¿Cómo elegir a la pareja correcta?
Psicólogo Esteban Carvajal. MPsc.
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In addition, we will discuss'}, {'start': '26.240', 'end': '31.519', 'text': 'many other topics of social and'}, {'start': '28.160', 'end': '33.920', 'text': 'personal interest, as Silvia says, starting'}, {'start': '31.519', 'end': '37.920', 'text': 'now on'}, {'start': '33.920', 'end': '37.920', 'text': 'Telvia Blanco.'}, {'start': '41.559', 'end': '46.680', 'text': 'Hello, hello, hello, hello.  How are you?'}, {'start': '43.680', 'end': '49.440', 'text': 'Hello, good evening, and welcome to'}, {'start': '46.680', 'end': '51.680', 'text': "As Silvia Says, it's 9 p.m."}, {'start': '49.440', 'end': '56.520', 'text': "and we're starting our show today,"}, {'start': '51.680', 'end': '59.000', 'text': "Wednesday, with a great song.  I'm running"}, {'start': '56.520', 'end': '61.719', 'text': 'because I forgot'}, {'start': '59.000', 'end': '64.839', 'text': 'something important to'}, {'start': '61.719', 'end': '67.320', 'text': "start the program, but I'm here"}, {'start': '64.839', 'end': '69.799', 'text': 'to talk about something.  Look, this'}, {'start': '67.320', 'end': '72.920', 'text': 'program is that yes, yes, after the'}, {'start': '69.799', 'end': '74.280', 'text': 'program,'}, {'start': '72.920', 'end': '77.799', 'text': 'the'}, {'start': '74.280', 'end': '80.360', 'text': 'question then and how to do it is a little clearer to me.'}, {'start': '77.799', 'end': '82.159', 'text': "Well, I'm leaving happy, happy, happy.  Today"}, {'start': '80.360', 'end': '84.600', 'text': "we're going to talk with my dear Esteban"}, {'start': '82.159', 'end': '88.960', 'text': 'Carvajal, a clinical and'}, {'start': '84.600', 'end': '90.280', 'text': 'health psychologist, about how to choose.  Listen, how to'}, {'start': '88.960', 'end': '91.400', 'text': "choose, we're not talking about how to"}, {'start': '90.280', 'end': '93.040', 'text': 'find, because if it were how to'}, {'start': '91.400', 'end': '96.759', 'text': 'find it, it would already be there, I mean, we would have the'}, {'start': '93.040', 'end': '100.240', 'text': 'poima, the magic.  How to choose the'}, {'start': '96.759', 'end': '103.360', 'text': 'right partner?  Well, sometimes it seems'}, {'start': '100.240', 'end': '104.920', 'text': 'like it should be easier if'}, {'start': '103.360', 'end': '107.200', 'text': 'we know what we want, if'}, {'start': '104.920', 'end': '109.079', 'text': 'we are more or less clear about'}, {'start': '107.200', 'end': '110.280', 'text': "what we like and what we don't"}, {'start': '109.079', 'end': '112.719', 'text': 'like.'}, {'start': '110.280', 'end': '114.640', 'text': 'Uh, how to choose it should be something'}, {'start': '112.719', 'end': '117.799', 'text': 'simple, but the truth, the truth is'}, {'start': '114.640', 'end': '121.520', 'text': 'that sometimes in matters of uh emotions of the'}, {'start': '117.799', 'end': '123.399', 'text': "heart, of feelings, it's"}, {'start': '121.520', 'end': '126.399', 'text': 'like something gets disconnected at some'}, {'start': '123.399', 'end': '128.319', 'text': "point.  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Uh, and well,"}, {'start': '186.200', 'end': '190.760', 'text': 'and on all the pages uh that are associated'}, {'start': '188.440', 'end': '192.599', 'text': 'at this time, such as'}, {'start': '190.760', 'end': '194.840', 'text': "Esteban Carvajal's page, Silvia"}, {'start': '192.599', 'end': '197.080', 'text': "Blanco's page, Silvia Blanco's profile, the"}, {'start': '194.840', 'end': '200.000', 'text': 'page as Silvia says, on all the'}, {'start': '197.080', 'end': '202.040', 'text': 'pages the program is posted'}, {'start': '200.000', 'end': '203.599', 'text': "so that you can see it.  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We'll"}, {'start': '216.640', 'end': '223.120', 'text': 'be back.'}, {'start': '217.940', 'end': '225.799', 'text': '[Music]'}, {'start': '223.120', 'end': '228.799', 'text': "As Silvia says, we take a break and we'll be right"}, {'start': '225.799', 'end': '228.799', 'text': 'back.'}, {'start': '230.840', 'end': '235.280', 'text': 'The Teletica universe is Teletica channel'}, {'start': '234.000', 'end': '239.400', 'text': '7.'}, {'start': '235.280', 'end': '243.159', 'text': 'Teletica.com, TD más and Teletica Radio'}, {'start': '239.400', 'end': '247.720', 'text': '91.5 FM.  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The vast majority of José'}, {'start': '347.600', 'end': '352.080', 'text': 'María Figuer and I include myself, I take a step'}, {'start': '350.520', 'end': '354.800', 'text': 'forward, Rodrigo Chávez as a'}, {'start': '352.080', 'end': '357.360', 'text': 'Costa Rican, both will be face to'}, {'start': '354.800', 'end': '361.479', 'text': 'face before the second round of'}, {'start': '357.360', 'end': '364.639', 'text': 'elections, the debate leading up to the 2022 vote'}, {'start': '361.479', 'end': '367.120', 'text': 'this Thursday, March 31, 8 p.m.'}, {'start': '364.639', 'end': '371.080', 'text': 'on Teletica Channel 7,'}, {'start': '367.120', 'end': '375.000', 'text': 'teletica.com, Expertt and Teletica, Radio'}, {'start': '371.080', 'end': '375.000', 'text': '91.5 FM.'}, {'start': '375.039', 'end': '384.520', 'text': 'We continue talking, as Silvia says'}, {'start': '378.720', 'end': '384.520', 'text': 'on Teletica Radio at 915 FM.'}, {'start': '385.039', 'end': '391.599', 'text': "Okay, and now we're ready to"}, {'start': '387.880', 'end': '395.360', 'text': 'develop the topic so that we can'}, {'start': '391.599', 'end': '397.639', 'text': 'see, I think that there are'}, {'start': '395.360', 'end': '400.319', 'text': 'decisions in life where there are'}, {'start': '397.639', 'end': '405.000', 'text': 'moments where we say, "We don\'t want to'}, {'start': '400.319', 'end': '407.120', 'text': "have a partner, I don't feel like I have"}, {'start': '405.000', 'end': '409.240', 'text': "desires right now, I'm not"}, {'start': '407.120', 'end': '411.039', 'text': 'ready, I\'m not ready."'}, {'start': '409.240', 'end': '413.240', 'text': 'Eh, but what is a fact is that'}, {'start': '411.039', 'end': '415.800', 'text': 'when we are in the desire to'}, {'start': '413.240', 'end': '418.319', 'text': 'have someone with whom to share eh'}, {'start': '415.800', 'end': '421.319', 'text': 'our life, our interests, eh'}, {'start': '418.319', 'end': '424.960', 'text': 'our tastes, our passions, eh,'}, {'start': '421.319', 'end': '428.759', 'text': 'well we want to have a good partner,'}, {'start': '424.960', 'end': '432.840', 'text': "that is, a partner who doesn't end up"}, {'start': '428.759', 'end': '435.440', 'text': 'destabilizing my life,'}, {'start': '432.840', 'end': '437.639', 'text': 'complicating it, making everything'}, {'start': '435.440', 'end': '440.240', 'text': 'much more difficult, right?'}, {'start': '437.639', 'end': '442.960', 'text': 'But what we commonly hear many times is'}, {'start': '440.240', 'end': '446.039', 'text': 'someone who adds, someone'}, {'start': '442.960', 'end': '449.080', 'text': 'who contributes, someone who comes to'}, {'start': '446.039', 'end': '452.800', 'text': 'add to what I already have as a'}, {'start': '449.080', 'end': '455.680', 'text': 'person, as a professional, uh uh to'}, {'start': '452.800', 'end': '457.440', 'text': 'my family, we all become a good'}, {'start': '455.680', 'end': '460.960', 'text': "team, right?  So that's a"}, {'start': '457.440', 'end': '463.919', 'text': "correct pairing, I'd say.  But"}, {'start': '460.960', 'end': '467.039', 'text': 'why is it so hard for us, when'}, {'start': '463.919', 'end': '469.759', 'text': "we're in the pool, to sort of"}, {'start': '467.039', 'end': '471.960', 'text': 'grab the right fish'}, {'start': '469.759', 'end': '475.560', 'text': "to swim with me?  I mean, it's kind of"}, {'start': '471.960', 'end': '478.440', 'text': "strange, right, Esteban?  That's right,"}, {'start': '475.560', 'end': '480.960', 'text': "Silvia.  Well, there's no recipe"}, {'start': '478.440', 'end': '483.759', 'text': 'that can tell us who'}, {'start': '480.960', 'end': '485.479', 'text': 'the ideal person for our life will be,'}, {'start': '483.759', 'end': '487.960', 'text': 'but there are a series of parameters that'}, {'start': '485.479', 'end': '491.360', 'text': 'we can consider to'}, {'start': '487.960', 'end': '493.120', 'text': 'somehow smooth out that choice a little'}, {'start': '491.360', 'end': '495.240', 'text': ', right?  And that search that'}, {'start': '493.120', 'end': '497.440', 'text': 'we always have for a partner, right?'}, {'start': '495.240', 'end': '500.280', 'text': 'And sometimes we ask ourselves questions'}, {'start': '497.440', 'end': '503.960', 'text': 'like, is this the right person?   Will'}, {'start': '500.280', 'end': '506.120', 'text': 'my family or friends like it?'}, {'start': '503.960', 'end': '508.400', 'text': 'Either the right man or woman'}, {'start': '506.120', 'end': '510.400', 'text': 'for me or the ideal person exists.  Well,'}, {'start': '508.400', 'end': '512.279', 'text': "obviously, I think we haven't asked all of these questions"}, {'start': '510.400', 'end': '514.320', 'text': 'at some point in our'}, {'start': '512.279', 'end': '515.719', 'text': 'lives, and'}, {'start': '514.320', 'end': '518.640', 'text': "well, we're here to"}, {'start': '515.719', 'end': '521.039', 'text': 'somehow give you some guidelines to'}, {'start': '518.640', 'end': '524.000', 'text': 'help you.  And I was doing'}, {'start': '521.039', 'end': '526.600', 'text': 'a research there to'}, {'start': '524.000', 'end': '529.160', 'text': 'prepare for the program and I saw'}, {'start': '526.600', 'end': '530.720', 'text': 'a very interesting study'}, {'start': '529.160', 'end': '532.160', 'text': 'that a group of researchers'}, {'start': '530.720', 'end': '534.920', 'text': 'from the University of Montpelier in'}, {'start': '532.160', 'end': '537.839', 'text': "France did about what were, let's say,"}, {'start': '534.920', 'end': '540.279', 'text': 'the most common traits that perhaps'}, {'start': '537.839', 'end': '543.160', 'text': "could be given, let's say, so that the person"}, {'start': '540.279', 'end': '545.680', 'text': "could find a person, let's say, I do"}, {'start': '543.160', 'end': '547.800', 'text': "n't know if ideal, but perhaps correct"}, {'start': '545.680', 'end': '549.440', 'text': 'and that has in some way, well, all'}, {'start': '547.800', 'end': '551.560', 'text': 'the characteristics or some of the'}, {'start': '549.440', 'end': '554.440', 'text': 'characteristics that people are'}, {'start': '551.560', 'end': '557.040', 'text': 'looking for, right?  And well, and these'}, {'start': '554.440', 'end': '558.800', 'text': 'researchers, well, they discovered in'}, {'start': '557.040', 'end': '561.360', 'text': 'all the research they carried out'}, {'start': '558.800', 'end': '563.959', 'text': 'with various people, a series of'}, {'start': '561.360', 'end': '566.320', 'text': 'guidelines, right? In some way, that we'}, {'start': '563.959', 'end': '569.760', 'text': 'have to consider when'}, {'start': '566.320', 'end': '573.800', 'text': 'choosing a person, exactly.  