What is the Benefit to Single Fathers of Making a Neurological Connection With His Kids?
J. Lewis III Motivation
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It's more"}, {'start': '33.880', 'end': '40.239', 'text': 'essential than the relationship that you'}, {'start': '37.120', 'end': '43.079', 'text': 'may have had with the mother of the'}, {'start': '40.239', 'end': '45.840', 'text': 'child. That relationship may'}, {'start': '43.079', 'end': '48.960', 'text': 'unfortunately fade. But your'}, {'start': '45.840', 'end': '51.120', 'text': 'relationship with your child that has to'}, {'start': '48.960', 'end': '54.559', 'text': 'remain constant. Everything you go'}, {'start': '51.120', 'end': '57.520', 'text': 'through, the ups, the downs, the abs,'}, {'start': '54.559', 'end': '60.039', 'text': "the flows, the challenges, they're"}, {'start': '57.520', 'end': '63.680', 'text': 'culminating with something, something'}, {'start': '60.039', 'end': '67.439', 'text': 'beautiful. Remember, you birthed an'}, {'start': '63.680', 'end': '71.119', 'text': 'incredible individual. No matter if your'}, {'start': '67.439', 'end': '74.280', 'text': 'child ends up being someone great, some'}, {'start': '71.119', 'end': '77.920', 'text': 'type of great inventor, some singer or'}, {'start': '74.280', 'end': '82.479', 'text': 'artist, if your child is a contributor'}, {'start': '77.920', 'end': '85.759', 'text': 'to society, realize that you help to'}, {'start': '82.479', 'end': '88.479', 'text': 'birth that. And the relationship that'}, {'start': '85.759', 'end': '94.799', 'text': 'you build with your child, it needs to'}, {'start': '88.479', 'end': '97.200', 'text': 'be a tight bond cuz they rely on you.'}, {'start': '94.799', 'end': '100.799', 'text': "They want to know that their father's by"}, {'start': '97.200', 'end': '104.000', 'text': 'their side. It does not matter what the'}, {'start': '100.799', 'end': '107.439', 'text': 'relationship was. You have to learn how'}, {'start': '104.000', 'end': '110.640', 'text': 'to separate the relationship that you'}, {'start': '107.439', 'end': '113.680', 'text': "may have had with your child's mother"}, {'start': '110.640', 'end': '115.920', 'text': 'from the relationship that you have with'}, {'start': '113.680', 'end': '117.840', 'text': 'your child. Those are two totally'}, {'start': '115.920', 'end': '121.320', 'text': 'different things. There are a lot of'}, {'start': '117.840', 'end': '124.960', 'text': 'fathers that make the mistake of walking'}, {'start': '121.320', 'end': '127.200', 'text': 'away because they had an issue with'}, {'start': '124.960', 'end': '130.399', 'text': "their child's mother. And what they"}, {'start': '127.200', 'end': '132.520', 'text': "don't understand is that the brain is"}, {'start': '130.399', 'end': '137.000', 'text': 'still creating that neurological'}, {'start': '132.520', 'end': '140.000', 'text': 'connection with the child. They may not'}, {'start': '137.000', 'end': '143.360', 'text': "realize what they're going through. They"}, {'start': '140.000', 'end': '146.280', 'text': "may have stomach pains like the baby's"}, {'start': '143.360', 'end': '149.560', 'text': 'mother. They may have incredible'}, {'start': '146.280', 'end': '152.560', 'text': 'cravings for things that they normally'}, {'start': '149.560', 'end': '156.800', 'text': "wouldn't want to have, but that's"}, {'start': '152.560', 'end': '158.680', 'text': 'because the brain is rewiring itself to'}, {'start': '156.800', 'end': '161.920', 'text': 'be able to accommodate the new'}, {'start': '158.680', 'end': '165.360', 'text': 'information related to your fatherhood.'}, {'start': '161.920', 'end': '169.120', 'text': 'Be in that relationship. Be with that'}, {'start': '165.360', 'end': '172.040', 'text': 'child. Because if you decide to walk'}, {'start': '169.120', 'end': '175.599', 'text': 'away permanently, you are robbing'}, {'start': '172.040', 'end': '178.120', 'text': 'yourself as well as your child of a'}, {'start': '175.599', 'end': '181.680', 'text': 'golden opportunity. See that'}, {'start': '178.120', 'end': '184.560', 'text': "opportunity, it can't be manifested if"}, {'start': '181.680', 'end': '188.000', 'text': "you don't make that connection. Realize"}, {'start': '184.560', 'end': '191.200', 'text': "that you don't want to punish yourself"}, {'start': '188.000', 'end': '193.920', 'text': 'because you made the decision not to be'}, {'start': '191.200', 'end': '197.519', 'text': 'that father figure. There are some men'}, {'start': '193.920', 'end': '200.720', 'text': 'that decide that walking away is the'}, {'start': '197.519', 'end': '204.360', 'text': 'best course of action. It may be, but'}, {'start': '200.720', 'end': '207.040', 'text': "that doesn't mean you do not establish a"}, {'start': '204.360', 'end': '210.640', 'text': 'relationship with your son or your'}, {'start': '207.040', 'end': '213.040', 'text': 'daughter. Separate the mother'}, {'start': '210.640', 'end': '216.159', 'text': 'relationship that you may have had from'}, {'start': '213.040', 'end': '219.280', 'text': 'the child relationship that you have.'