#134 Christer Olsson - Att känna tacksamhet för varje dag
Maria Krafft Helgesson - Inspireras av
[{'start': '5.786', 'end': '9.000', 'text': 'A warm welcome to Maria is inspired by.'}, {'start': '9.000', 'end': '11.105', 'text': 'I enjoy inspiring and giving other'}, {'start': '11.105', 'end': '13.000', 'text': 'people the opportunity to develop.'}, {'start': '13.000', 'end': '14.981', 'text': 'Here I invite guests who'}, {'start': '14.981', 'end': '17.301', 'text': 'inspire me and who I hope and believe'}, {'start': '17.301', 'end': '19.000', 'text': 'you are also inspired by.'}, {'start': '19.000', 'end': '21.289', 'text': 'We talk about communication,'}, {'start': '21.289', 'end': '24.210', 'text': 'accessibility, leadership, sports and'}, {'start': '24.210', 'end': '25.000', 'text': 'culture.'}, {'start': '25.000', 'end': '27.666', 'text': 'If you like this episode and other'}, {'start': '27.666', 'end': '30.000', 'text': 'things I do, please feel free to'}, {'start': '30.000', 'end': '33.000', 'text': 'share, spread the word, and comment so more people can'}, {'start': '33.000', 'end': '34.000', 'text': 'benefit from it.'}, {'start': '44.000', 'end': '47.000', 'text': 'Hello and welcome to this'}, {'start': '47.000', 'end': '48.000', 'text': 'episode.'}, {'start': '48.000', 'end': '50.943', 'text': "Now I'm sitting in a hotel in Borås and I"}, {'start': '50.943', 'end': '53.811', 'text': "'ve just heard that one of our most"}, {'start': '53.811', 'end': '56.000', 'text': 'famous lecturers in Sweden'}, {'start': '56.000', 'end': '58.980', 'text': 'in this area of \u200b\u200bleadership and'}, {'start': '58.980', 'end': '60.000', 'text': 'other things'}, {'start': '60.000', 'end': '62.000', 'text': 'was in place in Borås.'}, {'start': '62.000', 'end': '64.536', 'text': 'Heard from me quickly and oh my, he'}, {'start': '64.536', 'end': '67.000', 'text': 'agreed to be here.'}, {'start': '67.000', 'end': '69.800', 'text': "I've been following him for a few years and am"}, {'start': '69.800', 'end': '73.000', 'text': 'truly inspired by his'}, {'start': '73.000', 'end': '76.441', 'text': 'way of looking at life and relating'}, {'start': '76.441', 'end': '79.000', 'text': 'to different things as well.'}, {'start': '79.000', 'end': '80.925', 'text': 'And not making it so complicated,'}, {'start': '80.925', 'end': '83.000', 'text': 'I also think we should talk a lot about.'}, {'start': '83.000', 'end': '84.941', 'text': 'So I say a warm welcome to'}, {'start': '84.941', 'end': '86.000', 'text': 'Christer Olsson.'}, {'start': '86.000', 'end': '88.000', 'text': 'Thank you so very much.'}, {'start': '88.000', 'end': '89.000', 'text': 'Funny.'}, {'start': '89.000', 'end': '90.000', 'text': 'Yes, very fun and very exciting.'}, {'start': '90.000', 'end': '92.000', 'text': 'when it becomes this spontaneous.'}, {'start': '92.000', 'end': '94.000', 'text': 'Yes, I like it too.'}, {'start': '94.000', 'end': '96.375', 'text': "I'm so glad you agreed to"}, {'start': '96.375', 'end': '97.000', 'text': 'this.'}, {'start': '97.000', 'end': '100.000', 'text': 'You will be lecturing a little later here in Borås.'}, {'start': '100.000', 'end': '101.000', 'text': 'Yes.'}, {'start': '101.000', 'end': '102.720', 'text': 'Then I would like to take this opportunity to contact'}, {'start': '102.720', 'end': '104.927', 'text': "you.\nYes, I'm going to meet an association that works with people"}, {'start': '104.927', 'end': '107.000', 'text': 'affected by cancer.'}, {'start': '108.000', 'end': '109.727', 'text': 'Also extremely meaningful and when I'}, {'start': '109.727', 'end': '111.454', 'text': "saw what you were doing, I couldn't"}, {'start': '111.454', 'end': '112.000', 'text': 'say no.'}, {'start': '112.000', 'end': '114.000', 'text': 'No, fine.'}, {'start': '114.000', 'end': '118.000', 'text': 'Yes, or selfishly.'}, {'start': '118.000', 'end': '120.000', 'text': 'The feeling of meaning'}, {'start': '120.000', 'end': '122.000', 'text': 'something to others.'}, {'start': '122.000', 'end': '124.000', 'text': 'Aristotle said it.'}, 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'end': '145.220', 'text': 'I wonder if the greatest altruist'}, {'start': '145.220', 'end': '146.000', 'text': 'is actually an egoist.'}, {'start': '146.000', 'end': '147.255', 'text': 'And I really share that'}, {'start': '147.255', 'end': '148.000', 'text': 'opinion.'}, {'start': '148.000', 'end': '150.000', 'text': 'I have been to South Africa and worked.'}, {'start': '150.000', 'end': '152.000', 'text': 'I have a school in South Africa.'}, {'start': '152.000', 'end': '153.983', 'text': 'The first time I went there, I felt'}, {'start': '153.983', 'end': '155.000', 'text': 'like a giver.'}, {'start': '155.000', 'end': '156.772', 'text': 'But when I went home from there, I felt'}, {'start': '156.772', 'end': '158.000', 'text': 'like a worthless loser.'}, {'start': '158.000', 'end': '160.375', 'text': 'For what I had received back from all the'}, {'start': '160.375', 'end': '162.000', 'text': 'children down in South Africa.  It'}, {'start': '162.000', 'end': '164.265', 'text': 'was so infinitely more than I'}, {'start': '164.265', 'end': '165.000', 'text': 'had given.'}, {'start': '165.000', 'end': '167.000', 'text': 'From my abundance too.'