Choose.'}, {'start': '569.760', 'end': '575.880', 'text': 'Okay.  And and and they are guidelines that we have'}, {'start': '573.800', 'end': '579.320', 'text': 'as clear and they get confused at the'}, {'start': '575.880', 'end': '581.480', 'text': 'moment or how it is.'}, {'start': '579.320', 'end': '583.760', 'text': 'Exactly, because I remember, Silvia, in'}, {'start': '581.480', 'end': '585.839', 'text': 'other programs that well,'}, {'start': '583.760', 'end': '587.160', 'text': 'when we fall in love,'}, {'start': '585.839', 'end': '589.240', 'text': 'when we like a person, well in'}, {'start': '587.160', 'end': '591.360', 'text': 'some way we'}, {'start': '589.240', 'end': '594.079', 'text': 'become, so to speak, foolish, right?  Because'}, {'start': '591.360', 'end': '595.839', 'text': 'a series of brain chemicals are secreted,'}, {'start': '594.079', 'end': '598.040', 'text': 'right?, in our body that'}, {'start': '595.839', 'end': '599.399', 'text': 'obviously make us, in some'}, {'start': '598.040', 'end': '601.920', 'text': 'way, do things we never'}, {'start': '599.399', 'end': '603.880', 'text': 'thought we would do.  Those of us who were'}, {'start': '601.920', 'end': '606.000', 'text': 'very strong, well, we ended up crying,'}, {'start': '603.880', 'end': '608.680', 'text': 'right?  And somehow those of us who'}, {'start': '606.000', 'end': '610.640', 'text': 'also say, "I\'m never'}, {'start': '608.680', 'end': '612.600', 'text': "going to get into that, I'm going to do this or"}, {'start': '610.640', 'end': '614.399', 'text': 'that thing," well, we end up doing it,'}, {'start': '612.600', 'end': '616.200', 'text': 'right?  So, somehow, even'}, {'start': '614.399', 'end': '619.040', 'text': 'the most steadfast person somehow'}, {'start': '616.200', 'end': '622.279', 'text': "bends.  We've already seen that"}, {'start': '619.040', 'end': '623.839', 'text': 'empires have been destroyed for love,'}, {'start': '622.279', 'end': '627.120', 'text': 'right?  and many other things have been'}, {'start': '623.839', 'end': '629.680', 'text': 'lost, fortunes, in search of'}, {'start': '627.120', 'end': '631.600', 'text': 'love.  So, obviously,'}, {'start': '629.680', 'end': '633.440', 'text': 'Silvia, we see these guidelines or'}, {'start': '631.600', 'end': '634.839', 'text': 'we see these signs, but'}, {'start': '633.440', 'end': '636.639', 'text': 'somehow, as we always'}, {'start': '634.839', 'end': '638.160', 'text': 'say, we ignore them because'}, {'start': '636.639', 'end': '640.200', 'text': 'these chemicals are precisely'}, {'start': '638.160', 'end': '642.519', 'text': 'doing a series of mischief in'}, {'start': '640.200', 'end': '644.639', 'text': 'us and obviously we are not'}, {'start': '642.519', 'end': '647.600', 'text': 'interested in anything other than being with that'}, {'start': '644.639', 'end': '650.920', 'text': 'person and enjoying ourselves and having a good time.   They do'}, {'start': '647.600', 'end': '653.720', 'text': "n't play like they're playing one on us,"}, {'start': '650.920', 'end': '655.240', 'text': "and I'm not going to say it's a dirty trick,"}, {'start': '653.720', 'end': '662.120', 'text': 'right?  But I think that in some'}, {'start': '655.240', 'end': '664.959', 'text': 'way, uh, we sort of blind ourselves, we,'}, {'start': '662.120', 'end': '666.639', 'text': 'uh, Walter Rizo talks about this stage'}, {'start': '664.959', 'end': '668.800', 'text': 'of falling in love in a way in which'}, {'start': '666.639', 'end': '671.240', 'text': 'he says that all these'}, {'start': '668.800', 'end': '674.200', 'text': 'signs and all these things are'}, {'start': '671.240', 'end': '678.959', 'text': "clear to us from the beginning, I mean, they're"}, {'start': '674.200', 'end': '681.680', 'text': "there, they're there, it's just that we sort of"}, {'start': '678.959', 'end': '684.160', 'text': 'stop giving them importance or we'}, {'start': '681.680', 'end': '686.880', 'text': 'stop paying attention to them.'}, {'start': '684.160', 'end': '689.200', 'text': 'eh because we are always under the illusion'}, {'start': '686.880', 'end': '690.920', 'text': 'that something is going to change.  But then,'}, {'start': '689.200', 'end': '693.639', 'text': "if we're going to make a good choice of"}, {'start': '690.920', 'end': '697.160', 'text': "partner, uh, what could be, let's say,"}, {'start': '693.639', 'end': '699.519', 'text': 'these these uh elements or these things to'}, {'start': '697.160', 'end': '701.440', 'text': "consider.  Hey, if you don't mind, let's start"}, {'start': '699.519', 'end': '703.720', 'text': "with some of them.  Let's get"}, {'start': '701.440', 'end': '705.560', 'text': 'right into it.  Yes. Well, the first and the'}, {'start': '703.720', 'end': '707.880', 'text': 'clearest of all, right?, is that'}, {'start': '705.560', 'end': '710.040', 'text': 'the person can somehow count'}, {'start': '707.880', 'end': '711.839', 'text': 'on a sufficient level of affinity,'}, {'start': '710.040', 'end': '713.600', 'text': 'right?, and a psychological'}, {'start': '711.839', 'end': '716.079', 'text': 'and emotional understanding.  What does this mean,'}, {'start': '713.600', 'end': '717.839', 'text': 'Silvia?  That in some way, well,'}, {'start': '716.079', 'end': '721.200', 'text': 'as we always mention, we are'}, {'start': '717.839', 'end': '723.040', 'text': 'individual beings, we come from'}, {'start': '721.200', 'end': '725.320', 'text': 'different backgrounds and educations, from'}, {'start': '723.040', 'end': '727.760', 'text': 'different cultures and many other'}, {'start': '725.320', 'end': '730.680', 'text': "things.  Obviously, we're going to have"}, {'start': '727.760', 'end': '734.199', 'text': 'a lot of differences, right?  But'}, {'start': '730.680', 'end': '737.240', 'text': 'we have to have a degree of affinity,'}, {'start': '734.199', 'end': '740.680', 'text': 'because what happens if I'}, {'start': '737.240', 'end': '743.160', 'text': 'really like going out, walking, going from here to'}, {'start': '740.680', 'end': '745.079', 'text': "there, traveling, and the person I'm"}, {'start': '743.160', 'end': '747.839', 'text': 'meeting or the person I like is'}, {'start': '745.079', 'end': '750.480', 'text': 'more of a person who likes to'}, {'start': '747.839', 'end': '753.720', 'text': 'be quiet at home, not going out more'}, {'start': '750.480', 'end': '755.399', 'text': 'titanic, more homey.  Exact.  More homemade.'}, {'start': '753.720', 'end': '757.440', 'text': "So, obviously, I'm going to,"}, {'start': '755.399', 'end': '759.519', 'text': "as they say, hit a wall, because I'm"}, {'start': '757.440', 'end': '762.040', 'text': 'going to want to share'}, {'start': '759.519', 'end': '763.880', 'text': 'trips, outings, and so on with that person I love,'}, {'start': '762.040', 'end': '766.240', 'text': "and this other person isn't going to want to."}, {'start': '763.880', 'end': '768.760', 'text': 'So, I have to have a'}, {'start': '766.240', 'end': '771.360', 'text': 'very similar affinity in tastes, and also have,'}, {'start': '768.760', 'end': '773.600', 'text': 'as I mentioned, an'}, {'start': '771.360', 'end': '775.680', 'text': 'emotional and psychological understanding, right?  And what does'}, {'start': '773.600', 'end': '778.000', 'text': 'this mean that we are perhaps on the'}, {'start': '775.680', 'end': '779.519', 'text': "same page?  Let's get to the point, sometimes"}, {'start': '778.000', 'end': '781.720', 'text': 'when,'}, {'start': '779.519', 'end': '784.760', 'text': 'unfortunately, we try to get'}, {'start': '781.720', 'end': '786.720', 'text': "into a relationship when we haven't healed from a"}, {'start': '784.760', 'end': '788.600', 'text': 'previous relationship, right?  And the'}, {'start': '786.720', 'end': '790.760', 'text': 'other person may be in the same'}, {'start': '788.600', 'end': '792.920', 'text': 'position or one of the two may be.'}, {'start': '790.760', 'end': '795.519', 'text': 'So what happens?  That we are not on'}, {'start': '792.920', 'end': '798.639', 'text': 'the same emotional level.  At that'}, {'start': '795.519', 'end': '800.920', 'text': 'moment, well, maybe the interests'}, {'start': '798.639', 'end': '803.079', 'text': 'are different and in some way,'}, {'start': '800.920', 'end': '805.480', 'text': 'one of the two will want the'}, {'start': '803.079', 'end': '807.360', 'text': 'other person to react in a certain way, and'}, {'start': '805.480', 'end': '809.240', 'text': 'obviously, that person will not'}, {'start': '807.360', 'end': '810.639', 'text': 'have the means at that moment to be'}, {'start': '809.240', 'end': '812.720', 'text': 'able to respond the way the other person'}, {'start': '810.639', 'end': '815.320', 'text': "wants.  So, that's why it's so"}, {'start': '812.720', 'end': '817.040', 'text': 'important that we'}, {'start': '815.320', 'end': '819.639', 'text': "'re almost on the same page,"}, {'start': '817.040', 'end': '821.839', 'text': 'right?  Obviously, achieving this is very utopian'}, {'start': '819.639', 'end': '823.480', 'text': ', but it is important to have a minimum of'}, {'start': '821.839', 'end': '825.279', 'text': "understanding.  Yes, but now I'm"}, {'start': '823.480', 'end': '827.399', 'text': 'going to make an observation about'}, {'start': '825.279', 'end': '829.279', 'text': 'that.  Yeah.  Look, look how'}, {'start': '827.399', 'end': '832.320', 'text': 'stupid we are, right?  So, it turns'}, {'start': '829.279', 'end': '834.600', 'text': "out I'm a confectioner, I'm this one,"}, {'start': '832.320', 'end': '837.000', 'text': "what's his name?  I love"}, {'start': '834.600', 'end': '838.560', 'text': 'meeting up with friends and going out all the'}, {'start': '837.000', 'end': '840.680', 'text': 'time and what not.  Then along comes the one'}, {'start': '838.560', 'end': '842.320', 'text': 'who is conquering me, who I love'}, {'start': '840.680', 'end': '844.480', 'text': 'physically, who seems'}, {'start': '842.320', 'end': '847.800', 'text': 'super intelligent, sweet, cute, everything'}, {'start': '844.480', 'end': '850.240', 'text': "I know, right?  He's more of a homebody, so"}, {'start': '847.800', 'end': '852.199', 'text': 'he likes to stay in the'}, {'start': '850.240', 'end': '854.639', 'text': "house and what do I know.  So I'm in the"}, {'start': '852.199', 'end': '857.399', 'text': "stage of falling in love where I don't want to"}, {'start': '854.639', 'end': '860.880', 'text': 'leave the room, eh, nor do I want to leave'}, {'start': '857.399', 'end': '862.880', 'text': 'the house, um, then it seems'}, {'start': '860.880', 'end': '865.440', 'text': 'divine to me because then he cooks for me at'}, {'start': '862.880', 'end': '867.959', 'text': "home and then I'm dreamy,"}, {'start': '865.440', 'end': '870.839', 'text': "excited because we're here and I feel"}, {'start': '867.959', 'end': '873.480', 'text': 'happy in the house, right?  