Don't Make Yourself Cheap | 3 Biggest Mistakes | Why Do People IGNORE You? | Anpadh Murga
Anpadh Murga
[{'start': '0.160', 'end': '5.200', 'text': 'Sometimes there comes a time in life when a person questions himself,'}, {'start': '5.200', 'end': '11.200', 'text': 'why do people ignore me? This question is as simple as it is deep.'}, {'start': '11.200', 'end': '16.560', 'text': "There comes a moment in everyone's life when they feel that their presence does not matter to anyone."}, {'start': '16.560', 'end': '21.680', 'text': 'Be it school, college or office, this feeling follows them everywhere. Sometimes'}, {'start': '21.680', 'end': '27.680', 'text': 'a person finds himself alone even in his own home, even among his own people, and this loneliness, this'}, {'start': '27.680', 'end': '32.079', 'text': 'being ignored, hurts the heart very deeply. Many times we ourselves We reduce the value'}, {'start': '32.079', 'end': '37.360', 'text': 'without even thinking, like giving more respect to low-cost people than they deserve. This'}, {'start': '37.360', 'end': '42.320', 'text': 'line sounds very simple but the truth behind it is very big. Many times'}, {'start': '42.320', 'end': '46.800', 'text': 'we give space in our lives to people who do not deserve that space.'}, {'start': '46.800', 'end': '52.480', 'text': "We think that maybe our goodness and generosity will win someone's heart,"}, {'start': '52.480', 'end': '57.680', 'text': 'but the reality is that the world often takes advantage of your goodness, as the famous'}, {'start': '57.680', 'end': '62.640', 'text': 'motivational speaker J Sheth says. You'}, {'start': '62.640', 'end': '66.640', 'text': 'teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop and what you reinforce. That is, you yourself teach people'}, {'start': '66.640', 'end': '70.960', 'text': 'how to behave with you. It depends on what you allow,'}, {'start': '70.960', 'end': '76.080', 'text': 'what you stop and what you repeat again and again. There is a strange trend in our society'}, {'start': '76.080', 'end': '81.600', 'text': 'that the more you bend, the more you are considered inferior. When you run away at'}, {'start': '81.600', 'end': '86.640', 'text': "everyone 's invitation, then people do not take you seriously. They stop taking,"}, {'start': '86.640', 'end': '90.960', 'text': 'they think that you do not have any priority of your own. If you always'}, {'start': '90.960', 'end': '95.600', 'text': 'keep yourself available to others, then your value automatically reduces. This'}, {'start': '95.600', 'end': '100.880', 'text': 'is a psychological truth which people often ignore, as Sadhguru says, if'}, {'start': '100.880', 'end': '105.200', 'text': 'you keep giving yourself away, you will have nothing left for yourself. This line'}, {'start': '105.200', 'end': '110.560', 'text': 'is very deep. When you give your energy, your time, your attention to everyone, then you have'}, {'start': '110.560', 'end': '115.360', 'text': "There is nothing left for yourself and people also stop taking you seriously. Now let's talk about"}, {'start': '115.360', 'end': '120.640', 'text': 'the next point, that is, telling your personal things to people without any reason. This habit also'}, {'start': '120.640', 'end': '125.600', 'text': 'makes us small in the eyes of people. When you'}, {'start': '125.600', 'end': '130.640', 'text': 'start sharing all your problems, your secrets, your feelings with everyone, then people start taking you lightly.'}, {'start': '130.640', 'end': '135.360', 'text': 'They think that you are emotionally weak. You are easy to handle.'}, {'start': '135.360', 'end': '140.640', 'text': 'Once a friend had told me, brother, do not tell everyone about your life. Tell me, people make fun'}, {'start': '140.640', 'end': '145.680', 'text': 'and this is true, when you share every detail of your life with others,'}, {'start': '145.680', 'end': '150.480', 'text': 'people start ignoring you, they think that your words'}, {'start': '150.480', 'end': '155.760', 'text': 'do not matter much. There are many such stories in real life. Suppose there is a boy, his name is'}, {'start': '155.760', 'end': '160.720', 'text': 'Arif. Arif is a very simple, very soft hearted boy. He gives a lot of respect to his friends,'}, {'start': '160.720', 'end': '165.680', 'text': "helps them in every small and big task. Be it someone's birthday,"}, {'start': '165.680', 'end': '171.760', 'text': "be it someone's problem, Arif is always at the forefront. But when the same Arif needs