If I Could Start My Life Over, the First Thing I'd Learn Is Positive Self-Talk. Sitting with these kids after soccer practice and teaching the power of self-talk, I'm reminded of the one lesson I wish I had learned earlier in life: the power of positive self-talk. When you think about it, your brain generates 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts daily, and research shows that 80% of those are negative, and 95% are the same as the day before. Let that sink in—how much of your mindset is shaped by repeated negativity? Positive self-talk isn't just a nice idea—it's transformational. I teach it to every kid I coach because it's the foundation of confidence, resilience, and growth.

Here's an example:
Kids often get stuck replaying their mistakes—like striking out in baseball. Adults around them often reinforce this by pointing out everything they did wrong.
Instead, I guide them to focus on their success. I ask them to visualize the one time they hit the ball well:
See the swing.
Watch the ball connect with the bat.
Feel the pride and joy of that moment.
By replaying this success in their minds, they stop focusing on their failures and start building positive emotions and confidence.

This shift matters. Kids (and adults) must be reminded of their wins in a world that's quick to criticize.

Here's how I practice this:
I have kids and adults write down 10 things they've done well—big or small.
I carry my list and read it daily.
I encourage them to practice visualization and positive self-talk to reinforce those wins.

Another simple habit: Every time you walk through a door, say something positive about yourself.
"I am strong."
"I am capable."
"I am improving every day."
Why does this matter?

The world will criticize you, people will point out your mistakes, and life will throw challenges your way. You don't need to do that to yourself.

Positive self-talk helps you rewrite the story, giving you the confidence to grow and succeed.

Teach yourself—and the next generation—to focus on their wins, not their failures. It's the key to showing up stronger, both on and off the field.

What's one positive thing you'll tell yourself today? 
#selftalk