So,'}, {'start': '870.839', 'end': '875.839', 'text': 'look at the level of how much we'}, {'start': '873.480', 'end': '877.839', 'text': 'downplayed it at that moment, something'}, {'start': '875.839', 'end': '881.360', 'text': 'that obviously in the medium and long'}, {'start': '877.839', 'end': '883.759', 'text': "term I'm going to want to go to"}, {'start': '881.360', 'end': '886.240', 'text': 'parties again, be with friends, go out not'}, {'start': '883.759', 'end': '889.519', 'text': 'just once every 15 days, but'}, {'start': '886.240', 'end': '893.560', 'text': 'really be socially active.  But at'}, {'start': '889.519', 'end': '896.160', 'text': 'that moment I saw it as good and as if I'}, {'start': '893.560', 'end': '897.600', 'text': 'could adapt.  So,'}, {'start': '896.160', 'end': '901.120', 'text': "at that moment I'm not giving"}, {'start': '897.600', 'end': '904.079', 'text': 'importance to that little detail.'}, {'start': '901.120', 'end': '905.720', 'text': "Exact.  That's how it is.  And at the beginning,"}, {'start': '904.079', 'end': '907.839', 'text': 'you kind of skip it because,'}, {'start': '905.720', 'end': '910.639', 'text': 'as I said, it only comes out for you,'}, {'start': '907.839', 'end': '913.199', 'text': "right?  And for couples, this doesn't"}, {'start': '910.639', 'end': '914.920', 'text': 'become so good as'}, {'start': '913.199', 'end': '917.000', 'text': 'time goes by, months, years,'}, {'start': '914.920', 'end': '918.680', 'text': "right?  So it's important.  So,"}, {'start': '917.000', 'end': '920.360', 'text': 'there at home where you are'}, {'start': '918.680', 'end': '921.880', 'text': 'listening to us in the car and so on, well,'}, {'start': '920.360', 'end': '923.199', 'text': 'start checking there if at this'}, {'start': '921.880', 'end': '926.000', 'text': 'moment you are getting to know a'}, {'start': '923.199', 'end': '928.839', 'text': 'person and in some way say'}, {'start': '926.000', 'end': '930.360', 'text': 'if this person has these, these,'}, {'start': '928.839', 'end': '932.600', 'text': 'these keys that although I love'}, {'start': '930.360', 'end': '934.920', 'text': 'Esteban, although I'}, {'start': '932.600', 'end': '937.480', 'text': 'love many things, I mean, it may be'}, {'start': '934.920', 'end': '940.680', 'text': 'that I love quite a few things about him,'}, {'start': '937.480', 'end': '942.440', 'text': 'but some that are like'}, {'start': '940.680', 'end': '944.240', 'text': 'important pillars of my personality,'}, {'start': '942.440', 'end': '946.440', 'text': 'important of what makes me'}, {'start': '944.240', 'end': '948.839', 'text': "feel happy, I can't skip them, I"}, {'start': '946.440', 'end': '950.880', 'text': 'mean, I have to pay attention to'}, {'start': '948.839', 'end': '952.800', 'text': 'those, to those little details.  I love that'}, {'start': '950.880', 'end': '955.519', 'text': 'you have them do homework, like,'}, {'start': '952.800', 'end': '957.319', 'text': '"Wow, yeah, like, this, this, like, we have to'}, {'start': '955.519', 'end': '959.079', 'text': 'cool down a'}, {'start': '957.319', 'end': '962.319', 'text': "little bit, let's say, and be a little bit"}, {'start': '959.079', 'end': '965.079', 'text': "cold, let's say, maybe, uh, to say, it's"}, {'start': '962.319', 'end': '968.079', 'text': "not that this isn't, it's not that it's good"}, {'start': '965.079', 'end': '969.639', 'text': 'or bad, because surely the one who likes'}, {'start': '968.079', 'end': '971.079', 'text': 'staying'}, {'start': '969.639', 'end': '972.399', 'text': 'home is also going to find one'}, {'start': '971.079', 'end': '975.519', 'text': 'that they like and that loves staying'}, {'start': '972.399', 'end': '976.959', 'text': 'home, right? Or other things.'}, {'start': '975.519', 'end': '978.160', 'text': 'Exactly. I always tell my partners'}, {'start': '976.959', 'end': '981.399', 'text': 'who come there, the people who'}, {'start': '978.160', 'end': '983.000', 'text': "visit me, that love can't do everything,"}, {'start': '981.399', 'end': '985.199', 'text': "right? 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What'}, {'start': '1020.839', 'end': '1025.559', 'text': "could happen, then we shouldn't"}, {'start': '1022.839', 'end': '1027.360', 'text': 'complain so much and we should assume'}, {'start': '1025.559', 'end': '1028.679', 'text': 'responsibility for the actions we'}, {'start': '1027.360', 'end': '1031.120', 'text': 'took at that moment, right?'}, {'start': '1028.679', 'end': '1033.720', 'text': 'So yes, in that sense, well, here we'}, {'start': '1031.120', 'end': '1035.959', 'text': 'go, right?  The second key,'}, {'start': '1033.720', 'end': '1039.160', 'text': 'Silvia and the listeners, well, is to have'}, {'start': '1035.959', 'end': '1041.400', 'text': 'common ideas about family life and'}, {'start': '1039.160', 'end': '1043.640', 'text': 'living together, right?'}, {'start': '1041.400', 'end': '1045.360', 'text': "Everyone's work habits, right?  And what is"}, {'start': '1043.640', 'end': '1048.480', 'text': 'established in relation to the profession,'}, {'start': '1045.360', 'end': '1051.080', 'text': 'the work.  How do we see it here?  Well,'}, {'start': '1048.480', 'end': '1053.120', 'text': 'there are people who have professions,'}, {'start': '1051.080', 'end': '1055.280', 'text': 'right? Or extremely'}, {'start': '1053.120', 'end': '1058.000', 'text': 'demanding jobs, right?  For example,'}, {'start': '1055.280', 'end': '1059.720', 'text': 'people who work in the'}, {'start': '1058.000', 'end': '1061.640', 'text': 'health sector, right?  That sometimes they work'}, {'start': '1059.720', 'end': '1063.200', 'text': 'guards and that sometimes they have'}, {'start': '1061.640', 'end': '1064.720', 'text': 'very hectic schedules.  One day they have it in the'}, {'start': '1063.200', 'end': '1066.559', 'text': 'morning, other days in the afternoon, other'}, {'start': '1064.720', 'end': '1069.919', 'text': 'days at night, they work and in some'}, {'start': '1066.559', 'end': '1073.240', 'text': 'way, well, what happens if I, uh, my'}, {'start': '1069.919', 'end': '1076.039', 'text': 'work in some way is more'}, {'start': '1073.240', 'end': '1078.520', 'text': 'conventional, right?  From eight to five,'}, {'start': '1076.039', 'end': '1080.799', 'text': "right?  So, uh, I'm not"}, {'start': '1078.520', 'end': '1082.520', 'text': "agreeing with my partner, right?   I'm"}, {'start': '1080.799', 'end': '1084.440', 'text': 'not coinciding with the person'}, {'start': '1082.520', 'end': '1086.640', 'text': 'because he also has to work on the weekends'}, {'start': '1084.440', 'end': '1088.440', 'text': 'and maybe while I'}, {'start': '1086.640', 'end': '1091.280', 'text': "'m at home on Saturday and Sunday"}, {'start': '1088.440', 'end': '1092.960', 'text': "because I'm free, my"}, {'start': '1091.280', 'end': '1094.919', 'text': 'partner is working.  So, in'}, {'start': '1092.960', 'end': '1096.600', 'text': 'some way, we have to consider all of that'}, {'start': '1094.919', 'end': '1099.559', 'text': "as well, as we've"}, {'start': '1096.600', 'end': '1101.200', 'text': 'talked about in other programs, uh, what is it that'}, {'start': '1099.559', 'end': '1103.080', 'text': 'I want in a family, right?'}, {'start': '1101.200', 'end': '1105.400', 'text': 'If I want to have children, if I want to'}, {'start': '1103.080', 'end': '1107.679', 'text': 'have pets, if I want to live on the'}, {'start': '1105.400', 'end': '1109.440', 'text': 'beach or in the mountains or I want to leave the'}, {'start': '1107.679', 'end': '1111.679', 'text': 'country or I want to live here, in other words, all'}, {'start': '1109.440', 'end': '1115.039', 'text': 'those things.  You have to consider them'}, {'start': '1111.679', 'end': '1117.080', 'text': 'and in the end they are very important, Esteban.'}, {'start': '1115.039', 'end': '1119.240', 'text': 'I mean, you just mentioned the pets thing.'}, {'start': '1117.080', 'end': '1121.720', 'text': 'There are people, for example, who love'}, {'start': '1119.240', 'end': '1124.640', 'text': 'pets and can and are capable of having 10'}, {'start': '1121.720', 'end': '1127.880', 'text': 'dogs in the house.  And if your'}, {'start': '1124.640', 'end': '1129.760', 'text': "partner doesn't like them, it"}, {'start': '1127.880', 'end': '1131.919', 'text': "'s not that they don't like them, or maybe they don't"}, {'start': '1129.760', 'end': '1133.799', 'text': "want to have so many dogs or they don't"}, {'start': '1131.919', 'end': '1136.360', 'text': 'want to sleep with the animals or not,'}, {'start': '1133.799', 'end': '1138.240', 'text': 'right?  I mean, uh, or I stay up until'}, {'start': '1136.360', 'end': '1141.280', 'text': '3 in the morning every day watching'}, {'start': '1138.240', 'end': '1143.840', 'text': 'TV and the next day, uh, uh, at 10 at'}, {'start': '1141.280', 'end': '1146.799', 'text': "night he's already looking for the bed to"}, {'start': '1143.840', 'end': '1149.640', 'text': "fall asleep.  It's true that"}, {'start': '1149.640', 'end': '1154.799', 'text': 'we sort of skip over all of those things at first because of everything'}, {'start': '1151.480', 'end': '1157.240', 'text': "we've talked about, but they're very important"}, {'start': '1154.799', 'end': '1159.480', 'text': 'for being able to live together, for being able to'}, {'start': '1157.240', 'end': '1162.520', 'text': 'think about living together in the medium and long'}, {'start': '1159.480', 'end': '1165.240', 'text': "term.  Exact.  And that's precisely"}, {'start': '1162.520', 'end': '1167.720', 'text': "what we sometimes, right, don't we don't"}, {'start': '1165.240', 'end': '1169.880', 'text': 'consider.  I always jokingly'}, {'start': '1167.720', 'end': '1171.559', 'text': 'and seriously tell my partners,'}, {'start': '1169.880', 'end': '1173.400', 'text': "that's like a job interview,"}, {'start': '1171.559', 'end': '1175.799', 'text': "right?  When you're just getting to"}, {'start': '1173.400', 'end': '1177.360', 'text': 'know someone and before you get into it,'}, {'start': '1175.799', 'end': '1179.559', 'text': 'right?  In the depths of that'}, {'start': '1177.360', 'end': '1182.640', 'text': 'infatuation that drives us'}, {'start': '1179.559', 'end': '1184.320', 'text': "crazy, eh, it's like doing that"}, {'start': '1182.640', 'end': '1186.440', 'text': 'interview, right? With what you'}, {'start': '1184.320', 'end': '1187.960', 'text': 'want in the person and there you go doing'}, {'start': '1186.440', 'end': '1190.000', 'text': 'that check, right? In some way and that'}, {'start': '1187.960', 'end': '1192.440', 'text': 'way in the end the person complies.  How'}, {'start': '1190.000', 'end': '1194.400', 'text': "wonderful, isn't it?  But if not, then"}, {'start': '1192.440', 'end': '1196.919', 'text': 'somehow go, as they say, to'}, {'start': '1194.400', 'end': '1198.679', 'text': 'war, eh, knowing that it can go'}, {'start': '1196.919', 'end': '1200.520', 'text': 'wrong, right?  And then'}, {'start': '1198.679', 'end': '1203.039', 'text': 'somehow he has to have the'}, {'start': '1200.520', 'end': '1204.919', 'text': 'sister.  