May God help us. I had a similar experience   But this one is not a relative by blood. He never asked me directly but the depth of the lamentation made me understand what he was not saying. 

So I sent 50k and there was no acknowledgment of my phone call or text message. When he eventually responded he said “thanks” with inverted commas. 

Less than two months later he came calling incessantly with a financial request to celebrate weeding anniversary and surgical operation. I graciously picked up his call listened to him with empathy and promised to fast and pray for him to be healed and for his marriage to last.