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[{'start': '5.120', 'end': '10.240', 'text': 'Hello friends, how are you all? Today we are going to\ntalk about a very important topic'}, {'start': '10.240', 'end': '16.240', 'text': 'which is very important for all of us, especially after 60 or 70 years.\nSee, aging is the'}, {'start': '16.240', 'end': '21.039', 'text': 'law of nature, but do you know\nthat as age increases, the attitude of our own'}, {'start': '21.039', 'end': '26.000', 'text': 'children also starts changing. Those\nchildren who once could not live without you in every matter,'}, {'start': '26.000', 'end': '31.439', 'text': "today they say, hey friend,\nwhy do you interrupt in every matter, or mother, don't help every time,"}, {'start': '31.439', 'end': '36.880', 'text': 'we will manage ourselves. Hearing such things, the\nheart hurts, it feels like we are getting'}, {'start': '36.880', 'end': '42.559', 'text': 'such a reward for hard work and love from our own people,\nwhich we never thought of, but'}, {'start': '42.559', 'end': '48.079', 'text': 'tell me one thing, did all this happen suddenly\nor did we unknowingly teach our children'}, {'start': '48.079', 'end': '53.760', 'text': 'some such habits which have now\nbecome a burden for us. So friends, in this video'}, {'start': '53.760', 'end': '60.079', 'text': 'we will talk about three such habits which we ourselves\nteach our children. First, when we'}, {'start': '60.079', 'end': '65.280', 'text': 'suppress our needs every time so that the\nchildren do not have any problem, second, we'}, {'start': '65.280', 'end': '70.240', 'text': 'help them in every work whether they have\nasked for it or not and third,'}, {'start': '70.240', 'end': '75.520', 'text': 'giving advice without asking because we feel that we are\ntoo intelligent.  Now this'}, {'start': '75.520', 'end': '80.720', 'text': 'sounds very small and trivial but\nthese three things make children such that'}, {'start': '80.720', 'end': '85.600', 'text': 'they do not even realize our importance.\nThen a day comes when the same children taunt'}, {'start': '85.600', 'end': '91.119', 'text': 'us, glare at us and\nwe keep tolerating it silently but not anymore.'}, {'start': '91.119', 'end': '96.159', 'text': 'If you want to maintain respect in old age and keep\ngetting respect, then'}, {'start': '96.159', 'end': '102.000', 'text': 'habits will have to be changed from now itself. Let us\ntalk openly and honestly on this today, like a friend,'}, {'start': '102.000', 'end': '108.159', 'text': 'like a sympathiser because respect is\nnot alms but a right and how to get it is what'}, {'start': '108.159', 'end': '114.000', 'text': 'we will understand today. Do watch the video till the end\nbecause it is possible that'}, {'start': '114.000', 'end': '119.360', 'text': 'one of the three things of today will make your tomorrow better.\nMy dear friends, let us start. The'}, {'start': '119.360', 'end': '125.040', 'text': 'first habit is to suppress your needs every time. When\nyou always sacrifice your desires,'}, {'start': '125.040', 'end': '131.360', 'text': 'children consider it a habit and do not respect it.\nHey brother, tell me one thing, when your shoes get'}, {'start': '131.360', 'end': '136.879', 'text': 'worn out, the strap of the slippers comes off\nor the number of the glasses changes, then what do you'}, {'start': '136.879', 'end': '142.000', 'text': "think first? Then it comes to our mind\nthat let it be, we have to pay the children's fees, we"}, {'start': '142.000', 'end': '147.680', 'text': 'also have to buy medicine for the daughter-in-law now.  My needs are\nnot that big, this is what we think and this thinking'}, {'start': '147.680', 'end': '152.720', 'text': 'we keep on nurturing for years. Now just\nlisten to an anecdote.'}, {'start': '152.720', 'end': '158.560', 'text': 'You must know Shankar Chacha who lives in my neighbourhood, he was a very\nsimple and hardworking man, he'}, {'start': '158.560', 'end': '164.319', 'text': 'worked hard all his life, drove a rickshaw, worked in the fields, did\nwhatever he got, everything with the hope that his'}, {'start': '164.319', 'end': '170.319', 'text': "son would study and become something big and\nhe would get some comfort. Shankar Chacha's son Sunil was"}, {'start': '170.319', 'end': '175.599', 'text': 'good in studies. He even sold his bicycle\nso that he could go to coaching classes. He kept'}, {'start': '175.599', 'end': '180.319', 'text': 'roaming around in his torn kurta, but the son did\nnot have books. When Sunil'}, {'start': '180.319', 'end': '186.159', 'text': 'got a job and settled in the city, he took his uncle and aunt\nalong with him. Everything went well in the beginning,'}, {'start': '186.159', 'end': '191.519', 'text': "but slowly one thing started becoming clear.