The ultimate guide to reclaiming your confidence
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[{'start': '0.400', 'end': '5.520', 'text': "Welcome to Texas Today. I'm Cleo Green."}, {'start': '3.040', 'end': '8.480', 'text': 'Too many of us feel stuck or weighed'}, {'start': '5.520', 'end': '10.880', 'text': 'down by unrealistic expectations.'}, {'start': '8.480', 'end': '13.120', 'text': 'Redefining you offers a powerful'}, {'start': '10.880', 'end': '14.960', 'text': 'framework to really reclaim your'}, {'start': '13.120', 'end': '18.080', 'text': 'confidence, break free from societal'}, {'start': '14.960', 'end': '20.400', 'text': 'expectations, and create a life that you'}, {'start': '18.080', 'end': '22.720', 'text': 'truly love. Author Amanda Kah Hill joins'}, {'start': '20.400', 'end': '25.199', 'text': 'us to really talk about her new book and'}, {'start': '22.720', 'end': '27.519', 'text': 'the powerful message behind it. Welcome'}, {'start': '25.199', 'end': '29.359', 'text': 'to Texas Today. Glad to have you. Oh my'}, {'start': '27.519', 'end': '30.800', 'text': 'gosh, thank you for having me. I am so'}, {'start': '29.359', 'end': '33.600', 'text': 'excited to be here. Of course, and'}, {'start': '30.800', 'end': '36.160', 'text': 'congratulations on your book as well.'}, {'start': '33.600', 'end': '38.960', 'text': "Thank you. It's very surreal to say that"}, {'start': '36.160', 'end': '40.879', 'text': "I'm a published author, but here I am."}, {'start': '38.960', 'end': '42.879', 'text': "It's It's a lifetime achievement and I'm"}, {'start': '40.879', 'end': '45.040', 'text': "so excited that it's finally here."}, {'start': '42.879', 'end': '47.520', 'text': "Congrats, Amanda. Let's start here. Why"}, {'start': '45.040', 'end': '50.160', 'text': 'do you think so many of us may feel'}, {'start': '47.520', 'end': '51.920', 'text': 'stuck and weighed down more than ever?'}, {'start': '50.160', 'end': '53.840', 'text': "There's so much pressure, especially for"}, {'start': '51.920', 'end': '55.800', 'text': "us women. There's a lot of societal"}, {'start': '53.840', 'end': '58.559', 'text': 'pressure. I feel like a lot of us live a'}, {'start': '55.800', 'end': '60.719', 'text': 'life that was designed by somebody else.'}, {'start': '58.559', 'end': '62.239', 'text': 'Our family told us, society told us,'}, {'start': '60.719', 'end': '64.080', 'text': 'everybody around us tell us that we'}, {'start': '62.239', 'end': '65.840', 'text': 'should do these things. We should want'}, {'start': '64.080', 'end': '68.960', 'text': "this, but we've never stopped to ask,"}, {'start': '65.840', 'end': '71.680', 'text': '"What is it that I really want?" Give'}, {'start': '68.960', 'end': '73.600', 'text': 'yourself the space to ask that question'}, {'start': '71.680', 'end': '75.119', 'text': 'and discover what it is. But I feel when'}, {'start': '73.600', 'end': '77.200', 'text': "we're not in alignment with that, that's"}, {'start': '75.119', 'end': '79.439', 'text': 'when we start feeling stuck and unsure'}, {'start': '77.200', 'end': '81.119', 'text': 'and just not really aware of where we'}, {'start': '79.439', 'end': '83.119', 'text': "want to go in life. Right. Let's talk"}, {'start': '81.119', 'end': '85.759', 'text': 'about the book Redefining You. What does'}, {'start': '83.119', 'end': '87.360', 'text': 'it truly mean to you? Redefining you to'}, {'start': '85.759', 'end': '89.280', 'text': "me is more than just a word. It's a"}, {'start': '87.360', 'end': '90.799', 'text': "movement. It's it's giving yourself"}, {'start': '89.280', 'end': '92.320', 'text': 'permission. Especially as ambitious'}, {'start': '90.799', 'end': '94.640', 'text': "women, a lot of times we're so worried"}, {'start': '92.320', 'end': '97.119', 'text': 'what other people want us to do, taking'}, {'start': '94.640', 'end': '99.040', 'text': "care of them, right? It's who am I as a"}, {'start': '97.119', 'end': '100.560', 'text': 'wife or a co-orker, a caregiver, all of'}, {'start': '99.040', 'end': '102.159', 