Update   My Hubby Sells His Car To Pay Off His Brother's Fancy Wedding But I'm NOT Invited Bc I
Revenge Retold
[{'start': '0.240', 'end': '4.400', 'text': 'My husband, 35, does not have a car. He'}, {'start': '2.800', 'end': '6.560', 'text': 'sold his old one to help pay for his'}, {'start': '4.400', 'end': '8.480', 'text': "brother's wedding. I disagreed with"}, {'start': '6.560', 'end': '11.120', 'text': 'this, but he had this car before we got'}, {'start': '8.480', 'end': '13.280', 'text': "together, so it's not a shared property."}, {'start': '11.120', 'end': '14.719', 'text': 'Besides that, I have my own car, so that'}, {'start': '13.280', 'end': '16.000', 'text': "didn't affect me until my husband"}, {'start': '14.719', 'end': '18.480', 'text': 'started complaining about having to'}, {'start': '16.000', 'end': '20.080', 'text': 'commute to work and hang out. He tried'}, {'start': '18.480', 'end': '22.480', 'text': 'to get me to let him drive my car'}, {'start': '20.080', 'end': '24.720', 'text': 'several times, but I stood firm and put'}, {'start': '22.480', 'end': '27.599', 'text': 'a boundary, making him understand that'}, {'start': '24.720', 'end': '29.519', 'text': 'my car would never be driven by him. One'}, {'start': '27.599', 'end': '32.360', 'text': 'of the reasons why is because of how bad'}, {'start': '29.519', 'end': '34.880', 'text': 'his driving is. His brother lives out of'}, {'start': '32.360', 'end': '37.760', 'text': 'town. My husband asked if he could drive'}, {'start': '34.880', 'end': '40.160', 'text': 'my car to the wedding, but I refused,'}, {'start': '37.760', 'end': '42.960', 'text': 'not because I was not invited. Another'}, {'start': '40.160', 'end': '46.000', 'text': 'story for another day, but because, as I'}, {'start': '42.960', 'end': '48.079', 'text': 'said, my car is off limits. He threw a'}, {'start': '46.000', 'end': '49.840', 'text': 'fit, calling me unreasonable for not'}, {'start': '48.079', 'end': '51.600', 'text': 'letting him take public transportation'}, {'start': '49.840', 'end': '54.719', 'text': 'because he can barely stand it for 10'}, {'start': '51.600', 'end': '56.960', 'text': 'minutes, let alone hours. I said it'}, {'start': '54.719', 'end': '58.920', 'text': "wasn't my problem. that irritated him"}, {'start': '56.960', 'end': '61.199', 'text': 'but made him stop'}, {'start': '58.920', 'end': '63.280', 'text': 'arguing. On the day that he was supposed'}, {'start': '61.199', 'end': '65.600', 'text': 'to travel out of town, I woke up at'}, {'start': '63.280', 'end': '67.439', 'text': "10:00 a.m. and couldn't find my car key."}, {'start': '65.600', 'end': '70.880', 'text': "I went outside and couldn't find my car"}, {'start': '67.439', 'end': '73.280', 'text': 'either. I was beyond angry. I called him'}, {'start': '70.880', 'end': '75.760', 'text': 'and as I expected, he took it and was on'}, {'start': '73.280', 'end': '77.360', 'text': 'his way to the other town. I lost it and'}, {'start': '75.760', 'end': '79.439', 'text': 'told him I gave him no permission to'}, {'start': '77.360', 'end': '80.799', 'text': 'take it for 5 days and said that if he'}, {'start': '79.439', 'end': '82.720', 'text': "wouldn't turn around with it and come"}, {'start': '80.799', 'end': '85.840', 'text': "home, I'd call the cops and report it"}, {'start': '82.720', 'end': '88.040', 'text': 'missing. His response was, "You wouldn\'t'}, {'start': '85.840', 'end': '90.640', 'text': 'dare do it because you know what would'}, {'start': '88.040', 'end': '92.240', 'text': 'happen." I hung up on him and then'}, {'start': '90.640', 'end': '94.960', 'text': 'immediately called the police and told'}, {'start': '92.240', 'end': '96.400', 'text': 'them about my situation. I did not tell'}, {'start': '94.960', 'end': '98.159', 'text': 'them my husband took it because they'}, {'start': '96.400', 'end': '100.840', 'text': "think it's a family dispute and decided"}, {'start': '98.159', 'end': '103.280', 'text': 'not to get involved. I just reported it'}, {'start': '100.840', 'end': '104.960', 'text': 'missing. 2 hours later, I got a call'}, {'start': '103.280', 'end': '106.960', 'text': 'from my husband saying he was back in'}, {'start': '104.960', 'end': '109.439', 'text': 'town and was being held at our local'}, {'start': '106.960', 'end': '112.079', 'text': 'police station. I went to the station'}, {'start': '109.439', 'end': '114.560', 'text': 'and talked to the cops. My husband made'}, {'start': '112.079', 'end': '116.560', 'text': 'a scene there, swearing over and over'}, {'start': '114.560', 'end': '118.560', 'text': 'that I permitted him to take it and that'}, {'start': '116.560', 'end': '120.159', 'text': 'I was acting out of jealousy and spite'}, {'start': '118.560', 'end': '123.520', 'text': 'because he was going to attend a wedding'}, {'start': '120.159', 'end': '125.960', 'text': "I wasn't invited to. I took my car and"}, {'start': '123.520', 'end': '128.560', 'text': 'went home, but he had to stay a little'}, {'start': '125.960', 'end': '130.720', 'text': 'longer. He came home in the evening and'}, {'start': '128.560', 'end': '133.360', 'text': 'went into a rage about how I created an'}, {'start': '130.720', 'end': '135.959', 'text': 'awful situation and almost caused him to'}, {'start': '133.360', 'end': '138.879', 'text': "miss his brother's wedding. He called