\nOne day, Chacha's glasses broke and he said, son, I need to get my"}, {'start': '191.519', 'end': '197.280', 'text': 'glasses replaced. I cannot see clearly.\nSunil said, Papa, money is a little tight right now, I will take them'}, {'start': '197.280', 'end': '202.319', 'text': 'next month. And that next\nmonth never came. Then one day, Chacha'}, {'start': '202.319', 'end': '207.840', 'text': 'said, there is pain in my feet, the slippers are worn out. The\ndaughter-in-law said with irritation, they seem fine right now,'}, {'start': '207.840', 'end': '213.360', 'text': 'Papa, ride a little more. And Chacha\nsmiled as he always does. Now'}, {'start': '213.360', 'end': '218.000', 'text': 'you tell me, who is the person who  Sacrifice your whole life\nfor your children, when they'}, {'start': '218.000', 'end': '222.959', 'text': 'ask for even a small slipper, then turn them down, is\nthis right? The thing to understand here is'}, {'start': '222.959', 'end': '228.560', 'text': 'whose fault was it?\nMany of us think that hiding your needs is'}, {'start': '228.560', 'end': '233.840', 'text': 'true love, but it is not so. When\nyou suppress your every need, then the children'}, {'start': '233.840', 'end': '238.720', 'text': 'think that father does not want anything. They\nmake it a habit that he will never'}, {'start': '238.720', 'end': '243.439', 'text': 'ask for anything. They do not even realize\nthat now the parents are also tired, now'}, {'start': '243.439', 'end': '249.120', 'text': 'they also need some rest. Shankar Chacha is still there,\nonly now he does not speak much. He'}, {'start': '249.120', 'end': '254.560', 'text': 'still has broken slippers, weak glasses\nand there are many unfulfilled things in his mind. Now'}, {'start': '254.560', 'end': '259.840', 'text': 'think, if he had told his\nneed clearly in the beginning, if he had lived a little'}, {'start': '259.840', 'end': '265.520', 'text': 'for himself, then perhaps the matter would not have gone so far.\nSo friends, leave this habit from now itself. Do not'}, {'start': '265.520', 'end': '271.040', 'text': 'suppress your needs every time.\nEven the smallest desires of your mind are as important as the'}, {'start': '271.040', 'end': '276.160', 'text': 'needs of the children. Being old is\nnot a burden. This is the age of respect'}, {'start': '276.160', 'end': '281.919', 'text': 'and you will get that respect only when you\nyourself respect yourself. But not sometimes,'}, {'start': '281.919', 'end': '287.199', 'text': 'son.  Saying I also want something is also a\nteaching thing, so next time when you'}, {'start': '287.199', 'end': '293.600', 'text': 'need something like new slippers, new glasses or just a\nlittle care, then say it without hesitation because'}, {'start': '293.600', 'end': '298.560', 'text': "until you yourself do not understand your importance, the\nworld will also not understand. Now let's move on to the next habit"}, {'start': '298.560', 'end': '304.639', 'text': 'which is even more important. The second habit is to\nhelp them in every work. Fulfilling every small and big'}, {'start': '304.639', 'end': '309.759', 'text': 'responsibility yourself does not make them responsible\nbut makes them dependent. Now tell me one thing'}, {'start': '309.759', 'end': '314.479', 'text': 'friends, have you ever seen that\nany parents take out even the socks of their young son,'}, {'start': '314.479', 'end': '319.360', 'text': 'prepare his file,\npack the tiffin and that child keeps'}, {'start': '319.360', 'end': '324.880', 'text': 'watching the mobile very comfortably. You might have\nseen it and maybe you yourself are doing it too, but have'}, {'start': '324.880', 'end': '330.320', 'text': 'you ever thought that when does this help become a habit\nand then one day the same habit'}, {'start': '330.320', 'end': '335.600', 'text': 'turns into taunting. Now just listen to another incident which\nhappened with Sharma ji of our locality.'}, {'start': '335.600', 'end': '340.800', 'text': 'Sharma ji was a teacher in a government school. He brought up his son\nwith great care. As soon as he returned from school, he would'}, {'start': '340.800', 'end': '346.560', 'text': "check his son's homework,\nmake the tiffin, press the uniform, he would do everything himself."}, {'start': '346.560', 'end': '352.880', 'text': 'When the son went to college, the same situation was there,\nfilling the forms, depositing the fees, every work was done by Sharma ji.'}, {'start': '352.880', 'end': '358.160', 'text': 'Sharma ji thought that he was\nhelping his son but in reality he was'}, {'start': '358.160', 'end': '363.840', 'text': 'not giving him a chance to become responsible.