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[{'start': '5.166', 'end': '6.100', 'text': 'In the eyes of the majority,'}, {'start': '6.366', 'end': '8.233', 'text': 'selfishness is a reprehensible quality. A'}, {'start': '9.366', 'end': '11.266', 'text': 'selfish person is considered petty and'}, {'start': '11.566', 'end': '13.566', 'text': 'narrow-minded, only thinking about himself,'}, {'start': '14.900', 'end': '16.266', 'text': 'but have you ever wondered'}, {'start': '16.700', 'end': '19.300', 'text': 'why in many organizations, people who know how to keep their own interests and'}, {'start': '19.633', 'end': '21.100', 'text': 'protect their personal interests are'}, {'start': '21.166', 'end': '22.500', 'text': 'often the ones who are respected and'}, {'start': '22.733', 'end': '23.633', 'text': 'assigned important tasks?'}, {'start': '24.900', 'end': '27.133', 'text': 'Is it because society favors selfishness'}, {'start': '28.466', 'end': '30.933', 'text': 'or have we misunderstood the word "benefit" for so many years? The'}, {'start': '32.133', 'end': '33.966', 'text': 'ancients did not teach people to live selfishly,'}, {'start': '34.566', 'end': '36.533', 'text': 'but they also did not advise people to give up themselves. So how can a'}, {'start': '37.533', 'end': '39.333', 'text': 'wise and selfish person make'}, {'start': '39.466', 'end': '41.133', 'text': 'others respect them and'}, {'start': '41.466', 'end': '42.900', 'text': 'even want to cooperate with them for a long time?'}, {'start': '44.266', 'end': '46.866', 'text': 'Confucius once said that a gentleman cares about righteousness, a'}, {'start': '47.166', 'end': '48.466', 'text': 'petty person cares about benefits.'}, {'start': '49.633', 'end': '51.100', 'text': 'This saying is simply understood as a'}, {'start': '51.633', 'end': '53.633', 'text': 'moral person puts righteousness first, while an'}, {'start': '53.833', 'end': '55.900', 'text': 'ordinary person focuses on personal interests.'}, {'start': '57.133', 'end': '58.166', 'text': 'But if we look closely, did'}, {'start': '58.566', 'end': '60.333', 'text': "n't Confucius also emphasize that what you don't want to do to others, don't do to"}, {'start': '60.633', 'end': '63.300', 'text': "others what you don't want them to"}, {'start': '63.866', 'end': '65.133', 'text': 'do to you? WHY'}, {'start': '65.833', 'end': '69.866', 'text': '4 means that first you must know what you want, what you hate, what you'}, {'start': '70.266', 'end': '72.266', 'text': 'fear, and then you will know how to treat others.'}, {'start': '72.766', 'end': '74.733', 'text': "5 people who don't understand themselves are"}, {'start': '75.066', 'end': '77.233', 'text': 'often easily hurt.  others because of ignorance'}, {'start': '77.500', 'end': '80.566', 'text': '6 then the person who understands himself protects himself'}, {'start': '80.900', 'end': '82.066', 'text': 'setting clear boundaries is it'}, {'start': '82.166', 'end': '84.066', 'text': 'a form of wise selfishness'}, {'start': '85.333', 'end': '87.100', 'text': 'Lao Tzu has a different perspective'}, {'start': '87.666', 'end': '90.433', 'text': 'in the Tao Te Ching he wrote to know others is wisdom'}, {'start': '90.733', 'end': '91.533', 'text': 'knowing oneself is light'}, {'start': '92.566', 'end': '95.033', 'text': 'a wise person must first know himself'}, {'start': '95.033', 'end': '95.833', 'text': 'know his strengths and'}, {'start': '95.966', 'end': '98.333', 'text': 'weaknesses know where to go and what'}, {'start': '98.700', 'end': '99.900', 'text': 'to stay away from'}, {'start': '101.300', 'end': '103.633', 'text': 'in that knowing oneself includes'}, {'start': '103.666', 'end': '105.500', 'text': "not giving all one's strength Give to the world"}, {'start': '105.833', 'end': '108.100', 'text': "not using all one's inner strength to please everyone"}, {'start': '109.033', 'end': '112.033', 'text': 'BA Whoever lives too altruistically or sacrifices'}, {'start': '112.366', 'end': '114.066', 'text': 'sometimes becomes Ra easily taken advantage of'}, {'start': '115.266', 'end': '116.866', 'text': 'wise people According to Lao Tzu'}, {'start': '117.266', 'end': '118.700', 'text': 'is the one who holds back Give yourself a part'}, {'start': '119.100', 'end': '120.166', 'text': 'know when to retreat'}, {'start': '120.533', 'end': '122.166', 'text': 'know how to protect inner vitality'}, {'start': '122.233', 'end': '123.566', 'text': 'that is also a form of selfishness'}, {'start': '123.766', 'end': '124.666', 'text': 'but not selfish'}, {'start': '125.833', 'end': '128.033', 'text': 'BA try to look at a real life example'}, {'start': '128.566', 'end': '129.566', 'text': 'in a work group there'}, {'start': '129.900', 'end': '131.866', 'text': 'is someone who always volunteers to take the hardest part'}, {'start': '132.133', 'end': '133.700', 'text': 'always takes on the work for his colleagues'}, {'start': '133.966', 'end': '135.166', 'text': 'always yes yes yes'}, {'start': '135.366', 'end': '137.333', 'text': 'even when treated unfairly'}, {'start': '138.333', 'end': '140.633', 'text': 'but they can be praised in the short term'}, {'start': '140.900', 'end': '143.766', 'text': 'but in the long term are they truly respected'}, {'start': '145.100', 'end': '147.333', 'text': 'or do others assume they are docile people who are willing to'}, {'start': '147.700', 'end': '150.166', 'text': 'work and  continue to push more responsibility to the'}, {'start': '151.033', 'end': '152.166', 'text': 'opposite side,'}, {'start': '152.433', 'end': '154.633', 'text': 'a person who knows how to refuse at the right time, knows how to demand'}, {'start': '154.666', 'end': '156.366', 'text': 'clarity in the division of tasks,'}, {'start': '156.900', 'end': '158.633', 'text': 'knows how to stand up and protect their own interests,'}, {'start': '158.700', 'end': '160.333', 'text': 'easily makes their superiors respect their'}, {'start': '160.566', 'end': '161.466', 'text': 'colleagues, perhaps'}, {'start': '162.866', 'end': '165.566', 'text': 'not because they are upset, but because they have principles. Zhuge Liang'}, {'start': '166.933', 'end': '169.233', 'text': 'once wrote in the Book of Precepts that "to cultivate oneself, to be'}, {'start': '170.866', 'end': '171.833', 'text': 'calm, to be'}, {'start': '172.966', 'end': '176.266', 'text': 'frugal, to cultivate virtue, to be calm, to correct'}, {'start': '177.033', 'end': '180.166', 'text': 'oneself, to be frugal, to cultivate virtue. Here, the word "frugal" does not only refer to money,'}, {'start': '180.633', 'end': '182.300', 'text': 'but also to moderation, to know the limits, to'}, {'start': '182.633', 'end': '183.933', 'text': 'know how to keep a part of'}, {'start': '184.300', 'end': '186.033', 'text': 'emotional energy and time for oneself.'}, {'start': '186.933', 'end': '189.466', 'text': '4. People who know how to be frugal are not selfish and'}, {'start': '189.633', 'end': '192.066', 'text': 'narrow-minded, but are people who do not waste themselves'}, {'start': '192.133', 'end': '193.333', 'text': 'to please others. In the'}, {'start': '193.866', 'end': '195.766', 'text': 'second year, they maintain their mental and'}, {'start': '196.066', 'end': '199.533', 'text': 'intellectual strength, and therefore, they can take on big tasks when needed.'}, {'start': '200.100', 'end': '201.866', 'text': 'That is the person who is truly respected for a long time. The'}, {'start': '203.266', 'end': '206.166', 'text': 'word "selfish" in the context of the ancients\' teachings'}, {'start': '206.533', 'end': '208.933', 'text': 'should not be understood as greedy or calculating gains and losses.'}, {'start': '209.700', 'end': '212.666', 'text': 'BA is a way to put oneself in the center,'}, {'start': '213.033', 'end': '214.666', 'text': 'not letting oneself disappear in the expectations'}, {'start': '214.733', 'end': '215.700', 'text': 'and pressure of others.'}, {'start': '216.366', 'end': '220.700', 'text': '4. When practicing, Buddha Shakyamuni also  is the one who gives up everything'}, {'start': '220.933', 'end': '222.333', 'text': 'but he does not give up himself in the'}, {'start': '222.700', 'end': '225.866', 'text': 'year he does not live to please the king'}, {'start': '226.166', 'end': '229.033', 'text': 'or to succeed the throne but lives true to the truth within himself is that'}, {'start': '230.366', 'end': '232.466', 'text': 'a form of selfishness Noble'}, {'start': '233.333', 'end': '234.833', 'text': 'BA in modern society'}, {'start': '235.233', 'end': '237.300', 'text': 'young people often fall into 2 extremes'}, {'start': '237.566', 'end': '240.033', 'text': 'one is living too much for others to lose themselves'}, {'start': '240.633', 'end': '243.300', 'text': '2 is living too much for oneself to hurt others'}, {'start': '244.266', 'end': '244.633', 'text': 'a'}, {'start': '244.633', 'end': '247.900', 'text': 'wise person is someone who finds a good reputation between those 2 things 2'}, {'start': '248.466', 'end': '250.833', 'text': 'they understand that selfishness is not a crime'}, {'start': '251.100', 'end': '253.833', 'text': 'if we are selfish to preserve our core values'}, {'start': '254.300', 'end': '256.366', 'text': 'so as not to melt in the expectations of the crowd'}, {'start': '256.633', 'end': '260.500', 'text': 'BA 4 they know when to Give when to hold back'}, {'start': '261.033', 'end': '262.033', 'text': 'when to say no to keep'}, {'start': '262.033', 'end': '263.733', 'text': 'Give yourself some freedom in the'}, {'start': '264.266', 'end': '266.166', 'text': 'first year in the office environment'}, {'start': '266.666', 'end': '267.500', 'text': 'people who do a good job'}, {'start': '267.733', 'end': '269.866', 'text': 'but know how to refuse when given too much are'}, {'start': '270.166', 'end': '271.466', 'text': 'often considered professionals'}, {'start': '272.300', 'end': '273.866', 'text': 'BA in love relationships'}, {'start': '274.333', 'end': '275.833', 'text': 'people who know how to keep personal boundaries and'}, {'start': '276.166', 'end': '277.433', 'text': 'do not sacrifice blindly are'}, {'start': '277.733', 'end': '278.933', 'text': 'more respected'}, {'start': '278.933', 'end': '280.700', 'text': 'than people who always indulge unconditionally'}, {'start': '281.566', 'end': '283.966', 'text': '4 wise people do not let anyone cross'}, {'start': '284.066', 'end': '286.433', 'text': 'their boundaries without asking for permission five'}, {'start': '286.633', 'end': '287.566', 'text': 'they are not cold  Strange is'}, {'start': '287.866', 'end': '290.166', 'text': "just that they know that if they don't love themselves,"}, {'start': '290.700', 'end': '292.766', 'text': 'no one has a reason to love them.'}, {'start': '293.266', 'end': '296.666', 'text': '6 4 paradoxes lie here when you know how to keep yourself, only then will'}, {'start': '297.066', 'end': '299.266', 'text': 'others dare to give you great things.'}, {'start': '300.033', 'end': '302.833', 'text': 'When you live not to please anyone,'}, {'start': '303.366', 'end': '305.766', 'text': 'you make others feel more trustworthy.'}, {'start': '306.066', 'end': '308.733', 'text': '6 wise and when you know how to put yourself in the right place at the'}, {'start': '309.133', 'end': '311.100', 'text': 'right time, you are the one who is capable of'}, {'start': '311.233', 'end': '313.433', 'text': 'bringing long-term benefits to the whole group.'}, {'start': '314.733', 'end': '316.100', 'text': 'Therefore, a wise person is'}, {'start': '316.166', 'end': '318.366', 'text': 'not someone who is always altruistic to the point of forgetting himself.'