}, {'start': '167.000', 'end': '169.736', 'text': "So it's really very rewarding"}, {'start': '169.736', 'end': '171.000', 'text': 'and motivating.'}, {'start': '171.000', 'end': '173.883', 'text': 'To try to contribute to other'}, {'start': '173.883', 'end': '175.000', 'text': 'people.'}, {'start': '175.000', 'end': '178.482', 'text': 'Many people are fighting unfair lives'}, {'start': '178.482', 'end': '180.000', 'text': "that I don't"}, {'start': '180.000', 'end': '181.000', 'text': 'have to fight.'}, {'start': '181.000', 'end': '183.000', 'text': 'I have my burdens to bear.'}, {'start': '183.000', 'end': '184.695', 'text': 'But then you can try to help others with'}, {'start': '184.695', 'end': '185.000', 'text': 'theirs.'}, {'start': '185.000', 'end': '186.000', 'text': 'Very nice.'}, {'start': '186.000', 'end': '187.758', 'text': "Right now, I'm talking"}, {'start': '187.758', 'end': '189.000', 'text': 'a lot about it.'}, {'start': '189.000', 'end': '190.478', 'text': 'What value can I provide to other'}, {'start': '190.478', 'end': '191.000', 'text': 'people?'}, {'start': '191.000', 'end': '194.000', 'text': 'To also become more aware of it.'}, {'start': '194.000', 'end': '196.000', 'text': 'If I give, I will also receive in return.'}, {'start': '196.000', 'end': '198.000', 'text': 'So I really agree with that.'}, {'start': '198.000', 'end': '200.000', 'text': 'That it is so.'}, {'start': '200.000', 'end': '201.000', 'text': "But those who don't..."}, {'start': '201.000', 'end': '202.000', 'text': "It's in the Bible."}, {'start': '202.000', 'end': '204.000', 'text': 'To him who gives, it shall be given.'}, {'start': '204.000', 'end': '205.000', 'text': 'Is that so?'}, {'start': '205.000', 'end': '207.000', 'text': 'These are old philosophies.'}, {'start': '207.000', 'end': '209.651', 'text': "Those who don't really know you now"}, {'start': '209.651', 'end': '210.000', 'text': '.'}, {'start': '210.000', 'end': '212.000', 'text': 'Who is Christer?'}, {'start': '212.000', 'end': '214.086', 'text': "I'm still trying to figure that out."}, {'start': '215.000', 'end': '217.000', 'text': "That's part of why I'm so curious."}, {'start': '217.000', 'end': '218.000', 'text': 'For life.'}, {'start': '218.000', 'end': '220.000', 'text': 'Who is Christer Olsson?'}, {'start': '220.000', 'end': '222.134', 'text': "I don't think I'll ever get the"}, {'start': '222.134', 'end': '223.000', 'text': 'full answer.'}, {'start': '223.000', 'end': '225.000', 'text': 'Get to know yourself people are talking about.'}, {'start': '225.000', 'end': '227.000', 'text': 'And you have to get to know yourself.'}, {'start': '227.000', 'end': '228.000', 'text': 'I usually say try.'}, {'start': '228.000', 'end': '230.000', 'text': 'We are such complex beings.'}, {'start': '230.000', 'end': '232.000', 'text': 'And every person is so unique.'}, {'start': '232.000', 'end': '235.000', 'text': "But on the outside, I'm like..."}, {'start': '235.000', 'end': '237.000', 'text': "I'm a fisherman's boy from Öckerö."}, {'start': '237.000', 'end': '240.000', 'text': 'Call me a traveler in common sense.'}, {'start': '240.000', 'end': '242.000', 'text': '68 years old.'}, {'start': '242.000', 'end': '243.000', 'text': 'My background is like...'}, {'start': '243.000', 'end': '247.000', 'text': 'Above all, I am the father of three sons.'}, {'start': '247.000', 'end': '250.000', 'text': '32, 36, 38 years old.'}, {'start': '250.000', 'end': '253.000', 'text': 'I am a grandfather to five grandchildren.'}, {'start': '253.000', 'end': '255.000', 'text': 'Yes, wonderful.'}, {'start': '255.000', 'end': '256.000', 'text': "Yes, that's it."}, {'start': '256.000', 'end': '257.000', 'text': 'And I am now...'}, {'start': '257.000', 'end': '258.392', 'text': 'My wife died in an accident three and a'}, {'start': '258.392', 'end': '259.000', 'text': 'half years ago.'}, {'start': '259.000', 'end': '261.000', 'text': 'My parents died early too.'}, {'start': '261.000', 'end': '262.688', 'text': 'My mother died at the age of 30 when I was'}, {'start': '262.688', 'end': '263.000', 'text': 'four.'}, {'start': '263.000', 'end': '266.000', 'text': 'My father died at the age of 46 when I'}, {'start': '266.000', 'end': '267.000', 'text': 'was fifteen.'}, {'start': '267.000', 'end': '268.950', 'text': 'And my wife died in an accident three and'}, {'start': '268.950', 'end': '270.000', 'text': 'a half years ago.'}, {'start': '270.000', 'end': '272.017', 'text': 'But now I have met a new woman who'}, {'start': '272.017', 'end': '273.000', 'text': 'I am living with.'}, {'start': '273.000', 'end': '276.000', 'text': 'And we got a dog.'}, {'start': '276.000', 'end': '281.000', 'text': 'A little cocker spaniel, now 15 weeks old.'}, {'start': '281.000', 'end': '283.000', 'text': 'Oh, oh, oh.'}, {'start': '283.000', 'end': '285.000', 'text': 'So I have a new family in a way.'}, {'start': '285.000', 'end': '287.807', 'text': 'And life has taken a new turn in'}, {'start': '287.807', 'end': '289.000', 'text': 'this drama.'}, {'start': '289.000', 'end': '292.000', 'text': 'My wife died in an accident.'}, {'start': '292.000', 'end': '294.697', 'text': 'And after the despair that naturally'}, {'start': '294.697', 'end': '297.000', 'text': 'arises, life returns.'}, {'start': '297.000', 'end': '299.522', 'text': 'If you let it in again, I usually'}, {'start': '299.522', 'end': '300.000', 'text': 'say.'