I've spent the last 20+ years of my life working to support my children. I've missed most of their lives. Don't let the system that they've created do that to you. You're never going to get ahead. It'll just be another setback followed by a catchup period before the next setback happens. Meanwhile, 20 years are gone, and you missed out on your children's lives trying to play cath up. Time waits for nobody. Spend time with your children now. Now is all we have. Please. Don't wait until you have regrets. Regrets are unsolvable. Do your best now with your kids.