}, {'start': '319.333', 'end': '321.466', 'text': '4 selfish people In the sense of knowing the limits,'}, {'start': '321.766', 'end': '322.900', 'text': 'knowing how to protect the mind,'}, {'start': '323.166', 'end': '324.933', 'text': 'knowing how to keep the wisdom in themselves'}, {'start': '325.033', 'end': '327.633', 'text': 'to be able to live fully and long-term. 5'}, {'start': '328.166', 'end': '330.833', 'text': 'perhaps that is the reason why the more selfish a wise person'}, {'start': '331.300', 'end': '332.366', 'text': 'is, the more respected he is. There'}, {'start': '333.500', 'end': '335.833', 'text': 'is another paradox that surprises many people.'}, {'start': '336.733', 'end': '338.766', 'text': '6 that is when you live too well and'}, {'start': '339.100', 'end': '341.533', 'text': 'too kindly, you are easily looked down upon.'}, {'start': '342.233', 'end': '345.533', 'text': '6 on the contrary, people who know how to protect personal interests and'}, {'start': '345.966', 'end': '347.133', 'text': 'set clear boundaries'}, {'start': '347.533', 'end': '349.300', 'text': 'sometimes make others admire them.'}, {'start': '350.033', 'end': '351.333', 'text': '6 WHY is it like that?'}, {'start': '351.700', 'end': '353.866', 'text': 'Has the morality of society been turned upside down'}, {'start': '355.100', 'end': '356.133', 'text': 'or is there a deeper'}, {'start': '356.366', 'end': '358.266', 'text': 'level?  The meaning that we do not fully understand'}, {'start': '358.266', 'end': '359.366', 'text': 'in the two words "living wisely"'}, {'start': '360.700', 'end': '361.333', 'text': 'Trang Tu'}, {'start': '361.333', 'end': '363.466', 'text': 'has a famous story about an eagle'}, {'start': '363.666', 'end': '364.466', 'text': 'and a sparrow,'}, {'start': '365.433', 'end': '368.633', 'text': 'then the sparrow looked at the eagle flying high and smiled, saying that'}, {'start': '369.033', 'end': '370.933', 'text': 'we only need to jump a few times to earn enough food,'}, {'start': '371.266', 'end': '372.733', 'text': 'why do we need to fly up to the blue sky?'}, {'start': '373.633', 'end': '376.033', 'text': '6 eagles just smiled and did not answer'}, {'start': '376.533', 'end': '378.733', 'text': "because they knew that the sparrow's vision was only on the grass"}, {'start': '379.066', 'end': '380.566', 'text': 'while it looked all the way to the sky,'}, {'start': '381.433', 'end': '382.900', 'text': 'but people in the world are the same.'}, {'start': '383.266', 'end': '384.933', 'text': 'There are people who always think that living simply,'}, {'start': '385.433', 'end': '386.233', 'text': 'not fighting,'}, {'start': '386.433', 'end': '388.333', 'text': 'always giving in is enough to be loved,'}, {'start': '389.733', 'end': '392.500', 'text': 'but in fact, love 0đ means respect,'}, {'start': '393.733', 'end': '394.566', 'text': 'wanting to be trusted with'}, {'start': '395.033', 'end': '397.466', 'text': 'big tasks, we need to show that we have the courage,'}, {'start': '397.700', 'end': '398.500', 'text': 'have a stance, and'}, {'start': '398.666', 'end': '400.566', 'text': 'have the ability to refuse inappropriate things.'}, {'start': '401.466', 'end': '403.966', 'text': '4 King Duong Minh once taught that the mind is reason,'}, {'start': '404.500', 'end': '406.133', 'text': 'meaning that all distinctions between right and wrong,'}, {'start': '406.466', 'end': '408.266', 'text': 'good and evil, all start from the heart.'}, {'start': '409.533', 'end': '411.033', 'text': 'If our hearts are always inclined to goodness,'}, {'start': '411.333', 'end': '413.500', 'text': 'always wanting to bring good things to ourselves and to others,'}, {'start': '414.066', 'end': '414.966', 'text': 'then selfish actions'}, {'start': '415.100', 'end': '416.233', 'text': 'In the sense of keeping our own part'}, {'start': '416.233', 'end': '418.833', 'text': 'is the way for us to keep our mind from being worn out,'}, {'start': '420.133', 'end': '422.733', 'text': 'a person who always works too hard because he wants to be recognized,'}, {'start': '423.033', 'end': '424.666', 'text': 'in the end, sometimes loses direction and does'}, {'start': '425.033', 'end': '426.766', 'text': 'not know how he is really living.  because why is it that'}, {'start': '428.100', 'end': '430.433', 'text': 'people who know how to take care of their inner self and'}, {'start': '430.733', 'end': '432.366', 'text': 'take time to listen to themselves'}, {'start': '432.866', 'end': '434.566', 'text': 'can maintain their long-term clarity'}, {'start': '435.533', 'end': '437.500', 'text': 'BA imagine a blacksmith who'}, {'start': '438.033', 'end': '440.266', 'text': 'forges iron from morning to night'}, {'start': '440.766', 'end': '441.566', 'text': 'without stopping, then in'}, {'start': '441.866', 'end': '444.733', 'text': 'no time their hands will become calloused and exhausted'}, {'start': '444.966', 'end': '446.566', 'text': 'and the fire in the furnace will gradually cool down'}, {'start': '447.300', 'end': '449.700', 'text': '4 to forge a sharp sword, you'}, {'start': '449.966', 'end': '451.133', 'text': 'must know when to rest and'}, {'start': '451.633', 'end': '453.233', 'text': 'when to nourish the fire,'}, {'start': '454.466', 'end': '455.333', 'text': 'life is the same, a'}, {'start': '455.833', 'end': '458.100', 'text': 'wise person is someone who does not let the fire in their heart go out'}, {'start': '458.166', 'end': '459.733', 'text': 'just because they try to please others, there'}, {'start': '461.033', 'end': '463.233', 'text': 'is a very real example from modern life,'}, {'start': '464.533', 'end': '466.866', 'text': 'a young person who first enters a company'}, {'start': '467.333', 'end': '468.700', 'text': 'always takes the loss for himself,'}, {'start': '469.966', 'end': '470.900', 'text': 'increases his salary without pay, takes on'}, {'start': '471.233', 'end': '472.866', 'text': 'more work that others leave behind,'}, {'start': '473.133', 'end': '475.033', 'text': "always says yes even though he doesn't want to, at"}, {'start': '476.466', 'end': '479.233', 'text': 'first they are praised for being enthusiastic and hard-working,'}, {'start': '479.700', 'end': '480.566', 'text': 'but gradually'}, {'start': '480.900', 'end': '481.833', 'text': 'the people around them'}, {'start': '481.933', 'end': '483.333', 'text': 'no longer respect them.'}, {'start': '484.266', 'end': '485.733', 'text': 'One becomes the one who is assigned'}, {'start': '485.900', 'end': '489.133', 'text': 'work without asking for their opinion. 2'}, {'start': '489.666', 'end': '492.300', 'text': 'why did they not set limits BA'}, {'start': '492.633', 'end': '493.666', 'text': 'they forget that'}, {'start': '493.966', 'end': '496.100', 'text': 'respecting others must also start with'}, {'start': '496.233', 'end': '497.033', 'text': 'respecting themselves.'}, {'start': '497.300', 'end': '501.033', 'text': '4 on the contrary, a person who knows his own capabilities'}, {'start': '501.333', 'end': '502.433', 'text': 'dares to say no  When it'}, {'start': '502.766', 'end': '504.700', 'text': 'comes to choosing a job that suits your abilities'}, {'start': '504.833', 'end': '505.633', 'text': 'and personal values,'}, {'start': '505.966', 'end': '507.433', 'text': 'it makes others wary and'}, {'start': '507.766', 'end': '508.566', 'text': 'respectful,'}, {'start': '509.566', 'end': '512.300', 'text': 'not because they are arrogant, but because they have principles.'}, {'start': '513.566', 'end': '515.666', 'text': 'People with principles are people who are hard to shake and'}, {'start': '516.033', 'end': '516.933', 'text': 'hard to manipulate,'}, {'start': '517.366', 'end': '518.166', 'text': "and that's why"}, {'start': '518.666', 'end': '520.866', 'text': 'they deserve to be assigned important tasks.'}, {'start': '522.266', 'end': '525.033', 'text': 'Confucius once told a story about a student named Tu Lo.'}, {'start': '526.300', 'end': '527.700', 'text': 'Tu Lo was a very enthusiastic person who'}, {'start': '528.133', 'end': '529.766', 'text': 'was always ready to help others,'}, {'start': '531.033', 'end': '531.833', 'text': 'but once'}, {'start': '532.100', 'end': '533.266', 'text': 'Confucius reminded'}, {'start': '533.533', 'end': '535.966', 'text': 'people who are kind but not wise, they are easily taken advantage of.'}, {'start': '537.233', 'end': '540.700', 'text': 'This shows that kindness needs to go hand in hand with wisdom.'}, {'start': '541.533', 'end': '543.066', 'text': 'THREE if we are not wise enough'}, {'start': '543.133', 'end': '544.866', 'text': 'to realize that WHO is being sincere with us.'}, {'start': '545.133', 'end': '546.733', 'text': 'WHO is taking advantage of our kindness,'}, {'start': '547.266', 'end': '548.866', 'text': 'no matter how much we live for others, we can'}, {'start': '549.300', 'end': '551.033', 'text': 'easily fall into a situation of being abused.'}, {'start': '551.833', 'end': '552.933', 'text': '4 wise people,'}, {'start': '553.433', 'end': '556.066', 'text': 'therefore, are not people who always live for others,'}, {'start': '556.500', 'end': '558.233', 'text': 'but people who know when to stop,'}, {'start': '558.933', 'end': '561.900', 'text': 'but they understand that in order to help others for a long time,'}, {'start': '562.366', 'end': '563.866', 'text': 'we must first maintain ourselves.'}, {'start': '565.066', 'end': '566.900', 'text': 'If we are also tired, confused,'}, {'start': '567.166', 'end': '568.033', 'text': 'and hurt,'}, {'start': '568.333', 'end': '569.966', 'text': 'how can we have enough strength to help others?'}, {'start': '570.466', 'end': '572.166', 'text': 'This is selfishness with wisdom,'}, {'start': '572.866', 'end': '573.500', 'text': 'but'}, {'start': '573.500', 'end': '576.166', 'text': 'in friendship, if we always  is the one who takes the initiative to text and'}, {'start': '576.666', 'end': '577.733', 'text': 'is always willing to help'}, {'start': '578.266', 'end': '580.300', 'text': 'but the other person only comes when they need help,'}, {'start': '580.700', 'end': '583.666', 'text': 'is that relationship still fair?'}, {'start': '583.766', 'end': '584.933', 'text': 'But in love,'}, {'start': '585.333', 'end': '586.633', 'text': 'if one person always sacrifices and is'}, {'start': '586.933', 'end': '589.633', 'text': 'patient while the other person only knows how to demand,'}, {'start': '589.966', 'end': '591.700', 'text': 'sooner or later there will be deviation.'}, {'start': '592.533', 'end': '595.166', 'text': 'A sustainable relationship is a give-and-take relationship.'}, {'start': '595.733', 'end': '598.633', 'text': 'Two wise people must know how to keep themselves a part of independence,'}, {'start': '598.966', 'end': '599.766', 'text': 'a part of quietness,'}, {'start': '600.300', 'end': '602.333', 'text': 'a part of privacy. That is not selfishness'}, {'start': '602.766', 'end': '603.966', 'text': 'but respect for themselves.'}, {'start': '605.366', 'end': '607.533', 'text': 'Once someone asked Buddha'}, {'start': '607.866', 'end': '609.566', 'text': 'how much should I love others?'}, {'start': '610.866', 'end': '613.633', 'text': 'He smiled and replied, "Love them like you love yourself."'}, {'start': '614.266', 'end': '615.900', 'text': 'But if you forget who you are,'}, {'start': '616.166', 'end': '617.866', 'text': 'that love is just an illusion.'}, {'start': '619.266', 'end': '621.033', 'text': 'That saying makes us suddenly understand. It turns out'}, {'start': '621.366', 'end': '623.433', 'text': 'that wise people need to put love on a'}, {'start': '623.533', 'end': '625.366', 'text': 'solid foundation of self-respect and wisdom.'}, {'start': '626.166', 'end': '627.966', 'text': '4. 