I'm noticing a separation between the sexes. Men are retreating to be with men, and women are retreating to be with women. The chaotic dysfunction in relating at the moment is due to our having drifted far off-centre, making it almost impossible to foster good relations between us. Neither sex feels fully secure in the company of the other. I've repeated this many times and will say it many more. It is never the other. The problem is not outside of us. We must find OUR relationship with things again. If there is deeply unconscious behaviour in the other, we remove ourselves from the situation. We do not need to continue to subject ourselves to others when they cannot regulate their behaviour, and we are not dependent upon them. We do not recognise our role in things as long as we blame others. It is usually us, and if it is not, we leave. We choose what we allow and how others relate to us. This is personal responsibility and caring for oneself. The trick is to discern what is ours and what is not. At a certain level, it is all ours, and the only place we can meet it is within ourselves. Then, we find our relationship with it again in the world and with others.