}, {'start': '300.000', 'end': '302.000', 'text': 'Exactly.'}, {'start': '302.000', 'end': '303.000', 'text': 'It is an active choice you need to make.'}, {'start': '303.000', 'end': '304.403', 'text': "I think it's a bit funny that you"}, {'start': '304.403', 'end': '305.000', 'text': "'re from Öckerö."}, {'start': '305.000', 'end': '307.000', 'text': 'Because we talked a little bit here before.'}, {'start': '307.000', 'end': '308.887', 'text': "I've had other guests in my podcast"}, {'start': '308.887', 'end': '310.000', 'text': 'and podcast from Öckerö.'}, {'start': '310.000', 'end': '312.000', 'text': 'With Maria and Peter Andersson.'}, {'start': '312.000', 'end': '314.000', 'text': 'Very fun actually.'}, {'start': '314.000', 'end': '316.000', 'text': "Yes, I don't know them."}, {'start': '316.000', 'end': '318.000', 'text': 'But you know them.'}, {'start': '318.000', 'end': '320.000', 'text': "That's what they do on Öckerö.   It's"}, {'start': '320.000', 'end': '322.000', 'text': "wonderful and it's a lot of fun."}, {'start': '322.000', 'end': '326.000', 'text': 'To then participate in the same program.'}, {'start': '326.000', 'end': '328.000', 'text': 'Yes, exactly.'}, {'start': '328.000', 'end': '329.000', 'text': "Yes, it's an honor, I must say."}, {'start': '329.000', 'end': '330.000', 'text': 'They did it very nicely.'}, {'start': '330.000', 'end': '332.000', 'text': 'I understand that.'}, {'start': '332.000', 'end': '334.000', 'text': "I'll listen and watch it."}, {'start': '334.000', 'end': '337.409', 'text': 'Now you are going to talk and lecture this'}, {'start': '337.409', 'end': '339.000', 'text': 'afternoon.'}, {'start': '339.000', 'end': '342.000', 'text': 'What is that topic about now?'}, {'start': '342.000', 'end': '344.666', 'text': 'It is an association for people who have been'}, {'start': '344.666', 'end': '347.259', 'text': 'directly and indirectly affected by'}, {'start': '347.259', 'end': '348.000', 'text': 'cancer.'}, {'start': '348.000', 'end': '353.200', 'text': "It's simply about relating."}, {'start': '354.000', 'end': '357.076', 'text': 'We talk a lot about changes'}, {'start': '357.076', 'end': '358.000', 'text': 'in our time.'}, {'start': '358.000', 'end': '361.196', 'text': 'Trump is causing a lot of trouble for a lot of people.'}, {'start': '361.196', 'end': '363.428', 'text': 'Then we often talk about chosen changes'}, {'start': '363.428', 'end': '366.000', 'text': 'and unchosen changes.'}, {'start': '366.000', 'end': '368.814', 'text': 'Then you say that chosen changes are'}, {'start': '368.814', 'end': '372.000', 'text': 'easy to handle because you have chosen them.'}, {'start': '372.000', 'end': '374.000', 'text': "That's a lie."}, {'start': '374.000', 'end': '377.083', 'text': 'For example, living in a destructive'}, {'start': '377.083', 'end': '378.000', 'text': 'relationship.'}, {'start': '378.000', 'end': '381.000', 'text': 'Need to choose to divorce.'}, {'start': '381.000', 'end': '384.000', 'text': 'Or having to choose to do things in a'}, {'start': '384.000', 'end': '385.000', 'text': 'context.'}, {'start': '385.000', 'end': '386.741', 'text': 'Drop off your child for a'}, {'start': '386.741', 'end': '389.000', 'text': 'treatment session or something else.'}, {'start': '389.000', 'end': '390.000', 'text': 'These are very difficult choices,'}, {'start': '390.000', 'end': '392.000', 'text': 'but they are necessary to make.'}, {'start': '392.000', 'end': '393.481', 'text': "That doesn't mean they are easy because"}, {'start': '393.481', 'end': '394.000', 'text': 'they are chosen.'}, {'start': '394.000', 'end': '395.866', 'text': 'And then you have the unselected'}, {'start': '395.866', 'end': '397.000', 'text': 'changes.'}, {'start': '397.000', 'end': '401.000', 'text': 'We are affected by a functional variation.'}, {'start': '401.000', 'end': '403.298', 'text': 'Either in the middle of life or we bring a'}, {'start': '403.298', 'end': '405.310', 'text': 'person with functional variations into'}, {'start': '405.310', 'end': '406.000', 'text': 'the family.'}, {'start': '406.000', 'end': '408.000', 'text': 'Because we have had a child.'}, {'start': '408.000', 'end': '411.000', 'text': 'Or other situations like non-chosen.'}, {'start': '411.000', 'end': '413.500', 'text': 'And I will reflect on that a lot'}, {'start': '413.500', 'end': '414.000', 'text': '.'}, {'start': '414.000', 'end': '417.000', 'text': 'That we have different...'}, {'start': '417.000', 'end': '420.000', 'text': 'We can never choose what happens.'}, {'start': '420.000', 'end': '422.000', 'text': 'Us in life.'}, {'start': '422.000', 'end': '424.125', 'text': 'But we can ignore the shock and'}, {'start': '424.125', 'end': '425.000', 'text': 'trauma phase.'}, {'start': '425.000', 'end': '428.000', 'text': 'Choosing our reaction to what happens.'}, {'start': '428.000', 'end': '432.000', 'text': "And I'm very stoic about that."}, {'start': '432.000', 'end': '434.000', 'text': 'Stoicism.'}, {'start': '434.000', 'end': '436.000', 'text': 'This is to be accepted.'}, {'start': '436.000', 'end': '438.000', 'text': "And the abbess's prayer."}, {'start': '438.000', 'end': '440.000', 'text': 'And there are many classic images.'}, {'start': '440.000', 'end': '444.444', 'text': 'Lord, give me the strength to influence what I'}, {'start': '444.444', 'end': '447.000', 'text': 'can and want to influence.'