Every pregnant patient I see, I tell them, take all the help you can get (unless it's someone toxic). We have been told we are weak if we can't do it all. I had a nanny for many years & it kept me sane. I wish I had one now even though my kids are older. Proverbs 31 woman had servants so she could go out & buy land. You can talk all day about class issues & obviously arrangements have to be mutually beneficial. Mothers, take all the help you are offered, voluntary & paid, & don't think twice about it.