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'text': 'BA a friend once shared that the older'}, {'start': '865.466', 'end': '867.266', 'text': 'he got the more he realized that he could not live'}, {'start': '867.333', 'end': '868.533', 'text': 'to do  please everyone'}, {'start': '869.233', 'end': '871.566', 'text': 'the more you try the more you make yourself suffer'}, {'start': '872.566', 'end': '874.766', 'text': '4 only when you start to live honestly with your feelings'}, {'start': '874.966', 'end': '876.300', 'text': 'or say what you want'}, {'start': '876.666', 'end': '878.566', 'text': "stop explaining to people who don't understand you"}, {'start': '879.033', 'end': '880.633', 'text': 'then life becomes more comfortable'}, {'start': '881.100', 'end': '883.066', 'text': "5 you don't become selfish it's"}, {'start': '883.500', 'end': '884.533', 'text': 'just that you start to understand'}, {'start': '884.866', 'end': '886.566', 'text': "if you don't keep yourself a little peace"}, {'start': '887.066', 'end': '888.500', 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'text': 'are people who try to take on too much'}, {'start': '1132.366', 'end': '1133.933', 'text': 'thinking that doing a lot will be loved'}, {'start': '1135.433', 'end': '1137.833', 'text': 'but the more they take on too much the more tired they are the more they'}, {'start': '1138.433', 'end': '1139.233', 'text': 'sacrifice'}, {'start': '1139.533', 'end': '1141.900', 'text': 'the more they are assumed to be the one who will always take on the burden'}, {'start': '1143.133', 'end': '1145.266', 'text': 'when they no longer have the strength no one to replace them'}, {'start': '1145.766', 'end': '1148.533', 'text': 'when they need to be cared for no one stands up'}, {'start': '1149.066', 'end': '1150.433', 'text': 'because of WHY because of WHY'}, {'start': '1150.966', 'end': '1153.900', 'text': 'because they made others believe that they were okay even though they were tired'}, {'start': '1154.866', 'end': '1156.633', 'text': '4 wise people know when to stop,'}, {'start': '1156.866', 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'1232.133', 'end': '1233.766', 'text': 'teacher asked WHY did you stop The'}, {'start': '1234.333', 'end': '1236.333', 'text': 'student said because the 8 was empty'}, {'start': '1237.233', 'end': '1238.666', 'text': 'THREE teachers nodded'}, {'start': '1238.900', 'end': '1241.500', 'text': 'yes you can only Give when you are still full'}, {'start': '1242.766', 'end': '1244.300', 'text': 'That is what wise people must remember'}, {'start': '1244.700', 'end': '1246.566', 'text': "Don't let your heart run out before 8"}, {'start': '1246.700', 'end': '1247.633', 'text': "because you don't know how to hold on"}, {'start': '1248.866', 'end': '1249.833', 'text': "In today's world"}, {'start': '1250.233', 'end': '1252.300', 'text': 'when kindness is misunderstood as an obligation, the'}, {'start': '1252.566', 'end': '1253.633', 'text': 'person who knows how to say no'}, {'start': '1253.633', 'end': '1255.466', 'text': 'is the one who is holding on to their own value'}, {'start': '1256.433', 'end': '1259.266', 'text': "4 They don't feel guilty when choosing to live their own way"}, {'start': '1259.766', 'end': '1261.466', 'text': '5 They are not ashamed'}, {'start': '1261.566', 'end': '1263.333', 'text': 'when not meeting the expectations of others'}, {'start': '1263.966', 'end': '1266.733', 'text': '6 They are selfish but not cruel'}, {'start': '1267.233', 'end': '1268.533', 'text': 'They are just choosing to live truthfully'}, {'start': '1268.966', 'end': '1271.700', 'text': 'Live enough Live true to your inner self 7 But'}, {'start': '1272.166', 'end': '1273.266', 'text': 'in the journey of growing up'}, {'start': '1273.666', 'end': '1275.966', 'text': 'there is something very difficult to learn but extremely important'}, {'start': '1276.433', 'end': '1279.066', 'text': 'that is to dare to protect what you believe is right'}, {'start': '1279.366', 'end': '1281.233', 'text': 'even if you have to face opposition,'}, {'start': '1281.533', 'end': '1283.633', 'text': 'misunderstanding or being considered cold'}, {'start': '1284.233', 'end': '1287.100', 'text': 'but that courage in the eyes of many people'}, {'start': '1287.366', 'end': '1288.766', 'text': 'can be labeled as selfish'}, {'start': '1290.166', 'end': '1291.433', 'text': 'but wise people understand that'}, {'start': '1291.866', 'end': '1294.133', 'text': 'if  A lifetime of living to please others will'}, {'start': '1294.466', 'end': '1296.633', 'text': 'eventually leave you with nothing left of yourself.'}, {'start': '1298.033', 'end': '1300.733', 'text': 'Confucius once taught that seeing something righteous but not doing it'}, {'start': '1300.966', 'end': '1302.033', 'text': 'is a coward,'}, {'start': '1303.333', 'end': '1304.633', 'text': 'but he also advised'}, {'start': '1304.666', 'end': '1305.833', 'text': 'people to know how to choose the right time and'}, {'start': '1306.133', 'end': '1306.933', 'text': 'know how to judge the world. You'}, {'start': '1308.266', 'end': '1310.233', 'text': "don't always say what you think,"}, {'start': '1310.700', 'end': '1312.033', 'text': 'but if you keep silent and'}, {'start': '1312.300', 'end': '1313.100', 'text': 'please others,'}, {'start': '1313.333', 'end': '1315.700', 'text': 'you will become a traitor to yourself.'}, {'start': '1316.666', 'end': '1317.666', 'text': 'THREE wise people are'}, {'start': '1317.733', 'end': '1319.700', 'text': 'not the ones who always say what people want to hear,'}, {'start': '1320.233', 'end': '1322.500', 'text': 'but the ones who know when to stand up for the truth.'}, {'start': '1323.833', 'end': '1324.433', 'text': 'Trang Tu'}, {'start': '1324.433', 'end': '1326.633', 'text': 'once told a strange story about a cowherd.'}, {'start': '1327.933', 'end': '1329.466', 'text': 'He had a very smart buffalo,'}, {'start': '1329.900', 'end': '1331.300', 'text': 'but the neighbors liked to bring grass to'}, {'start': '1331.366', 'end': '1332.966', 'text': 'lure it back to his barn.'}, {'start': '1334.066', 'end': '1335.733', 'text': 'The cowherd was patient at first,'}, {'start': '1335.966', 'end': '1338.033', 'text': 'thinking that as long as the buffalo knew the way home, that was enough,'}, {'start': '1339.266', 'end': '1341.333', 'text': "but then the buffalo didn't come back"}, {'start': '1341.933', 'end': '1343.933', 'text': 'because it was used to receiving from others.'}, {'start': '1344.733', 'end': '1346.933', 'text': '6 The cowherd then realized'}, {'start': '1347.266', 'end': '1350.166', 'text': "that if he didn't keep the buffalo, sooner or later he would lose the buffalo."}, {'start': '1351.100', 'end': '1352.533', 'text': 'That buffalo is the mind.'}, {'start': '1353.033', 'end': '1354.633', 'text': "If he didn't keep it or protect"}, {'start': '1355.033', 'end': '1356.933', 'text': 'it, it would run away. Follow the temptations outside.'}, {'start': '1357.333', 'end': '1359.833', 'text': '6 THREE wise people understand that one must be selfish'}, {'start': '1359.900', 'end': '1360.833', 'text': 'with such sacred things.'}, {'start': '1362.466', 'end': '1364.633', 'text': 'Someone asked how selfish it is.  is correct the'}, {'start': '1365.933', 'end': '1366.866', 'text': 'answer is'}, {'start': '1367.233', 'end': '1368.933', 'text': 'selfish without hurting others'}, {'start': '1369.366', 'end': '1372.066', 'text': 'selfish to keep yourself not to save the better part'}, {'start': '1372.866', 'end': '1374.700', 'text': 'a wise person does not take the best part'}, {'start': '1375.133', 'end': '1376.333', 'text': 'but also does not accept the loss'}, {'start': '1376.500', 'end': '1377.733', 'text': 'if that makes others'}, {'start': '1377.900', 'end': '1379.833', 'text': 'automatically consider themselves easy to manipulate'}, {'start': '1380.533', 'end': '1382.133', 'text': '2 they live by principles'}, {'start': '1382.566', 'end': '1384.333', 'text': 'they give but do not lose self-respect'}, {'start': '1385.166', 'end': '1386.666', 'text': 'BA they do not wear the cloak of'}, {'start': '1386.766', 'end': '1388.833', 'text': 'compassion and then become victims of their own kindness'}, {'start': '1390.100', 'end': '1393.100', 'text': 'Buddha teaches that no ONE can save you but yourself no matter'}, {'start': '1394.333', 'end': '1395.933', 'text': 'how tolerant we live'}, {'start': '1396.133', 'end': '1398.333', 'text': 'if we always nod when we want to refuse in our hearts'}, {'start': '1398.833', 'end': '1400.166', 'text': 'we are betraying ourselves'}, {'start': '1401.100', 'end': '1403.666', 'text': 'a wise person is someone who lives honestly with their inner self'}, {'start': '1404.066', 'end': '1406.466', 'text': '2 they dare to live According to what they believe'}, {'start': '1406.900', 'end': '1409.500', 'text': 'even if it makes them upset some people'}, {'start': '1409.966', 'end': '1411.633', 'text': 'BA they understand that'}, {'start': '1412.033', 'end': '1413.066', 'text': 'temporary upset is'}, {'start': '1413.133', 'end': '1415.500', 'text': 'sometimes the beginning For long-term respect'}, {'start': '1416.033', 'end': '1418.500', 'text': '4 4 look at a good leader'}, {'start': '1419.066', 'end': '1420.833', 'text': 'they are not someone who is always gentle'}, {'start': '1421.366', 'end': '1423.533', 'text': '5 they are someone who dares to decide dares to'}, {'start': '1423.900', 'end': '1426.266', 'text': 'take responsibility dares to set the rules of the game'}, {'start': '1426.733', 'end': '1428.866', 'text': '6 if they do not have a stance'}, {'start': '1429.233', 'end': '1430.833', 'text': 'if they always follow the majority'}, {'start': '1431.066', 'end': '1433.100', 'text': 'then that organization will sooner or later be in chaos'}, {'start': '1433.333', 'end': '1436.766', 'text': '7 but selfishness here is knowing how to keep  steadfast in core values'}, {'start': '1437.133', 'end': '1439.633', 'text': 'not letting oneself be swept away by meaningless noise'}, {'start': '1440.900', 'end': '1443.566', 'text': 'and thanks to that they become trustworthy people he'}, {'start': '1444.666', 'end': '1447.433', 'text': 'has a friend who once told him that when he was young'}, {'start': '1447.833', 'end': '1449.933', 'text': 'he always thought that he had to be loved by everyone he'}, {'start': '1451.466', 'end': '1452.566', 'text': 'smiled when he was unhappy'}, {'start': '1452.900', 'end': '1454.866', 'text': 'he helped others even though he was exhausted'}, {'start': '1455.100', 'end': '1456.666', 'text': "he accepted a job just because he didn't want to be hated"}, {'start': '1457.933', 'end': '1459.433', 'text': 'but then one day'}, {'start': '1459.700', 'end': '1461.300', 'text': 'he sat alone in a coffee shop and'}, {'start': '1461.833', 'end': '1463.333', 'text': 'realized that he was living a life'}, {'start': '1463.466', 'end': '1464.866', 'text': "that he himself didn't understand"}, {'start': '1466.266', 'end': '1468.733', 'text': 'he started to practice saying no practice refusing'}, {'start': '1469.233', 'end': '1471.166', 'text': 'practice eating alone without feeling lost'}, {'start': '1472.433', 'end': '1474.533', 'text': 'and from there he found himself again'}, {'start': '1475.766', 'end': '1478.466', 'text': 'he was selfish but that was the first step to freedom'}, {'start': '1480.966', 'end': '1482.500', 'text': 'Zhuge Liang served the Shu nation all his life'}, {'start': '1482.766', 'end': '1485.300', 'text': 'never used his power to serve himself'}, {'start': '1486.666', 'end': '1488.866', 'text': 'but he also never let anyone surpass him'}, {'start': '1488.900', 'end': '1490.133', 'text': 'in running the country'}, {'start': '1491.366', 'end': '1492.166', 'text': 'he had principles,'}, {'start': '1492.466', 'end': '1493.766', 