i read something that said “9/10 if you hold a man down through his lowest period, he's gonna punish you for that with betrayal or abandonment.” and honestly it was such a wake up call for me bc i experienced it one too many times. it was nice seeing it wasn’t just me, and that it really is most men who do that bs. 
i no longer will be a ride or die for a man who’s not where he wants to be. because i’m not abt to suffer for his shortcomings.