me"}, {'start': '135.959', 'end': '140.800', 'text': 'vindictive, bitter, and a lunatic for'}, {'start': '138.879', 'end': '143.920', 'text': 'calling the police on him and trying to'}, {'start': '140.800', 'end': '145.520', 'text': 'accuse him of stealing my car. He had to'}, {'start': '143.920', 'end': '147.760', 'text': 'leave the same day to be able to be'}, {'start': '145.520', 'end': '149.920', 'text': 'there with his family and decided to'}, {'start': '147.760', 'end': '153.040', 'text': "extend his stay and still hasn't gotten"}, {'start': '149.920', 'end': '155.200', 'text': 'back yet. Right now, his mom and brother'}, {'start': '153.040', 'end': '158.319', 'text': 'are blasting me for what happened and'}, {'start': '155.200', 'end': '160.000', 'text': 'calling me spiteful. Not the idiot, but'}, {'start': '158.319', 'end': '163.280', 'text': "I feel that there's a lot more going on"}, {'start': '160.000', 'end': '164.800', 'text': 'here. For example, your husband sold his'}, {'start': '163.280', 'end': '167.239', 'text': "car to help pay for his brother's"}, {'start': '164.800', 'end': '169.760', 'text': 'wedding even though he needed it to'}, {'start': '167.239', 'end': '172.239', 'text': 'commute. Is your husband prone to making'}, {'start': '169.760', 'end': '174.560', 'text': "bad decisions? He paid for his brother's"}, {'start': '172.239', 'end': '177.599', 'text': 'wedding even though you, his wife, were'}, {'start': '174.560', 'end': '180.000', 'text': "not invited to it. I'm sorry, but what"}, {'start': '177.599', 'end': '183.120', 'text': 'kind of marriage is this? Yeah, he and'}, {'start': '180.000', 'end': '185.519', 'text': "his brother are very close. I'm on bad"}, {'start': '183.120', 'end': '187.200', 'text': "terms also. We don't talk with his"}, {'start': '185.519', 'end': '188.879', 'text': 'brother because he kept accusing me of'}, {'start': '187.200', 'end': '191.040', 'text': 'trying to drive a wedge between him and'}, {'start': '188.879', 'end': '193.560', 'text': 'my husband. He can think whatever he'}, {'start': '191.040', 'end': '195.680', 'text': 'wants, but none of his claims are true.'}, {'start': '193.560', 'end': '198.480', 'text': 'Unfortunately, my husband and his mom'}, {'start': '195.680', 'end': '200.560', 'text': "think I'm the bad guy here. Lady, you"}, {'start': '198.480', 'end': '202.480', 'text': 'need to file for divorce immediately.'}, {'start': '200.560', 'end': '205.440', 'text': 'This relationship is toxic and your'}, {'start': '202.480', 'end': '208.000', 'text': 'husband is a massive idiot. Why are you'}, {'start': '205.440', 'end': '209.519', 'text': "still married? I'm honestly asking"}, {'start': '208.000', 'end': '210.680', 'text': 'because there are a lot of red flags'}, {'start': '209.519', 'end': '213.680', 'text': 'here on both'}, {'start': '210.680', 'end': '215.519', 'text': "sides. His family hates you. You weren't"}, {'start': '213.680', 'end': '218.080', 'text': 'invited to a family wedding in which you'}, {'start': '215.519', 'end': '219.760', 'text': "are a part of the family. You don't seem"}, {'start': '218.080', 'end': '222.080', 'text': "disappointed that you weren't invited to"}, {'start': '219.760', 'end': '224.400', 'text': "said wedding. He doesn't respect you or"}, {'start': '222.080', 'end': '226.799', 'text': 'your boundaries. You care more about an'}, {'start': '224.400', 'end': '228.959', 'text': 'object than his wants and needs. You had'}, {'start': '226.799', 'end': '230.720', 'text': 'no problem having your husband arrested,'}, {'start': '228.959', 'end': '232.360', 'text': "and you clearly didn't care about his"}, {'start': '230.720', 'end': '234.799', 'text': 'feelings around a significant family'}, {'start': '232.360', 'end': '237.280', 'text': 'event. You make life decisions without'}, {'start': '234.799', 'end': '239.439', 'text': 'each other. This is not a snapshot of a'}, {'start': '237.280', 'end': '241.920', 'text': "healthy relationship. Everyone's the"}, {'start': '239.439', 'end': '244.799', 'text': "idiot here. Y'all seem insufferable and"}, {'start': '241.920', 'end': '247.280', 'text': 'like a textbook dysfunctional couple. I'}, {'start': '244.799', 'end': '250.159', 'text': 'read stories like this and think, why?'}, {'start': '247.280', 'end': '252.400', 'text': 'Why subject yourself to this? I know it'}, {'start': '250.159', 'end': '254.159', 'text': 'sounds mean, but my brother-in-law seems'}, {'start': '252.400', 'end': '256.959', 'text': 'to be really discriminatory towards us'}, {'start': '254.159', 'end': '258.560', 'text': 'for being a straight couple. I am by,'}, {'start': '256.959', 'end': '260.959', 'text': "but have fallen in love with a man I'm"}, {'start': '258.560', 'end': '262.360', 'text': 'going to marry. My brother and his'}, {'start': '260.959', 'end': '264.320', 'text': 'husband were friends with my'}, {'start': '262.360', 'end': '267.199', 'text': "ex-girlfriend. I'm still friends with"}, {'start': '264.320', 'end': '270.000', 'text': "her. She's lovely, but we didn't work"}, {'start': '267.199', 'end': '272.960', 'text': "out together. For 5 years now, I've been"}, {'start': '270.000', 'end': '274.479', 'text': "dating. Let's call him Jack. We've"}, {'start': '272.960', 'end': '276.560', 'text': 'decided to marry in a few months and'}, {'start': '274.479', 