'text': 'ideals and'}, {'start': '1493.766', 'end': '1496.100', 'text': 'a right selfishness is to maintain a'}, {'start': '1496.166', 'end': '1497.733', 'text': 'loyal heart not to let anyone change'}, {'start': '1498.966', 'end': '1500.733', 'text': 'if he only lived to please the king'}, {'start': '1501.066', 'end': '1502.266', 'text': 'for his own safety'}, {'start': '1502.700', 'end': '1503.500', 'text': 'then there would be no'}, {'start': '1503.633', 'end': '1505.966', 'text': 'Zhuge Liang who is remembered forever as an'}, {'start': '1506.066', 'end': '1508.366', 'text': 'exemplary military advisor a wise man'}, {'start': '1508.833', 'end': '1511.300', 'text': 'therefore  not afraid of being misunderstood when doing the right thing'}, {'start': '1511.900', 'end': '1516.033', 'text': '2 they are not afraid of being criticized for being stubborn or too individualistic'}, {'start': '1516.566', 'end': '1520.566', 'text': 'BA they accept it because they know the path they are on'}, {'start': '1521.100', 'end': '1524.866', 'text': '4 selfishness here is the protection For that path'}, {'start': '1526.233', 'end': '1527.566', 'text': 'they do not hurt AI'}, {'start': '1528.066', 'end': '1530.233', 'text': 'but also do not give AI the right to hurt themselves'}, {'start': '1531.533', 'end': '1534.666', 'text': 'Lao Tzu said knowing others is wisdom knowing yourself is enlightenment'}, {'start': '1535.933', 'end': '1537.533', 'text': 'people who only know how to live for others are'}, {'start': '1537.700', 'end': '1539.066', 'text': 'not necessarily wise'}, {'start': '1539.966', 'end': '1542.266', 'text': 'BA people who know clearly what they do not accept and what they are'}, {'start': '1542.733', 'end': '1544.266', 'text': 'willing to sacrifice'}, {'start': '1544.566', 'end': '1546.233', 'text': 'are truly mature people'}, {'start': '1546.566', 'end': '1549.533', 'text': '4 and when they know their boundaries'}, {'start': '1549.966', 'end': '1551.866', 'text': 'they also respect the boundaries of others'}, {'start': '1553.066', 'end': '1554.633', 'text': 'a society can only be healthy'}, {'start': '1554.700', 'end': '1556.566', 'text': 'if AI also clearly understands where they stop'}, {'start': '1557.866', 'end': '1560.266', 'text': 'living like that may not please everyone'}, {'start': '1561.633', 'end': '1563.633', 'text': 'but wise people do not need to please everyone they'}, {'start': '1564.233', 'end': '1565.666', 'text': 'just need to keep their hearts'}, {'start': '1567.033', 'end': '1568.466', 'text': 'and when they keep their hearts'}, {'start': '1568.900', 'end': '1570.633', 'text': 'they will be respected for a long time'}, {'start': '1571.433', 'end': '1573.866', 'text': '4 because no AI wants to give power to a person'}, {'start': '1573.900', 'end': '1575.433', 'text': 'whichever way the wind blows, they follow that direction every'}, {'start': '1576.033', 'end': '1578.233', 'text': 'year they need someone with roots,'}, {'start': '1578.533', 'end': '1579.333', 'text': 'faith and'}, {'start': '1579.566', 'end': '1581.866', 'text': 'courage to stand firm in the storm'}, {'start': '1582.333', 'end': '1585.233', 'text': '6 BA if you have ever been a person  always help others'}, {'start': '1585.333', 'end': '1586.733', 'text': 'but in the end get turned away,'}, {'start': '1587.066', 'end': '1590.066', 'text': 'you will wonder WHY is living kindly a loss,'}, {'start': '1591.233', 'end': '1592.766', 'text': 'is it because people are ungrateful'}, {'start': '1593.233', 'end': '1595.666', 'text': 'or because we have lived the wrong way but thought it was right? It turns out that'}, {'start': '1596.933', 'end': '1600.033', 'text': 'not all kindness leads to good results'}, {'start': '1601.366', 'end': '1604.333', 'text': 'and not everyone deserves to receive kindness from us.'}, {'start': '1605.500', 'end': '1607.766', 'text': 'Wise people never give unconditionally.'}, {'start': '1609.033', 'end': '1611.766', 'text': 'They observe, consider and only open their hearts at the right time.'}, {'start': '1612.933', 'end': '1614.900', 'text': 'That can be called selfishness,'}, {'start': '1615.566', 'end': '1617.300', 'text': 'but the ancients called it wisdom.'}, {'start': '1618.633', 'end': '1619.566', 'text': 'Trang Tu once wrote that'}, {'start': '1619.833', 'end': '1621.466', 'text': 'when the wind rises in the middle of the ocean, an eagle'}, {'start': '1621.733', 'end': '1623.300', 'text': 'can fly a thousand miles,'}, {'start': '1623.500', 'end': '1624.900', 'text': 'but a mouse quickly finds a hole'}, {'start': '1626.266', 'end': '1629.500', 'text': 'with the same wind. But each species will have its own way of behaving.'}, {'start': '1630.333', 'end': '1631.733', 'text': 'Love, like life,'}, {'start': '1632.133', 'end': '1634.466', 'text': 'cannot be applied to a kind way of living. For everyone, in every'}, {'start': '1634.866', 'end': '1635.666', 'text': 'situation, there are people who'}, {'start': '1636.766', 'end': '1639.966', 'text': 'need a shoulder, there are people who just take advantage of kindness,'}, {'start': '1641.233', 'end': '1643.233', 'text': 'there are people who need help to stand up,'}, {'start': '1643.633', 'end': '1645.966', 'text': 'there are people who rely on it for their whole life.'}, {'start': '1646.933', 'end': '1647.766', 'text': 'A wise person'}, {'start': '1647.866', 'end': '1649.433', 'text': 'does not let his kindness turn into a'}, {'start': '1649.500', 'end': '1650.500', 'text': 'burden. For others,'}, {'start': '1651.633', 'end': '1653.366', 'text': 'there is a folk story that tells of'}, {'start': '1653.566', 'end': '1655.866', 'text': 'an old man who often goes to the market to distribute charity porridge.'}, {'start': '1657.066', 'end': '1660.033', 'text': 'Every day he cooks 10 pots.  porridge to help the poor,'}, {'start': '1661.366', 'end': '1663.333', 'text': 'everyone was moved and lined up,'}, {'start': '1663.866', 'end': '1666.100', 'text': 'but then one day he quietly stopped.'}, {'start': '1667.266', 'end': '1668.233', 'text': 'People blamed him.'}, {'start': '1668.666', 'end': '1670.133', 'text': 'They said he was devoted today and'}, {'start': '1670.500', 'end': '1672.833', 'text': 'tomorrow he would give up like that. That was 7 faith.'}, {'start': '1673.966', 'end': '1674.933', 'text': 'He just smiled.'}, {'start': '1675.233', 'end': '1677.266', 'text': 'My kindness is to help people with will,'}, {'start': '1677.733', 'end': '1679.566', 'text': 'not to foster the habit of waiting.'}, {'start': '1680.966', 'end': '1683.233', 'text': 'From there, some people started to look for work on their own.'}, {'start': '1683.500', 'end': '1684.633', 'text': 'Some people quietly disappeared. It'}, {'start': '1685.100', 'end': '1687.366', 'text': 'turned out that kindness also needs a stopping point,'}, {'start': '1688.566', 'end': '1690.033', 'text': 'and stopping at the right time'}, {'start': '1690.233', 'end': '1692.900', 'text': 'is a deeper lesson than continuing to give.'}, {'start': '1694.300', 'end': '1697.733', 'text': 'Confucius once emphasized that without virtue, there is no establishment, without wisdom, there is no peace. 6'}, {'start': '1698.566', 'end': '1700.633', 'text': 'Without virtue, there is no standing,'}, {'start': '1701.066', 'end': '1703.666', 'text': 'but without wisdom, kindness will be distorted. 6 A'}, {'start': '1704.166', 'end': '1706.300', 'text': 'wise person needs compassion,'}, {'start': '1706.633', 'end': '1709.433', 'text': 'but also needs wisdom to not put that compassion in the wrong place. 6'}, {'start': '1709.966', 'end': '1712.500', 'text': 'Maybe one of our help today'}, {'start': '1713.033', 'end': '1715.266', 'text': 'will make that person lose motivation to advance tomorrow. 6'}, {'start': '1715.533', 'end': '1718.300', 'text': 'Maybe one of our excessive tolerance'}, {'start': '1718.433', 'end': '1720.366', 'text': 'will make others think it is obvious'}, {'start': '1720.733', 'end': '1721.700', 'text': 'and gradually look down on it.'}, {'start': '1722.366', 'end': '1723.766', 'text': '2 selfishness'}, {'start': '1723.866', 'end': '1726.133', 'text': 'here is knowing how to choose where to sow kindness.'}, {'start': '1726.700', 'end': '1728.633', 'text': 'BA, observe a garden, the'}, {'start': '1729.166', 'end': '1731.700', 'text': 'gardener does not water everywhere indiscriminately.'}, {'start': '1732.566', 'end': '1735.533', 'text': '1 They choose plants that need water, they fertilize them in the right place,'}, {'start': '1735.933', 'end': '1737.033', 'text': 'they prune them at the right time,'}, {'start': '1737.333', 'end': '1740.333', 'text': '2 care does not go with messiness,'}, {'start': '1741.666', 'end': '1744.466', 'text': 'and so the garden has order, has vitality,'}, {'start': '1744.766', 'end': '1747.833', 'text': 'has a blooming season and a sleeping season, kindness is the same,'}, {'start': '1748.700', 'end': '1751.166', 'text': 'year by year, if we want it to become a source of nourishment,'}, {'start': '1751.433', 'end': '1753.100', 'text': 'we must learn to water the right place,'}, {'start': '1753.433', 'end': '1754.633', 'text': 'not let that water'}, {'start': '1754.666', 'end': '1756.166', 'text': 'flow into dry, unproductive lands.'}, {'start': '1757.500', 'end': '1759.266', 'text': '6 In family relationships,'}, {'start': '1759.700', 'end': '1761.433', 'text': 'if we always pamper a child and'}, {'start': '1761.733', 'end': '1763.233', 'text': 'meet all his demands,'}, {'start': '1763.666', 'end': '1764.466', 'text': 'over time'}, {'start': '1764.633', 'end': '1766.700', 'text': 'the child will not learn to be responsible.'}, {'start': '1766.933', 'end': '1769.933', 'text': '7 That love seems immense,'}, {'start': '1770.300', 'end': '1772.300', 'text': 'but it hurts the child more than the'}, {'start': '1773.633', 'end': '1776.166', 'text': 'person who does it. Wise parents will know when to say'}, {'start': '1776.166', 'end': '1778.433', 'text': 'no, when to let their child stumble,'}, {'start': '1778.733', 'end': '1781.666', 'text': 'when to pull back their hand so that their child can walk on his own.'}, {'start': '1781.766', 'end': '1784.333', 'text': 'THREE is the selfishness of a deep love'}, {'start': '1784.666', 'end': '1786.866', 'text': 'because they do not want to give their child an'}, {'start': '1786.933', 'end': '1791.233', 'text': 'illusory life. 4 Lao Tzu taught that if you want to elevate others, you'}, {'start': '1791.466', 'end': '1792.566', 'text': 'must know how to humble yourself first.'}, {'start': '1793.433', 'end': '1795.100', 'text': '4 If you want to help others stand firm, you must'}, {'start': '1795.466', 'end': '1797.033', 'text': 'know how not to elevate them too high. 5'}, {'start': '1798.333', 'end': '1801.300', 'text': 'Wise people understand that not everyone needs to be saved'}, {'start': '1801.733', 'end': '1803.766', 'text': 'and not always.  We should also take action'}, {'start': '1804.133', 'end': '1806.633', 'text': '6 4 because if we intervene at the wrong time,'}, {'start': '1806.833', 'end': '1808.900', 'text': 'we are robbing others of their opportunity to grow.'}, {'start': '1810.300', 'end': '1811.633', 'text': 'The selfishness of a wise person'}, {'start': '1811.733', 'end': '1813.266', 'text': 'is not to see themselves as heroes,'}, {'start': '1813.633', 'end': '1815.666', 'text': 'not to make themselves the center of every story,'}, {'start': '1816.633', 'end': '1817.700', 'text': 'but at work,'}, {'start': '1817.933', 'end': '1819.766', 'text': 'people who always take on extra, unnamed tasks,'}, {'start': '1820.166', 'end': '1822.633', 'text': 'always try to make up for the shortcomings of others,'}, {'start': '1822.933', 'end': '1824.433', 'text': 'may initially be appreciated,'}, {'start': '1825.633', 'end': '1826.533', 'text': 'but in the long run,'}, {'start': '1827.066', 'end': '1828.700', 'text': 'they will be seen as people who do the work for them,'}, {'start': '1829.033', 'end': '1831.366', 'text': 'as lifesavers whenever there is an incident.'