\nTime passed. The son started working but his habits'}, {'start': '363.840', 'end': '370.160', 'text': 'remained the same. As soon as he woke up in the morning, he would say,\nPapa, my tiffin is ready. Papa, please iron my shirt.'}, {'start': '370.160', 'end': '375.120', 'text': 'Once, he even got his\nfather to prepare the report to be taken to the office.'}, {'start': '375.120', 'end': '380.720', 'text': 'Sharma ji liked all this initially. He\nfelt that his son was still attached to him. But'}, {'start': '380.720', 'end': '386.639', 'text': 'gradually the fatigue and burden of mind started increasing and\none day something happened which he had never thought of.'}, {'start': '386.639', 'end': '392.080', 'text': 'One day, the son was reprimanded lightly in the office. The\nreport was wrong. He'}, {'start': '392.080', 'end': '397.520', 'text': 'came home angrily and said, Papa, you had prepared the\nreport. I was insulted.'}, {'start': '397.520', 'end': '402.720', 'text': 'Sharma ji was shocked to hear this. The son for whose\nlife he had'}, {'start': '402.720', 'end': '409.120', 'text': 'devoted himself, today the same son is blaming him.\nNow you tell me whether this was help or had it become a'}, {'start': '409.120', 'end': '414.479', 'text': 'way of gradually snatching away his responsibility. The\nmatter is just this much that it is'}, {'start': '414.479', 'end': '418.960', 'text': 'not bad to help in every work but when you\nstart doing every small and big thing yourself, then the child does'}, {'start': '418.960', 'end': '425.199', 'text': 'not learn, he just takes advantage of your habit.\nHe thinks  Hey friend, parents are there, they will do everything'}, {'start': '425.199', 'end': '431.199', 'text': 'and when you get tired some day\nor by mistake something is left out, then the same child'}, {'start': '431.199', 'end': '436.000', 'text': 'shouts at you, why because\nyou taught him to be dependent,'}, {'start': '436.000', 'end': '442.400', 'text': 'not responsible, so help\nbut show the way when needed, but do not'}, {'start': '442.400', 'end': '448.000', 'text': 'walk every step yourself, explain to the children that\nevery member of the house fulfills responsibility,'}, {'start': '448.000', 'end': '453.440', 'text': 'parents as well as children, Sharma ji has now\nmaintained some distance, the son is now slowly'}, {'start': '453.440', 'end': '458.639', 'text': 'learning to do things on his own, it was a\nlittle difficult in the beginning but now he is understanding'}, {'start': '458.639', 'end': '464.319', 'text': 'that parents are always with them but every work cannot be left to\nthem, so'}, {'start': '464.319', 'end': '470.000', 'text': 'I will say the same thing to you too, do not do every work yourself,\notherwise a day will come when he will say that'}, {'start': '470.000', 'end': '475.280', 'text': 'you have been doing it, so do it now also and that\nday you will be very sad, now the next habit is to'}, {'start': '475.280', 'end': '480.240', 'text': "think even more, let's understand that too,\nbut before that if you are"}, {'start': '480.240', 'end': '486.080', 'text': 'liking these things, then please\nwrite number two in the comment below so that I know that you are'}, {'start': '486.080', 'end': '490.400', 'text': 'with me and if you have not\nsubscribed yet, then subscribe'}, {'start': '490.400', 'end': '496.240', 'text': "and press the bell icon hard so that you do\nnot miss our next video, let's talk now"}, {'start': '496.240', 'end': '502.080', 'text': 'Friends, I want to ask you a simple question about the third and most important habit. Do'}, {'start': '502.080', 'end': '507.680', 'text': "you like it when someone\ninterrupts you in every matter. Don't do this, do that, do"}, {'start': '507.680', 'end': '512.120', 'text': 'you know anything? In our times,\nthis used to happen like this, that used to happen,'}, {'start': '512.120', 'end': '517.120', 'text': 'etc. Now think, when we\nstart advising children in every matter,'}, {'start': '517.120', 'end': '522.320', 'text': 'how would they feel? Now listen to a small story\nwhich will explain a lot.'}, {'start': '522.320', 'end': '528.000', 'text': 'My tea-drinking friend is Mishra uncle, a\nvery good man, but he has a habit of'}, {'start': '528.000', 'end': '533.279', 'text': 'advising in everything. His son Amit\nworks in a private company. Every day,'}, {'start': '533.279', 'end': '538.959', 'text': "as soon as he comes home, uncle starts saying, do\nn't use your mobile as soon as you sit down."