'end': '278.960', 'text': 'have been planning for a while. The'}, {'start': '276.560', 'end': '280.800', 'text': "wedding's not big, less than 50 total"}, {'start': '278.960', 'end': '282.880', 'text': 'guests. And we were going to give'}, {'start': '280.800', 'end': '284.120', 'text': 'everyone in the bridal party a plus one,'}, {'start': '282.880', 'end': '287.120', 'text': 'but no one'}, {'start': '284.120', 'end': '289.680', 'text': 'else. The thing is, my brother is one of'}, {'start': '287.120', 'end': '292.240', 'text': 'my brides. I have a maid of honor and'}, {'start': '289.680', 'end': '295.360', 'text': 'three brides, and my husband to be has a'}, {'start': '292.240', 'end': '297.280', 'text': 'best man and a mixed gender party. The'}, {'start': '295.360', 'end': '298.880', 'text': 'last weekend, I went over to my family'}, {'start': '297.280', 'end': '301.120', 'text': 'to hang out.'}, {'start': '298.880', 'end': '303.479', 'text': 'cousins played board games and all the'}, {'start': '301.120', 'end': '305.840', 'text': 'adults had drinks. A typical big family'}, {'start': '303.479', 'end': '307.560', 'text': 'hangout, but my brother-in-law had a bit'}, {'start': '305.840', 'end': '309.680', 'text': 'too much to drink and said some crappy'}, {'start': '307.560', 'end': '311.600', 'text': "things. It's not the first time I've"}, {'start': '309.680', 'end': '314.240', 'text': 'heard them, just the first time in maybe'}, {'start': '311.600', 'end': '315.840', 'text': 'half a year. He said I was a traitor to'}, {'start': '314.240', 'end': '317.880', 'text': 'our people for marrying a straight white'}, {'start': '315.840', 'end': '320.240', 'text': "man. We're white,"}, {'start': '317.880', 'end': '322.639', 'text': 'lol. He said I broke up with my ex'}, {'start': '320.240', 'end': '324.800', 'text': 'because I was ashamed of my orientation.'}, {'start': '322.639', 'end': '327.280', 'text': 'He also was comparing my fiance with my'}, {'start': '324.800', 'end': '329.440', 'text': 'ex. Why would you date such an ugly man'}, {'start': '327.280', 'end': '331.919', 'text': "after such a pretty girl? He's so poor"}, {'start': '329.440', 'end': '334.479', 'text': 'and you had a rich gay girlfriend. Not'}, {'start': '331.919', 'end': '336.800', 'text': "true. We're all middle class."}, {'start': '334.479', 'end': '339.919', 'text': 'Eventually, my brother took him home and'}, {'start': '336.800', 'end': '341.520', 'text': 'my fianceé took me home. I told him the'}, {'start': '339.919', 'end': '343.880', 'text': "next day that if he couldn't apologize"}, {'start': '341.520', 'end': '346.000', 'text': 'to us as a couple and stop being so'}, {'start': '343.880', 'end': '348.240', 'text': "heterophobic, he couldn't come to our"}, {'start': '346.000', 'end': '350.320', 'text': 'wedding. My brother is saying he was'}, {'start': '348.240', 'end': '351.840', 'text': "just drunk and he'll behave. And our"}, {'start': '350.320', 'end': '354.320', 'text': 'families are backing him up and telling'}, {'start': '351.840', 'end': '356.720', 'text': 'me to let it go. But I have yet to get'}, {'start': '354.320', 'end': '358.160', 'text': 'an apology from my brother-in-law. My'}, {'start': '356.720', 'end': '360.320', 'text': "brother's threatening not to be in the"}, {'start': '358.160', 'end': '362.000', 'text': 'wedding party, and I would hate that.'}, {'start': '360.320', 'end': '364.800', 'text': 'But I would hate including his crappy'}, {'start': '362.000', 'end': '366.400', 'text': 'husband in my wedding more. I told my'}, {'start': '364.800', 'end': '368.800', 'text': "brother I'd save him a piece of cake if"}, {'start': '366.400', 'end': '370.560', 'text': "he didn't come. Am I the idiot for"}, {'start': '368.800', 'end': '372.560', 'text': 'insisting my brother-in-law cannot come'}, {'start': '370.560', 'end': '376.639', 'text': 'without an apology to both my husband to'}, {'start': '372.560', 'end': '378.400', 'text': 'be and me? Not the idiot. And wow, do'}, {'start': '376.639', 'end': '379.919', 'text': 'people love to judge us for not adhering'}, {'start': '378.400', 'end': '382.240', 'text': 'to what their vision of being queer'}, {'start': '379.919', 'end': '383.600', 'text': 'should look like? Huh? In my opinion,'}, {'start': '382.240', 'end': '385.199', 'text': 'your brother-in-law needs to have a'}, {'start': '383.600', 'end': '388.240', 'text': 'conversation with you and your husband'}, {'start': '385.199', 'end': '390.000', 'text': 'in person, apologize to you both, and'}, {'start': '388.240', 'end': '391.600', 'text': 'promise to be on his best behavior at'}, {'start': '390.000', 'end': '394.319', 'text': 'your wedding for you to allow him to'}, {'start': '391.600', 'end': '395.840', 'text': 'attend. He misbehaved. I think your'}, {'start': '394.319', 'end': '397.600', 'text': 'brother will understand if you explain'}, {'start': '395.840', 'end': '399.280', 'text': 'that his husband was hurtful and rude'}, {'start': '397.600', 'end': '401.759', 'text': 'and that he must take steps to clear the'}, {'start': '399.280', 'end': '404.000', 'text': "air if he wants to attend. This isn't"}, {'start': '401.759', 'end': '405.759', 'text': 'about heterophobia. This is about your'}, {'start': '404.000', 'end': '407.840', 'text': 'brother-in-law saying nasty things about'}, {'start': '405.759', 'end': '410.400', 'text': 'your soon-to-be husband and judging your'}, {'start': '407.840', 'end': '413.039', 'text': 'relationship. Drinking too much is not'}, {'start': '410.400', 'end': '415.360', 'text': 'an excuse. This is absolutely the hill'}, {'start': '413.039', 'end': '418.160', 'text': "you should die on. He's disrespecting"}, {'start': '415.360', 'end': '419.919', 'text': 'you, your fiance, and your relationship.'