article_snippet: So the amount of importance that parents and kids seem to be attaching to the selectiveness of where parents and kids went to school did not seem to Bruni to jibe at all with the ingredients of success as manifest in the people
article_snippet: Part of what fuels the perception that the most successful among us always attend the most selective schools is what we see and read about people who've made it.
article_snippet: So why do we get the impression that so many of the world's most glittering people went to the most selective schools?
article_snippet: Because when they've gone to the most selective schools, we make it part of they
article_snippet: And when they haven't gone to the most selective schools, we skip right over it because we think it's actually contradictory evidence when it may be anything
article_snippet: Do not turn this metric into a bludgeon that you are beating yourself up with, and that's what I think parents need to do.
article_snippet: If we give kids too much of an impression that the name on kids diploma is going to be everything, we run the risk of also telling kids that their diploma is going to do the work for kids.
article_snippet: Kids who feel that way often end up in therapy or completely incapable of carving out a life, he said.
article_snippet: Because while we spend so much time worrying about where we kids are going to get in, we spend less time on what our kids are going to do and explore when our kids get there.