'text': "these things. But it's as your at your"}, {'start': '100.560', 'end': '104.320', 'text': "core, who are you? And that's what this"}, {'start': '102.159', 'end': '106.799', 'text': "book really encompasses. It's a process"}, {'start': '104.320', 'end': '108.320', 'text': 'to discover your confidence again, which'}, {'start': '106.799', 'end': '110.479', 'text': "can be shaken. It's a roller coaster. I"}, {'start': '108.320', 'end': '112.479', 'text': 'know life is right. and to figure out'}, {'start': '110.479', 'end': '114.320', 'text': 'what your purpose is in life and really'}, {'start': '112.479', 'end': '115.680', 'text': 'be able to move confidently towards it.'}, {'start': '114.320', 'end': '117.439', 'text': 'What do you think are some of the the'}, {'start': '115.680', 'end': '118.799', 'text': 'key takeaways from the book? Well, first'}, {'start': '117.439', 'end': '120.799', 'text': 'I mean first and foremost, like I said,'}, {'start': '118.799', 'end': '122.960', 'text': 'building confidence is key, but I think'}, {'start': '120.799', 'end': '125.119', 'text': 'the biggest pillar that a lot of us miss'}, {'start': '122.960', 'end': '126.799', 'text': 'is that vision piece. Asking what it is'}, {'start': '125.119', 'end': '128.080', 'text': 'that you really want out of your life.'}, {'start': '126.799', 'end': '129.679', 'text': 'Who do you want to be? What makes you'}, {'start': '128.080', 'end': '131.200', 'text': 'happy? Getting down to the core of who'}, {'start': '129.679', 'end': '132.720', 'text': 'you are as a person. Because a lot of'}, {'start': '131.200', 'end': '134.480', 'text': "times there's so many obligations in"}, {'start': '132.720', 'end': '136.400', 'text': 'life that pull us in a hundred different'}, {'start': '134.480', 'end': '138.640', 'text': 'directions. But getting back and coming'}, {'start': '136.400', 'end': '140.080', 'text': "home to yourself, that's the biggest key"}, {'start': '138.640', 'end': '141.440', 'text': 'thing is your confidence, getting that'}, {'start': '140.080', 'end': '143.840', 'text': 'vision, and then aligning your habits'}, {'start': '141.440', 'end': '145.680', 'text': 'and goals to bring that vision to life.'}, {'start': '143.840', 'end': '147.760', 'text': "And that's the transformation that this"}, {'start': '145.680', 'end': '149.040', 'text': 'book brings to the reader. Is that a'}, {'start': '147.760', 'end': '151.200', 'text': 'part of it? Another takeaway, habit'}, {'start': '149.040', 'end': '153.040', 'text': 'formation. What does that mean? Yes.'}, {'start': '151.200', 'end': '154.480', 'text': 'Right. But habit formation, people'}, {'start': '153.040', 'end': '156.080', 'text': 'think, "Oh, I just I need to set these'}, {'start': '154.480', 'end': '158.160', 'text': 'goals. I need to get up at 5:00 a.m. I'}, {'start': '156.080', 'end': '159.840', 'text': 'need to achieve XYZ." And it\'s like,'}, {'start': '158.160', 'end': '161.360', 'text': 'okay, but how are you going to do that?'}, {'start': '159.840', 'end': '163.599', 'text': 'Do you actually need to get up at 5:00'}, {'start': '161.360', 'end': '165.760', 'text': 'a.m.? You need to align your habits with'}, {'start': '163.599', 'end': '167.360', 'text': 'your actual vision for your life, for'}, {'start': '165.760', 'end': '169.680', 'text': 'who you are becoming, where you want to'}, {'start': '167.360', 'end': '171.519', 'text': 'go, instead of these obligatory, we'}, {'start': '169.680', 'end': '173.280', 'text': "think we're supposed to do these things."}, {'start': '171.519', 'end': '175.120', 'text': "That's what habit forming is to me. It"}, {'start': '173.280', 'end': '177.120', 'text': 'is aligning everything with where you'}, {'start': '175.120', 'end': '178.879', 'text': 'actually want to be, who you actually'}, {'start': '177.120', 'end': '182.480', 'text': "want to be. And that's the big key. Can"}, {'start': '178.879', 'end': '184.800', 'text': 'we talk about progress over perfection?'