}, {'start': '418.160', 'end': '422.000', 'text': 'And someone who thinks that has no place'}, {'start': '419.919', 'end': '424.000', 'text': 'at your wedding. Your brother-in-law'}, {'start': '422.000', 'end': '426.240', 'text': 'sucks for saying those things, and your'}, {'start': '424.000', 'end': '428.960', 'text': 'brother sucks for condoning it, not the'}, {'start': '426.240', 'end': '431.440', 'text': 'idiot. Of course, stand your ground. So,'}, {'start': '428.960', 'end': '433.919', 'text': "here's the deal. My sister married a"}, {'start': '431.440', 'end': '435.919', 'text': "black man. We're white. We had some"}, {'start': '433.919', 'end': '439.199', 'text': 'family who was very outspoken about not'}, {'start': '435.919', 'end': '440.880', 'text': "liking it. She didn't invite them. Why?"}, {'start': '439.199', 'end': '442.720', 'text': "Because it's her day. And if the people"}, {'start': '440.880', 'end': '445.039', 'text': "there can't be on her side, why even"}, {'start': '442.720', 'end': '446.599', 'text': 'come? Why even have a situation where'}, {'start': '445.039', 'end': '449.199', 'text': "they'll say something awful to our new"}, {'start': '446.599', 'end': '451.199', 'text': 'family? He needs to apologize and still'}, {'start': '449.199', 'end': '452.880', 'text': "doesn't need to be there. I have always"}, {'start': '451.199', 'end': '455.520', 'text': 'had a very close relationship with my'}, {'start': '452.880', 'end': '458.080', 'text': "brother. He's 3 years older than me and"}, {'start': '455.520', 'end': '459.680', 'text': 'has been a great older brother mostly.'}, {'start': '458.080', 'end': '462.039', 'text': 'In recent years, our relationship'}, {'start': '459.680', 'end': '464.560', 'text': 'evolved a lot and we were friends and'}, {'start': '462.039', 'end': '467.160', 'text': 'siblings. He started dating his fianceé'}, {'start': '464.560', 'end': '469.360', 'text': '6 years ago. She wanted us to be'}, {'start': '467.160', 'end': '470.720', 'text': 'sisters. A year later, when I got'}, {'start': '469.360', 'end': '472.720', 'text': 'married, she asked me to be my'}, {'start': '470.720', 'end': '475.120', 'text': "bridesmaid, even though I didn't have"}, {'start': '472.720', 'end': '477.120', 'text': 'any. I said yes because it meant so much'}, {'start': '475.120', 'end': '478.879', 'text': 'to her. And I even bought her an'}, {'start': '477.120', 'end': '481.280', 'text': 'inexpensive but pretty dress since we'}, {'start': '478.879', 'end': '484.000', 'text': 'did a courthouse thing. My brother and'}, {'start': '481.280', 'end': '485.759', 'text': 'she got engaged in 2020. She announced'}, {'start': '484.000', 'end': '488.000', 'text': 'it in the family group chat and that two'}, {'start': '485.759', 'end': '489.599', 'text': 'of her friends were her bridesmaids.'}, {'start': '488.000', 'end': '491.360', 'text': 'After the announcement, she started'}, {'start': '489.599', 'end': '493.360', 'text': 'asking me for my opinion and help on'}, {'start': '491.360', 'end': '495.440', 'text': 'stuff, which quickly turned into her'}, {'start': '493.360', 'end': '497.080', 'text': 'asking me to run errands for her and'}, {'start': '495.440', 'end': '499.280', 'text': 'even picking up the cost of certain'}, {'start': '497.080', 'end': '500.720', 'text': 'things. I told her it seemed like'}, {'start': '499.280', 'end': '504.000', 'text': 'something her bridesmaids would be doing'}, {'start': '500.720', 'end': '505.599', 'text': 'with her, and she ignored me. She walked'}, {'start': '504.000', 'end': '508.160', 'text': 'out of a cake store with her samples and'}, {'start': '505.599', 'end': '510.879', 'text': 'never paid, but I was left behind, and'}, {'start': '508.160', 'end': '513.279', 'text': 'they came after me for the money. I'}, {'start': '510.879', 'end': '515.760', 'text': 'spoke to my brother about it. He told me'}, {'start': '513.279', 'end': '517.360', 'text': 'to just go along for their special day.'}, {'start': '515.760', 'end': '519.360', 'text': 'She invited my mom and me dress'}, {'start': '517.360', 'end': '521.680', 'text': 'shopping, then tried to say I was paying'}, {'start': '519.360', 'end': '523.760', 'text': 'for one of her accessories. I had never'}, {'start': '521.680', 'end': '525.680', 'text': 'offered anything like that. My brother'}, {'start': '523.760', 'end': '528.320', 'text': "told me I didn't have to pay for it, and"}, {'start': '525.680', 'end': '529.839', 'text': 'he talked to her, but then later she was'}, {'start': '528.320', 'end': '532.320', 'text': 'excited and wanted something for me to'}, {'start': '529.839', 'end': '534.480', 'text': 'wear at her wedding. I started saying no'}, {'start': '532.320', 'end': '537.040', 'text': 'to any request for help, and she and my'}, {'start': '534.480', 'end': '539.360', 'text': 'brother got upset. He told me he wanted'}, {'start': '537.040', 'end': '541.040', 'text': 'me