}, {'start': '447.000', 'end': '450.000', 'text': 'Give me patience.'}, {'start': '450.000', 'end': '452.207', 'text': 'To live with and accept what I cannot control.'}, {'start': '453.000', 'end': '455.113', 'text': 'And give me the understanding to understand'}, {'start': '455.113', 'end': '456.000', 'text': 'the difference.'}, {'start': '456.000', 'end': '458.489', 'text': 'And this is what must not be allowed to'}, {'start': '458.489', 'end': '459.000', 'text': 'happen.'}, {'start': '459.000', 'end': '461.000', 'text': "It doesn't matter."}, {'start': '461.000', 'end': '463.000', 'text': 'Speaking of changes.'}, {'start': '463.000', 'end': '464.000', 'text': 'Exactly.'}, {'start': '464.000', 'end': '466.454', 'text': 'And events that we cannot always'}, {'start': '466.454', 'end': '467.000', 'text': 'control.'}, {'start': '468.000', 'end': '469.000', 'text': 'Now we turn it off.'}, {'start': '469.000', 'end': '471.000', 'text': "It doesn't get any weirder than that."}, {'start': '472.000', 'end': '473.835', 'text': "No, but I think because right now we're"}, {'start': '473.835', 'end': '475.000', 'text': 'talking about a change.'}, {'start': '475.000', 'end': '476.000', 'text': "I think it's very interesting."}, {'start': '476.000', 'end': '477.000', 'text': 'Because it has... There'}, {'start': '477.000', 'end': '479.000', 'text': 'are incredibly big changes'}, {'start': '479.000', 'end': '480.000', 'text': 'happening in the world.'}, {'start': '480.000', 'end': '482.000', 'text': 'Right now too.'}, {'start': '482.000', 'end': '483.000', 'text': 'Which we cannot influence.'}, {'start': '483.000', 'end': '485.000', 'text': 'We can influence things in small ways.'}, {'start': '485.000', 'end': '487.181', 'text': 'But in the big picture, very big'}, {'start': '487.181', 'end': '488.000', 'text': 'changes are happening.'}, {'start': '488.000', 'end': '489.659', 'text': 'Yes, but the pandemic and we have'}, {'start': '489.659', 'end': '491.000', 'text': 'climate change.'}, {'start': '491.000', 'end': '492.000', 'text': 'And then Trump as you mentioned.'}, {'start': '492.000', 'end': '494.000', 'text': 'So many big things like that now.'}, {'start': '494.000', 'end': '496.000', 'text': 'Which is talked about a lot.'}, {'start': '496.000', 'end': '498.000', 'text': 'Unlike the small one.'}, {'start': '498.000', 'end': '501.000', 'text': 'In the changes that always happen in life.'}, {'start': '501.000', 'end': '503.000', 'text': 'Yes, aging itself.'}, {'start': '503.000', 'end': '504.000', 'text': "I mean there's..."}, {'start': '504.000', 'end': '506.000', 'text': 'This day only exists one day.'}, {'start': '506.000', 'end': '508.000', 'text': 'We only exist in this one.'}, {'start': '508.000', 'end': '509.433', 'text': 'Tomorrow we wake up to a new day in'}, {'start': '509.433', 'end': '510.000', 'text': 'a new life.'}, {'start': '510.000', 'end': '512.901', 'text': 'I live by the principle of living in'}, {'start': '512.901', 'end': '514.000', 'text': 'daylight-tight rooms.'}, {'start': '514.000', 'end': '515.000', 'text': 'Yes.'}, {'start': '515.000', 'end': '517.000', 'text': "I've had mentors my whole life."}, {'start': '517.000', 'end': '519.673', 'text': 'And one of the most important mentors in my'}, {'start': '519.673', 'end': '520.000', 'text': 'life'}, {'start': '520.000', 'end': '521.000', 'text': 'is Torbjörn Stockfeldt.'}, {'start': '521.000', 'end': '523.000', 'text': 'He was a professor of educational psychology.'}, {'start': '523.000', 'end': '525.000', 'text': 'He gave me amazing tools.'}, {'start': '525.000', 'end': '527.000', 'text': 'And one of the most useful tools.'}, {'start': '527.000', 'end': '529.117', 'text': 'Especially in times like these of great'}, {'start': '529.117', 'end': '530.000', 'text': 'change.'}, {'start': '530.000', 'end': '531.583', 'text': 'Or when you are affected by something like'}, {'start': '531.583', 'end': '532.000', 'text': 'I do.'}, {'start': '532.000', 'end': '534.000', 'text': "I'm in Oslo and I get a phone call."}, {'start': '534.000', 'end': '536.000', 'text': 'Mom is dead.'}, {'start': '536.000', 'end': '538.000', 'text': 'And then it was your wife.'}, {'start': '538.000', 'end': '540.000', 'text': 'That was my wife, yes.'}, {'start': '540.000', 'end': '543.000', 'text': 'And then to kind of take it one day at a time.'}, {'start': '543.000', 'end': '545.000', 'text': 'It also says otherwise.'}, {'start': '545.000', 'end': '547.000', 'text': 'Just one day, one moment at a time.'}, {'start': '547.000', 'end': '549.000', 'text': 'Like let tomorrow carry its burdens.'}, {'start': '549.000', 'end': '550.527', 'text': 'I was raised and raised in'}, {'start': '550.527', 'end': '552.000', 'text': 'Sunday school as you hear.'}, {'start': '552.000', 'end': '555.000', 'text': 'But I...'}, {'start': '555.000', 'end': '558.441', 'text': 'Torbjörn taught me to live in daylight-tight'}, {'start': '558.441', 'end': '559.000', 'text': 'rooms.'}, {'start': '559.000', 'end': '563.000', 'text': 'So Christer, you can learn from yesterday.'}, {'start': '563.000', 'end': '566.000', 'text': 'But yesterday is just a memory.'}, {'start': '566.000', 'end': '568.000', 'text': 'With some deceit.'