}, {'start': '216.159', 'end': '221.680', 'text': 'That child is your responsibility, your'}, {'start': '219.280', 'end': '224.440', 'text': 'obligation. And if you decide to walk'}, {'start': '221.680', 'end': '227.280', 'text': 'away, there could be some severe'}, {'start': '224.440', 'end': '229.959', 'text': 'repercussions. Think about this. You do'}, {'start': '227.280', 'end': '233.120', 'text': 'not want to be on your deathbed and not'}, {'start': '229.959', 'end': '236.959', 'text': 'surrounded by the people in your life.'}, {'start': '233.120', 'end': '239.120', 'text': "When your time has come and everybody's"}, {'start': '236.959', 'end': '242.959', 'text': 'time is coming, you want to make sure'}, {'start': '239.120', 'end': '246.959', 'text': 'that you are with the people you love.'}, {'start': '242.959', 'end': '250.720', 'text': 'everyone you contributed to, everyone'}, {'start': '246.959', 'end': '254.159', 'text': "that poured into you, they're essential."}, {'start': '250.720', 'end': '257.840', 'text': 'And when that time comes and even before'}, {'start': '254.159', 'end': '261.600', 'text': 'that, all the memories you will rob'}, {'start': '257.840', 'end': '263.759', 'text': "yourself of if you're not there, that's"}, {'start': '261.600', 'end': '265.680', 'text': 'essential as well. You want to make sure'}, {'start': '263.759', 'end': '267.840', 'text': 'that they can remember the time they'}, {'start': '265.680', 'end': '270.800', 'text': 'spent with that. No matter what the'}, {'start': '267.840', 'end': '274.240', 'text': 'situation was, they got to spend key'}, {'start': '270.800', 'end': '277.320', 'text': "time with you. And as a father, that's"}, {'start': '274.240', 'end': '281.360', 'text': 'something that you should cherish. Your'}, {'start': '277.320', 'end': '283.919', 'text': 'child did not ask to come here. You were'}, {'start': '281.360', 'end': '286.400', 'text': 'responsible for that miracle. So give'}, {'start': '283.919', 'end': '288.080', 'text': "yourself some credit where credit's due."}, {'start': '286.400', 'end': '291.440', 'text': "And realize that, yeah, it's going to be"}, {'start': '288.080', 'end': '294.960', 'text': "a hard road. I'm talking based off the"}, {'start': '291.440', 'end': '297.919', 'text': "fact that I've been there. My children,"}, {'start': '294.960', 'end': '299.600', 'text': 'I raised them since they were small on'}, {'start': '297.919', 'end': '305.440', 'text': 'my own.'}, {'start': '299.600', 'end': '308.800', 'text': "They're now 23 and 26 and they are doing"}, {'start': '305.440', 'end': '312.080', 'text': 'incredible things. But our relationship'}, {'start': '308.800', 'end': '314.520', 'text': 'has maintained tight over the years. We'}, {'start': '312.080', 'end': '318.960', 'text': 'live in totally different'}, {'start': '314.520', 'end': '322.560', 'text': 'areas. But I text them, we talk on the'}, {'start': '318.960', 'end': '325.039', 'text': 'phone, we FaceTime, I go visit them,'}, {'start': '322.560', 'end': '329.280', 'text': 'they come visit me. These are all the'}, {'start': '325.039', 'end': '332.639', 'text': 'things that you want in your world. You'}, {'start': '329.280', 'end': '335.120', 'text': 'do not want to rob yourself in the intro'}, {'start': '332.639', 'end': '337.199', 'text': "right then, right there. It's that whole"}, {'start': '335.120', 'end': '339.520', 'text': 'out of sight, out of mind type of'}, {'start': '337.199', 'end': '342.960', 'text': 'concept for some people. But understand'}, {'start': '339.520', 'end': '346.479', 'text': "that over time, like I said, when you're"}, {'start': '342.960', 'end': '349.440', 'text': "on your deathbed and you're wondering"}, {'start': '346.479', 'end': '352.160', 'text': "why your children haven't come to visit"}, {'start': '349.440', 'end': '354.880', 'text': 'you, remember the fact that you'}, {'start': '352.160', 'end': '358.639', 'text': "abandoned them first. Don't be that"}, {'start': '354.880', 'end': '362.560', 'text': "person. Don't put the relationship that"}, {'start': '358.639', 'end': '365.039', 'text': "you had with the child's mother on your"}, {'start': '362.560', 'end': '367.919', 'text': 'present relationship because they are'}, {'start': '365.039', 'end': '369.919', 'text': 'two different things. learn to separate'}, {'start': '367.919', 'end': '372.560', 'text': 'them. And when