that you saw that I, well,'}, {'start': '1203.039', 'end': '1209.679', 'text': "some may know it, others don't, but"}, {'start': '1204.919', 'end': '1212.760', 'text': 'many years ago, uh, this was programmed,'}, {'start': '1209.679', 'end': '1215.720', 'text': 'a place was made to make couples'}, {'start': '1212.760', 'end': '1218.600', 'text': 'on the internet that was a dating site,'}, {'start': '1215.720', 'end': '1220.480', 'text': 'a site to find a partner and'}, {'start': '1218.600', 'end': '1222.280', 'text': 'we and we had, I'}, {'start': '1220.480', 'end': '1224.400', 'text': "still have that at some point I'm going to"}, {'start': '1222.280', 'end': '1227.520', 'text': "put it to do something with that test because it's"}, {'start': '1224.400', 'end': '1231.960', 'text': 'wonderful.  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I mean, if you liked sleeping with'}, {'start': '1252.280', 'end': '1255.280', 'text': 'the windows open or with the windows'}, {'start': '1253.799', 'end': '1257.480', 'text': 'closed, with air conditioning or'}, {'start': '1255.280', 'end': '1259.799', 'text': 'without air conditioning, eh, if'}, {'start': '1257.480', 'end': '1262.440', 'text': 'sexual intercourse had to last in'}, {'start': '1259.799', 'end': '1264.280', 'text': "this person's head, eh, 30 minutes,"}, {'start': '1262.440', 'end': '1266.320', 'text': '40 minutes or 5 minutes?  I mean, I mean,'}, {'start': '1264.280', 'end': '1268.640', 'text': 'there were so many things, you know?'}, {'start': '1266.320', 'end': '1272.039', 'text': 'In which we asked and if the person'}, {'start': '1268.640', 'end': '1276.679', 'text': 'really answered what they were like, look, it was'}, {'start': '1272.039', 'end': '1278.320', 'text': 'impressive how'}, {'start': '1276.679', 'end': '1280.480', 'text': 'compatibility or not was determined, right?   He'}, {'start': '1278.320', 'end': '1283.120', 'text': 'immediately gave the answer.  Very'}, {'start': '1280.480', 'end': '1285.480', 'text': 'very interesting.  Exact.  Exact.  And'}, {'start': '1283.120', 'end': '1287.200', 'text': 'well, and as a third point, Silvia,'}, {'start': '1285.480', 'end': '1288.880', 'text': 'we have the level of maturity and'}, {'start': '1287.200', 'end': '1292.080', 'text': 'emotional balance of each'}, {'start': '1288.880', 'end': '1293.640', 'text': 'member of the couple.  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But we have to understand that'}, {'start': '1452.039', 'end': '1455.760', 'text': 'if we go deeper, as I say,'}, {'start': '1453.799', 'end': '1457.799', 'text': 'into the depths, then maybe'}, {'start': '1455.760', 'end': '1459.679', 'text': "things won't go so well and we won't come"}, {'start': '1457.799', 'end': '1461.240', 'text': 'out so well'}, {'start': '1459.679', 'end': '1463.440', 'text': "in that regard.  So that's why"}, {'start': '1461.240', 'end': '1466.399', 'text': 'we have to consider this'}, {'start': '1463.440', 'end': '1468.440', 'text': 'as well.  It is also extremely important'}, {'start': '1466.399', 'end': '1470.440', 'text': 'and I mentioned it as the first point'}, {'start': '1468.440', 'end': '1473.159', 'text': 'that was the one that encompassed everything, right?'}, {'start': '1470.440', 'end': '1476.520', 'text': 'The part about being like partners, like'}, {'start': '1473.159', 'end': '1478.799', 'text': 'companions, right?  Of sharing hobbies,'}, {'start': '1476.520', 'end': '1481.480', 'text': 'tastes, moments, right?  Feeling like'}, {'start': '1478.799', 'end': '1483.559', 'text': 'that person nourishes me, right?  I nourish'}, {'start': '1481.480', 'end': '1485.960', 'text': 'the person too, a person who,'}, {'start': '1483.559', 'end': '1487.640', 'text': 'as you mentioned at the beginning, adds,'}, {'start': '1485.960', 'end': '1491.200', 'text': 'not subtracts, right?  And that makes me'}, {'start': '1487.640', 'end': '1493.919', 'text': 'evolve.  How beautiful it is when'}, {'start': '1491.200', 'end': '1496.440', 'text': 'you are with a person or you like'}, {'start': '1493.919', 'end': '1498.960', 'text': 'a person and you admire that person.'}, {'start': '1496.440', 'end': '1500.640', 'text': "I think that's the main thing in all of"}, {'start': '1498.960', 'end': '1502.799', 'text': 'this, right?  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I"}, {'start': '1539.200', 'end': '1543.159', 'text': "mean, I'm not going to be"}, {'start': '1541.200', 'end': '1546.039', 'text': 'living with my mother-in-law or my'}, {'start': '1543.159', 'end': '1549.760', 'text': 'brothers-in-law, or my great-aunt, or'}, {'start': '1546.039', 'end': '1552.960', 'text': 'whatever, no, but somehow those are the'}, {'start': '1549.760', 'end': '1555.880', 'text': 'people who are important to'}, {'start': '1552.960', 'end': '1559.720', 'text': 'my partner and my husband, for whatever reason, they'}, {'start': '1555.880', 'end': '1561.440', 'text': 'also become or'}, {'start': '1559.720', 'end': '1564.360', 'text': 'should become important to'}, {'start': '1561.440', 'end': '1566.679', 'text': "me.  And if there's a slightly"}, {'start': '1564.360', 'end': '1568.039', 'text': "strained relationship or whatever, it's complicated.  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Uh, there are people who'}, {'start': '1667.640', 'end': '1672.120', 'text': 'are writing to us on Facebook Live, which we'}, {'start': '1669.120', 'end': '1674.320', 'text': "'ll read, but also"}, {'start': '1672.120', 'end': '1675.919', 'text': 'on WhatsApp, they often say, "Oh,'}, {'start': '1674.320', 'end': '1678.840', 'text': "I'd love to tell him, but it's so"}, {'start': '1675.919', 'end': '1680.559', 'text': 'embarrassing, and how do I tell him?"  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Let's say hello"}, {'start': '1720.960', 'end': '1725.080', 'text': 'here. We have uh well, there are two messages'}, {'start': '1723.120', 'end': '1727.120', 'text': 'that I think must come from the'}, {'start': '1725.080', 'end': '1729.600', 'text': 'previous program because it says, "Greetings,'}, {'start': '1727.120', 'end': '1731.679', 'text': 'tomorrow we win, Alexander." And well, it\'s'}, {'start': '1729.600', 'end': '1734.960', 'text': 'soccer, so tomorrow we win.'}, {'start': '1731.679', 'end': '1738.640', 'text': 'We definitely join the to this this'}, {'start': '1734.960', 'end': '1740.039', 'text': 'great event'}, {'start': '1738.640', 'end': '1742.240', 'text': "of our national soccer team that we're going to have"}, {'start': '1740.039', 'end': '1744.320', 'text': 'tomorrow in Costa Rica, Canada.  So,'}, {'start': '1742.240', 'end': '1746.640', 'text': 'as Teletica Radio says,'}, {'start': '1744.320', 'end': '1750.000', 'text': "we're with the"}, {'start': '1746.640', 'end': '1751.880', 'text': 'national team until the last minute, and well, we have'}, {'start': '1750.000', 'end': '1754.880', 'text': 'the others here for you.  The others are just'}, {'start': '1751.880', 'end': '1756.679', 'text': 'pyrophobes to you.'}, {'start': '1754.880', 'end': '1759.640', 'text': "Yes, but we're going to do them all in one"}, {'start': '1756.679', 'end': '1762.000', 'text': ".  Let's tell Georhani Alonso"}, {'start': '1759.640', 'end': '1763.720', 'text': 'Angulo thank you very much because he even'}, {'start': '1762.000', 'end': '1766.080', 'text': "told me he'd marry me."}, {'start': '1763.720', 'end': '1768.080', 'text': "Imagine yourself.  Giorni, you don't know, you don't"}, {'start': '1766.080', 'end': '1771.360', 'text': "know what you're getting into"}, {'start': '1768.080', 'end': '1773.279', 'text': 'because no no eh thank you very much because you'}, {'start': '1771.360', 'end': '1776.120', 'text': 'also tell us that you love watching'}, {'start': '1773.279', 'end': '1777.480', 'text': 'our program.  So, well, that'}, {'start': '1776.120', 'end': '1779.760', 'text': "'s the idea, that we can"}, {'start': '1777.480', 'end': '1783.200', 'text': 'share 55 minutes.  On the radio there is a'}, {'start': '1779.760', 'end': '1785.039', 'text': 'huge range of options, eh, on'}, {'start': '1783.200', 'end': '1787.799', 'text': 'the different radio stations where there is'}, {'start': '1785.039', 'end': '1791.320', 'text': 'conversation, right?  Eh, but we'}, {'start': '1787.799', 'end': '1793.960', 'text': 'have wanted to position ourselves in an eh'}, {'start': '1791.320', 'end': '1796.799', 'text': 'option where eh we talk about topics of'}, {'start': '1793.960', 'end': '1799.640', 'text': 'daily life, topics that contribute to'}, {'start': '1796.799', 'end': '1802.679', 'text': 'our daily lives and generally'}, {'start': '1799.640', 'end': '1804.600', 'text': 'focused on everything that is rescuing these'}, {'start': '1804.600', 'end': '1812.120', 'text': 'human values, having this'}, {'start': '1808.159', 'end': '1814.039', 'text': 'eh as a possibility of seeing the couple'}, {'start': '1812.120', 'end': '1816.640', 'text': 'and love and'}, {'start': '1814.039', 'end': '1819.039', 'text': 'interpersonal relationships with a vision that yes it can be done'}, {'start': '1816.640', 'end': '1820.640', 'text': ', with a positive vision and yes it can be done in'}, {'start': '1819.039', 'end': '1823.000', 'text': 'any direction.'}, {'start': '1820.640', 'end': '1826.039', 'text': 'So, our professionals have always worked'}, {'start': '1823.000', 'end': '1828.159', 'text': 'with me to try to give them'}, {'start': '1826.039', 'end': '1831.360', 'text': "those options, and we're almost here for"}, {'start': '1828.159', 'end': '1834.440', 'text': 'five years, so imagine the number'}, {'start': '1831.360', 'end': '1838.000', 'text': "of topics we've covered over the"}, {'start': '1834.440', 'end': '1840.200', 'text': 'years.  Giorni'}, {'start': '1838.000', 'end': '1841.399', 'text': "laughs, he says he's a fan of"}, {'start': '1840.200', 'end': '1844.559', 'text': 'our'}, {'start': '1841.399', 'end': '1846.720', 'text': "show.  Okay, let's continue then."}, {'start': '1844.559', 'end': '1849.360', 'text': 'Well, another very important topic,'}, {'start': '1846.720', 'end': '1852.080', 'text': 'this, sir, madam, if you want to, uh,'}, {'start': '1849.360', 'end': '1854.559', 'text': 'are looking for, uh, or are dating a'}, {'start': '1852.080', 'end': '1856.840', 'text': 'person and want to check if they really'}, {'start': '1854.559', 'end': '1859.000', 'text': "are the right person, well, it's"}, {'start': '1856.840', 'end': '1861.279', 'text': 'also important to know their values,'}, {'start': '1859.000', 'end': '1863.600', 'text': 'right?  Both religious and'}, {'start': '1861.279', 'end': '1865.399', 'text': 'cultural values, as well as moral ones, right?  And'}, {'start': '1863.600', 'end': '1867.480', 'text': "the person's capacity for"}, {'start': '1865.399', 'end': '1869.679', 'text': 'commitment and loyalty, right?'}, {'start': '1867.480', 'end': '1871.480', 'text': "Because this is another topic, isn't it?"}, {'start': '1869.679', 'end': '1873.399', 'text': 'What happens then if I love that'}, {'start': '1871.480', 'end': '1875.200', 'text': 'person?  But that person is from a'}, {'start': '1873.399', 'end': '1877.159', 'text': 'different religion or a'}, {'start': '1875.200', 'end': '1879.360', 'text': 'different culture or different moral values'}, {'start': '1877.159', 'end': '1881.519', 'text': ', right?  