Quando você deixa de estar disponível, as máscaras caem — e o mundo reage | Carl Jung
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And that's when it all"}, {'start': '29.080', 'end': '35.239', 'text': 'falls apart.  You respond by reflex, you'}, {'start': '31.960', 'end': '37.719', 'text': 'say yes, out of fear, you explain yourself, you'}, {'start': '35.239', 'end': '40.000', 'text': 'justify yourself, you correct yourself, as if you'}, {'start': '37.719', 'end': '42.079', 'text': 'owed the world something.  But there comes a'}, {'start': '40.000', 'end': '44.480', 'text': 'time when something inside you'}, {'start': '42.079', 'end': '47.360', 'text': 'starts to break.  You start to get'}, {'start': '44.480', 'end': '49.559', 'text': 'tired.  Tired of being functional, tired'}, {'start': '47.360', 'end': '52.559', 'text': 'of being accessible, tired of being'}, {'start': '49.559', 'end': '55.559', 'text': 'predictable.  And for the first time you'}, {'start': '52.559', 'end': '57.879', 'text': 'consider walking away, not out of anger, but'}, {'start': '55.559', 'end': '60.160', 'text': 'out of sanity.  There is an energy that only'}, {'start': '57.879', 'end': '62.840', 'text': 'appears in silence.  There is a type of'}, {'start': '60.160', 'end': '65.199', 'text': 'respect that only arises at the limit.  There is a'}, {'start': '62.840', 'end': '67.600', 'text': 'kind of power that only reveals itself when'}, {'start': '65.199', 'end': '70.360', 'text': "you don't react.  Most people"}, {'start': '67.600', 'end': '72.880', 'text': 'have learned to function on automatic mode.'}, {'start': '70.360', 'end': '75.240', 'text': 'Respond quickly, please quickly,'}, {'start': '72.880', 'end': '77.159', 'text': 'justify everything.  Just so as not to lose'}, {'start': '75.240', 'end': '79.360', 'text': 'anyone, just so as not to be'}, {'start': '77.159', 'end': '82.560', 'text': 'misunderstood.  But the more predictable'}, {'start': '79.360', 'end': '85.280', 'text': 'you are, the more manipulable you become.'}, {'start': '82.560', 'end': '87.640', 'text': 'Carl Jung called this the persona, the'}, {'start': '85.280', 'end': '89.759', 'text': 'social mask that protects you until the day it'}, {'start': '87.640', 'end': '91.560', 'text': 'starts to trap you.  The problem is,'}, {'start': '89.759', 'end': '94.439', 'text': 'the longer you hold that'}, {'start': '91.560', 'end': '98.119', 'text': 'mask, the more you disappear.  Your'}, {'start': '94.439', 'end': '99.840', 'text': 'vital energy becomes currency and, worst of all, it is used'}, {'start': '98.119', 'end': '102.320', 'text': 'by someone who has never really been with'}, {'start': '99.840', 'end': '104.079', 'text': 'you.  When you stop reacting,'}, {'start': '102.320', 'end': '106.799', 'text': "people don't know what to do with your"}, {'start': '104.079', 'end': '108.719', 'text': 'silence, not because they care, but'}, {'start': '106.799', 'end': '111.439', 'text': 'because they have lost the emotional control they'}, {'start': '108.719', 'end': '113.320', 'text': 'had over you.  They were'}, {'start': '111.439', 'end': '115.439', 'text': 'used to accessing you at the'}, {'start': '113.320', 'end': '118.399', 'text': 'touch of a button.  They knew that if they just'}, {'start': '115.439', 'end': '121.799', 'text': 'pressed a little, you would give in.'}, {'start': '118.399', 'end': '124.640', 'text': 'Guilt, compassion, fear of loss.  You'}, {'start': '121.799', 'end': '127.759', 'text': 'were always there.  But one day you'}, {'start': '124.640', 'end': '131.360', 'text': "start not being there anymore.  You read and don't"}, {'start': '127.759', 'end': '134.599', 'text': "respond.  You listen and don't argue back.  You"}, {'start': '131.360', 'end': '136.560', 'text': "realize and shut up.  And that's"}, {'start': '134.599', 'end': '139.040', 'text': "unbearable, because you've become a"}, {'start': '136.560', 'end': '141.080', 'text': 'mirror.  