to be a part of the wedding. I found'}, {'start': '539.360', 'end': '542.880', 'text': 'that odd since I was never asked to be'}, {'start': '541.040', 'end': '545.360', 'text': "in the bride or groom's party. Not that"}, {'start': '542.880', 'end': '547.279', 'text': 'I wanted or expected to be. But given'}, {'start': '545.360', 'end': '550.000', 'text': 'what they were saying and expecting, I'}, {'start': '547.279', 'end': '552.720', 'text': 'felt like I was being used. I was open'}, {'start': '550.000', 'end': '555.120', 'text': 'with both of them about this. My future'}, {'start': '552.720', 'end': '557.360', 'text': 'sister-in-law ignored me again. My'}, {'start': '555.120', 'end': '559.720', 'text': 'brother said he loved me and if I wanted'}, {'start': '557.360', 'end': '562.560', 'text': 'to be in the wedding, I should have said'}, {'start': '559.720', 'end': '564.959', 'text': "something. I said that wasn't the point."}, {'start': '562.560', 'end': '566.800', 'text': "I wasn't asked, but I was being brought"}, {'start': '564.959', 'end': '569.200', 'text': 'along like I was only there to take on'}, {'start': '566.800', 'end': '571.839', 'text': 'the expense and heavy lifting nobody'}, {'start': '569.200', 'end': '574.399', 'text': 'else seemed to be doing. He told me I'}, {'start': '571.839', 'end': '576.200', 'text': 'was overreacting. Then the invitation'}, {'start': '574.399', 'end': '579.120', 'text': 'came and it was'}, {'start': '576.200', 'end': '582.560', 'text': 'crazy. The venue is three states over in'}, {'start': '579.120', 'end': '584.240', 'text': 'a fancy hotel in an expensive area. The'}, {'start': '582.560', 'end': '587.120', 'text': 'dress requirements on the invite also'}, {'start': '584.240', 'end': '589.600', 'text': 'meant expensive. To top it all off,'}, {'start': '587.120', 'end': '591.839', 'text': 'every single gift on their registry is a'}, {'start': '589.600', 'end': '594.560', 'text': 'minimum of $250.'}, {'start': '591.839', 'end': '596.240', 'text': "We can't afford all that. I spoke to my"}, {'start': '594.560', 'end': '599.560', 'text': 'parents who were also unhappy with how'}, {'start': '596.240', 'end': '602.080', 'text': 'demanding the invite was. So, I RSVPd'}, {'start': '599.560', 'end': '604.160', 'text': 'no. My brother and sister-in-law asked'}, {'start': '602.080', 'end': '606.160', 'text': "me why. I said it wasn't worth the"}, {'start': '604.160', 'end': '608.160', 'text': 'expense, especially when they had'}, {'start': '606.160', 'end': '611.120', 'text': 'already gotten money out of me given how'}, {'start': '608.160', 'end': '613.519', 'text': 'I was expected to keep chipping in. The'}, {'start': '611.120', 'end': '615.120', 'text': 'extended family was outraged by this.'}, {'start': '613.519', 'end': '616.800', 'text': 'They said a siblings wedding is always'}, {'start': '615.120', 'end': '619.360', 'text': 'worth the cost and I should go and'}, {'start': '616.800', 'end': '621.440', 'text': 'support my only sibling. My brother and'}, {'start': '619.360', 'end': '623.839', 'text': 'sister-in-law were upset by our RSVP,'}, {'start': '621.440', 'end': '627.279', 'text': 'too, and tried to talk me into coming.'}, {'start': '623.839', 'end': '628.880', 'text': "Am I the idiot? Not the idiot. If it's"}, {'start': '627.279', 'end': '630.720', 'text': 'so important to them to have you be'}, {'start': '628.880', 'end': '632.640', 'text': "there and help, why aren't you part of"}, {'start': '630.720', 'end': '634.399', 'text': "the wedding party? And if it's so"}, {'start': '632.640', 'end': '636.959', 'text': 'important for you to be there, why not'}, {'start': '634.399', 'end': '639.519', 'text': "pay for your stay? I won't be surprised"}, {'start': '636.959', 'end': '641.440', 'text': 'if they get lots of nos on the RSVPs.'}, {'start': '639.519', 'end': '643.200', 'text': "It's very disrespectful and entitled of"}, {'start': '641.440', 'end': '645.120', 'text': "them. They're taking advantage of you"}, {'start': '643.200', 'end': '647.040', 'text': "under the guise of love. It's a gift"}, {'start': '645.120', 'end': '649.200', 'text': 'grab. People can have whatever wedding'}, {'start': '647.040', 'end': '650.800', 'text': 'they want so long as they can afford it.'}, {'start': '649.200', 'end': '652.880', 'text': 'Expecting other people to underwrite'}, {'start': '650.800', 'end': '654.320', 'text': "their lifestyle is entitled. You're"}, {'start': '652.880', 'end': '656.000', 'text': 'setting and enforcing a healthy'}, {'start': '654.320', 'end': '657.760', 'text': "boundary, and it's good that you're"}, {'start': '656.000', 'end': '660.240', 'text': 'doing it early because this behavior on'}, {'start': '657.760', 'end': '662.240', 'text': 'their part is likely to continue. You'}, {'start': '660.240', 'end': '664.880', 'text': "said it yourself. You can't afford it."}, {'start': '662.240', 'end': '666.560', 'text': "That's a perfectly valid reason. I can't"}, {'start': '664.880', 'end': '668.560', 'text': 'believe she walked out of a cake tasting'}, {'start': '666.560', 'end': '670.880', 'text': 'without paying and left you the bill.'