}, {'start': '568.000', 'end': '570.000', 'text': 'You can and 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'592.000', 'end': '594.000', 'text': "You don't actually know you're going to wake up."}, {'start': '594.000', 'end': '596.000', 'text': "You're just gone for hours."}, {'start': '596.000', 'end': '598.000', 'text': 'And suddenly the clock is something.'}, {'start': '598.000', 'end': '600.000', 'text': "You don't know you're going to wake up."}, {'start': '600.000', 'end': '602.000', 'text': 'Think about that when you go to sleep tonight.'}, {'start': '602.000', 'end': '604.000', 'text': 'Sleep well.'}, {'start': '604.000', 'end': '606.000', 'text': 'Sleep well.'}, {'start': '606.000', 'end': '609.000', 'text': 'But for me it is the life decision.'}, {'start': '609.000', 'end': '610.462', 'text': 'Then he said, why Christer would be'}, {'start': '610.462', 'end': '612.000', 'text': 'very grateful every morning you wake up.'}, {'start': '612.000', 'end': '614.000', 'text': 'Because then life begins again.'}, {'start': '614.000', 'end': '616.000', 'text': 'Life begins anew every day.'}, {'start': '616.000', 'end': '617.733', 'text': 'Every day is a new day, a new'}, {'start': '617.733', 'end': '620.000', 'text': 'life.\nAnd that means being grateful.'}, {'start': '620.000', 'end': '621.921', 'text': 'And too many say, yes but I have nothing to'}, {'start': '621.921', 'end': '623.000', 'text': 'be grateful for.'}, {'start': '623.000', 'end': '624.000', 'text': 'See.'}, {'start': '624.000', 'end': '627.000', 'text': 'Just that you can formulate that thought.'}, {'start': '627.000', 'end': '629.352', 'text': 'Makes you feel ashamed of your ass, that'}, {'start': '629.352', 'end': '630.000', 'text': "'s for sure."}, {'start': '630.000', 'end': '633.000', 'text': 'That I have nothing to be grateful for.'}, {'start': '633.000', 'end': '636.000', 'text': 'It provokes me somewhat in a copious way.'}, {'start': '636.000', 'end': '638.000', 'text': 'You have life itself.'}, {'start': '638.000', 'end': '639.904', 'text': 'Mom is not alive, dad is not alive, P.O.'}, {'start': 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'end': '712.000', 'text': 'Oh no.'}, {'start': '712.000', 'end': '714.000', 'text': 'Oh no, not another day.'}, {'start': '714.000', 'end': '715.322', 'text': 'And so I say, yes, but stop with such'}, {'start': '715.322', 'end': '716.000', 'text': 'consultant comments.'}, {'start': '716.000', 'end': '718.000', 'text': "I won't say no to another day."}, {'start': '718.000', 'end': '720.000', 'text': "I'm just saying no because it's early."}, {'start': '720.000', 'end': '722.000', 'text': "But doesn't your brain know that?"}, {'start': '722.000', 'end': '723.529', 'text': 'It just knows that life is starting over and you'}, {'start': '723.529', 'end': '724.000', 'text': 'say no.'}, {'start': '724.000', 'end': '726.000', 'text': 'Every day life starts over, you say no.'}, {'start': '726.000', 'end': '728.000', 'text': 'What kind of life is that?'}, {'start': '728.000', 'end': '730.000', 'text': 'What kind of respect is there for being able to live?'}, {'start': '730.000', 'end': 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You'}, {'start': '762.000', 'end': '763.407', 'text': 'can always find someone who lives'}, {'start': '763.407', 'end': '764.000', 'text': 'a little more cheeky.'}, {'start': '764.000', 'end': '765.000', 'text': 'Who is a little better off.'}, {'start': '765.000', 'end': '767.666', 'text': 'Who is not affected by what you are affected'}, {'start': '767.666', 'end': '768.000', 'text': 'by.'}, {'start': '768.000', 'end': '770.000', 'text': "Who hasn't received this."}, {'start': '770.000', 'end': '772.000', 'text': 'Look at what you have.'}, {'start': '772.000', 'end': '773.000', 'text': 'Look what I have.'}, {'start': '773.000', 'end': '774.000', 'text': "And not what you don't have."}, {'start': '774.000', 'end': '776.000', 'text': 'Which is the focus of many people.'}, {'start': '776.000', 'end': '777.581', 'text': 'I have now been in South Africa for six'}, {'start': '777.581', 'end': '778.000', 'text': 'weeks.'}, {'start': '778.000', 'end': '779.659', 'text': 'I have a school down 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There's"}, {'start': '939.000', 'end': '941.466', 'text': "a guy in it who's about my age at the time"}, {'start': '941.466', 'end': '942.000', 'text': '.'}, {'start': '942.000', 'end': '944.000', 'text': 'Like 50 years old.'}, {'start': '944.000', 'end': '946.000', 'text': 'This is like 15 years ago.'}, {'start': '946.000', 'end': '949.000', 'text': 'And he was paralyzed from the shoulders down.'}, {'start': '949.000', 'end': '951.522', 'text': 'He could drive with a small'}, {'start': '951.522', 'end': '952.000', 'text': 'lever.'}, {'start': '952.000', 'end': '954.000', 'text': "But sometimes he couldn't do that either."}, {'start': '954.000', 'end': '955.000', 'text': 'But then he had...'}, {'start': '955.000', 'end': '956.788', 'text': 'Then he sucked and blew into three small'}, {'start': '956.788', 'end': '958.000', 'text': 'cigarette holders.'}, {'start': '958.000', 'end': '960.000', 'text': 'I remember it so well.'}, {'start': '960.000', 'end': '962.000', 'text': 'So he could 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I'm"}, {'start': '1211.404', 'end': '1212.000', 'text': 'dyslexic.'