}, {'start': '538.959', 'end': '544.800', 'text': "This is how you should talk to your boss in the company. Don't give too much\nfreedom to your wife. She will get arrogant. Don't raise your children like this. They will get"}, {'start': '544.800', 'end': '550.320', 'text': 'spoiled. Amit used to\nremain quiet in the beginning, then gradually his facial'}, {'start': '550.320', 'end': '556.640', 'text': 'expressions started changing. He would raise his eyes, get irritated,\nsometimes he would even leave the room. While'}, {'start': '556.640', 'end': '562.080', 'text': 'Mishra uncle thought that he was\nspeaking from his experience, his son would learn, but Amit'}, {'start': '562.080', 'end': '567.519', 'text': "started feeling that his father interferes in everything and does\nn't listen to his understanding. One day,  Amit"}, {'start': '567.519', 'end': '573.519', 'text': 'said, Papa please stop interrupting me in every matter,\nI am not a child, I'}, {'start': '573.519', 'end': '578.560', 'text': 'know everything. It was very difficult for Mishra uncle to hear this\nbut he also'}, {'start': '578.560', 'end': '584.160', 'text': 'put his hand on his heart and thought that somewhere I am also at fault,\nI was giving more orders and less advice.'}, {'start': '584.160', 'end': '589.920', 'text': 'See friends, it is not wrong to say something but\ninterrupting in every matter all the time distances the children from us. The'}, {'start': '589.920', 'end': '594.880', 'text': 'things that we can say with love and\nat the right time, if'}, {'start': '594.880', 'end': '600.080', 'text': 'repeated again and again, become irritating. Many times the\nchildren do not ask for advice and we'}, {'start': '600.080', 'end': '605.839', 'text': "say beforehand, don't do this, you should have asked us,\nwhereas they just want"}, {'start': '605.839', 'end': '611.440', 'text': 'us to listen, understand and give advice later. Friends,\nwe think that we have seen life, we have'}, {'start': '611.440', 'end': '616.800', 'text': 'more understanding, of course we do, but it is\nnot necessary to share every understanding. It is important that the'}, {'start': '616.800', 'end': '622.560', 'text': 'children listen to you only when they are\nready to listen, otherwise gradually the importance of your words'}, {'start': '622.560', 'end': '627.920', 'text': "starts to diminish. They think that\nnow Papa and Mummy interrupt all the time, don't pay attention."}, {'start': '627.920', 'end': '633.760', 'text': 'Now think, how will it feel if the thing that was heard with respect earlier is\nnow ignored?'}, {'start': '633.760', 'end': '638.959', 'text': 'Mishra uncle now adopted a method.\nWhen the son tells about a problem,'}, {'start': '638.959', 'end': '645.040', 'text': 'first he listens and then asks, "If you\nwant, I can say something" and when Amit says yes,'}, {'start': '645.040', 'end': '650.560', 'text': 'then only he says something. Now there is a closeness between the two\nagain. So friends, you also'}, {'start': '650.560', 'end': '656.320', 'text': "do the same. Don't give advice without being asked. There is\nexperience in your words and experience has value only"}, {'start': '656.320', 'end': '661.519', 'text': 'when it is the right time to give it.\nSometimes, keeping quiet and just listening is also a'}, {'start': '661.519', 'end': '666.800', 'text': 'great wisdom because it is\nnot necessary to answer everything. Some'}, {'start': '666.800', 'end': '672.640', 'text': "things are just made to be felt. Now let's\nunderstand a small essence of this whole thing"}, {'start': '672.640', 'end': '677.680', 'text': 'which can fill your old age with respect. So\nfriends, if you also want that'}, {'start': '677.680', 'end': '683.519', 'text': 'your respect remains in old age, then just\navoid these three habits. Learn to express your needs instead of suppressing them.'}, {'start': '683.519', 'end': '689.279', 'text': 'Instead of doing everything yourself,\nteach children to take responsibility and'}, {'start': '689.279', 'end': '695.120', 'text': 'give advice only when they themselves want to listen. Remember,\nrespect is not given by force, it is earned with understanding.'}, {'start': '695.120', 'end': '701.040', 'text': 'Now it is time to change the thinking. If\nyou find these things right, then definitely share it'}, {'start': '701.040', 'end': '706.640', 'text': 'so that other parents can also save their respect.\nNow the decision is yours whether to maintain the relationship'}, {'start': '706.640', 'end': '712.000', 'text': 'or just keep suffering.  So friends, if\nyou are liking these things, then please'}, {'start': '712.000', 'end': '717.760', 'text': 'write number three in the comment below so that I\nknow you are with me and if you have'}, {'start': '717.760', 'end': '722.959', 'text': 'not subscribed yet, then subscribe\nand press the bell icon so that you do'}, {'start': '722.959', 'end': '728.160', 'text': 'not miss our next video. Thank you Jai Shri\nKrishna'}]