And it turns out that'}, {'start': '1879.360', 'end': '1883.039', 'text': 'generally many people'}, {'start': '1881.519', 'end': '1884.880', 'text': 'come here and say to me, "Esteban,'}, {'start': '1883.039', 'end': '1887.399', 'text': 'if I had known that this person did'}, {'start': '1884.880', 'end': '1888.760', 'text': "such a thing, I wouldn't have gotten married, I wouldn't"}, {'start': '1887.399', 'end': '1890.559', 'text': 'have stopped this."  And they would have'}, {'start': '1888.760', 'end': '1892.320', 'text': 'known that, Esteban, for example, who is'}, {'start': '1890.559', 'end': '1894.120', 'text': 'a, well, you and I once did a'}, {'start': '1892.320', 'end': '1896.399', 'text': 'program, do you remember?  that was called'}, {'start': '1894.120', 'end': '1899.840', 'text': 'something like that before saying yes or before'}, {'start': '1896.399', 'end': '1901.799', 'text': 'something something like that and we talked about many'}, {'start': '1899.840', 'end': '1904.080', 'text': 'things that had to be talked about before'}, {'start': '1901.799', 'end': '1906.799', 'text': 'making a decision to share our lives,'}, {'start': '1904.080', 'end': '1909.600', 'text': 'right?  And there this was a very thorough'}, {'start': '1906.799', 'end': '1911.440', 'text': 'remembrance program and we talked'}, {'start': '1909.600', 'end': '1913.720', 'text': 'about many important things, but for'}, {'start': '1911.440', 'end': '1915.519', 'text': 'example within your experience, what'}, {'start': '1913.720', 'end': '1917.919', 'text': 'is something that, for example, a couple comes'}, {'start': '1915.519', 'end': '1920.519', 'text': 'and says, "If I had known such a'}, {'start': '1917.919', 'end': '1923.039', 'text': 'thing, I wouldn\'t have gotten married?"'}, {'start': '1920.519', 'end': '1925.320', 'text': 'Well, the issue of a person, well, that he'}, {'start': '1923.039', 'end': '1928.720', 'text': 'is Costa Rican and married'}, {'start': '1925.320', 'end': '1932.000', 'text': 'a person from an Arab culture and'}, {'start': '1928.720', 'end': '1934.799', 'text': 'then, beyond knowing a'}, {'start': '1932.000', 'end': '1937.399', 'text': 'little bit about what the'}, {'start': '1934.799', 'end': '1940.399', 'text': 'desert was like and some other things there, right?'}, {'start': '1937.399', 'end': '1942.399', 'text': "Eh, I didn't know what their culture was like.  He hadn't"}, {'start': '1940.399', 'end': '1944.480', 'text': 'studied her in depth, he'}, {'start': '1942.399', 'end': '1945.679', 'text': 'simply liked the person and'}, {'start': '1944.480', 'end': '1948.039', 'text': 'started dating the person and'}, {'start': '1945.679', 'end': '1949.519', 'text': 'ended up marrying the person and he never'}, {'start': '1948.039', 'end': '1950.960', 'text': 'imagined, right?, that even though the'}, {'start': '1949.519', 'end': '1952.919', 'text': 'person was here in Costa Rica,'}, {'start': '1950.960', 'end': '1956.360', 'text': 'right?, somehow he was always going to'}, {'start': '1952.919', 'end': '1958.760', 'text': 'maintain his, his'}, {'start': '1956.360', 'end': '1960.799', 'text': 'cultural customs, right?  So, a culture'}, {'start': '1958.760', 'end': '1963.320', 'text': 'that for this person was considered'}, {'start': '1960.799', 'end': '1967.240', 'text': 'sexist, right?  That was, in'}, {'start': '1963.320', 'end': '1969.240', 'text': 'some way, this generated some kind of'}, {'start': '1967.240', 'end': '1970.919', 'text': "disability, let's say, to the"}, {'start': '1969.240', 'end': '1973.039', 'text': 'condition of women.  So,'}, {'start': '1970.919', 'end': '1974.840', 'text': 'obviously it depends on what the person'}, {'start': '1973.039', 'end': '1978.440', 'text': "says, right?  I'm not the one saying it,"}, {'start': '1974.840', 'end': '1981.760', 'text': 'this uh, caused you a lot of problems'}, {'start': '1978.440', 'end': '1983.679', 'text': 'with your partner, even with'}, {'start': '1981.760', 'end': '1986.320', 'text': 'your family, right?  So, in some'}, {'start': '1983.679', 'end': '1988.240', 'text': "way, it's important to see and"}, {'start': '1986.320', 'end': '1989.559', 'text': 'know a little, right? 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This, uh, I, for example, have'}, {'start': '2012.039', 'end': '2016.279', 'text': 'met people who are of the'}, {'start': '2014.360', 'end': '2019.720', 'text': 'idea that children should be corrected'}, {'start': '2016.279', 'end': '2023.320', 'text': 'with severe punishments, even uh,'}, {'start': '2019.720', 'end': '2025.279', 'text': 'with a belt, uh, and what do I know, right?  And'}, {'start': '2023.320', 'end': '2027.200', 'text': 'on the other hand, you have the other part'}, {'start': '2025.279', 'end': '2028.840', 'text': 'where they say, "No, I mean, we have to talk, we'}, {'start': '2027.200', 'end': '2031.080', 'text': 'have to get into, what do you call it?, we'}, {'start': '2028.840', 'end': '2032.440', 'text': 'have to explain to them, we have to be'}, {'start': '2031.080', 'end': '2035.919', 'text': 'more uh,'}, {'start': '2032.440', 'end': '2039.840', 'text': 'have confidence, give them more'}, {'start': '2035.919', 'end': '2041.760', 'text': 'freedom, anyway, uh all these things'}, {'start': '2039.840', 'end': '2044.399', 'text': "are good. Nobody says it's written"}, {'start': '2041.760', 'end': '2047.360', 'text': 'in blood. It could be that the day after tomorrow'}, {'start': '2044.399', 'end': '2049.520', 'text': "uh, they'll change, right? 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It's simply an assumption"}, {'start': '2089.960', 'end': '2094.159', 'text': 'that why would you be investing time in the'}, {'start': '2092.399', 'end': '2095.399', 'text': 'wrong relationship, that is, in a'}, {'start': '2094.159', 'end': '2097.520', 'text': "relationship that's not going anywhere,"}, {'start': '2095.399', 'end': '2099.560', 'text': "well, I don't know, certainly when you're 12,"}, {'start': '2097.520', 'end': '2102.280', 'text': "13, 14 years old, but, I mean, I don't know"}, {'start': '2099.560', 'end': '2104.240', 'text': 'when one is going to be wasting'}, {'start': '2102.280', 'end': '2107.440', 'text': "time to invest in a relationship that's"}, {'start': '2104.240', 'end': '2108.760', 'text': "not going anywhere.  That's how it is.  That's right,"}, {'start': '2107.440', 'end': '2110.760', 'text': "Silvia.  So, that's why it's so"}, {'start': '2108.760', 'end': '2112.800', 'text': 'important, right? To see'}, {'start': '2110.760', 'end': '2115.160', 'text': "if that person's values \u200b\u200bare compatible with"}, {'start': '2112.800', 'end': '2117.040', 'text': 'mine.  So, pay attention to'}, {'start': '2115.160', 'end': '2119.240', 'text': 'that and check there too if you'}, {'start': '2117.040', 'end': '2121.520', 'text': 'know that person and how they'}, {'start': '2119.240', 'end': '2123.320', 'text': 'are in terms of their religious,'}, {'start': '2121.520', 'end': '2125.040', 'text': 'cultural, and moral values, right?  And the'}, {'start': '2123.320', 'end': '2127.680', 'text': 'commitment they have and the loyalty they'}, {'start': '2125.040', 'end': '2129.079', 'text': 'can give you.  Another'}, {'start': '2127.680', 'end': '2130.839', 'text': 'very important thing, fidelity,'}, {'start': '2129.079', 'end': '2133.839', 'text': 'are you talking about fidelity?  Fidelity,'}, {'start': '2130.839', 'end': '2137.359', 'text': 'that is, the concept of fidelity as a'}, {'start': '2133.839', 'end': '2139.160', 'text': 'couple in every sense, right?'}, {'start': '2137.359', 'end': '2141.320', 'text': 'faithfulness in everything, right?  Not'}, {'start': '2139.160', 'end': '2144.800', 'text': 'necessarily a sexual issue, but an'}, {'start': '2141.320', 'end': '2146.640', 'text': 'emotional one, a patrimonial one, among'}, {'start': '2144.800', 'end': '2148.960', 'text': 'other things.'}, {'start': '2146.640', 'end': '2151.960', 'text': 'Okay.  Well, another of the points,'}, {'start': '2148.960', 'end': '2154.800', 'text': 'ladies and gentlemen, is, I really liked'}, {'start': '2151.960', 'end': '2157.280', 'text': 'this one, which is cultivating realism,'}, {'start': '2154.800', 'end': '2161.000', 'text': 'right?  What does that mean?  Well,'}, {'start': '2157.280', 'end': '2164.079', 'text': 'the attraction towards the other person'}, {'start': '2161.000', 'end': '2165.920', 'text': 'increases or decreases as the'}, {'start': '2165.920', 'end': '2170.319', 'text': "person's defects and virtues are recognized.  So, sometimes we"}, {'start': '2168.040', 'end': '2173.680', 'text': 'get carried away by a pretty face,'}, {'start': '2170.319', 'end': '2175.760', 'text': 'a nice body, by what surrounds'}, {'start': '2173.680', 'end': '2177.560', 'text': 'the person, but we have stopped to'}, {'start': '2175.760', 'end': '2180.079', 'text': 'think and say, well, if this person'}, {'start': '2177.560', 'end': '2182.480', 'text': "didn't have this, didn't have this or didn't"}, {'start': '2180.079', 'end': '2185.079', 'text': 'have this, I would stay with that'}, {'start': '2182.480', 'end': '2187.160', 'text': 'person.  And if the answer is yes, well,'}, {'start': '2185.079', 'end': '2189.119', 'text': "somehow I think that's it,"}, {'start': '2187.160', 'end': '2191.599', 'text': 'right?  If the answer is no, because'}, {'start': '2189.119', 'end': '2194.319', 'text': 'I just like her body, or her'}, {'start': '2191.599', 'end': '2197.119', 'text': "face or something else, then I think that's"}, {'start': '2194.319', 'end': '2198.359', 'text': 'definitely not'}, {'start': '2197.119', 'end': '2200.640', 'text': 'it, right?   I would'}, {'start': '2198.359', 'end': '2204.520', 'text': 'stay, I would stay with this lady'}, {'start': '2200.640', 'end': '2206.560', 'text': 'if she gains, uh, 20 pounds after having'}, {'start': '2204.520', 'end': '2209.119', 'text': 'my first child and no longer has the great'}, {'start': '2206.560', 'end': '2212.920', 'text': 'body she has.  Or I would stay with'}, {'start': '2209.119', 'end': '2215.599', 'text': 'this man if his physique changed or if he'}, {'start': '2212.920', 'end': '2218.079', 'text': 'lost the great job he has and we'}, {'start': '2215.599', 'end': '2221.200', 'text': "didn't have the luxuries that we have,"}, {'start': '2218.079', 'end': '2222.800', 'text': 'or what does he give me?  Things like that.  Exact.  Things'}, {'start': '2221.200', 'end': '2224.720', 'text': 'like that.  Exact.  Because in some way,'}, {'start': '2222.800', 'end': '2226.880', 'text': "well, we have everything, it's a principle of"}, {'start': '2224.720', 'end': '2228.720', 'text': "reality.  Ladies and gentlemen.  we're going to"}, {'start': '2226.880', 'end': '2231.000', 'text': "get old, right?  We're not always going to have"}, {'start': '2228.720', 'end': '2232.760', 'text': 'the same body, the same face, and'}, {'start': '2231.000', 'end': '2235.640', 'text': 'everything else.  So, I have to'}, {'start': '2232.760', 'end': '2238.000', 'text': 'understand that if I base myself'}, {'start': '2235.640', 'end': '2240.440', 'text': ", let's say, this, to form a"}, {'start': '2238.000', 'end': '2242.440', 'text': 'relationship on that attraction that at the beginning'}, {'start': '2240.440', 'end': '2245.400', 'text': 'obviously comes through the eyes,'}, {'start': '2242.440', 'end': '2247.440', 'text': "right?  