article_snippet: Ms Gardner wrote: 'Why can’t things just go the way you plan things?
article_snippet: Why do we even bother thinking that?
article_snippet: It’s our scared insecure brains that try to tie all the knots of false insecurity together into believing that our are going to be ok because of our ‘plan'.
article_snippet: Even though, constantly, again and again, our ‘plan' fails, falls apart, crumbles, vanishes.