}, {'start': '1832.733', 'end': '1835.333', 'text': 'Meanwhile, wise people will clearly draw the line.'}, {'start': '1836.166', 'end': '1837.633', 'text': '4 They are willing to help'}, {'start': '1837.700', 'end': '1839.300', 'text': 'if the other person has a sense of responsibility and makes an'}, {'start': '1839.633', 'end': '1840.433', 'text': 'effort,'}, {'start': '1841.733', 'end': '1843.133', 'text': 'but they do not become'}, {'start': '1843.233', 'end': '1845.566', 'text': 'voluntary victims. For the laziness or indifference of those people,'}, {'start': '1846.300', 'end': '1848.366', 'text': 'they are selfish because they understand that'}, {'start': '1848.700', 'end': '1850.633', 'text': 'fairness begins with alertness.'}, {'start': '1851.500', 'end': '1853.333', 'text': '4 Buddha once asked his disciples'}, {'start': '1853.700', 'end': '1856.066', 'text': 'if someone offered their hand and wanted you to take them across the river'}, {'start': '1856.366', 'end': '1857.366', 'text': 'but they refused to walk,'}, {'start': '1857.700', 'end': '1859.433', 'text': 'should you carry them for the rest of your life?'}, {'start': '1860.700', 'end': '1862.133', 'text': 'That question does not need to be answered'}, {'start': '1862.666', 'end': '1865.166', 'text': 'because everyone understands that if you carry someone who does not want to walk,'}, {'start': '1865.433', 'end': '1866.700', 'text': 'not only will you not help them,'}, {'start': '1866.733', 'end': '1868.233', 'text': 'but you will also tire yourself. A'}, {'start': '1869.466', 'end': '1870.833', 'text': 'wise person will extend his hand,'}, {'start': '1871.166', 'end': '1873.466', 'text': 'but only when he sees the other person.  are also walking towards'}, {'start': '1874.700', 'end': '1875.100', 'text': 'them'}, {'start': '1875.100', 'end': '1877.633', 'text': 'selfish but to not be dragged back into the mud'}, {'start': '1878.833', 'end': '1881.700', 'text': 'so if someone tells you that living like that is selfish'}, {'start': '1882.133', 'end': '1882.933', 'text': 'smile'}, {'start': '1883.933', 'end': '1886.333', 'text': '4 because you are protecting the most precious thing the'}, {'start': '1886.333', 'end': '1887.733', 'text': 'wisdom in your heart'}, {'start': '1888.266', 'end': '1891.633', 'text': '5 you are living with completeness are Giving thoughtfully'}, {'start': '1892.300', 'end': '1894.733', 'text': 'are loving but not blindly 6 no'}, {'start': '1895.166', 'end': '1898.100', 'text': 'and so is sowing flax seeds in the right place'}, {'start': '1898.333', 'end': '1899.500', 'text': 'right person at the right time there'}, {'start': '1900.733', 'end': '1902.166', 'text': 'is a strange thing in life'}, {'start': '1902.566', 'end': '1904.566', 'text': 'the more easy-going, tolerant people are'}, {'start': '1905.033', 'end': '1906.500', 'text': 'willing to help people unconditionally the'}, {'start': '1906.933', 'end': '1908.333', 'text': 'more vulnerable'}, {'start': '1909.233', 'end': '1912.100', 'text': "BA and those who know how to talk but don't know how to keep their distance"}, {'start': '1912.433', 'end': '1914.566', 'text': 'know how to choose the time and object to share are'}, {'start': '1915.133', 'end': '1917.333', 'text': 'often respected and cheap by others'}, {'start': '1917.866', 'end': '1919.266', 'text': '4 why is that so is it'}, {'start': '1919.700', 'end': '1920.966', 'text': 'true that living in a closed position'}, {'start': '1921.300', 'end': '1923.366', 'text': 'less Giving will make people respect you more'}, {'start': '1923.733', 'end': '1925.233', 'text': '5 or behind'}, {'start': '1925.933', 'end': '1928.466', 'text': 'that selfishness is a lesson about maintaining personal values'}, {'start': '1928.866', 'end': '1930.900', 'text': '6 Confucius once said that'}, {'start': '1931.166', 'end': '1934.500', 'text': 'a gentleman is in harmony but 0 VND a petty person is in harmony but not in harmony'}, {'start': '1935.733', 'end': '1938.100', 'text': 'means a person with morality lives in harmony with everyone'}, {'start': '1938.366', 'end': '1939.433', 'text': 'but does not lose his principles'}, {'start': '1939.766', 'end': '1941.900', 'text': 'while a petty person easily goes along with the majority'}, {'start': '1941.966', 'end': '1942.933', 'text': 'without a stance'}, {'start': '1944.866', 'end': '1946.900', 'text': 'Harmony here does not mean unconditional agreement'}, {'start': '1947.300', 'end': '1949.766', 'text': 'but the ability to live among people without dissolving into them. A'}, {'start': '1951.100', 'end': '1951.733', 'text': 'wise person'}, {'start': '1951.733', 'end': '1953.566', 'text': 'is someone who can keep the individual in the common.'}, {'start': '1953.966', 'end': '1954.933', 'text': 'Know where to stop and'}, {'start': '1955.300', 'end': '1956.833', 'text': 'where no one can enter.'}, {'start': '1958.300', 'end': '1959.433', 'text': 'If there are no boundaries,'}, {'start': '1959.733', 'end': '1962.433', 'text': "kindness can easily be swept away. According to people's hearts,"}, {'start': '1963.833', 'end': '1967.333', 'text': 'Lao Tzu teaches that knowing when to stop is peace, knowing enough is wealth.'}, {'start': '1968.666', 'end': '1970.066', 'text': 'Stopping does not mean giving up'}, {'start': '1970.366', 'end': '1972.566', 'text': 'but knowing when to conserve energy.'}, {'start': '1973.500', 'end': '1975.766', 'text': 'The more easily people get caught up in relationships'}, {'start': '1975.900', 'end': '1977.666', 'text': 'without knowing how to hold back. Giving themselves a space of peace makes it'}, {'start': '1978.066', 'end': '1979.900', 'text': 'harder to maintain inner peace.'}, {'start': '1980.300', 'end': '1982.900', 'text': '4 4 wise people sometimes choose to be silent'}, {'start': '1983.300', 'end': '1984.566', 'text': 'not because they are cold but'}, {'start': '1984.933', 'end': '1987.066', 'text': 'because they do not want to waste energy on'}, {'start': '1987.133', 'end': '1987.966', 'text': 'conversations that'}, {'start': '1988.166', 'end': '1989.566', 'text': 'do not bring anything good.'}, {'start': '1990.166', 'end': '1992.766', 'text': 'They save their energy. For things that are more valuable. Five years ago,'}, {'start': '1993.300', 'end': '1994.466', 'text': 'a friend of mine'}, {'start': '1994.666', 'end': '1996.366', 'text': 'used to be the type of person who helps with anything. Whoever is'}, {'start': '1996.633', 'end': '1997.833', 'text': 'sad, listens. Whoever'}, {'start': '1998.166', 'end': '1999.300', 'text': 'needs anything, he is there.'}, {'start': '2000.366', 'end': '2003.266', 'text': 'He is tired but does not dare to speak for fear of being considered heartless.'}, {'start': '2004.500', 'end': '2005.900', 'text': 'But then he begins to realize that'}, {'start': '2006.266', 'end': '2007.100', 'text': 'the more he lives like that,'}, {'start': '2007.366', 'end': '2009.366', 'text': 'the more he is seen as being able to ask for anything.'}, {'start': '2015.933', 'end': '2017.266', 'text': 'People only come when needed.'}, {'start': '2017.766', 'end': '2019.733', 'text': 'One day, he decides.  intending to stop,'}, {'start': '2020.900', 'end': '2022.100', 'text': 'he started saying no,'}, {'start': '2022.433', 'end': '2024.266', 'text': 'he spent more time alone'}, {'start': '2025.733', 'end': '2028.100', 'text': 'at first, people were surprised, some were angry, some'}, {'start': '2028.333', 'end': '2029.166', 'text': 'blamed him,'}, {'start': '2030.233', 'end': '2032.466', 'text': 'but then the sincere people stayed,'}, {'start': '2033.033', 'end': '2035.266', 'text': 'the people who were only used to taking advantage of him withdrew,'}, {'start': '2036.366', 'end': '2037.333', 'text': 'and that was when'}, {'start': '2037.500', 'end': '2039.766', 'text': 'he had truly healthy relationships.'}, {'start': '2041.066', 'end': '2041.966', 'text': 'Buddha taught that'}, {'start': '2042.233', 'end': '2043.500', 'text': 'a person who does not know how to love himself'}, {'start': '2043.633', 'end': '2044.700', 'text': 'cannot love others.'}, {'start': '2046.100', 'end': '2048.766', 'text': 'Love must start with taking care of himself.'}, {'start': '2049.633', 'end': '2052.666', 'text': '4 When we take good care of our body, soul, and'}, {'start': '2053.100', 'end': '2053.900', 'text': 'emotions,'}, {'start': '2054.166', 'end': '2055.900', 'text': 'giving is giving,'}, {'start': '2056.166', 'end': '2057.333', 'text': 'not carrying a burden. A'}, {'start': '2058.533', 'end': '2060.433', 'text': 'wise person is not someone who is always busy'}, {'start': '2060.533', 'end': '2061.333', 'text': 'for others,'}, {'start': '2061.533', 'end': '2063.766', 'text': 'but someone who knows how to spend time living with himself.'}, {'start': '2064.666', 'end': '2065.900', 'text': 'Many people are selfish,'}, {'start': '2066.333', 'end': '2068.100', 'text': 'but that selfishness is to recover,'}, {'start': '2068.333', 'end': '2069.433', 'text': 'to nurture the inner self,'}, {'start': '2069.866', 'end': '2072.333', 'text': 'so that they can continue to be steadfast and loving'}, {'start': '2073.666', 'end': '2074.466', 'text': 'at work. A'}, {'start': '2074.533', 'end': '2075.233', 'text': 'wise person'}, {'start': '2075.233', 'end': '2077.033', 'text': 'is not someone who always takes everything upon themselves.'}, {'start': '2078.333', 'end': '2079.333', 'text': 'They know how to allocate, how to'}, {'start': '2079.733', 'end': '2080.533', 'text': 'refuse, how to'}, {'start': '2080.700', 'end': '2083.433', 'text': 'propose, and how to protect and cherish their personal time.'}, {'start': '2084.366', 'end': '2086.066', 'text': 'BA they do not sit extra hours'}, {'start': '2086.133', 'end': '2087.900', 'text': 'at the company just to be known as hard-working'}, {'start': '2088.500', 'end': '2090.166', 'text': 'if it is not really necessary.'}, {'start': '2091.433', 'end': '2093.266', 'text': 'A they do not nod to every request.'