something,"}, {'start': '171.760', 'end': '176.640', 'text': 'his friends ignore him. Arif does not understand why this'}, {'start': '176.640', 'end': '181.200', 'text': 'is happening. He wants the good of everyone, helps everyone, then why do people not'}, {'start': '181.200', 'end': '186.000', 'text': 'take him seriously? Actually, Arif never set his limits, he never told that he'}, {'start': '186.000', 'end': '190.720', 'text': 'also has any value, he also has a priority. He gave so much respect to everyone in his life'}, {'start': '190.720', 'end': '197.599', 'text': 'that people forgot to respect him. Similarly, there is a girl named Sana Sana'}, {'start': '197.599', 'end': '202.080', 'text': 'is very emotional. She feels that by sharing her feelings, people will come closer to her.'}, {'start': '202.080', 'end': '207.440', 'text': 'She shares her every happiness, every sorrow, every secret with her friends.'}, {'start': '207.440', 'end': '212.159', 'text': 'In the beginning, everyone listens to her words and console her, but gradually people'}, {'start': '212.159', 'end': '217.280', 'text': "start ignoring her words. They feel that Sana's words"}, {'start': '217.280', 'end': '222.319', 'text': 'are always the same. There is no newness in it and then Sana starts feeling alone.'}, {'start': '222.319', 'end': '227.599', 'text': "All these stories are not just about Arif and Sana, it is us. At some point in everyone's life,"}, {'start': '227.599', 'end': '233.680', 'text': 'we all have reduced our own value, at some point or the other, we'}, {'start': '233.680', 'end': '238.720', 'text': 'have made ourselves so available to others that people have started ignoring us. This is human nature.'}, {'start': '238.720', 'end': '243.920', 'text': 'People value only those things which they get with difficulty. The thing which is easily obtained'}, {'start': '243.920', 'end': '248.879', 'text': 'gets reduced in value. That is why when people ignore you, first of all'}, {'start': '248.879', 'end': '254.000', 'text': 'ask yourself, have I made myself cheap, have I set my limits,'}, {'start': '254.000', 'end': '258.959', 'text': "am I Do I run away at everyone's invitation? Do I"}, {'start': '258.959', 'end': '264.080', 'text': 'share my personal things with everyone? If the answer to these questions is yes, then understand that the problem'}, {'start': '264.080', 'end': '269.440', 'text': 'is not outside, but inside. Change yourself, set your own values, only then people'}, {'start': '269.440', 'end': '274.720', 'text': 'will take you seriously. When a person is ignored again and again, a strange restlessness'}, {'start': '274.720', 'end': '280.400', 'text': 'settles inside him. He starts considering himself inferior. He feels that maybe there'}, {'start': '280.400', 'end': '285.520', 'text': 'is some flaw in him, maybe he is not worthy of people, but the truth is that every man has his own unique'}, {'start': '285.520', 'end': '290.240', 'text': 'There is value, the only difference is that some people understand their own value and some people'}, {'start': '290.240', 'end': '295.520', 'text': 'keep searching for their value in the eyes of others. This is the biggest mistake. Just think, when'}, {'start': '295.520', 'end': '300.800', 'text': 'you call or message someone again and again and there is no response,'}, {'start': '300.800', 'end': '306.639', 'text': 'then what kind of feeling comes in the heart, a strange emptiness, a strange sadness. It seems'}, {'start': '306.639', 'end': '310.720', 'text': 'that maybe you have no importance at all, but is it right? Does your'}, {'start': '310.720', 'end': '315.680', 'text': 'value depend only on this fact? How much do people notice you? No,'}, {'start': '315.680', 'end': '320.240', 'text': "not at all. Your real value lies in your own perspective. That's why first of all"}, {'start': '320.240', 'end': '325.199', 'text': 'understand yourself, give yourself time, love yourself. As Rumi has said, you are'}, {'start': '325.199', 'end': '330.400', 'text': 'not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop. That is, you'}, {'start': '330.400', 'end': '334.800', 'text': 'are not a drop in the ocean, but the entire universe is inside you. Unless you understand yourself, you'}, {'start': '334.800', 'end': '339.360', 'text': "will not care about yourself, till then people will also ignore you. Now let's talk"}, {'start': '339.360', 'end': '344.479', 'text': 'about practical life, accept office. There is a man named Imran. Imran'}, {'start': '344.479', 'end': '350.240', 'text': 'is very hardworking. He helps everyone. He arrives first in every meeting. He'}, {'start': '350.240', 'end': '354.479', 'text': 'is always ready for every work. But still the boss does not appreciate him. His colleagues ignore him.'