}, {'start': '668.560', 'end': '672.480', 'text': 'This sounds planned to me. Your future'}, {'start': '670.880', 'end': '674.800', 'text': 'sister-in-law is going to be a nightmare'}, {'start': '672.480', 'end': '677.279', 'text': 'once they get married. I imagine the'}, {'start': '674.800', 'end': '678.959', 'text': 'divorce will be even worse. I was'}, {'start': '677.279', 'end': '681.440', 'text': 'watching my young niece while my sister'}, {'start': '678.959', 'end': '683.200', 'text': 'took her baby to the doctor. We were'}, {'start': '681.440', 'end': '685.440', 'text': "talking about how her dad's birthday is"}, {'start': '683.200', 'end': '687.680', 'text': 'coming up. My niece said she wanted to'}, {'start': '685.440', 'end': '689.600', 'text': 'make him a cake. I said that was a'}, {'start': '687.680', 'end': '692.240', 'text': 'brilliant idea and gave her my tablet to'}, {'start': '689.600', 'end': '693.920', 'text': 'look up a recipe. She picked one and'}, {'start': '692.240', 'end': '696.320', 'text': 'then started gathering ingredients in my'}, {'start': '693.920', 'end': '698.720', 'text': 'kitchen with my little step stool. When'}, {'start': '696.320', 'end': '701.040', 'text': 'I went to help her crack eggs, she said,'}, {'start': '698.720', 'end': '703.600', 'text': '"No, I\'m making daddy\'s cake all by'}, {'start': '701.040', 'end': '706.320', 'text': 'myself." So, I stepped back and just'}, {'start': '703.600', 'end': '708.640', 'text': 'supervised for safety. We put the cake'}, {'start': '706.320', 'end': '710.640', 'text': 'in the oven. I told her I would put it'}, {'start': '708.640', 'end': '713.360', 'text': 'in the fridge to cool when it was done'}, {'start': '710.640', 'end': '715.120', 'text': 'and we would decorate it tomorrow. She'}, {'start': '713.360', 'end': '717.120', 'text': 'was very excited when her mom picked her'}, {'start': '715.120', 'end': '719.680', 'text': 'up and my sister was excited, too, when'}, {'start': '717.120', 'end': '722.320', 'text': 'she heard about it. Needless to say, the'}, {'start': '719.680', 'end': '725.160', 'text': "cake didn't turn out well. Ingredients"}, {'start': '722.320', 'end': '727.680', 'text': "weren't mixed properly. Proportions were"}, {'start': '725.160', 'end': '730.399', 'text': 'wrong. I baked a new cake with the same'}, {'start': '727.680', 'end': '732.160', 'text': 'recipe and pan. When she came over the'}, {'start': '730.399', 'end': '734.079', 'text': 'next day, I presented the new cake as'}, {'start': '732.160', 'end': '737.360', 'text': 'the one she had made, and she decorated'}, {'start': '734.079', 'end': '739.200', 'text': 'it again. She wanted to by herself, but'}, {'start': '737.360', 'end': '740.839', 'text': 'sloppy frosting tastes just as good as'}, {'start': '739.200', 'end': '743.120', 'text': 'neat and is cuter.'}, {'start': '740.839', 'end': '744.800', 'text': 'Anyway, when my sister arrived to pick'}, {'start': '743.120', 'end': '746.880', 'text': 'up her daughter and the cake, she was'}, {'start': '744.800', 'end': '749.040', 'text': 'thrilled. We both told her she was going'}, {'start': '746.880', 'end': '751.360', 'text': 'to be a star baker one day, and my niece'}, {'start': '749.040', 'end': '753.440', 'text': 'was beaming. I was talking on the phone'}, {'start': '751.360', 'end': '755.120', 'text': 'with my sister about the party tomorrow,'}, {'start': '753.440', 'end': '756.880', 'text': "and she mentioned how it's incredible"}, {'start': '755.120', 'end': '759.680', 'text': "her daughter's first attempt at baking"}, {'start': '756.880', 'end': '761.680', 'text': 'turned out perfect. I laughed and told'}, {'start': '759.680', 'end': '763.519', 'text': 'her the truth, knowing my sister would'}, {'start': '761.680', 'end': '765.040', 'text': 'keep the secret from my niece or anyone'}, {'start': '763.519', 'end': '767.519', 'text': "who could tell her because she's the"}, {'start': '765.040', 'end': '769.279', 'text': 'mom. I figured she would think the story'}, {'start': '767.519', 'end': '771.519', 'text': 'was charming and something to tell my'}, {'start': '769.279', 'end': '774.880', 'text': "niece when she's an adult. And Star"}, {'start': '771.519', 'end': '776.639', 'text': 'Baker is a funny childhood anecdote. My'}, {'start': '774.880', 'end': '778.959', 'text': 'sister was livid and asked what I did'}, {'start': '776.639', 'end': '781.200', 'text': 'with the actual cake. I said I fed it to'}, {'start': '778.959', 'end': '783.920', 'text': "my dog because it wasn't edible. She"}, {'start': '781.200', 'end': '785.839', 'text': "cussed me out and hung up on me. I can't"}, {'start': '783.920', 'end': '787.360', 'text': 'ask anyone in my social circle which of'}, {'start': '785.839', 'end': '788.959', 'text': "us is wrong because I don't want it"}, {'start': '787.360', 'end': '791.800', 'text': "getting back to my niece that she didn't"}, {'start': '788.959', 'end': '794.000', 'text': 'make the special cake. Am I missing'}, {'start': '791.800', 'end': '795.880', 'text': 'something? I wanted my niece to be'}, {'start': '794.000', 'end': '798.800', 'text': 'confident and encourage her sense of'}, {'start': '795.880', 'end': '800.720', 'text': 'independence. Did I cross a line here?'