}, {'start': '2095.033', 'end': '2096.900', 'text': '2 they consider the effectiveness of their'}, {'start': '2097.266', 'end': '2099.833', 'text': 'efforts and the trust of BA'}, {'start': '2100.066', 'end': '2100.900', 'text': 'and thanks to that'}, {'start': '2101.166', 'end': '2103.433', 'text': 'they are highly appreciated for their professionalism'}, {'start': '2104.033', 'end': '2106.833', 'text': '4 and the person who always takes everything upon himself'}, {'start': '2107.133', 'end': '2109.133', 'text': 'will gradually be considered the person who has to do the'}, {'start': '2109.533', 'end': '2111.933', 'text': 'year of BA until they are no longer strong enough and'}, {'start': '2112.233', 'end': '2113.633', 'text': 'no one understands why there'}, {'start': '2114.833', 'end': '2116.733', 'text': 'is an anecdote about Zhuge Liang that'}, {'start': '2116.900', 'end': '2118.100', 'text': 'makes many people ponder'}, {'start': '2119.366', 'end': '2121.500', 'text': 'when he accepted the responsibility of guarding Han Trung'}, {'start': '2122.033', 'end': '2124.166', 'text': 'many people thought that he would devote himself to the country'}, {'start': '2124.233', 'end': '2125.333', 'text': 'without personal calculation'}, {'start': '2126.733', 'end': '2128.666', 'text': 'but he refused a few tasks'}, {'start': '2128.733', 'end': '2130.766', 'text': 'beyond his control at that time'}, {'start': '2131.333', 'end': '2132.900', 'text': 'with the reason that it was not the right time'}, {'start': '2134.100', 'end': '2136.866', 'text': 'people thought that he was too cautious and too conservative'}, {'start': '2138.133', 'end': '2139.233', 'text': 'but later looking back'}, {'start': '2139.533', 'end': '2142.033', 'text': 'thanks to that refusal he was able to maintain a'}, {'start': '2142.100', 'end': '2144.266', 'text': 'solid defense avoiding the danger of losing the country early'}, {'start': '2145.566', 'end': '2146.666', 'text': 'if at that time he'}, {'start': '2146.733', 'end': '2148.900', 'text': 'gave himself unconditionally to please the majority'}, {'start': '2149.266', 'end': '2150.533', 'text': 'what would the consequences be like'}, 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'2179.266', 'end': '2182.700', 'text': '7 but they are selfish to maintain lasting kindness,'}, {'start': '2183.233', 'end': '2185.933', 'text': 'not impulsive kindness and then disappear because of exhaustion'}, {'start': '2187.166', 'end': '2189.266', 'text': 'once I asked a Zen master'}, {'start': '2189.500', 'end': '2191.300', 'text': 'what is the sign of a wise person'}, {'start': '2192.166', 'end': '2193.833', 'text': 'he answered very gently that it'}, {'start': '2194.300', 'end': '2196.366', 'text': 'is someone who knows when to leave the table'}, {'start': '2196.700', 'end': '2197.833', 'text': 'even though the food is still delicious'}, {'start': '2198.433', 'end': '2200.466', 'text': 'that saying made me silent for a long time'}, {'start': '2201.766', 'end': '2203.733', 'text': 'because it not only talks about knowing when to stop but'}, {'start': '2204.133', 'end': '2206.366', 'text': 'also knowing how to keep for yourself a little peace'}, {'start': '2206.766', 'end': 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They don't go by inertia. They"}, {'start': '3500.833', 'end': '3503.100', 'text': 'go by wisdom. 3.'}, {'start': '3503.333', 'end': '3505.500', 'text': 'They keep themselves like keeping a flame,'}, {'start': '3505.666', 'end': '3506.633', 'text': 'not letting AI extinguish it,'}, {'start': '3506.933', 'end': '3508.233', 'text': 'nor letting AI exaggerate it.'}, {'start': '3508.500', 'end': '3510.933', 'text': '4. There is a type of person in life that'}, {'start': '3511.033', 'end': '3512.866', 'text': 'makes AI feel secure when in contact with them. 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It'}, {'start': '3542.766', 'end': '3545.866', 'text': 'can be said that they are the type of wise person who knows how to be selfish properly. Khong Tu'}, {'start': '3547.100', 'end': '3548.133', 'text': 'once told benevolent'}, {'start': '3548.466', 'end': '3550.533', 'text': 'people not to let promises become chains,'}, {'start': '3550.900', 'end': '3552.500', 'text': 'not to let kindness become a burden. One'}, {'start': '3553.266', 'end': '3555.966', 'text': 'idea is that when we live too much about reputation and are'}, {'start': '3556.233', 'end': '3558.500', 'text': 'too forced because we are afraid of offending others,'}, {'start': '3558.733', 'end': '3561.100', 'text': 'we can easily get stuck in our own kindness.'}, {'start': '3561.700', 'end': '3563.633', 'text': '2.  Smart people are the opposite,'}, {'start': '3564.100', 'end': '3566.366', 'text': 'they know how to keep their word but also know their limits.'}, {'start': '3566.666', 'end': '3568.733', 'text': 'BA they live with love'}, {'start': '3569.100', 'end': '3571.433', 'text': "but don't let emotions overwhelm their reason."}, {'start': '3571.766', 'end': '3574.566', 'text': "4 but they are selfish in that way, they don't let AI,"}, {'start': '3574.966', 'end': '3576.033', 'text': 'even their closest loved ones,'}, {'start': '3576.333', 'end': '3578.033', 'text': 'hurt the values \u200b\u200bthey preserve.'}, {'start': '3579.166', 'end': '3581.033', 'text': 'There is a guy I used to'}, {'start': '3581.333', 'end': '3582.833', 'text': 'work with in the content production industry.'}, {'start': '3584.100', 'end': '3586.366', 'text': 'He rarely replies to messages after 8pm,'}, {'start': '3587.633', 'end': '3590.533', 'text': "doesn't accept work on days off, doesn't meet on weekends."}, {'start': '3591.900', 'end': '3594.700', 'text': 'At first, AI said he was rigid and inflexible,'}, {'start': '3595.966', 'end': '3598.733', 'text': 'but then he was the one with the most stable products. He was'}, {'start': '3599.233', 'end': '3601.566', 'text': 'never late for appointments, never made promises and forgot. The'}, {'start': '3602.666', 'end': '3605.233', 'text': 'longer he worked, the more people loved him. It was'}, {'start': '3605.733', 'end': '3607.566', 'text': "n't because he always pleased others,"}, {'start': '3607.866', 'end': '3609.966', 'text': 'but because he knew how to keep his own space and'}, {'start': '3610.033', 'end': '3610.833', 'text': 'not intrude.'}, {'start': '3611.900', 'end': '3613.533', 'text': 'He was selfish with his personal time'}, {'start': '3613.900', 'end': '3616.300', 'text': 'and thanks to that, he became the most trustworthy person.'}, {'start': '3617.566', 'end': '3618.533', 'text': 'Trang Tu once wrote that'}, {'start': '3618.766', 'end': '3620.466', 'text': "fish living in water don't need AI to teach them to"}, {'start': '3620.533', 'end': '3622.033', 'text': 'swim. Trees growing in the forest'}, {'start': '3622.233', 'end': '3623.433', 'text': "don't need AI to teach them to stand up."}, {'start': '3624.333', 'end': '3627.700', 'text': 'BA means that whatever is right, just develop.'}, {'start': '3628.166', 'end': '3630.733', 'text': '4 Smart people live without trying to prove,'}, {'start': '3631.266', 'end': '3632.866', 'text': 'without trying to get involved in fun,'}, {'start': '3633.133', 'end': '3635.066', 'text': 'without needing to impress,'}, {'start': '3635.433', 'end': '3638.766', 'text': 'they just keep to themselves. 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AI also wants to be noticed,'}, {'start': '3744.966', 'end': '3746.500', 'text': 'but wise people do not run. Accordingly,'}, {'start': '3746.966', 'end': '3749.066', 'text': 'the two of them share selectively,'}, {'start': '3749.366', 'end': '3751.233', 'text': 'speak thoughtfully, and especially do'}, {'start': '3751.533', 'end': '3752.333', 'text': 'not let'}, {'start': '3752.333', 'end': '3754.466', 'text': 'temporary emotions push them away from what they believe.'}, {'start': '3754.966', 'end': '3757.366', 'text': 'BA they are selfish with privacy,'}, {'start': '3758.033', 'end': '3761.366', 'text': 'and it is that privacy that creates deep freedom. 4'}, {'start': '3762.033', 'end': '3763.466', 'text': 'I once asked a successful person'}, {'start': '3763.733', 'end': '3764.866', 'text': 'if he ever felt lonely'}, {'start': '3764.966', 'end': '3766.900', 'text': 'when keeping too much distance for himself.'}, {'start': '3767.966', 'end': '3769.766', 'text': 'He smiled lightly and said no,'}, {'start': '3770.366', 'end': '3772.566', 'text': 'because I choose solitude to be clear about my heart. The'}, {'start': '3773.733', 'end': '3774.966', 'text': 'noise'}, {'start': '3775.166', 'end': '3777.266', 'text': 'sometimes only makes people forget that they are AI,'}, {'start': '3778.033', 'end': '3779.333', 'text': 'but that answer'}, {'start': '3779.366', 'end': '3781.166', 'text': 'made me understand a deeper level of  The'}, {'start': '3781.266', 'end': '3781.700', 'text': 'selfishness'}, {'start': '3781.700', 'end': '3782.666', 'text': 'that wise people choose'}, {'start': '3783.233', 'end': '3785.233', 'text': 'is selfishness to avoid being swept away'}, {'start': '3786.466', 'end': '3789.233', 'text': 'and so wise people live without rushing to be close,'}, {'start': '3789.566', 'end': '3792.666', 'text': 'without trying to blend in with everyone, without spreading kindness. 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As'}, {'start': '3897.933', 'end': '3900.866', 'text': 'a result, she became stuck between factions,'}, {'start': '3901.133', 'end': '3902.466', 'text': 'no one really trusted her,'}, {'start': '3903.133', 'end': '3905.300', 'text': 'and she herself was extremely tired. 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It was'}, {'start': '3949.366', 'end': '3952.466', 'text': 'not that he was heartless, it was just that he understood the nature of'}, {'start': '3953.366', 'end': '3954.566', 'text': 'wise people who lived like that.'}, {'start': '3954.966', 'end': '3956.766', 'text': 'They did not forget to be careful because of love,'}, {'start': '3957.300', 'end': '3958.966', 'text': 'nor were they blinded by kindness.'}, {'start': '3959.733', 'end': '3962.100', 'text': 'They kept a certain limit for themselves,'}, {'start': '3962.133', 'end': '3962.933', 'text': 'a kind of selfishness'}, {'start': '3963.100', 'end': '3964.433', 'text': 'so as not to harm themselves'}, {'start': '3964.533', 'end': '3965.866', 'text': 'because of their lack of wisdom.'}, {'start': '3966.300', 'end': '3969.533', 'text': 'But in the workplace, there are people who endure, sacrifice, and'}, {'start': '3969.833', 'end': '3971.633', 'text': 'give in.'}, {'start': '3972.900', 'end': '3975.933', 'text': 'At first, they were praised for being gentle and devoted,'}, {'start': '3977.133', 'end': '3979.733', 'text': 'but over time, they became easy to command.'}, {'start': '3980.566', 'end': '3984.033', 'text': 'But meanwhile, those who dare to be straightforward, dare to respond,'}, {'start': '3984.500', 'end': '3986.100', 'text': 'dare to refuse if they find it unreasonable,'}, {'start': '3986.633', 'end': '3988.333', 'text': 'are considered to have their own opinions. The'}, {'start': '3989.333', 'end': '3991.700', 'text': 'four wise people are not afraid of being said to be difficult.'}, {'start': '3992.366', 'end': '3994.533', 'text': 'They are willing to offend to maintain their principles.'}, {'start': '3995.866', 'end': '3997.833', 'text': 'That selfishness does not isolate them,'}, {'start': '3998.066', 'end': '4000.766', 'text': 'but on the contrary, makes them trustworthy in the eyes of'}, {'start': '4000.833', 'end': '4001.633', 'text': 'those who understand that the'}, {'start': '4002.766', 'end': '4003.566', 'text': 'Buddha once said that'}, {'start': '4003.933', 'end': '4004.633', 'text': 'those who know how to keep their'}, {'start': '4004.633', 'end': '4007.366', 'text': 'precepts are more respectable than those who often preach the Dharma,'}, {'start': '4008.533', 'end': '4011.166', 'text': 'because keeping precepts is not for the sake of  fear but because of understanding'}, {'start': '4012.433', 'end': '4014.866', 'text': 'when we understand the value of inner peace'}, {'start': '4015.166', 'end': '4017.100', 'text': 'we will not let anything tarnish it'}, {'start': '4018.233', 'end': '4020.633', 'text': 'wise people live according to their moral principles'}, {'start': '4021.100', 'end': '4023.033', 'text': 'not for short-term benefits but'}, {'start': '4024.133', 'end': '4026.300', 'text': 'not for praise but for awareness'}, {'start': '4027.466', 'end': '4029.166', 'text': 'they are selfish keeping their mind'}, {'start': '4029.500', 'end': '4032.233', 'text': 'because they know the mind is the beginning and end of everything'}, {'start': '4034.533', 'end': '4036.900', 'text': 'Zhuge Liang in the whole story wrote lines full of sincerity'}, {'start': '4037.333', 'end': '4038.433', 'text': 'but also full of self-respect'}, {'start': '4039.633', 'end': '4042.666', 'text': 'he did not ask for glory HOA did not demand to be loved'}, {'start': '4043.733', 'end': '4046.333', 'text': "he only wanted to keep Chung Trinh's heart with the court"}, {'start': '4046.433', 'end': '4047.666', 'text': 'and his heart bright with the people he'}, {'start': '4048.833', 'end': '4050.333', 'text': 'wrote not to gain sympathy but'}, {'start': '4050.666', 'end': '4051.966', 'text': 'to affirm his position'}, {'start': '4053.233', 'end': '4055.366', 'text': 'some people think that it is an arrogant tone'}, {'start': '4056.566', 'end': '4057.700', 'text': 'but those who understand know that'}, {'start': '4057.933', 'end': '4059.966', 'text': 'it is the words of someone who does not want to be understood wrong'}, {'start': '4061.333', 'end': '4063.066', 'text': 'one form of selfishness of a gentleman'}, {'start': '4063.166', 'end': '4064.366', 'text': 'keep yourself pure'}, {'start': '4064.466', 'end': '4066.466', 'text': 'before worrying about WHO loves you or not'}, {'start': '4067.700', 'end': '4068.500', 'text': 'in the family'}, {'start': '4068.633', 'end': '4071.033', 'text': 'wise people are not patient to the point of losing their voice'}, {'start': '4071.566', 'end': '4073.533', 'text': 'they do not let family affection turn into a burden'}, {'start': '4074.300', 'end': '4077.033', 'text': 'but they are willing to remain silent to maintain peace'}, {'start': '4077.633', 'end': '4080.166', 'text': 'but are also willing to speak up when they see their reputation being'}, {'start': '4080.166', 'end': '4083.733', 'text': 'violated 4 they do not live for gentle compliments'}, {'start': '4084.166', 'end': '4087.900', 'text': 'but live for  each person in the family knows what is right and wrong,'}, {'start': '4088.133', 'end': '4090.433', 'text': 'those five selfishnesses do not make the family distant'}, {'start': '4090.700', 'end': '4092.933', 'text': 'but keep each relationship clear and'}, {'start': '4093.333', 'end': '4094.133', 'text': 'fair.'