you learn to separate'}, {'start': '369.919', 'end': '375.360', 'text': "them, what you'll realize, it was more"}, {'start': '372.560', 'end': '378.000', 'text': 'essential for you to create that'}, {'start': '375.360', 'end': '379.759', 'text': 'beautiful relationship with your son or'}, {'start': '378.000', 'end': '383.039', 'text': 'your daughter. You had the opportunity'}, {'start': '379.759', 'end': '388.280', 'text': 'to help them grow. You were there for'}, {'start': '383.039', 'end': '391.759', 'text': 'major milestones, to see their potential'}, {'start': '388.280', 'end': '394.120', 'text': 'rise. Pat yourself on the back. There'}, {'start': '391.759', 'end': '398.160', 'text': "are men out here that don't have the"}, {'start': '394.120', 'end': '401.120', 'text': 'opportunity to become a father or a dad.'}, {'start': '398.160', 'end': '403.520', 'text': 'Children are a privilege. They are not a'}, {'start': '401.120', 'end': '406.080', 'text': 'right and they definitely are not a'}, {'start': '403.520', 'end': '407.720', 'text': 'burden. As I said before, there are'}, {'start': '406.080', 'end': '411.840', 'text': 'going to be some hard'}, {'start': '407.720', 'end': '415.919', 'text': 'times whether you decide to be in their'}, {'start': '411.840', 'end': '419.000', 'text': 'life or not, but you much rather have'}, {'start': '415.919', 'end': '421.599', 'text': 'those hard times together. your'}, {'start': '419.000', 'end': '424.440', 'text': "relationship with your children. That's"}, {'start': '421.599', 'end': '429.199', 'text': 'the one that matters the most. Keep in'}, {'start': '424.440', 'end': '430.880', 'text': "mind, just like they need you, there'll"}, {'start': '429.199', 'end': '434.080', 'text': "be a time where you're going to need"}, {'start': '430.880', 'end': '438.000', 'text': "them. And you want to make sure they're"}, {'start': '434.080', 'end': '441.599', 'text': "going to be there for you when it's your"}, {'start': '438.000', 'end': '443.919', 'text': 'time. And that starts from the moment'}, {'start': '441.599', 'end': '447.560', 'text': "you find out you're going to become a"}, {'start': '443.919', 'end': '450.720', 'text': "father. It's the brain's way of"}, {'start': '447.560', 'end': '454.319', 'text': 'compensating because the mother of your'}, {'start': '450.720', 'end': '459.680', 'text': 'child has a biological connection. So'}, {'start': '454.319', 'end': '462.080', 'text': "the brain nature, it's going to give you"}, {'start': '459.680', 'end': '465.520', 'text': 'the ability to have this neurological'}, {'start': '462.080', 'end': '468.880', 'text': 'connection. Your child, they they mimic'}, {'start': '465.520', 'end': '472.880', 'text': 'your gestures. They look like you. All'}, {'start': '468.880', 'end': '475.400', 'text': 'those things are part of building that'}, {'start': '472.880', 'end': '478.599', 'text': 'bond, that relationship.'}, {'start': '475.400', 'end': '481.240', 'text': 'Nature will allow that neurological'}, {'start': '478.599', 'end': '484.720', 'text': 'connection to take'}, {'start': '481.240', 'end': '488.240', 'text': 'root. Use it to your advantage and'}, {'start': '484.720', 'end': '490.360', 'text': "understand that it's way more valuable"}, {'start': '488.240', 'end': '494.560', 'text': 'to build a relationship with your'}, {'start': '490.360', 'end': '499.919', 'text': "children because over time you're going"}, {'start': '494.560', 'end': '499.919', 'text': 'to need them just like they need you.'}, {'start': '504.080', 'end': '510.120', 'text': 'In this video, single fathers, they'}, {'start': '507.759', 'end': '512.640', 'text': 'learn how they'}, {'start': '510.120', 'end': '514.360', 'text': 'emotionally and neurologically connect'}, {'start': '512.640', 'end': '516.120', 'text': 'with their'}, {'start': '514.360', 'end': '518.839', 'text': 'children. This'}, {'start': '516.120', 'end': '522.599', 'text': 'connection is the building block of the'}, {'start': '518.839', 'end': '525.040', 'text': 'family. And no matter how the family'}, {'start': '522.599', 'end': '529.120', 'text': 'changes, this connection should always'}, {'start': '525.040', 'end': '530.519', 'text': 'remain intact. Remember to like this in'}, {'start': '529.120', 'end': '533.600', 'text': 'every'}, {'start': '530.519', 'end': '536.240', 'text': 'video. Get this valuable information to'}, {'start': '533.600', 'end': '538.560', 'text': 'spread the knowledge and inspire other'}, {'start': '536.240', 'end': '541.160', 'text': 'single fathers to make their present'}, {'start': '538.560', 'end': '544.800', 'text': 'connections with their children even'}, {'start': '541.160', 'end': '547.600', 'text': 'stronger. 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