The music video for this song , directed by F. Gary Gray , shows several people in the same building ignoring the shouts and screams and multiple fights between a married couple , ending with a twist , showing that the woman killed her abusive husband , ending with her being arrested . This video received a nomination for Best R&B Video at the 1997 MTV Video Music Awards , which was awarded to " I 'll Be Missing You " by Puff Daddy ( Sean Combs ) featuring Faith Evans and 112 . It also was nominated for a Grammy Award for Best Short Form Music Video , losing to " Got 'til It 's Gone " by Janet Jackson
1997 MTV Video Music Awards
1997 MTV Video Music Awards
How Come, How Long