}, {'start': '4095.033', 'end': '4096.566', 'text': 'I once asked an elderly person'}, {'start': '4097.066', 'end': '4100.066', 'text': 'how he lived to keep such serenity. 6'}, {'start': '4100.633', 'end': '4101.433', 'text': 'he just answered'}, {'start': '4101.633', 'end': '4103.666', 'text': 'I do not interfere with things that do not belong to me'}, {'start': '4104.033', 'end': '4105.866', 'text': 'nor let anyone enter the quiet part of'}, {'start': '4105.933', 'end': '4106.533', 'text': 'my heart'}, {'start': '4106.533', 'end': '4107.466', 'text': 'if I am not ready.'}, {'start': '4108.833', 'end': '4110.266', 'text': 'That answer made me understand that'}, {'start': '4110.733', 'end': '4112.833', 'text': 'selfishness at the right time is not being distant'}, {'start': '4113.100', 'end': '4115.466', 'text': 'but the way people keep themselves. Give yourself a clean garden that is'}, {'start': '4115.900', 'end': '4117.866', 'text': "not trampled by people's hearts. Too"}, {'start': '4118.700', 'end': '4121.566', 'text': 'wise, so wise people are not afraid of being misunderstood.'}, {'start': '4122.166', 'end': '4123.900', 'text': 'They do not live for nods.'}, {'start': '4125.233', 'end': '4126.166', 'text': 'They live for what'}, {'start': '4126.233', 'end': '4128.033', 'text': 'makes them able to look straight at themselves'}, {'start': '4128.066', 'end': '4128.866', 'text': 'every night.'}, {'start': '4129.866', 'end': '4132.333', 'text': 'Their selfishness does not make them lose their humanity'}, {'start': '4132.700', 'end': '4135.066', 'text': 'but it is to preserve that humanity for a long time and'}, {'start': '4135.500', 'end': '4137.766', 'text': 'not be drained by others or by themselves.'}, {'start': '4138.633', 'end': '4140.566', 'text': 'But the deeper one goes into life,'}, {'start': '4140.966', 'end': '4142.233', 'text': 'the more one realizes that'}, {'start': '4142.500', 'end': '4144.933', 'text': 'what keeps us is not talent or relationships'}, {'start': '4145.433', 'end': '4147.033', 'text': 'but sobriety in the way we live.'}, {'start': '4147.866', 'end': '4149.333', 'text': '4 people live sobriety and'}, {'start': '4149.700', 'end': '4151.733', 'text': 'do not let anyone touch the limit of their value.'}, {'start': '4152.266', 'end': '4153.866', 'text': 'Do not rush.  Gold accepts all requests'}, {'start': '4154.266', 'end': '4155.566', 'text': 'without trading peace'}, {'start': '4155.700', 'end': '4157.100', 'text': 'to buy superficial fame,'}, {'start': '4157.166', 'end': '4158.933', 'text': 'that is the person who knows how to be selfish in the right way'}, {'start': '4160.133', 'end': '4161.733', 'text': 'and also because of knowing how to keep themselves like that,'}, {'start': '4162.166', 'end': '4163.933', 'text': 'they will be respected for a long time,'}, {'start': '4164.266', 'end': '4165.133', 'text': 'not just for a short time.'}, {'start': '4166.233', 'end': '4169.633', 'text': 'BA Khong Tu once said that a gentleman has THREE things to fear,'}, {'start': '4169.933', 'end': '4173.633', 'text': 'fear the will of heaven, fear the wise and fear his own words, the'}, {'start': '4174.233', 'end': '4175.733', 'text': 'last sentence is especially profound.'}, {'start': '4176.700', 'end': '4178.033', 'text': 'BA is afraid of what he says,'}, {'start': '4178.300', 'end': '4180.133', 'text': 'meaning knowing how to consider before speaking,'}, {'start': '4180.466', 'end': '4181.900', 'text': 'knowing how to be careful before making promises,'}, {'start': '4182.166', 'end': '4182.466', 'text': 'knowing'}, {'start': '4182.466', 'end': '4184.733', 'text': 'how to take responsibility for each thing he has affirmed.'}, {'start': '4185.666', 'end': '4188.533', 'text': '4 wise people do not make random promises, do not speak to please,'}, {'start': '4188.966', 'end': '4190.733', 'text': 'do not live for temporary praise. 5'}, {'start': '4191.266', 'end': '4192.866', 'text': 'they are selfish'}, {'start': '4193.300', 'end': '4195.466', 'text': 'because they know the value of words and honor.'}, {'start': '4195.700', 'end': '4199.900', 'text': '6 they keep themselves like keeping a mirror. If it breaks once, even if it is'}, {'start': '4200.266', 'end': '4202.066', 'text': 'glued back together, it will not be intact.'}, {'start': '4203.233', 'end': '4204.766', 'text': 'There is a person I used to work with'}, {'start': '4205.166', 'end': '4206.766', 'text': 'who is famous for being difficult to approach.'}, {'start': '4207.666', 'end': '4209.300', 'text': 'One does not attend parties, does'}, {'start': '4209.700', 'end': '4212.266', 'text': 'not laugh much, does not talk privately during work hours,'}, {'start': '4213.466', 'end': '4217.133', 'text': 'but every time there is a complicated project, everyone nominates him.'}, {'start': '4217.566', 'end': '4218.833', 'text': '2 for STARS'}, {'start': '4219.300', 'end': '4221.733', 'text': 'because he does not get caught up in emotional relationships.'}, {'start': '4222.333', 'end': '4224.733', 'text': 'BA does not respect because of closeness'}, {'start': '4225.266', 'end': '4227.633', 'text': '.  Because of social etiquette, they are easy-going. 4 of'}, {'start': '4228.233', 'end': '4229.166', 'text': 'them live clearly'}, {'start': '4229.700', 'end': '4232.833', 'text': 'and thanks to that, others feel secure when assigning work.'}, {'start': '4234.033', 'end': '4235.466', 'text': 'Their selfishness'}, {'start': '4235.700', 'end': '4238.466', 'text': 'turns out to be a manifestation of trustworthiness. Cao Doi'}, {'start': '4239.766', 'end': '4242.033', 'text': 'Trang Tu tells that there was a person who wanted to learn to swim, so he'}, {'start': '4242.333', 'end': '4243.900', 'text': 'went to a good teacher,'}, {'start': '4245.166', 'end': '4246.700', 'text': 'but the teacher did not let him go into the water right away,'}, {'start': '4247.033', 'end': '4248.966', 'text': 'but started by learning to hold his breath.'}, {'start': '4250.166', 'end': '4251.666', 'text': 'When the student was impatient, the'}, {'start': '4251.933', 'end': '4254.766', 'text': 'teacher said that if he wanted to surface, he had to know when to dive'}, {'start': '4255.233', 'end': '4257.500', 'text': 'down. Three wise people in life are the same.'}, {'start': '4258.100', 'end': '4260.466', 'text': 'They do not try to show themselves in every situation. They do'}, {'start': '4261.766', 'end': '4263.566', 'text': 'not speak up in every conversation. They do'}, {'start': '4264.033', 'end': '4265.633', 'text': 'not stand out in every meeting.'}, {'start': '4266.666', 'end': '4267.866', 'text': 'But when they appear,'}, {'start': '4268.233', 'end': '4270.533', 'text': 'their words will be heavier than many others combined.'}, {'start': '4271.433', 'end': '4273.633', 'text': 'But they are selfish with their presence'}, {'start': '4274.166', 'end': '4276.766', 'text': 'because they understand that the rarer something is, the more precious it is.'}, {'start': '4278.100', 'end': '4280.300', 'text': 'Lao Tzu teaches that knowing how to retreat is to advance.'}, {'start': '4280.833', 'end': '4284.266', 'text': 'People are often afraid of falling behind, losing, and being forgotten.'}, {'start': '4285.466', 'end': '4286.700', 'text': 'But wise people know'}, {'start': '4286.833', 'end': '4288.633', 'text': 'when to step back to observe, to'}, {'start': '4288.966', 'end': '4291.833', 'text': 'prepare, so that oxygen will help them go further.'}, {'start': '4293.166', 'end': '4295.933', 'text': 'They do not need to rush, do not need to measure each step.'}, {'start': '4297.233', 'end': '4299.166', 'text': 'They do not run. Following the immediate halo,'}, {'start': '4299.633', 'end': '4301.533', 'text': 'they are selfish to preserve their direction'}, {'start': '4302.766', 'end': '4306.333', 'text': 'and it is thanks to thrift.  That regime, they maintain the endurance that few'}, {'start': '4306.333', 'end': '4307.133', 'text': 'people have.'}, {'start': '4308.133', 'end': '4308.733', 'text': 'Buddha'}, {'start': '4308.733', 'end': '4311.566', 'text': 'Shakyamuni once sat quietly under the Bodhi tree for 49 days'}, {'start': '4312.866', 'end': '4316.366', 'text': 'without preaching, without persuading, without trying to save anyone.'}, {'start': '4317.166', 'end': '4321.100', 'text': "One only quietly observes one's mind when the mind is at peace. Wisdom is born."}, {'start': '4321.633', 'end': '4323.166', 'text': 'Wise people understand this very clearly.'}, {'start': '4323.766', 'end': '4326.333', 'text': '2. They know how to take time to be alone'}, {'start': '4326.633', 'end': '4327.700', 'text': 'to listen to their inner self'}, {'start': '4328.100', 'end': '4331.033', 'text': 'to see if what they are doing is still appropriate. 3. But'}, {'start': '4331.466', 'end': '4333.033', 'text': 'they are selfish with the quiet'}, {'start': '4333.533', 'end': '4335.533', 'text': 'because they know that if the mind is still agitated,'}, {'start': '4335.766', 'end': '4337.266', 'text': 'all decisions are easily deviated, and the'}, {'start': '4338.300', 'end': '4339.833', 'text': 'person who makes the wrong decision will'}, {'start': '4340.166', 'end': '4342.233', 'text': 'sooner or later suffer the consequences.'}, {'start': '4343.533', 'end': '4345.966', 'text': 'Some people say that living like that will be a disadvantage,'}, {'start': '4346.533', 'end': '4348.700', 'text': 'but in fact, wise people do not need to be fast.'}, {'start': '4349.533', 'end': '4351.466', 'text': '4. They choose each step carefully. They'}, {'start': '4351.866', 'end': '4354.633', 'text': 'refuse to do things that are not worthy. 5. They do'}, {'start': '4354.866', 'end': '4356.566', 'text': 'not invest in relationships'}, {'start': '4356.666', 'end': '4358.033', 'text': 'just to get recognition.'}, {'start': '4358.633', 'end': '4361.333', 'text': '6. They do not rush into flashy projects'}, {'start': '4361.466', 'end': '4362.766', 'text': 'if it harms the time'}, {'start': '4362.966', 'end': '4364.166', 'text': 'spent on family or health.'