I don't choose the people in my life based on their appearance, education, social position, rank, fame, financial well-being, and I'm not even particularly interested in their past. However, I exclude without question those who are driven by malice, who cross my boundaries, who are not empathetic, who want to hurt me, and who even for a moment threaten my physical, mental, or spiritual integrity. I think this is one of the most important lessons I've learned in my life so far.

I have no power over you, but I can change my situation with you.