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Title: Beware of Balancing the Scales
Review: Although this book offers some sound suggestions for forgiving someone, such as carefully attending to what happened to you, there is a tragic flaw in the steps proposed. That flaw is the step entitled, "Balancing the scales." It is basically defined as giving back what the other person dished out to you. Did your partner have an affair, ignoring you during it all? You are encouraged to withhold intimacy from the partner for a specified period of time, thus balancing the scales, as you forgive. Is this not another name for cloaked revenge? I've read some of the other self-help books on forgiveness and this notion of balancing the scales never comes up. It's just not part of what forgiveness is. So, beware if you read this book.