Somehow, that's"}, {'start': '2245.400', 'end': '2249.560', 'text': 'going to dissipate and somehow, well,'}, {'start': '2247.440', 'end': '2251.839', 'text': "it's going to make it so that maybe, uh, I don't"}, {'start': '2249.560', 'end': '2253.440', 'text': 'feel good there.  So I have to'}, {'start': '2251.839', 'end': '2255.560', 'text': 'be with the person as a'}, {'start': '2253.440', 'end': '2257.640', 'text': 'whole being, which is when that'}, {'start': '2255.560', 'end': '2259.960', 'text': 'person also has their beautiful moments and their'}, {'start': '2257.640', 'end': '2261.680', 'text': 'not-so-beautiful moments as well.'}, {'start': '2259.960', 'end': '2263.760', 'text': 'So I have to be with that person'}, {'start': '2261.680', 'end': '2266.400', 'text': 'through thick and thin, not just through the'}, {'start': '2263.760', 'end': '2269.520', 'text': 'good times.  So just waking up with'}, {'start': '2266.400', 'end': '2273.440', 'text': 'messed up hair, bad breath, I'}, {'start': '2269.520', 'end': '2277.079', 'text': 'mean, all of that is part of'}, {'start': '2273.440', 'end': '2279.240', 'text': "Exacto.  So that's how it is.  Then"}, {'start': '2277.079', 'end': '2281.280', 'text': "another thing, eh, Silvia, well, it's if"}, {'start': '2279.240', 'end': '2283.119', 'text': "we like a person and it's true and we're attracted to them,"}, {'start': '2281.280', 'end': '2286.160', 'text': "but we don't enjoy talking to the"}, {'start': '2283.119', 'end': '2288.240', 'text': 'person or sharing certain things,'}, {'start': '2286.160', 'end': '2289.760', 'text': 'right?  Well, we also have to'}, {'start': '2288.240', 'end': '2291.880', 'text': 'understand that there may be a'}, {'start': '2289.760', 'end': '2293.319', 'text': 'problem there, right?  Because how'}, {'start': '2291.880', 'end': '2295.240', 'text': 'beautiful is the sense of humor.  A'}, {'start': '2293.319', 'end': '2296.960', 'text': 'sense of humor is very important,'}, {'start': '2295.240', 'end': '2298.280', 'text': 'and also having'}, {'start': '2296.960', 'end': '2300.280', 'text': 'conversation topics, like, I sit down and'}, {'start': '2298.280', 'end': '2302.960', 'text': 'talk with this person and we can talk'}, {'start': '2300.280', 'end': '2304.640', 'text': 'about anything and we can debate and we'}, {'start': '2302.960', 'end': '2306.200', 'text': 'can disagree and many things.  How'}, {'start': '2304.640', 'end': '2308.319', 'text': "nice, isn't it?  Because in itself we only"}, {'start': '2306.200', 'end': '2310.599', 'text': 'return to the point, it is simply for'}, {'start': '2308.319', 'end': '2313.440', 'text': 'the party, as we popularly say,'}, {'start': '2310.599', 'end': '2315.720', 'text': "for the [ __ ].  Obviously, well, that's it,"}, {'start': '2313.440', 'end': '2318.760', 'text': "we're not going to spend 24 hours"}, {'start': '2315.720', 'end': '2321.040', 'text': "a day in a mess, right?  We're going to have 365 days"}, {'start': '2318.760', 'end': '2323.079', 'text': "a year, we're going to have other moments and"}, {'start': '2321.040', 'end': '2325.480', 'text': "if that person doesn't have them, then"}, {'start': '2323.079', 'end': '2327.520', 'text': "obviously we're going to feel like we're"}, {'start': '2325.480', 'end': '2330.240', 'text': 'cheated, disillusioned and in some'}, {'start': '2327.520', 'end': '2331.640', 'text': 'way scared that this'}, {'start': '2330.240', 'end': '2333.480', 'text': "person doesn't have them and that in some"}, {'start': '2331.640', 'end': '2335.000', 'text': 'way can generate eh'}, {'start': '2333.480', 'end': '2337.400', 'text': 'later inconveniences.  So'}, {'start': '2335.000', 'end': '2339.800', 'text': "that's why we emphasize this, right?"}, {'start': '2337.400', 'end': '2341.079', 'text': "Eh, in some way, well, eh, eh, we're going to"}, {'start': '2339.800', 'end': '2343.400', 'text': 'understand that yes, when you'}, {'start': '2341.079', 'end': '2344.960', 'text': 'fall in love, you fall in love, right?  And but'}, {'start': '2343.400', 'end': '2347.520', 'text': 'we have to consider these things'}, {'start': '2344.960', 'end': '2350.960', 'text': 'because it would save us, Silvia and Radio'}, {'start': '2347.520', 'end': '2353.760', 'text': 'you listen to so many problems, so many'}, {'start': '2350.960', 'end': '2358.520', 'text': 'tears, so many disappointments, right?  That'}, {'start': '2353.760', 'end': '2360.079', 'text': "in some way, well, it's better to"}, {'start': '2358.520', 'end': '2362.000', 'text': 'consider this'}, {'start': '2360.079', 'end': '2364.599', 'text': 'before we delve deeper into the depths of'}, {'start': '2362.000', 'end': '2367.000', 'text': 'love.  Yes, the sense of humor in'}, {'start': '2364.599', 'end': '2369.359', 'text': 'people,'}, {'start': '2367.000', 'end': '2372.680', 'text': 'curiously, is neither like everything'}, {'start': '2369.359', 'end': '2375.960', 'text': "we've talked about, neither good nor bad."}, {'start': '2372.680', 'end': '2380.040', 'text': "Simply, for example, when someone doesn't"}, {'start': '2375.960', 'end': '2383.520', 'text': 'laugh at some simple little thing,'}, {'start': '2380.040', 'end': '2386.319', 'text': 'like the joke he can'}, {'start': '2383.520', 'end': '2388.680', 'text': 'make or the little joke'}, {'start': '2386.319', 'end': '2390.560', 'text': "we're cooking up at home and he says something and when"}, {'start': '2388.680', 'end': '2392.160', 'text': 'that starts to bother you and makes you'}, {'start': '2390.560', 'end': '2394.079', 'text': 'feel, oh no, how'}, {'start': '2392.160', 'end': '2397.440', 'text': 'lazy, my God, again, I mean, with'}, {'start': '2394.079', 'end': '2400.000', 'text': 'this and it bothers you, even that can'}, {'start': '2397.440', 'end': '2402.839', 'text': 'be really uh because we go back and'}, {'start': '2400.000', 'end': '2405.200', 'text': 'repeat it. 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There it'}, {'start': '2458.800', 'end': '2463.560', 'text': 'was, it was clear, there it is, there it always'}, {'start': '2461.200', 'end': '2465.800', 'text': "was.  What happens is that one didn't pay"}, {'start': '2463.560', 'end': '2468.400', 'text': 'attention to it.  Jorge Rivera says, "Greetings,'}, {'start': '2465.800', 'end': '2471.640', 'text': 'Mrs. Silvia from Concepción de Tres'}, {'start': '2468.400', 'end': '2473.280', 'text': 'Ríos. Good evening. Hey, Georjani says,'}, {'start': '2471.640', 'end': '2474.880', 'text': '"The program is very interesting." Over'}, {'start': '2473.280', 'end': '2476.920', 'text': 'here we have a WhatsApp message,'}, {'start': '2474.880', 'end': '2479.200', 'text': '70 80'}, {'start': '2476.920', 'end': '2481.200', 'text': '1799 says, "Hello, hello, beautiful.'}, {'start': '2479.200', 'end': '2482.880', 'text': 'Blessings to both of you.  How nice it is to'}, {'start': '2481.200', 'end': '2485.599', 'text': 'meet a person and do everything'}, {'start': '2482.880', 'end': '2487.599', 'text': 'right, but there is no good relationship'}, {'start': '2485.599', 'end': '2489.680', 'text': 'when she or I want to go out with'}, {'start': '2487.599', 'end': '2492.640', 'text': 'friends out of'}, {'start': '2489.680', 'end': '2495.000', 'text': "habit.  I don't think it's good, and I think"}, {'start': '2492.640', 'end': '2496.720', 'text': 'the best thing is to stay at home, and if'}, {'start': '2495.000', 'end': '2498.680', 'text': 'we have to go out at some point, we should'}, {'start': '2496.720', 'end': '2501.319', 'text': 'come to an agreement between the two of us, because'}, {'start': '2498.680', 'end': '2505.880', 'text': "otherwise, the relationship I really want won't be"}, {'start': '2501.319', 'end': '2510.160', 'text': 'worth anything.  Luis greets us.'}, {'start': '2505.880', 'end': '2512.440', 'text': 'Well, you tell him first.'}, {'start': '2510.160', 'end': '2514.520', 'text': 'Well, in some way that has to'}, {'start': '2512.440', 'end': '2516.560', 'text': "be, let's say, mediated by both,"}, {'start': '2514.520', 'end': '2518.240', 'text': 'right?  Both of them say that if they want to'}, {'start': '2516.560', 'end': '2520.280', 'text': "stay home, if they want to go out, it's"}, {'start': '2518.240', 'end': '2522.560', 'text': 'something they have to talk about between'}, {'start': '2520.280', 'end': '2524.680', 'text': "them, and that's the topic we're"}, {'start': '2522.560', 'end': '2526.520', 'text': 'also discussing.  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Yes, yes, yes.  It's basically"}, {'start': '2549.200', 'end': '2553.760', 'text': 'the same thing I could say,'}, {'start': '2551.200', 'end': '2556.760', 'text': 'Esteban, because a'}, {'start': '2553.760', 'end': '2559.440', 'text': "relationship isn't just about one person, it's about"}, {'start': '2556.760', 'end': '2561.880', 'text': "two people.  So it's not"}, {'start': '2559.440', 'end': '2564.400', 'text': 'just what I want when I'}, {'start': '2561.880', 'end': '2566.480', 'text': "'m already in a relationship, right?  Yes, it's"}, {'start': '2564.400', 'end': '2568.839', 'text': 'just what I want and what I'}, {'start': '2566.480', 'end': '2572.839', 'text': "desire when I'm choosing a partner"}, {'start': '2568.839', 'end': '2575.000', 'text': 'because I have the ability to say,'}, {'start': '2572.839', 'end': '2577.880', 'text': '"No, this is not what I want."'}, {'start': '2575.000', 'end': '2581.040', 'text': 'Okay?  And this person can take his or her own'}, {'start': '2577.880', 'end': '2583.359', 'text': 'path, go wherever he or'}, {'start': '2581.040', 'end': '2584.800', 'text': 'she wants, and the same goes for me, because no one is'}, {'start': '2583.359', 'end': '2587.559', 'text': 'forced to stay with someone'}, {'start': '2584.800', 'end': '2589.880', 'text': 'simply because we like each other.  Eh,'}, {'start': '2587.559', 'end': '2592.319', 'text': 'but when we choose a partner,'}, {'start': '2589.880', 'end': '2594.079', 'text': 'then we are two.  There are two of us to'}, {'start': '2592.319', 'end': '2596.000', 'text': 'make decisions, there are two of us to'}, {'start': '2594.079', 'end': '2599.079', 'text': 'get along, there are two of us to do'}, {'start': '2596.000', 'end': '2601.040', 'text': 'our part, right?  I mean, eh, and'}, {'start': '2599.079', 'end': '2602.760', 'text': 'when one of the two parties'}, {'start': '2601.040', 'end': '2604.640', 'text': 'seems to no longer be interested, from then on there is no longer a'}, {'start': '2602.760', 'end': '2607.559', 'text': 'couple.'}, {'start': '2604.640', 'end': '2610.040', 'text': "Exact.  That's how it is.  So, just take"}, {'start': '2607.559', 'end': '2612.319', 'text': 'all these things into account.  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So'}, {'start': '2653.040', 'end': '2656.839', 'text': 'how does that fit in with what I want?'}, {'start': '2655.000', 'end': '2659.240', 'text': "TRUE?  So, it's important to say,"}, {'start': '2656.839', 'end': '2661.480', 'text': "well, when we're getting to know each other,"}, {'start': '2659.240', 'end': '2663.760', 'text': 'tell me what your'}, {'start': '2661.480', 'end': '2666.480', 'text': 'short, medium, and long-term plans are for your'}, {'start': '2663.760', 'end': '2668.359', 'text': 'life.  