You can't win on their premises. Make your own premises. The game isn't what you were told as a child, they lied to trick and steal from you, and they did, and they won. You can continue to insist that the game should be fair, or you can re-evaluate all values. If you feel like a loser that's because you still want to play the rigged game. You are still attached to the beautiful dream that was never an option in the first place