}, {'start': '182.480', 'end': '187.360', 'text': 'Speaking of me, yeah, it speaks to my'}, {'start': '184.800', 'end': '188.879', 'text': 'soul as a recovering perfectionist. And'}, {'start': '187.360', 'end': '191.200', 'text': 'I think a lot of people are plagued by'}, {'start': '188.879', 'end': '193.280', 'text': 'that. We think we have to be everything'}, {'start': '191.200', 'end': '195.040', 'text': 'to everybody. We can never ask for help.'}, {'start': '193.280', 'end': '197.440', 'text': 'We have to just do it all. Hustle,'}, {'start': '195.040', 'end': '199.120', 'text': "hustle, hustle, hustle. But there's so"}, {'start': '197.440', 'end': '201.599', 'text': 'much beauty in that transformation.'}, {'start': '199.120', 'end': '203.280', 'text': 'There is so much beauty in just taking a'}, {'start': '201.599', 'end': '205.280', 'text': "step back and realizing how far you've"}, {'start': '203.280', 'end': '206.720', 'text': 'come, how much you have achieved. And I'}, {'start': '205.280', 'end': '208.239', 'text': 'think a lot of that confidence when we'}, {'start': '206.720', 'end': '210.560', 'text': 'feel shaken a little bit is cuz we'}, {'start': '208.239', 'end': '212.720', 'text': 'forget all the beautiful powerful things'}, {'start': '210.560', 'end': '215.200', 'text': 'that we have done in our lives. But once'}, {'start': '212.720', 'end': '216.400', 'text': 'you start reconnecting with that, your'}, {'start': '215.200', 'end': '218.000', 'text': "life can change. That's where the"}, {'start': '216.400', 'end': '220.000', 'text': 'transformation happens. How do you feel'}, {'start': '218.000', 'end': '222.560', 'text': 'to see some of your readers transform'}, {'start': '220.000', 'end': '224.959', 'text': "from your book? Oh man, I can't even"}, {'start': '222.560', 'end': '227.360', 'text': 'tell you the amount of emails, phone'}, {'start': '224.959', 'end': '229.440', 'text': "calls, texts that I've gotten. It's"}, {'start': '227.360', 'end': '231.200', 'text': 'surreal. It It is truly an amazing'}, {'start': '229.440', 'end': '232.799', 'text': "experience to think I' I've gotten"}, {'start': '231.200', 'end': '233.920', 'text': 'messages from people who who have told'}, {'start': '232.799', 'end': '235.599', 'text': 'me that people in their life are'}, {'start': '233.920', 'end': '237.280', 'text': 'suffering from mental illness or'}, {'start': '235.599', 'end': '238.799', 'text': "depression or anxiety and they're giving"}, {'start': '237.280', 'end': '240.799', 'text': 'them applications that I use in this'}, {'start': '238.799', 'end': '242.640', 'text': 'book to help them rediscover and connect'}, {'start': '240.799', 'end': '244.239', 'text': 'with themselves. And not from a therapy'}, {'start': '242.640', 'end': '246.720', 'text': 'standpoint, but just actionable things'}, {'start': '244.239', 'end': '248.560', 'text': 'that they can do. But so many women have'}, {'start': '246.720', 'end': '250.080', 'text': 'said, "It feels like coming home. It'}, {'start': '248.560', 'end': '253.040', 'text': "feels like I'm finally having the"}, {'start': '250.080', 'end': '254.720', 'text': 'permission to be who I want to be deep'}, {'start': '253.040', 'end': '256.880', 'text': "down in my core. Not who I think I'm"}, {'start': '254.720', 'end': '259.440', 'text': 'supposed to be." And that is such a'}, {'start': '256.880', 'end': '261.759', 'text': 'beautiful thing. Now, I I I learned that'}, {'start': '259.440', 'end': '265.199', 'text': 'your own journey helped inspire this'}, {'start': '261.759', 'end': '267.759', 'text': "book. Yes. I mean, and it's and it's a"}, {'start': '265.199', 'end': '270.160', 'text': 'constant journey, right? Um you know, I'}, {'start': '267.759', 'end': '272.160', 'text': 'I became a mother a couple years ago and'}, {'start': '270.160', 'end': '274.080', 'text': 'I was plagued with who am I? Where am I'}, {'start': '272.160', 'end': '275.919', 'text': 'even going? I got blindsided and lost'}, {'start': '274.080', 'end': '277.919', 'text': 'and I was stuck and I was unsure of who'}, {'start': '275.919', 'end': '279.440', 