world someone leaves them or breaks them heart.
article_snippet: Look for the silver lining.