}, {'start': '354.479', 'end': '359.840', 'text': 'Why because Imran never set his limits. He never showed that'}, {'start': '359.840', 'end': '365.120', 'text': 'he has any priority. He made himself so cheap that people'}, {'start': '365.120', 'end': '371.360', 'text': 'forgot to appreciate him. On the other hand, there is a man named Sameer. Sameer is always on his work. Focuses,'}, {'start': '371.360', 'end': '376.720', 'text': "helps only when needed, does not go to everyone's call, has his own priorities,"}, {'start': '376.720', 'end': '381.199', 'text': 'has his own limits, people take him seriously, respect his opinion, because'}, {'start': '381.199', 'end': '385.759', 'text': 'Sameer has set his own values, he has taught people'}, {'start': '385.759', 'end': '391.440', 'text': 'how to behave with him, similarly, when you share your personal things with everyone,'}, {'start': '391.440', 'end': '396.479', 'text': 'people start ignoring you, they feel that your words'}, {'start': '396.479', 'end': '401.280', 'text': 'do not matter much, hence keep your feelings to yourself. Share secrets only with those people'}, {'start': '401.280', 'end': '406.720', 'text': 'who really care about you. Sharing the details of your life with everyone'}, {'start': '406.720', 'end': '411.680', 'text': 'is like showing yourself weak. As the famous writer Khalil Gibran said, If you'}, {'start': '411.680', 'end': '416.319', 'text': 'reveal your secrets to them, you should not blame the wind for revealing them to the'}, {'start': '416.319', 'end': '421.280', 'text': 'trees. That is, if you tell your things to the wind, then it is the job of the wind to convey them to the trees.'}, {'start': '421.280', 'end': '427.039', 'text': 'Now the question is that What is the solution to all this? First of all, set your limits.'}, {'start': '427.039', 'end': '430.880', 'text': "Don't give so much space in your life to everyone that they start taking you for granted."}, {'start': '430.880', 'end': '437.199', 'text': "Set your own values. Don't always keep yourself available to others. Help only when needed."}, {'start': '437.199', 'end': '442.319', 'text': 'Decide your own priorities.'}, {'start': '442.319', 'end': '447.840', 'text': 'Share your personal things only with those people who really care for you. Second, love yourself.'}, {'start': '447.840', 'end': '452.160', 'text': 'Understand your own value. Unless you give a corner, people will also ignore you.'}, {'start': '452.160', 'end': '457.520', 'text': 'Give yourself time. Spend time in hobbies, focus on your growth. When you'}, {'start': '457.520', 'end': '462.080', 'text': "give yourself a chance, people will also take you seriously. Third, do not let people's thinking dominate you."}, {'start': '462.080', 'end': '467.199', 'text': 'More important than what people think is what you think about yourself.'}, {'start': '467.199', 'end': '472.720', 'text': "As Gary Vaynerchak says, other people's opinion of you is none of"}, {'start': '472.720', 'end': '476.560', 'text': "your business. What is people's opinion about you, it"}, {'start': '476.560', 'end': '481.199', 'text': 'is not your issue. Live your own life, set your own values \u200b\u200bin real life. There'}, {'start': '481.199', 'end': '486.160', 'text': 'are many people who set their own values \u200b\u200band today the world respects them'}, {'start': '486.160', 'end': '491.440', 'text': 'like Shahrukh Khan who started his life like a common boy but'}, {'start': '491.440', 'end': '496.879', 'text': "due to his hard work, his dignity and his limits, today he rules everyone's hearts."}, {'start': '496.879', 'end': '502.479', 'text': 'He never made himself cheap, never reduced his value, he always'}, {'start': '502.479', 'end': '508.800', 'text': 'gave importance to himself and today people respect him. In the end, it is important to understand'}, {'start': '508.800', 'end': '513.760', 'text': 'that people ignore you only when you ignore yourself. When you give advice to yourself,'}, {'start': '513.760', 'end': '519.360', 'text': 'set your own limits and understand your own value, people'}, {'start': '519.360', 'end': '527.080', 'text': 'will take you seriously. Remember, the world respects only those who respect themselves.'}]