}, {'start': '798.800', 'end': '802.480', 'text': 'Not the idiot, but your sister is a bit'}, {'start': '800.720', 'end': '804.320', 'text': 'of an idiot if she thinks that her young'}, {'start': '802.480', 'end': '806.880', 'text': 'child can make a perfect cake on her'}, {'start': '804.320', 'end': '808.560', 'text': 'first attempt. I think her anger at you'}, {'start': '806.880', 'end': '810.959', 'text': 'is due to her disappointment that she'}, {'start': '808.560', 'end': '813.240', 'text': "doesn't have a prodigy child. I would"}, {'start': '810.959', 'end': '816.079', 'text': 'just keep my distance until she'}, {'start': '813.240', 'end': '818.720', 'text': 'apologizes. For the future, just bear'}, {'start': '816.079', 'end': '820.399', 'text': "your sister's reasoning ability in mind."}, {'start': '818.720', 'end': '822.639', 'text': 'Not the idiot for swapping out the'}, {'start': '820.399', 'end': '824.440', 'text': "cakes. It's a totally harmless thing"}, {'start': '822.639', 'end': '826.720', 'text': 'that would make for a funny story in the'}, {'start': '824.440', 'end': '829.200', 'text': "future. But I don't know how good it is"}, {'start': '826.720', 'end': '830.800', 'text': 'for the dog to eat a whole cake. But no,'}, {'start': '829.200', 'end': '833.279', 'text': "at the end of the day, it's not a big"}, {'start': '830.800', 'end': '835.839', 'text': 'deal. Oh, it was a chocolate, garlic,'}, {'start': '833.279', 'end': '837.760', 'text': 'onion, macadamia nut, rat poison cake,'}, {'start': '835.839', 'end': '840.480', 'text': 'of course, and with grapes just like mom'}, {'start': '837.760', 'end': '843.199', 'text': 'used to make. Honestly, can that aged'}, {'start': '840.480', 'end': '845.279', 'text': 'child even read recipes? How gullible is'}, {'start': '843.199', 'end': '846.800', 'text': 'her mom? How can she be shocked her'}, {'start': '845.279', 'end': '848.399', 'text': "little kid couldn't bake an edible cake"}, {'start': '846.800', 'end': '850.639', 'text': 'on her first attempt with no directions'}, {'start': '848.399', 'end': '851.959', 'text': 'or help from an adult? This could have'}, {'start': '850.639', 'end': '855.360', 'text': 'been a secret between you and your'}, {'start': '851.959', 'end': '856.560', 'text': "sister. She's being overly dramatic. I"}, {'start': '855.360', 'end': '858.320', 'text': 'would appreciate that you let my'}, {'start': '856.560', 'end': '860.000', 'text': 'daughter bake a cake on her own, and'}, {'start': '858.320', 'end': '862.560', 'text': "when you realized it wasn't edible, you"}, {'start': '860.000', 'end': '864.639', 'text': 'made one that was.'}, {'start': '862.560', 'end': '866.800', 'text': 'You even had her decorate it so now we'}, {'start': '864.639', 'end': '868.600', 'text': 'can all actually enjoy eating the cake'}, {'start': '866.800', 'end': '871.120', 'text': 'while the face on that little girl will'}, {'start': '868.600', 'end': '873.440', 'text': 'glow. Imagine if nobody ate the cake'}, {'start': '871.120', 'end': '875.360', 'text': 'that she made. The little girl would be'}, {'start': '873.440', 'end': '878.160', 'text': 'upset and probably never want to bake'}, {'start': '875.360', 'end': '880.320', 'text': "again. If I were your sister, I'd be"}, {'start': '878.160', 'end': '883.199', 'text': 'amazed at what a fantastic aunt my child'}, {'start': '880.320', 'end': '885.360', 'text': "has. I'm not. But I still believe that"}, {'start': '883.199', 'end': '887.199', 'text': "you're awesome. Not just because you had"}, {'start': '885.360', 'end': '890.399', 'text': 'all the ingredients on hand to make not'}, {'start': '887.199', 'end': '892.320', 'text': 'one, but two cakes from scratch. We were'}, {'start': '890.399', 'end': '893.839', 'text': "at my mother-in-law's place for dinner"}, {'start': '892.320', 'end': '895.440', 'text': 'and while we were talking, my'}, {'start': '893.839', 'end': '897.360', 'text': 'mother-in-law took a minute to remind us'}, {'start': '895.440', 'end': '899.920', 'text': 'of her birthday, which will take place'}, {'start': '897.360', 'end': '902.800', 'text': 'next week. My husband looked at me and'}, {'start': '899.920', 'end': '905.519', 'text': 'said, "Oh, no need to get a cake. OP'}, {'start': '902.800', 'end': '907.760', 'text': 'will take care of it." I was taken aback'}, {'start': '905.519', 'end': '909.760', 'text': 'because for one, I work long hours and'}, {'start': '907.760', 'end': '912.240', 'text': "will be too busy next week and don't"}, {'start': '909.760', 'end': '914.720', 'text': "even know if I'll be able to attend. and"}, {'start': '912.240', 'end': '916.880', 'text': 'two, I never agreed to make the cake,'}, {'start': '914.720', 'end': '918.519', 'text': 'nor did I have the time or money for it'}, {'start': '916.880', 'end': '921.279', 'text': "since it's probably expected to be"}, {'start': '918.519', 'end': '922.720', 'text': "fancy. So, I couldn't take it when he"}, {'start': '921.279', 'end': '925.279', 'text': 'basically offered my service without'}, {'start': '922.720', 'end': '927.360', 'text': 'consulting me. I looked back at him and'}, {'start': '925.279', 'end': '929.120', 'text': 'said, "I never agreed to do such a'}, {'start': '927.360', 'end': '932.079', 'text': 'thing. Can you tell me why I should do'}, {'start': '929.120', 'end': '934.160', 'text': 'it? You never do anything for my mom."'