And then when we listen'}, {'start': '2666.480', 'end': '2671.160', 'text': 'to what the person is telling us,'}, {'start': '2668.359', 'end': '2673.440', 'text': 'in some way we also see if'}, {'start': '2671.160', 'end': '2676.319', 'text': 'our project could somehow'}, {'start': '2673.440', 'end': '2679.200', 'text': 'fit into the other'}, {'start': '2676.319', 'end': '2681.880', 'text': "person's project.  If it fits, then wonderful.  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I mean, that\'s like when we'}, {'start': '2705.640', 'end': '2710.400', 'text': "'re already"}, {'start': '2707.800', 'end': '2712.400', 'text': 'thinking about getting married or whatever.  At'}, {'start': '2710.400', 'end': '2715.000', 'text': 'first, why?  Why should'}, {'start': '2712.400', 'end': '2716.920', 'text': 'I talk about whether she wants to go'}, {'start': '2715.000', 'end': '2720.000', 'text': 'study in Europe or whether I want to'}, {'start': '2716.920', 'end': '2724.720', 'text': 'buy a small farm in San Carlos?'}, {'start': '2720.000', 'end': '2728.920', 'text': 'This one, right?  It seems like we'}, {'start': '2724.720', 'end': '2731.520', 'text': "downplay this and we can think about, I'm"}, {'start': '2728.920', 'end': '2733.160', 'text': 'not going to say waste because'}, {'start': '2731.520', 'end': '2735.040', 'text': "nobody wastes when we're"}, {'start': '2733.160', 'end': '2737.960', 'text': 'meeting people and talking,'}, {'start': '2735.040', 'end': '2740.400', 'text': 'but about investing time,'}, {'start': '2737.960', 'end': '2742.800', 'text': "let's say, in a relationship when in"}, {'start': '2740.400', 'end': '2745.000', 'text': "reality it's not going to take us"}, {'start': '2742.800', 'end': '2746.880', 'text': "anywhere.  Now, if that's what we want,"}, {'start': '2745.000', 'end': '2748.800', 'text': "because we're not interested in having any"}, {'start': '2746.880', 'end': '2752.280', 'text': "relationship, then we're not talking"}, {'start': '2748.800', 'end': '2755.200', 'text': "about today's topic, because a relationship is something else"}, {'start': '2752.280', 'end': '2757.599', 'text': ".  I mean, it's not about how to choose a"}, {'start': '2755.200', 'end': '2759.920', 'text': 'friend to have a good time with or how to choose'}, {'start': '2757.599', 'end': '2761.480', 'text': 'a girl to have good'}, {'start': '2759.920', 'end': '2762.960', 'text': "sex with.  No, no, we're not talking about"}, {'start': '2761.480', 'end': '2765.559', 'text': "that.  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Yes, they"}, {'start': '2840.599', 'end': '2847.079', 'text': 'invite you, eh, the couple invites you to'}, {'start': '2843.400', 'end': '2849.200', 'text': "your parents' house, well, eh, share"}, {'start': '2847.079', 'end': '2850.800', 'text': 'with them and see what they say,'}, {'start': '2849.200', 'end': '2853.800', 'text': 'right?  What they have to say'}, {'start': '2850.800', 'end': '2857.240', 'text': 'about life, about the world, because'}, {'start': '2853.800', 'end': '2859.079', 'text': 'that also gives us a parameter to'}, {'start': '2857.240', 'end': '2861.160', 'text': 'say how that person is, like'}, {'start': '2859.079', 'end': '2865.960', 'text': 'we are.  I, I, I would say that it is'}, {'start': '2861.160', 'end': '2869.680', 'text': 'seeing the whole macro, I mean, it is seeing the'}, {'start': '2865.960', 'end': '2872.200', 'text': 'macro, right?  The micro, because the micro'}, {'start': '2869.680', 'end': '2875.760', 'text': 'system or whatever it is is very easy'}, {'start': '2872.200', 'end': '2879.760', 'text': 'for us to, uh, not'}, {'start': '2875.760', 'end': '2881.960', 'text': 'see it in all its complexity or'}, {'start': '2879.760', 'end': '2885.359', 'text': 'everything that it implies.  There is one thing'}, {'start': '2881.960', 'end': '2889.119', 'text': "that I, I mean, let's see, deny that"}, {'start': '2885.359', 'end': '2891.480', 'text': 'physical attraction is important.  This'}, {'start': '2889.119', 'end': '2894.720', 'text': 'Esteban di would be like trying to hide the'}, {'start': '2891.480', 'end': '2896.359', 'text': 'sun with a finger, right?  I mean, no no'}, {'start': '2894.720', 'end': '2898.880', 'text': "no no no.  And this doesn't mean that what I"}, {'start': '2896.359', 'end': '2900.920', 'text': 'like has to be what you like, what'}, {'start': '2898.880', 'end': '2902.720', 'text': 'my cousin has to like,'}, {'start': '2900.920', 'end': '2905.599', 'text': 'or what you like,'}, {'start': '2902.720', 'end': '2908.760', 'text': 'right?  I mean, no, this is eh'}, {'start': '2905.599', 'end': '2911.040', 'text': 'eh my taste, what attracts me.'}, {'start': '2908.760', 'end': '2912.800', 'text': 'Maybe I see him as very handsome and'}, {'start': '2911.040', 'end': '2914.400', 'text': 'my sister comes and says, "Wow, what an'}, {'start': '2912.800', 'end': '2916.319', 'text': 'ugly man. You really liked that'}, {'start': '2914.400', 'end': '2919.040', 'text': 'man, didn\'t you?"  But the physique'}, {'start': '2916.319', 'end': '2922.680', 'text': 'is also important in all this.'}, {'start': '2934.000', 'end': '2939.200', 'text': "I mean, I think that we can't, let's say, downplay the importance of the fact that there has to be an attraction, not a physical one because it's superficial, but rather it's like a chemical one, it's like a skin-deep issue, I mean, where"}, {'start': '2936.440', 'end': '2941.280', 'text': 'I like him to hug me, I like him to'}, {'start': '2939.200', 'end': '2943.160', 'text': 'hold my hand, I like to'}, {'start': '2941.280', 'end': '2945.960', 'text': 'feel even the way'}, {'start': '2943.160', 'end': '2948.599', 'text': "he smells.  I don't know, it's something"}, {'start': '2945.960', 'end': '2950.960', 'text': "I don't even know how to explain."}, {'start': '2948.599', 'end': '2952.760', 'text': "Exact.  That's how it is.  And all these"}, {'start': '2950.960', 'end': '2954.839', 'text': 'considerations, if we really do'}, {'start': '2952.760', 'end': '2956.520', 'text': "n't take them very seriously, Silvia, then"}, {'start': '2954.839', 'end': '2959.280', 'text': 'how do they really help us?'}, {'start': '2956.520', 'end': '2961.799', 'text': "And it's happened to me from people who"}, {'start': '2959.280', 'end': '2964.040', 'text': 'take these'}, {'start': '2961.799', 'end': '2965.960', 'text': 'guidelines or these keys seriously and somehow'}, {'start': '2964.040', 'end': '2969.359', 'text': 'over time they tell me, "Esteban,'}, {'start': '2965.960', 'end': '2971.720', 'text': 'really in some way uh it gave me a'}, {'start': '2969.359', 'end': '2974.000', 'text': 'parameter to be able to make a better'}, {'start': '2971.720', 'end': '2976.640', 'text': 'choice of partner and to be able to in some'}, {'start': '2974.000', 'end': '2978.440', 'text': 'way be more asceptive with this'}, {'start': '2976.640', 'end': '2981.680', 'text': 'because well, obviously there are a lot of fish in the'}, {'start': '2978.440', 'end': '2984.960', 'text': 'middle but the right ones for'}, {'start': '2981.680', 'end': '2986.640', 'text': 'you are few. So, the important thing is to'}, {'start': '2984.960', 'end': '2988.200', 'text': 'always be considering all of this'}, {'start': '2986.640', 'end': '2989.839', 'text': 'as always, even if one is very much'}, {'start': '2988.200', 'end': '2991.680', 'text': 'in love, one also has to say,'}, {'start': '2989.839', 'end': '2993.520', 'text': '"Wait a moment, yes, I\'m'}, {'start': '2991.680', 'end': '2995.760', 'text': 'dazed by love, but I can also'}, {'start': '2993.520', 'end': '2997.280', 'text': 'think in a rational way and'}, {'start': '2995.760', 'end': '2999.040', 'text': 'somehow reach a balance and'}, {'start': '2997.280', 'end': '3003.680', 'text': 'a equilibrium, which is the most important thing."'}, {'start': '2999.040', 'end': '3007.200', 'text': 'Yes, yes. I, I when we talk about'}, {'start': '3003.680', 'end': '3009.319', 'text': "the and and look at the title we put, it's the"}, {'start': '3007.200', 'end': '3011.839', 'text': 'right partner, not the perfect partner,'}, {'start': '3009.319', 'end': '3013.480', 'text': 'right? Because we have always said,'}, {'start': '3011.839', 'end': '3017.079', 'text': 'exactly, we have always said that'}, {'start': '3013.480', 'end': '3020.400', 'text': 'perfection does not exist, but but there does'}, {'start': '3017.079', 'end': '3023.280', 'text': 'exist a person uh correctly'}, {'start': '3020.400', 'end': '3026.160', 'text': 'perfect for me, I mean, for me, not'}, {'start': '3023.280', 'end': '3029.240', 'text': "because he is perfect, it's because"}, {'start': '3026.160', 'end': '3033.000', 'text': 'uh we really take'}, {'start': '3029.240', 'end': '3035.119', 'text': 'all these things into consideration  and we see that, uh,'}, {'start': '3033.000', 'end': '3038.640', 'text': 'we are quite compatible, that we have'}, {'start': '3035.119', 'end': '3040.839', 'text': "many things that and that doesn't give"}, {'start': '3038.640', 'end': '3042.720', 'text': "any security, let's say, that"}, {'start': '3040.839', 'end': '3044.760', 'text': 'ah, look, since we have the same'}, {'start': '3042.720', 'end': '3047.119', 'text': 'values, since we both want to go live on'}, {'start': '3044.760', 'end': '3048.960', 'text': "a San Carlos estate, it's like I"}, {'start': '3047.119', 'end': '3051.880', 'text': 'get along really well with my mother-in-law, like I'}, {'start': '3048.960', 'end': '3054.359', 'text': 'say, we eat and like the same things, no, it'}, {'start': '3051.880', 'end': '3057.079', 'text': "'s not like we have anything guaranteed or"}, {'start': '3054.359', 'end': '3060.559', 'text': "that if we didn't have that, uh, we would have"}, {'start': '3057.079', 'end': '3063.680', 'text': 'guaranteed failure, right?  But there'}, {'start': '3060.559', 'end': '3065.960', 'text': 'are indeed quite a few mitigating factors,'}, {'start': '3063.680', 'end': '3068.960', 'text': "let's say, and situations that can make"}, {'start': '3065.960', 'end': '3070.480', 'text': 'the relationship more'}, {'start': '3068.960', 'end': '3072.720', 'text': 'bearable.'}, {'start': '3070.480', 'end': '3075.440', 'text': "That's right, totally, totally."}, {'start': '3072.720', 'end': '3077.520', 'text': 'So the important thing is to recognize'}, {'start': '3075.440', 'end': '3080.119', 'text': "that, right?  It's always about keeping it in"}, {'start': '3077.520', 'end': '3081.440', 'text': 'mind to'}, {'start': '3080.119', 'end': '3084.040', 'text': 'avoid some kind of'}, {'start': '3081.440', 'end': '3086.880', 'text': "major inconvenience, right?  This doesn't guarantee anything,"}, {'start': '3084.040', 'end': '3088.880', 'text': 'but in some way it gives us a'}, {'start': '3086.880', 'end': '3091.720', 'text': 'roadmap to'}, {'start': '3088.880', 'end': '3094.480', 'text': 'guide us on this path of choosing a'}, {'start': '3091.720', 'end': '3095.960', 'text': 'partner and forming a'}, {'start': '3094.480', 'end': '3097.359', 'text': 'family, right?  From a'}, {'start': '3095.960', 'end': '3099.079', 'text': 'home.  How do I stop, Esteban?'