}, {'start': '1212.000', 'end': '1214.954', 'text': 'And if there were diagnoses, I would have'}, {'start': '1214.954', 'end': '1217.000', 'text': 'had ADHD and stuff like that too.'}, {'start': '1217.000', 'end': '1218.000', 'text': "But in my time, that's what it was called."}, {'start': '1218.000', 'end': '1220.000', 'text': 'He is dyslexic and has ants in his butt.'}, {'start': '1220.000', 'end': '1222.000', 'text': 'So I went to OBS class.'}, {'start': '1222.000', 'end': '1224.243', 'text': "And I often do, I'm very"}, {'start': '1224.243', 'end': '1227.000', 'text': "humbled that I'm sitting here with it now."}, {'start': '1227.000', 'end': '1230.000', 'text': 'So, it was just coincidence.'}, {'start': '1230.000', 'end': '1233.000', 'text': 'I had ended up in the gang today.'}, {'start': '1233.000', 'end': '1235.169', 'text': "Because I wasn't athletic and I"}, {'start': '1235.169', 'end': '1237.000', 'text': "wasn't one of the good-looking ones."}, {'start': '1237.000', 'end': '1239.000', 'text': 'And I was not one of the wise.'}, {'start': '1239.000', 'end': '1242.000', 'text': 'And then you turn to the tough ones.'}, {'start': '1242.000', 'end': '1243.900', 'text': 'Yes, how do you get into the tough crowd'}, {'start': '1243.900', 'end': '1245.000', 'text': 'by being tough?'}, {'start': '1245.000', 'end': '1247.000', 'text': 'Doing stupid things.'}, {'start': '1247.000', 'end': '1249.000', 'text': 'Get confirmation of that.'}, {'start': '1249.000', 'end': '1250.000', 'text': 'Exactly.'}, {'start': '1250.000', 'end': '1253.000', 'text': 'And then, ha ha ha, it was tough.'}, {'start': '1253.000', 'end': '1258.000', 'text': 'And only adults cared.'}, {'start': '1258.000', 'end': '1259.777', 'text': "And that's also something I talk about a lot"}, {'start': '1259.777', 'end': '1262.923', 'text': '.\nWhere is the line between caring and'}, {'start': '1262.923', 'end': '1264.000', 'text': 'interfering?'}, {'start': '1264.000', 'end': '1265.000', 'text': 'Yes.'}, {'start': '1265.000', 'end': '1267.000', 'text': 'Very nice.'}, {'start': '1267.000', 'end': '1269.349', 'text': 'I want to discuss this much, much'}, {'start': '1269.349', 'end': '1271.000', 'text': 'more with more people.'}, {'start': '1271.000', 'end': '1272.000', 'text': "Yes, but I don't want to get involved."}, {'start': '1272.000', 'end': '1273.000', 'text': "Look, you don't care."}, {'start': '1273.000', 'end': '1274.000', 'text': 'Yes, I care.'}, {'start': '1274.000', 'end': '1275.000', 'text': "No, you don't."}, {'start': '1275.000', 'end': '1276.000', 'text': "Yes, but I don't want to interfere."}, {'start': '1276.000', 'end': '1277.000', 'text': "No, that's exactly it."}, {'start': '1277.000', 'end': '1278.000', 'text': "You don't care."}, {'start': '1278.000', 'end': '1280.000', 'text': "If it's not interfering."}, {'start': '1280.000', 'end': '1281.000', 'text': 'Where is the line?   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Thanks."}, {'start': '1536.000', 'end': '1539.000', 'text': 'But going into life...'}, {'start': '1539.000', 'end': '1541.250', 'text': 'I say that the consequences of all'}, {'start': '1541.250', 'end': '1542.000', 'text': 'actions'}, {'start': '1542.000', 'end': '1544.000', 'text': 'can only be one of two.'}, {'start': '1544.000', 'end': '1545.744', 'text': 'Either you succeed in what you set out to do'}, {'start': '1545.744', 'end': '1548.000', 'text': '.\nOr you might learn something.'}, {'start': '1548.000', 'end': '1549.000', 'text': 'What is the problem?'}, {'start': '1549.000', 'end': '1551.000', 'text': 'Both are good.'}, {'start': '1551.000', 'end': '1553.000', 'text': 'Either I succeed.'}, {'start': '1553.000', 'end': '1554.000', 'text': "Or maybe I'll learn something."}, {'start': '1554.000', 'end': '1556.000', 'text': 'I really need to take that with me.'}, {'start': '1556.000', 'end': '1557.881', 'text': 'When I think that I find myself'}, {'start': '1557.881', 'end': '1559.000', 'text': 'facing challenges.'}, {'start': '1559.000', 'end': '1560.000', 'text': 'Wow, here I was with myself.'}, {'start': '1560.000', 'end': '1562.000', 'text': "Yes, that's all."}, {'start': '1562.000', 'end': '1564.000', 'text': 'And wow, it went so well.'}, {'start': '1564.000', 'end': '1566.000', 'text': 'Yes, I succeeded.'}, {'start': '1566.000', 'end': '1568.000', 'text': 'Or I learned this.'}, {'start': '1568.000', 'end': '1570.000', 'text': "Next time I'll do this instead."}, {'start': '1570.000', 'end': '1571.000', 'text': 'Interesting, good.'}, {'start': '1571.000', 'end': '1573.000', 'text': "Because that's also what Torbjörn said."}, {'start': '1573.000', 'end': '1576.000', 'text': 'Wake up every morning and ask yourself:'}, {'start': '1576.000', 'end': '1578.000', 'text': 'What am I going to learn today?'}, {'start': '1578.000', 'end': '1579.000', 'text': 'And then he said:'}, {'start': '1579.000', 'end': '1581.250', 'text': "Around 5-7 o'clock every evening, 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'1626.000', 'text': "But we've always had storytelling."}, {'start': '1626.000', 'end': '1628.000', 'text': "And that's where learning occurs."}, {'start': '1628.000', 'end': '1630.000', 'text': 'Reflective learning.'}, {'start': '1630.000', 'end': '1632.000', 'text': "But we've stopped doing that."