The filming session of the video for the single took place during January 2002 . It was directed by Irv Gotti himself . The video shows the viewer a relationship where a man , played by Terrence Howard , gets involved into some criminal acts and is unfaithful to Ashanti with '' Love & Hip Hop : Atlanta '' reality star Althea , which ends up in a break-up after some quarrel . As the song suggests , Ashanti feels that she still loves her ex and that she just ca n't seem to get over him and becomes frusturated since her heart and her mind force her to love him and hate him at the same time . In supporting roles we can also see Charli Baltimore , Vita , Ja Rule and Irv Gotti . The video is set in the fashion of the movie '' Goodfellas '' , with Ashanti in the role of Karen Hill and Terrence Howard in the role of Henry Hill . Irv Gotti and Ja Rule are also in a scene appearing to take the roles of Jimmy Conway and Paulie Cicero . The video was a three-time nominee at the 2002 MTV Video Music Awards for Best Female Video , Best R&B Video , and Best New Artist
2002 MTV Video Music Awards
2002 MTV Video Music Awards
Foolish (Ashanti song)