Yasmin - I started to heal abuse from childhood at 24 and the people in my family who I thought could be there for me where NOT and odd people would be - take what God gives you - keep healing and keep talking - it went form losing my culture, my society, my most loved relatives to years of work and healing and as I become the light I had lost - they came back and now they need me and love me on my terms and as the wise woman i have grown into I see how my slow boil strength has become a beacon for their pain - cowering to the social norms that crippled them  - I can only love them now and pray they know even an inch of the connection to Divine Love and calm I feel.  For years to them I was DESPISED and called MAD and seen as a total loser - making them look bad.  They were LIVID I was healing from this ie speaking out.  Now they need me to help them with their abuse, health issues etc and I am honored to do it - this took decades.  Brave girl you are helping so many 1000's like us - thank you!