}, {'start': '4364.833', 'end': '4367.933', 'text': '7. BA. They are selfish to preserve what is truly important'}, {'start': '4369.333', 'end': '4370.500', 'text': 'and then after a while'}, {'start': '4371.133', 'end': '4371.933', 'text': 'they are the only ones who are'}, {'start': '4372.066', 'end': '4374.066', 'text': 'still standing among those who have run tired,'}, {'start': '4374.333', 'end': '4375.900', 'text': 'fallen, and retreated.'}, {'start': '4377.133', 'end': '4378.833', 'text': 'Ra Cat Luong in his later years.  Even though exhausted in life, he'}, {'start': '4380.233', 'end': '4382.433', 'text': 'still chooses only a few things to handle personally.'}, {'start': '4383.733', 'end': '4386.466', 'text': 'The rest he assigns to the right person at the right time.'}, {'start': '4387.866', 'end': '4390.333', 'text': "He doesn't take on everything."}, {'start': '4391.666', 'end': '4393.833', 'text': "He doesn't try to do everything. He understands that the person who takes on the burden for a long time is"}, {'start': '4393.966', 'end': '4395.066', 'text': 'not the one who does the most,'}, {'start': '4395.533', 'end': '4397.466', 'text': 'but the one who knows how to save his strength, knows how to organize,'}, {'start': '4397.733', 'end': '4399.300', 'text': 'knows how to refuse unnecessary tasks.'}, {'start': '4400.633', 'end': '4401.433', 'text': 'He is selfish so'}, {'start': '4401.766', 'end': '4404.166', 'text': 'that he can devote all his energy to the most important thing, the'}, {'start': '4404.500', 'end': '4406.333', 'text': 'survival of the Shu Han Dynasty.'}, {'start': '4407.633', 'end': '4409.766', 'text': 'I once read a sentence in an old book.'}, {'start': '4410.266', 'end': '4411.900', 'text': 'Be selfish with your life'}, {'start': '4412.066', 'end': '4414.300', 'text': 'like a keeper of a fire in a stormy night.'}, {'start': '4415.633', 'end': '4418.933', 'text': 'That sentence made me silent because a fire that is not protected will'}, {'start': '4419.300', 'end': '4420.266', 'text': 'sooner or later go out.'}, {'start': '4426.033', 'end': '4428.766', 'text': 'A person who lives without protecting himself is easily pulled by many winds. A wise person protects himself not because he is arrogant'}, {'start': '4429.900', 'end': '4431.066', 'text': 'but because he has seen'}, {'start': '4431.166', 'end': '4433.733', 'text': "too many people fall when trying to run. Follow people's hearts"}, {'start': '4433.766', 'end': '4435.933', 'text': 'instead of keeping his own. And'}, {'start': '4436.500', 'end': '4439.166', 'text': 'so, being selfish is not giving up on others'}, {'start': '4439.433', 'end': '4441.566', 'text': 'but keeping your roots. Keeping them'}, {'start': '4441.933', 'end': '4442.900', 'text': 'strong so that you can still'}, {'start': '4443.333', 'end': '4446.233', 'text': 'keep them. Giving at the right time, place, and person. A'}, {'start': '4447.633', 'end': '4450.266', 'text': 'wise person lives like that so he is never exhausted. He is'}, {'start': '4451.466', 'end': '4453.233', 'text': 'never tired enough to give up.'}, {'start': '4453.733', 'end': '4455.366', 'text': 'ever get lost in the crowd'}, {'start': '4455.966', 'end': '4457.566', 'text': "and that's why"}, {'start': '4457.900', 'end': '4459.166', 'text': 'they are the ones sought after'}, {'start': '4459.166', 'end': '4460.666', 'text': 'when all other options have'}, {'start': '4460.766', 'end': '4461.566', 'text': 'failed 7'}, {'start': '4462.866', 'end': '4464.900', 'text': 'we have gone together through 14 parts'}, {'start': '4465.233', 'end': '4467.433', 'text': 'touching the deepest levels of a controversial paradox the'}, {'start': '4468.733', 'end': '4470.933', 'text': 'more selfish a wise person is the more respected'}, {'start': '4472.166', 'end': '4474.266', 'text': 'and now when entering the final part'}, {'start': '4474.666', 'end': '4478.633', 'text': 'maybe we should ask ourselves what the word selfishness is'}, {'start': '4479.733', 'end': '4481.866', 'text': 'and why people who know how to live and keep themselves'}, {'start': '4482.166', 'end': '4484.633', 'text': 'from losing themselves because of pleasing the world'}, {'start': '4485.066', 'end': '4486.900', 'text': 'become people with a solid position'}, {'start': '4486.966', 'end': '4487.766', 'text': 'in society'}, {'start': '4488.833', 'end': '4490.933', 'text': 'Confucius once said a sentence that seemed very light'}, {'start': '4491.266', 'end': '4494.233', 'text': 'self-cultivation, family management, country governance, and world peace'}, {'start': '4494.766', 'end': '4496.066', 'text': 'but he put self-cultivation first, which'}, {'start': '4496.900', 'end': '4497.866', 'text': 'means'}, {'start': '4497.866', 'end': '4500.033', 'text': 'before doing anything useful for others'}, {'start': '4500.266', 'end': '4502.033', 'text': 'we must know how to keep ourselves upright and clear-'}, {'start': '4502.433', 'end': '4503.233', 'text': 'headed'}, {'start': '4504.233', 'end': '4506.966', 'text': 'without self-cultivation everything behind is just superficial'}, {'start': '4507.566', 'end': '4508.700', 'text': 'wise people understand that'}, {'start': '4509.566', 'end': '4512.500', 'text': '4 they are not absorbed in finding ways to please others but focus on'}, {'start': '4512.933', 'end': '4514.900', 'text': 'training themselves'}, {'start': '4515.433', 'end': '4516.966', 'text': '5 they are selfish'}, {'start': '4517.466', 'end': '4520.133', 'text': 'but that is the fundamental selfishness to be able to live right,'}, {'start': '4520.533', 'end': '4521.866', 'text': 'live kindly and live long'}, {'start': '4522.333', 'end': '4524.233', 'text': '6 BA has a strange thing'}, {'start': '4524.333', 'end': '4526.766', 'text': 'are people who are always busy taking care of the world, but are'}, {'start': '4527.066', 'end': '4528.433', 'text': 'often the ones who are 7 vain'}, {'start': '4529.700', 'end': '4532.533', 'text': 'because they give too much without receiving as expected.'}, {'start': '4533.333', 'end': '4535.933', 'text': 'One, they trade themselves to keep the peace,'}, {'start': '4536.300', 'end': '4538.633', 'text': 'to be loved, to not be hated.'}, {'start': '4539.100', 'end': '4541.100', 'text': 'Two, but wise people are different.'}, {'start': '4541.466', 'end': '4544.333', 'text': 'They give when they see the need, keep when they see it is not worth it. Three,'}, {'start': '4544.933', 'end': '4547.333', 'text': 'they do not participate in every story,'}, {'start': '4547.866', 'end': '4549.100', 'text': 'do not appear at every event,'}, {'start': '4549.566', 'end': '4551.066', 'text': 'are not the center of every discussion.'}, {'start': '4551.366', 'end': '4554.266', 'text': 'Four, but they are the ones who are remembered for a long time and'}, {'start': '4554.700', 'end': '4556.466', 'text': 'respected without needing to show off.'}, {'start': '4557.833', 'end': '4560.100', 'text': 'Trang Tu taught that people who follow nature'}, {'start': '4560.433', 'end': '4561.266', 'text': 'without forcing'}, {'start': '4561.566', 'end': '4562.900', 'text': 'will leisurely reach their destination.'}, {'start': '4564.733', 'end': '4567.133', 'text': 'That leisurely is not because the outside world is gentle,'}, {'start': '4567.500', 'end': '4569.166', 'text': "but because that person's inner self is steadfast."}, {'start': '4570.533', 'end': '4572.100', 'text': 'They are not swept away by expectations,'}, {'start': '4572.333', 'end': '4573.966', 'text': 'do not drift away by praise or criticism,'}, {'start': '4574.233', 'end': '4576.166', 'text': 'do not lose their essence because of the fusion. 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If you step into power,'}, {'start': '4599.333', 'end': '4600.733', 'text': 'your mind will hardly be calm.'}, {'start': '4601.633', 'end': '4603.633', 'text': 'Even though you can save more people,'}, {'start': '4603.966', 'end': '4606.166', 'text': 'if you exchange it with losing yourself, it'}, {'start': '4606.500', 'end': '4607.466', 'text': 'turns out to be wrong.'}, {'start': '4607.933', 'end': '4611.166', 'text': '4. Wise people have the right to refuse even great things'}, {'start': '4611.633', 'end': '4613.433', 'text': 'if it does not fit their path.'}, {'start': '4620.533', 'end': '4622.300', 'text': 'I once met an old man who'}, {'start': '4622.833', 'end': '4624.866', 'text': 'lived alone in a small house in the suburbs.'}, {'start': '4625.366', 'end': '4627.066', 'text': 'He used to be the director of a large company,'}, {'start': '4628.133', 'end': '4631.633', 'text': 'but when he retired, he chose a simple life, not noisy,'}, {'start': '4631.966', 'end': '4633.900', 'text': 'not participating in nostalgic parties.'}, {'start': '4635.100', 'end': '4637.833', 'text': 'People asked him if he was sad, he just smiled and said, "'}, {'start': '4638.233', 'end': '4639.666', 'text': 'When I lived in the middle of meetings,'}, {'start': '4639.866', 'end': '4642.300', 'text': 'I kept a quiet space for myself.'}, {'start': '4642.666', 'end': '4644.166', 'text': 'Now that I live alone,'}, {'start': '4644.633', 'end': '4646.066', 'text': 'I keep a bright space for myself."'}, {'start': '4647.066', 'end': '4649.300', 'text': '4. He was not as rich as his contemporaries,'}, {'start': '4649.700', 'end': '4650.666', 'text': 'but the serenity'}, {'start': '4650.733', 'end': '4652.633', 'text': 'in his eyes made anyone who met him admire him. 5.'}, {'start': '4653.100', 'end': '4656.566', 'text': 'His selfishness was not about keeping wealth'}, {'start': '4657.166', 'end': '4658.500', 'text': 'but about the integrity of his heart.'}, {'start': '4659.033', 'end': '4662.166', 'text': '6. Zhuge Liang spent his whole life not caring about fame and fortune,'}, {'start': '4662.433', 'end': '4663.366', 'text': 'not accepting large rewards,'}, {'start': '4663.633', 'end': '4665.100', 'text': 'not building ostentatious tombs.'}, {'start': '4665.433', 'end': '4668.500', 'text': '7. He did not let anything overwhelm his ideals.'}, {'start': '4668.566', 'end': '4669.533', 'text': 'Serving justice,'}, {'start': '4670.866', 'end': '4671.933', 'text': 'even when he was seriously ill,'}, {'start': '4672.166', 'end': '4673.966', 'text': 'he was determined to continue.  Fighting'}, {'start': '4674.500', 'end': '4676.900', 'text': 'but not for pride but because he understood that'}, {'start': '4677.300', 'end': '4680.433', 'text': 'only he was sober enough to hold the situation at that time'}, {'start': '4681.266', 'end': '4684.266', 'text': '4 he lived fully without excess or lack of'}, {'start': '4684.833', 'end': '4686.933', 'text': 'selfishness that is the quality of a person who'}, {'start': '4686.966', 'end': '4688.533', 'text': 'knows clearly what he is living for'}, {'start': '4689.066', 'end': '4691.066', 'text': 'and never lets anything else get'}, {'start': '4691.533', 'end': '4693.266', 'text': 'in. In the modern world,'}, {'start': '4693.666', 'end': '4695.366', 'text': 'wise people also have that quality'}, {'start': '4695.866', 'end': '4698.333', 'text': '6 they do not need to be the most outstanding person,'}, {'start': '4698.833', 'end': '4700.366', 'text': 'they just need to be the most timely person'}, {'start': '4701.300', 'end': '4703.033', 'text': 'BA not everyone understands them'}, {'start': '4703.433', 'end': '4704.766', 'text': 'but everyone who has cooperated with them or'}, {'start': '4705.100', 'end': '4707.300', 'text': 'listened to them will remember forever'}, {'start': '4708.533', 'end': '4709.533', 'text': 'because'}, {'start': '4709.900', 'end': '4712.766', 'text': 'that sobriety, principles and temperament are not easy to have. 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