And when a mirror refuses to'}, {'start': '139.040', 'end': '143.599', 'text': 'reflect, people are forced to'}, {'start': '141.080', 'end': '146.920', 'text': 'face what they avoid most: themselves.'}, {'start': '143.599', 'end': '149.840', 'text': 'And then comes the drama, the accusation, the'}, {'start': '146.920', 'end': '152.000', 'text': 'emotional game.  But none of this is about you.'}, {'start': '149.840', 'end': '154.480', 'text': "It's about their void that you are no"}, {'start': '152.000', 'end': '156.959', 'text': 'longer helping to fill.  K. Jung'}, {'start': '154.480', 'end': '159.159', 'text': 'called projection the act of throwing onto'}, {'start': '156.959', 'end': '161.560', 'text': 'another what we cannot'}, {'start': '159.159', 'end': '163.920', 'text': 'face within ourselves.  And the more'}, {'start': '161.560', 'end': '166.319', 'text': 'emotionally accessible you are, the more'}, {'start': '163.920', 'end': '168.400', 'text': 'you become the perfect canvas for these'}, {'start': '166.319', 'end': '171.159', 'text': "projections.  They don't relate to"}, {'start': '168.400', 'end': '174.159', 'text': 'who you are, but to the role you'}, {'start': '171.159', 'end': '177.239', 'text': 'play.  You become the savior, the'}, {'start': '174.159', 'end': '179.720', 'text': 'understanding one, the one who is always there and everything'}, {'start': '177.239', 'end': '182.920', 'text': 'goes well.  Until the day you change the'}, {'start': '179.720', 'end': '184.040', 'text': 'script, you start saying no.  You'}, {'start': '182.920', 'end': '187.120', 'text': 'stop'}, {'start': '184.040', 'end': '189.680', 'text': 'justifying yourself.  You retreat and without warning'}, {'start': '187.120', 'end': '192.080', 'text': "the character disappears from the scene.  That's where the"}, {'start': '189.680', 'end': '194.400', 'text': 'chaos begins.  Not because you did something'}, {'start': '192.080', 'end': '196.480', 'text': 'wrong, but because you stopped being'}, {'start': '194.400', 'end': '199.120', 'text': 'functional.  You are no longer'}, {'start': '196.480', 'end': '202.080', 'text': 'predictable.  This threatens those who only knew how to'}, {'start': '199.120', 'end': '204.599', 'text': 'use you and never knew you.  The mask they'}, {'start': '202.080', 'end': '207.040', 'text': 'put on you falls away and the discomfort'}, {'start': '204.599', 'end': '209.560', 'text': 'that appears says more about them than it does'}, {'start': '207.040', 'end': '213.159', 'text': 'about you.  Silence when it comes from'}, {'start': '209.560', 'end': '215.720', 'text': 'awareness, not from escape, is a rupture.'}, {'start': '213.159', 'end': '218.720', 'text': 'He is not absence.  It is a'}, {'start': '215.720', 'end': '220.840', 'text': "silent declaration.  I don't play that game anymore."}, {'start': '218.720', 'end': '223.360', 'text': 'And few things are more disturbing'}, {'start': '220.840', 'end': '225.519', 'text': 'to those who fed off their reaction.'}, {'start': '223.360', 'end': '228.159', 'text': 'Because while you talk, argue,'}, {'start': '225.519', 'end': '230.040', 'text': 'explain yourself, you are still on the board.'}, {'start': '228.159', 'end': '232.400', 'text': 'But the moment you'}, {'start': '230.040', 'end': '235.599', 'text': 'choose to remain silent, the other person loses control of the'}, {'start': '232.400', 'end': '238.720', 'text': 'narrative.  Silence exposes, exposes'}, {'start': '235.599', 'end': '241.280', 'text': 'need, exposes manipulation, exposes'}, {'start': '238.720', 'end': '244.599', 'text': 'emptiness.  And not everyone is ready to'}, {'start': '241.280', 'end': '248.159', 'text': 'look at themselves.  Then comes the label.  You have'}, {'start': '244.599', 'end': '249.760', 'text': 'changed.  You are acting strange.  He is cold,'}, {'start': '248.159', 'end': '253.159', 'text': 'arrogant,'}, {'start': '249.760', 'end': '256.239', 'text': "distant.  But what changed wasn't you, it"}, {'start': '253.159', 'end': '258.479', 'text': 'was your limit.  