}, {'start': '1632.000', 'end': '1634.000', 'text': 'We have stopped reflecting.'}, {'start': '1634.000', 'end': '1636.000', 'text': 'And I encourage that from everyone I work with.'}, {'start': '1636.000', 'end': '1638.000', 'text': 'And everyone else.'}, {'start': '1638.000', 'end': '1640.000', 'text': 'Every day the question is asked:'}, {'start': '1640.000', 'end': '1642.000', 'text': 'What have I learned today?'}, {'start': '1642.000', 'end': '1643.206', 'text': "For listen carefully now, those of you who haven't"}, {'start': '1643.206', 'end': '1644.000', 'text': 'listened to me before.'}, {'start': '1644.000', 'end': '1646.000', 'text': "If you don't."}, {'start': '1646.000', 'end': 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Incredibly good.'}, {'start': '1700.000', 'end': '1702.000', 'text': 'Yes, simple.'}, {'start': '1702.000', 'end': '1704.000', 'text': 'And fundamentally logical.'}, {'start': '1704.000', 'end': '1706.000', 'text': 'Yes, really.'}, {'start': '1706.000', 'end': '1707.782', 'text': 'Far too many people make far'}, {'start': '1707.782', 'end': '1709.565', 'text': 'too many mistakes, far too often, far too'}, {'start': '1709.565', 'end': '1710.000', 'text': 'unnecessarily.'}, {'start': '1710.000', 'end': '1712.000', 'text': 'A typical thing like that.'}, {'start': '1712.000', 'end': '1713.547', 'text': 'Just think about what you have learned today,'}, {'start': '1713.547', 'end': '1714.000', 'text': 'every day.'}, {'start': '1714.000', 'end': '1716.000', 'text': 'Then you will feel progress.'}, {'start': '1716.000', 'end': '1717.627', 'text': 'We just started another podcast'}, {'start': '1717.627', 'end': '1718.000', 'text': 'too.'}, {'start': '1718.000', 'end': '1719.409', 'text': 'With a woman named Susanne'}, {'start': '1719.409', 'end': '1720.000', 'text': 'Pettersson.'}, {'start': '1720.000', 'end': '1722.000', 'text': 'She also lectures a lot.'}, {'start': '1722.000', 'end': '1723.695', 'text': 'Oh my gosh, I know her very well'}, {'start': '1723.695', 'end': '1724.000', 'text': '.'}, {'start': '1724.000', 'end': '1726.000', 'text': 'She is very talented.'}, {'start': '1726.000', 'end': '1727.428', 'text': 'Yes, she and I have started a podcast'}, {'start': '1727.428', 'end': '1728.000', 'text': 'together.'}, {'start': '1728.000', 'end': '1730.000', 'text': 'Who are called Maria and Susanne are testing.'}, {'start': '1730.000', 'end': '1732.000', 'text': "Because there's a little bit of this too."}, {'start': '1732.000', 'end': '1733.194', 'text': 'That we test ideas together and it is'}, {'start': '1733.194', 'end': '1734.000', 'text': 'a form of reflection.'}, {'start': '1734.000', 'end': '1736.000', 'text': 'Yes, experiential learning.'}, {'start': '1736.000', 'end': '1738.000', 'text': 'Yes, that we are in it.'}, {'start': '1738.000', 'end': '1739.591', 'text': "And I think it's so interesting to"}, {'start': '1739.591', 'end': '1740.000', 'text': 'also... 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There'}, {'start': '2148.000', 'end': '2150.000', 'text': "'s no point in"}, {'start': '2150.000', 'end': '2152.000', 'text': 'being Don Quixote'}, {'start': '2152.000', 'end': '2154.000', 'text': 'and fighting windmills.'}, {'start': '2154.000', 'end': '2155.000', 'text': 'But now it has happened.'}, {'start': '2155.000', 'end': '2156.000', 'text': 'How do I do the best?'}, {'start': '2156.000', 'end': '2158.000', 'text': "And you can't influence what happens."}, {'start': '2158.000', 'end': '2159.392', 'text': 'But you can kind of choose your reaction to'}, {'start': '2159.392', 'end': '2160.000', 'text': 'what happens.'}, {'start': '2160.000', 'end': '2161.000', 'text': 'Now it has happened.'}, {'start': '2161.000', 'end': '2162.000', 'text': 'Accept it.'}, {'start': '2162.000', 'end': '2164.000', 'text': 'Make the best of it.'}, {'start': '2164.000', 'end': '2165.000', 'text': 'Sorrow.'}, {'start': '2165.000', 'end': '2166.000', 'text': 'And that is absolutely true.'}, {'start': 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needed.'}, {'start': '2338.000', 'end': '2340.000', 'text': "That's why I say it too."}, {'start': '2340.000', 'end': '2342.000', 'text': '68.'}, {'start': '2342.000', 'end': '2344.125', 'text': 'How do you still manage to kayak around on the roads'}, {'start': '2344.125', 'end': '2345.000', 'text': '?'}, {'start': '2345.000', 'end': '2347.000', 'text': "You don't need to work."}, {'start': '2347.000', 'end': '2348.000', 'text': "No, I don't."}, {'start': '2348.000', 'end': '2350.000', 'text': 'I love it.'}, {'start': '2350.000', 'end': '2352.000', 'text': 'I think this is very much the need.'}, {'start': '2352.000', 'end': '2354.437', 'text': "I feel empty when I don't feel"}, {'start': '2354.437', 'end': '2355.000', 'text': 'needed.'}, {'start': '2355.000', 'end': '2357.600', 'text': "Can't you feel secure in your inner self"}, {'start': '2357.600', 'end': '2358.000', 'text': '?'}, {'start': '2358.000', 'end': '2360.000', 'text': "Yes, I do that when I'm free."}, {'start': '2360.000', 'end': '2362.000', 'text': 'And on weekends and so on.'}, {'start': '2362.000', 'end': '2365.103', 'text': 'But I need that alternation between'}, {'start': '2365.103', 'end': '2367.000', 'text': 'work and free time.'}, {'start': '2367.000', 'end': '2370.000', 'text': 'I am a master at doing nothing.'