'text': 'I was and where I wanted to go. And I'}, {'start': '277.919', 'end': '281.120', 'text': 'realized through the course of'}, {'start': '279.440', 'end': '282.800', 'text': 'redefining myself and picking my life'}, {'start': '281.120', 'end': '284.800', 'text': 'back up and figuring out who I want to'}, {'start': '282.800', 'end': '286.320', 'text': 'be when I grow up that I was like, "Oh,'}, {'start': '284.800', 'end': '287.840', 'text': "there's there's a rhythm to this. There"}, {'start': '286.320', 'end': '289.280', 'text': 'is a process here." And it\'s actually'}, {'start': '287.840', 'end': '291.680', 'text': "something I've done over the course of"}, {'start': '289.280', 'end': '292.880', 'text': 'my life through different stages. And I'}, {'start': '291.680', 'end': '295.520', 'text': 'said, "This is something that people'}, {'start': '292.880', 'end': '296.960', 'text': 'need to know. I can bring this out so'}, {'start': '295.520', 'end': '298.880', 'text': 'people can have a transformation as'}, {'start': '296.960', 'end': '300.240', 'text': 'well. So they can connect back to who'}, {'start': '298.880', 'end': '301.600', 'text': 'they are to have confidence, clarity,'}, {'start': '300.240', 'end': '304.000', 'text': 'and purpose in their lives again."'}, {'start': '301.600', 'end': '305.360', 'text': "because that's what I had and I wanted"}, {'start': '304.000', 'end': '306.720', 'text': "to give that gift to everybody. You're"}, {'start': '305.360', 'end': '308.720', 'text': "doing that, Amanda. You're doing that."}, {'start': '306.720', 'end': '310.639', 'text': 'Beyond the book, how do you hope to'}, {'start': '308.720', 'end': '312.720', 'text': 'continue to inspire other women, you'}, {'start': '310.639', 'end': '315.440', 'text': 'know? I just I I want women to know that'}, {'start': '312.720', 'end': '317.520', 'text': 'they are the director and the starring'}, {'start': '315.440', 'end': '319.360', 'text': 'role in their own lives. And I talk'}, {'start': '317.520', 'end': '321.280', 'text': 'about this in Redefining You in my book'}, {'start': '319.360', 'end': '322.800', 'text': 'that you can rewrite the script at any'}, {'start': '321.280', 'end': '325.280', 'text': 'point in time. You can change the'}, {'start': '322.800', 'end': '326.880', 'text': 'narrative. You can shift into another'}, {'start': '325.280', 'end': '329.680', 'text': "area if that's, you know, you don't have"}, {'start': '326.880', 'end': '331.759', 'text': 'to feel bogged down. And I just want to'}, {'start': '329.680', 'end': '333.680', 'text': 'have them have permission to be able to'}, {'start': '331.759', 'end': '335.600', 'text': 'do that. Gosh, before we go here, any'}, {'start': '333.680', 'end': '337.919', 'text': 'final thoughts, any advice to give for'}, {'start': '335.600', 'end': '339.360', 'text': 'someone that just feels stuck? You know,'}, {'start': '337.919', 'end': '342.720', 'text': 'go back to what I said at the beginning.'}, {'start': '339.360', 'end': '345.840', 'text': 'If anything that you do, ask what is it'}, {'start': '342.720', 'end': '347.600', 'text': 'that I want? And just sit with that and'}, {'start': '345.840', 'end': '349.919', 'text': 'see what happens and keep coming back to'}, {'start': '347.600', 'end': '351.759', 'text': 'it, keep revisiting it because once you'}, {'start': '349.919', 'end': '354.400', 'text': 'get crystal clear on that, everything'}, {'start': '351.759', 'end': '356.160', 'text': "else changes for you. Oo, Amanda, you're"}, {'start': '354.400', 'end': '357.600', 'text': "good. You're good. Let me get this"}, {'start': '356.160', 'end': '360.639', 'text': 'information out there. You can purchase'}, {'start': '357.600', 'end': '362.560', 'text': 'a copy of Redefining You on Amazon or by'}, {'start': '360.639', 'end': '365.600', 'text': "visiting Amanda's website, amanda"}, {'start': '362.560', 'end': '369.440', 'text': 'kahhill.com. You can also follow her on'}, {'start': '365.600', 'end': '369.440', 'text': 'Instagram at Amanda Kahill'}]