Carl Jung said that'}, {'start': '256.239', 'end': '260.680', 'text': 'we do not become enlightened by imagining'}, {'start': '258.479', 'end': '263.919', 'text': 'figures of light, but by making'}, {'start': '260.680', 'end': '266.400', 'text': 'darkness conscious and its absence'}, {'start': '263.919', 'end': '269.680', 'text': 'forces the other to see their own shadow.'}, {'start': '266.400', 'end': '272.240', 'text': 'There is a silence that heals.'}, {'start': '269.680', 'end': '274.720', 'text': 'Not that passive silence that swallows'}, {'start': '272.240', 'end': '277.639', 'text': 'everything to avoid conflict, but the'}, {'start': '274.720', 'end': '279.759', 'text': 'active, conscious silence, the one'}, {'start': '277.639', 'end': '282.240', 'text': 'you choose when you stop negotiating your'}, {'start': '279.759', 'end': '284.000', 'text': 'peace to be accepted.  This silence'}, {'start': '282.240', 'end': '286.120', 'text': 'pushes away those who only wanted you for'}, {'start': '284.000', 'end': '289.440', 'text': 'convenience, but it also brings something'}, {'start': '286.120', 'end': '292.639', 'text': 'rare closer: yourself.  Carl Jung called this'}, {'start': '289.440', 'end': '296.560', 'text': 'individuation, the process of becoming'}, {'start': '292.639', 'end': '298.919', 'text': 'whole, authentic, true.  And yes,'}, {'start': '296.560', 'end': '301.479', 'text': 'this path is lonely at first,'}, {'start': '298.919', 'end': '303.720', 'text': 'because for a while you will seem'}, {'start': '301.479', 'end': '306.600', 'text': 'cold to those who benefited from your'}, {'start': '303.720', 'end': '308.919', 'text': 'weakness.  It will seem distant to those who'}, {'start': '306.600', 'end': '311.680', 'text': 'only recognized you for the role you'}, {'start': '308.919', 'end': '314.360', 'text': 'played.  But little by little this loneliness'}, {'start': '311.680', 'end': '316.720', 'text': 'turns into clarity.  Peace enters where there'}, {'start': '314.360', 'end': '319.720', 'text': 'was once confusion.  Your presence gains'}, {'start': '316.720', 'end': '323.000', 'text': 'weight.  Yours does not begin to echo more than'}, {'start': '319.720', 'end': '325.639', 'text': '1 explanation.  Your absence'}, {'start': '323.000', 'end': '328.160', 'text': 'says it all.  You stop being accessible'}, {'start': '325.639', 'end': '330.560', 'text': 'to everyone and become valuable to a'}, {'start': '328.160', 'end': '333.440', 'text': 'few, the right ones, because in the end'}, {'start': '330.560', 'end': '335.720', 'text': 'you were not born to be an'}, {'start': '333.440', 'end': '337.639', 'text': "immediate response to anyone's needs.  You"}, {'start': '335.720', 'end': '340.520', 'text': 'were born to be whole.  And if you'}, {'start': '337.639', 'end': '342.960', 'text': "'ve come this far, maybe you're ready,"}, {'start': '340.520', 'end': '344.240', 'text': 'ready to disappear.  but only from the'}, {'start': '342.960', 'end': '347.240', 'text': 'place where you have never been'}, {'start': '344.240', 'end': '350.400', 'text': 'truly seen.  If this message'}, {'start': '347.240', 'end': '352.039', 'text': 'touched you, write in the comments.  I'}, {'start': '350.400', 'end': '355.160', 'text': 'choose my'}, {'start': '352.039', 'end': '357.240', 'text': "silence.  And that's just the beginning, because"}, {'start': '355.160', 'end': '359.880', 'text': 'in the next episodes of the Carl'}, {'start': '357.240', 'end': '361.880', 'text': "Jung Explains series, we'll dive even"}, {'start': '359.880', 'end': '364.360', 'text': 'deeper into the invisible mechanisms that'}, {'start': '361.880', 'end': '366.960', 'text': 'control your life until you learn to'}, {'start': '364.360', 'end': '369.599', 'text': 'control them back.  And if this video'}, {'start': '366.960', 'end': '373.960', 'text': 'made sense to you, leave a like and'}, {'start': '369.599', 'end': '373.960', 'text': 'share it with someone.  See you next time.'}]