}, {'start': '2370.000', 'end': '2372.000', 'text': 'But I also love to do a lot.'}, {'start': '2372.000', 'end': '2374.000', 'text': 'And life is often paradoxes.'}, {'start': '2374.000', 'end': '2376.000', 'text': 'Yes, really.'}, {'start': '2376.000', 'end': '2377.000', 'text': 'Really.'}, {'start': '2377.000', 'end': '2378.727', 'text': 'If people want to get in touch with you,'}, {'start': '2378.727', 'end': '2380.000', 'text': 'you can find them on social media.'}, {'start': '2380.000', 'end': '2381.000', 'text': 'Yes, I do.'}, {'start': '2381.000', 'end': '2383.000', 'text': 'Christer Olsson, just look for me.'}, {'start': '2383.000', 'end': '2385.021', 'text': 'Otherwise, the email is'}, {'start': '2385.021', 'end': '2388.000', 'text': 'christer@christerolsson.se'}, {'start': '2388.000', 'end': '2390.000', 'text': 'I answer all emails.'}, {'start': '2390.000', 'end': '2391.450', 'text': "Maybe not right away because I don't always have time for that."}, {'start': '2392.000', 'end': '2394.923', 'text': "But I'm on a plane or train or the"}, {'start': '2394.923', 'end': '2396.000', 'text': 'Öckerö ferry.'}, {'start': '2396.000', 'end': '2397.000', 'text': 'But I answer all emails.'}, {'start': '2397.000', 'end': '2400.000', 'text': 'Christer@christerolsson.se'}, {'start': '2400.000', 'end': '2402.000', 'text': 'Christer with CH, Vanlig Olsson.'}, {'start': '2402.000', 'end': '2404.000', 'text': 'And you have that website too.'}, {'start': '2404.000', 'end': '2410.000', 'text': 'Yes, which is just christerolsson.se.'}, {'start': '2410.000', 'end': '2412.000', 'text': 'A website.'}, {'start': '2412.000', 'end': '2414.000', 'text': 'All the information and podcasts are there.'}, {'start': '2414.000', 'end': '2416.000', 'text': "That's where I'll post our podcast."}, {'start': '2416.000', 'end': '2418.000', 'text': 'So you can find it then.'}, {'start': '2418.000', 'end': '2420.523', 'text': 'But you, a big and warm thank you for'}, {'start': '2420.523', 'end': '2422.000', 'text': 'this spontaneous conversation.'}, {'start': '2422.000', 'end': '2424.000', 'text': 'Yes, but it was lovely.'}, {'start': '2424.000', 'end': '2427.000', 'text': 'And thank you to those of you who are listening and watching.'}, {'start': '2427.000', 'end': '2430.000', 'text': 'Without you, this is pretty...'}, {'start': '2430.000', 'end': '2432.000', 'text': "It's inspiring and nice."}, {'start': '2432.000', 'end': '2433.000', 'text': 'But we do it in podcast form.'}, {'start': '2433.000', 'end': '2434.488', 'text': "Pointless if you weren't there as a"}, {'start': '2434.488', 'end': '2435.000', 'text': 'listener.'}, {'start': '2435.000', 'end': '2437.000', 'text': 'I say exactly like Christer.'}, {'start': '2437.000', 'end': '2440.015', 'text': 'That it is your time and your response that'}, {'start': '2440.015', 'end': '2442.000', 'text': 'keeps me going.'}, {'start': '2442.000', 'end': '2443.000', 'text': 'I usually talk about it.'}, {'start': '2443.000', 'end': '2445.232', 'text': 'That I continue to have these'}, {'start': '2445.232', 'end': '2446.000', 'text': 'conversations.'}, {'start': '2446.000', 'end': '2447.950', 'text': 'Because I get such great feedback from you who'}, {'start': '2447.950', 'end': '2449.000', 'text': 'watch and listen.'}, {'start': '2449.000', 'end': '2450.000', 'text': 'So great.'}, {'start': '2450.000', 'end': '2452.000', 'text': 'Thanks to you too.'}, {'start': '2452.000', 'end': '2453.000', 'text': 'Lovely.'}, {'start': '2453.000', 'end': '2454.000', 'text': 'Thank you, thank you.'}, {'start': '2454.000', 'end': '2457.000', 'text': 'What a nice conversation with Christer.'}, {'start': '2457.000', 'end': '2459.608', 'text': 'There are many things I can take with'}, {'start': '2459.608', 'end': '2460.000', 'text': 'me.'}, {'start': '2460.000', 'end': '2463.000', 'text': 'One of them is that more people need to care.'}, {'start': '2463.000', 'end': '2465.224', 'text': 'And in a society that is increasingly becoming more rigid, I think'}, {'start': '2465.224', 'end': '2467.341', 'text': 'it is so important that'}, {'start': '2467.341', 'end': '2469.294', 'text': 'more of us show that we care about'}, {'start': '2469.294', 'end': '2470.000', 'text': 'each other.'}, {'start': '2470.000', 'end': '2472.349', 'text': 'And I also love when we talk about the'}, {'start': '2472.349', 'end': '2474.000', 'text': 'importance of reflection.'}, {'start': '2474.000', 'end': '2475.964', 'text': 'I believe so much that we should'}, {'start': '2475.964', 'end': '2478.298', 'text': 'reflect to learn more about'}, {'start': '2478.298', 'end': '2481.000', 'text': 'ourselves and in relation to our surroundings.'}, {'start': '2481.000', 'end': '2483.763', 'text': 'Next week there will be a new episode'}, {'start': '2483.763', 'end': '2485.000', 'text': 'with a new guest.'}, {'start': '2485.000', 'end': '2487.000', 'text': 'I would be happy if you subscribe to my'}, {'start': '2487.000', 'end': '2488.950', 'text': 'channels and want to help spread'}, {'start': '2488.950', 'end': '2490.000', 'text': 'this episode.'}, {'start': '2490.000', 'end': '2492.150', 'text': "So that more people can benefit from Christer's"}, {'start': '2492.150', 'end': '2493.000', 'text': 'wise thoughts.'}, {'start': '2493.000', 'end': '2497.000', 'text': "Have a nice week and we'll see you again soon."}]