}, {'start': '932.079', 'end': '935.399', 'text': 'After that, the table went quiet and'}, {'start': '934.160', 'end': '937.600', 'text': 'everybody looked at my husband'}, {'start': '935.399', 'end': '939.839', 'text': 'awkwardly. Given his argumentative'}, {'start': '937.600', 'end': '942.800', 'text': 'nature, it was strange seeing him quiet'}, {'start': '939.839', 'end': '944.639', 'text': 'like that. Once we got into the car, he'}, {'start': '942.800', 'end': '947.040', 'text': 'yelled about how I embarrassed him and'}, {'start': '944.639', 'end': '949.440', 'text': 'humiliated him and how I disrespected'}, {'start': '947.040', 'end': '951.440', 'text': 'his mother at the table. I told him he'}, {'start': '949.440', 'end': '953.279', 'text': 'was the one who offered my service, but'}, {'start': '951.440', 'end': '955.360', 'text': 'he said that I should have agreed or'}, {'start': '953.279', 'end': '957.120', 'text': 'showed I was on board initially and then'}, {'start': '955.360', 'end': '960.000', 'text': 'told him my honest opinion at home and'}, {'start': '957.120', 'end': '962.000', 'text': 'in private. We got home and he started'}, {'start': '960.000', 'end': '963.360', 'text': "sulking, saying he couldn't even look"}, {'start': '962.000', 'end': '965.839', 'text': 'his family in the face after the'}, {'start': '963.360', 'end': '968.800', 'text': 'childish crap I pulled at their house.'}, {'start': '965.839', 'end': '970.480', 'text': 'Am I the idiot? Not the idiot. He put'}, {'start': '968.800', 'end': '972.800', 'text': 'you on the spot in front of everyone.'}, {'start': '970.480', 'end': '974.240', 'text': "That's on him. That your response was in"}, {'start': '972.800', 'end': '976.240', 'text': 'front of everyone was because he counted'}, {'start': '974.240', 'end': '979.199', 'text': 'on you being quiet, not wanting to make'}, {'start': '976.240', 'end': '980.720', 'text': 'a scene. Too bad for him. If you had'}, {'start': '979.199', 'end': '982.720', 'text': 'shown you were on board, you would be'}, {'start': '980.720', 'end': '984.720', 'text': 'expected to do it. If you brought it up'}, {'start': '982.720', 'end': '986.360', 'text': "later, he'd be asking why you said you"}, {'start': '984.720', 'end': '989.040', 'text': "were on board if you didn't want to do"}, {'start': '986.360', 'end': '991.759', 'text': 'it. You were put in an awkward situation'}, {'start': '989.040', 'end': '993.759', 'text': "and you spoke up for yourself. That's a"}, {'start': '991.759', 'end': '995.360', 'text': 'great point. Actually, I was leaning'}, {'start': '993.759', 'end': '997.519', 'text': "toward everyone's the idiot verdict"}, {'start': '995.360', 'end': '999.959', 'text': "because of the wording of OP's response,"}, {'start': '997.519', 'end': '1003.440', 'text': 'but yeah, he made himself look like the'}, {'start': '999.959', 'end': '1005.120', 'text': 'idiot. What was the alternative here? OP'}, {'start': '1003.440', 'end': '1007.680', 'text': 'agreeing by default at that moment and'}, {'start': '1005.120', 'end': '1011.040', 'text': 'then having to take it back later. That'}, {'start': '1007.680', 'end': '1013.680', 'text': 'would seem even more awful. I think you'}, {'start': '1011.040', 'end': '1015.199', 'text': 'are the idiot. Your reply was rude,'}, {'start': '1013.680', 'end': '1016.240', 'text': 'though, because it implies that you'}, {'start': '1015.199', 'end': '1017.839', 'text': "don't give a crap about your"}, {'start': '1016.240', 'end': '1019.360', 'text': 'mother-in-law and would only do'}, {'start': '1017.839', 'end': '1021.680', 'text': 'something for her as part of a quidd'}, {'start': '1019.360', 'end': '1023.440', 'text': 'proquo. The polite response would have'}, {'start': '1021.680', 'end': '1024.799', 'text': 'been, "Sorry, but I don\'t have time to'}, {'start': '1023.440', 'end': '1026.559', 'text': "make a cake this week, so I won't be"}, {'start': '1024.799', 'end': '1029.039', 'text': 'able to do that. Please check with me'}, {'start': '1026.559', 'end': '1030.799', 'text': 'first next time." Well, I\'m not'}, {'start': '1029.039', 'end': '1033.039', 'text': "mother-in-law's biggest fan for raising"}, {'start': '1030.799', 'end': '1034.559', 'text': "such a misogynistic kid, and I'm not"}, {'start': '1033.039', 'end': '1036.400', 'text': 'sure why her feeling respected should'}, {'start': '1034.559', 'end': '1038.959', 'text': 'come at the cost of OP being so'}, {'start': '1036.400', 'end': '1040.319', 'text': 'egregiously disrespected. Sure, she'}, {'start': '1038.959', 'end': '1041.600', 'text': 'could have snuck in a line about how'}, {'start': '1040.319', 'end': '1043.360', 'text': "mother-in-law shouldn't take it"}, {'start': '1041.600', 'end': '1047.039', 'text': 'personally, and she can always follow up'}, {'start': '1043.360', 'end': '1049.120', 'text': 'to do that now, but OP defended herself.'}, {'start': '1047.039', 'end': '1051.360', 'text': 'She reacted in anger to an angering'}, {'start': '1049.120', 'end': '1053.840', 'text': 'situation at the moment. Effectively,'}, {'start': '1051.360', 'end': '1055.280', 'text': 'that is an instinct too few people have,'}, {'start': '1053.840', 'end': '1057.320', 'text': 'especially women who are told to'}, {'start': '1055.280', 'end': '1059.360', 'text': 'prioritize politeness over'}, {'start': '1057.320', 'end': '1061.679', 'text': "self-respect. I think that's important"}, {'start': '1059.360', 'end': '1065.720', 'text': 'enough to be prioritized way, way above'}, {'start': '1061.679', 'end': '1065.720', 'text': "mother-in-law's hurt feelings."}]