}, {'start': '3097.359', 'end': '3101.640', 'text': 'How do I stop at the moment when'}, {'start': '3099.079', 'end': '3103.599', 'text': "I'm just getting to know someone and"}, {'start': '3101.640', 'end': '3105.359', 'text': 'say, "Okay, let\'s check in and'}, {'start': '3103.599', 'end': '3108.520', 'text': "see how we're doing with"}, {'start': '3105.359', 'end': '3110.359', 'text': 'this whole thing, because at that'}, {'start': '3108.520', 'end': '3112.359', 'text': "moment, I feel like it's"}, {'start': '3110.359', 'end': '3115.680', 'text': 'easier not to even stop and'}, {'start': '3112.359', 'end': '3117.200', 'text': 'think about anything, but just feel."'}, {'start': '3115.680', 'end': '3119.079', 'text': 'Exact.  Remember that feeling is'}, {'start': '3117.200', 'end': '3122.160', 'text': 'wonderful and how nice it is to be in love,'}, {'start': '3119.079', 'end': '3123.839', 'text': "isn't it?  But we also have to be"}, {'start': '3122.160', 'end': '3125.920', 'text': 'rational, we have to be in'}, {'start': '3123.839', 'end': '3128.119', 'text': "balance, it's like a tug-of-war"}, {'start': '3125.920', 'end': '3130.480', 'text': 'always with those two forces, right?  And to'}, {'start': '3128.119', 'end': '3132.079', 'text': 'be in an observance of oneself, to'}, {'start': '3130.480', 'end': '3136.079', 'text': 'say, "Let\'s see, Esteban, are you really that in'}, {'start': '3132.079', 'end': '3138.040', 'text': 'love? Are you well, are you, uh,'}, {'start': '3136.079', 'end': '3141.160', 'text': 'in tune with that person, but'}, {'start': '3138.040', 'end': '3143.440', 'text': "stop a bit, right? One doesn't eat"}, {'start': '3141.160', 'end': '3145.960', 'text': "pretty words, one doesn't eat"}, {'start': '3143.440', 'end': '3148.559', 'text': 'beautiful moments that at first'}, {'start': '3145.960', 'end': '3150.839', 'text': 'are new and that somehow, well,'}, {'start': '3148.559', 'end': '3153.480', 'text': 'this will pass later. So,'}, {'start': '3150.839', 'end': '3155.200', 'text': "when I begin to see that I'm already"}, {'start': '3153.480', 'end': '3157.119', 'text': 'entering those depths, as'}, {'start': '3155.200', 'end': '3159.079', 'text': 'I call it, then to see and say, well,'}, {'start': '3157.119', 'end': '3161.520', 'text': 'yes, I love this person, but they'}, {'start': '3159.079', 'end': '3164.440', 'text': 'really suit me. They have all these'}, {'start': '3161.520', 'end': '3166.799', 'text': 'characteristics that are going to be in the future,'}, {'start': '3164.440', 'end': '3169.440', 'text': "what for me, uh, let's say, could"}, {'start': '3166.799', 'end': '3171.799', 'text': "harm me. Well, if they don't have them,"}, {'start': '3169.440', 'end': '3174.119', 'text': 'then be grateful for what can last in'}, {'start': '3171.799', 'end': '3175.839', 'text': 'the moment, right? And either withdraw in a'}, {'start': '3174.119', 'end': '3178.400', 'text': 'very polite manner or withdraw in a'}, {'start': '3175.839', 'end': '3180.680', 'text': 'very responsible manner, right? Um,'}, {'start': '3178.400', 'end': '3182.640', 'text': 'but if they have all the qualities,'}, {'start': '3180.680', 'end': '3184.720', 'text': 'then stay there and form a beautiful'}, {'start': '3182.640', 'end': '3186.640', 'text': 'relationship with the person. But'}, {'start': '3184.720', 'end': '3188.839', 'text': "that's the important thing, right? It's to be in"}, {'start': '3186.640', 'end': '3191.040', 'text': 'observance  of oneself, of what'}, {'start': '3188.839', 'end': '3192.400', 'text': 'the needs are and what I'}, {'start': '3191.040', 'end': '3194.559', 'text': "want.  That's why what's important is what I"}, {'start': '3192.400', 'end': '3197.240', 'text': 'mentioned there about the life project.   It'}, {'start': '3194.559', 'end': '3198.920', 'text': 'has to be very clear to you'}, {'start': '3197.240', 'end': '3201.079', 'text': 'what your life project is.  Not the'}, {'start': '3198.920', 'end': '3202.760', 'text': 'life project with another person, your'}, {'start': '3201.079', 'end': '3204.319', 'text': 'life project.  And when you'}, {'start': '3202.760', 'end': '3206.480', 'text': 'really have a clear understanding of it in some'}, {'start': '3204.319', 'end': '3208.599', 'text': 'way, then your outlook'}, {'start': '3206.480', 'end': '3211.079', 'text': "will broaden much more, and you'll be able to"}, {'start': '3208.599', 'end': '3215.119', 'text': 'have a greater capacity for discernment.'}, {'start': '3211.079', 'end': '3217.720', 'text': 'I think these are these series of'}, {'start': '3215.119', 'end': '3220.200', 'text': "notes we've made,"}, {'start': '3217.720', 'end': '3223.240', 'text': 'right? To draw attention to'}, {'start': '3220.200', 'end': '3225.400', 'text': 'how we should ask ourselves questions'}, {'start': '3223.240', 'end': '3227.280', 'text': 'and question ourselves in order to choose the'}, {'start': '3225.400', 'end': '3229.280', 'text': 'right partner, as'}, {'start': '3227.280', 'end': '3231.280', 'text': "long as I'm clear about them"}, {'start': '3229.280', 'end': '3233.319', 'text': "myself.  So, let's do a"}, {'start': '3231.280', 'end': '3235.000', 'text': 'personal exercise where I say, what do'}, {'start': '3233.319', 'end': '3238.079', 'text': 'I expect from a partner?  What am'}, {'start': '3235.000', 'end': '3240.079', 'text': 'I doing before I get into the'}, {'start': '3238.079', 'end': '3242.760', 'text': 'chemical stuff and hormones and everything'}, {'start': '3240.079', 'end': '3245.799', 'text': 'else?  I mean, just the coldness'}, {'start': '3242.760', 'end': '3248.760', 'text': 'of me with me, eh, and saying, well,'}, {'start': '3245.799', 'end': '3250.640', 'text': "I wouldn't be willing to do this or"}, {'start': '3248.760', 'end': '3252.920', 'text': 'that.  I want a person who'}, {'start': '3250.640', 'end': '3255.280', 'text': 'has this and these and these values.  I think it'}, {'start': '3252.920', 'end': '3257.160', 'text': 'would be much easier for us not'}, {'start': '3255.280', 'end': '3259.960', 'text': "to make mistakes.  I'm not saying it won't"}, {'start': '3257.160', 'end': '3262.720', 'text': 'happen because obviously we are'}, {'start': '3259.960', 'end': '3265.200', 'text': 'exposed to it when emotions'}, {'start': '3262.720', 'end': '3267.520', 'text': 'get the better of us and we often make mistakes.'}, {'start': '3265.200', 'end': '3271.200', 'text': 'But if we did this'}, {'start': '3267.520', 'end': '3273.079', 'text': 'exercise, eh, before anything else and without having'}, {'start': '3271.200', 'end': '3275.520', 'text': 'anyone in front of us, I think it would be'}, {'start': '3273.079', 'end': '3277.640', 'text': 'much easier if I knew'}, {'start': '3275.520', 'end': '3280.559', 'text': 'myself, I knew what I wanted, I knew'}, {'start': '3277.640', 'end': '3282.559', 'text': 'my desires, my longings, my all of this, it'}, {'start': '3280.559', 'end': '3284.920', 'text': 'would be easier for me not to make mistakes'}, {'start': '3282.559', 'end': '3287.359', 'text': 'when choosing a partner.  Totally,'}, {'start': '3284.920', 'end': '3289.319', 'text': "totally.  That's how it is."}, {'start': '3287.359', 'end': '3291.000', 'text': "Okay.  Well, we've reached the end, that"}, {'start': '3289.319', 'end': '3294.359', 'text': "is, we've spent time here talking so"}, {'start': '3291.000', 'end': '3296.200', 'text': 'much about this topic, and there are people'}, {'start': '3294.359', 'end': '3299.400', 'text': 'listening to us on the'}, {'start': '3296.200', 'end': '3303.119', 'text': "radio who, hopefully, we've"}, {'start': '3299.400', 'end': '3305.160', 'text': "accompanied them on the journey and that it's been"}, {'start': '3303.119', 'end': '3307.799', 'text': 'of some use.  I say that whenever'}, {'start': '3305.160', 'end': '3310.440', 'text': 'an idea remains floating around in the'}, {'start': '3307.799', 'end': '3313.760', 'text': 'thoughts, in the minds'}, {'start': '3310.440', 'end': '3317.280', 'text': "of the people who listen to us, that's already"}, {'start': '3313.760', 'end': '3318.599', 'text': 'quite a gain for us every'}, {'start': '3317.280', 'end': '3321.280', 'text': "day when we're here at 9 o'clock at"}, {'start': '3318.599', 'end': '3324.839', 'text': 'night, trying to bring up topics of great'}, {'start': '3321.280', 'end': '3326.559', 'text': 'interest and that are helpful for'}, {'start': '3324.839', 'end': '3328.039', 'text': 'our lives.  Where can they'}, {'start': '3326.559', 'end': '3329.799', 'text': 'find you, Esteban?'}, {'start': '3328.039', 'end': '3331.079', 'text': 'Well, you can find me on'}, {'start': '3329.799', 'end': '3333.799', 'text': 'social media as Psychologist Esteban'}, {'start': '3331.079', 'end': '3336.440', 'text': 'Carvajal, on Facebook, on Instagram, on'}, {'start': '3333.799', 'end': '3338.480', 'text': 'LinkedIn, uh, and you can find me'}, {'start': '3336.440', 'end': '3340.200', 'text': 'in the different offices'}, {'start': '3338.480', 'end': '3342.760', 'text': 'I have at the Biblical clinic at the'}, {'start': '3340.200', 'end': '3345.520', 'text': 'main headquarters, at the Cima Venid Casú hospital'}, {'start': '3342.760', 'end': '3347.240', 'text': 'and here at home, uh Emotio in Barrio'}, {'start': '3345.520', 'end': '3349.200', 'text': "Escalante, well, we'll be here"}, {'start': '3347.240', 'end': '3352.559', 'text': 'and you can call or write to the'}, {'start': '3349.200', 'end': '3355.280', 'text': 'phone number 88445868.'}, {'start': '3352.559', 'end': '3357.200', 'text': 'Very well.  Well, uh uh, with'}, {'start': '3355.280', 'end': '3360.720', 'text': "today's program we finish the week"}, {'start': '3357.200', 'end': '3362.160', 'text': "because tomorrow we don't have uh uh, what's it"}, {'start': '3360.720', 'end': '3365.680', 'text': "called?  Program.  Tomorrow we're going to"}, {'start': '3362.160', 'end': '3369.160', 'text': 'put on the national team jersey, eh, and'}, {'start': '3365.680', 'end': '3373.000', 'text': "we're going to support our boys and,"}, {'start': '3369.160', 'end': '3374.599', 'text': "eh, and on Friday we don't have a"}, {'start': '3373.000', 'end': '3376.760', 'text': "program either, so we'll see you until"}, {'start': '3374.599', 'end': '3379.000', 'text': 'next Monday.  But'}, {'start': '3376.760', 'end': '3381.680', 'text': "as always, it's a pleasure that you've"}, {'start': '3379.000', 'end': '3383.640', 'text': 'allowed me to come in here, to where'}, {'start': '3381.680', 'end': '3386.079', 'text': 'you are, to allow'}, {'start': '3383.640', 'end': '3388.240', 'text': 'Esteban and me to come in today and'}, {'start': '3386.079', 'end': '3390.440', 'text': 'remind you that you are'}, {'start': '3388.240', 'end': '3393.039', 'text': 'very much loved.  Thank you so much for everything, for all'}, {'start': '3390.440', 'end': '3395.240', 'text': 'your support.  Hey, and remember what'}, {'start': '3393.039', 'end': '3397.610', 'text': 'Silvia says, because speaking and listening is'}, {'start': '3395.240', 'end': '3420.229', 'text': 'learning and growing.'}, {'start': '3397.610', 'end': '3420.229', 'text': '[Music]'}, {'start': '3421.359', 'end': '3426.280', 'text': 'Ciao.  Sex education.  love,'}]