What if you're actually not behind? What if you're exactly where you're meant to be
Hazel Robertson
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That's"}, {'start': '23.359', 'end': '28.080', 'text': "what we're diving into with mindset"}, {'start': '25.439', 'end': '30.400', 'text': 'tools, tricks, really simple, practical,'}, {'start': '28.080', 'end': '33.200', 'text': 'actionable steps you can take and start'}, {'start': '30.400', 'end': '35.600', 'text': 'applying straight away. Cuz whatever you'}, {'start': '33.200', 'end': '38.000', 'text': 'believe, we have this one life that we'}, {'start': '35.600', 'end': '39.600', 'text': 'definitely know about. Start making the'}, {'start': '38.000', 'end': '41.920', 'text': 'impact you know you want to make in the'}, {'start': '39.600', 'end': '43.520', 'text': 'world. Fear is not a reason to stop. We'}, {'start': '41.920', 'end': '44.879', 'text': 'keep going. We work through the fear.'}, {'start': '43.520', 'end': '47.039', 'text': 'That is what we do in the Scary Goals'}, {'start': '44.879', 'end': '49.200', 'text': 'Club. So, come on in. Come join. Hit'}, {'start': '47.039', 'end': '52.079', 'text': "subscribe and let's get started. Hi, and"}, {'start': '49.200', 'end': '56.079', 'text': 'welcome to the Scary Goals Club podcast.'}, {'start': '52.079', 'end': '59.199', 'text': 'I am your host, Hazel Robertson, and'}, {'start': '56.079', 'end': '60.480', 'text': "I've got my little piece of rose quartz"}, {'start': '59.199', 'end': '63.600', 'text': "in my hand. If you're watching this on"}, {'start': '60.480', 'end': '67.200', 'text': 'video, which is so nice to use as a'}, {'start': '63.600', 'end': '68.960', 'text': 'little like fidget piece, fidget toy.'}, {'start': '67.200', 'end': '70.080', 'text': 'And anyway, if you seen me fidgeting'}, {'start': '68.960', 'end': '73.600', 'text': 'with it, you might have seen it in the'}, {'start': '70.080', 'end': '74.439', 'text': 'past few videos. So today I wanted to'}, {'start': '73.600', 'end': '77.920', 'text': 'dive'}, {'start': '74.439', 'end': '82.640', 'text': 'into something that I have done a lot of'}, {'start': '77.920', 'end': '85.280', 'text': 'work on and that has come up for so so'}, {'start': '82.640', 'end': '86.799', 'text': "many of my clients. And so if you're"}, {'start': '85.280', 'end': '89.119', 'text': "listening to this podcast and you're"}, {'start': '86.799', 'end': '92.240', 'text': "loving this work, then it's probably"}, {'start': '89.119', 'end': '94.119', 'text': 'going on for you in some form or some'}, {'start': '92.240', 'end': '96.680', 'text': 'version of it.'}, {'start': '94.119', 'end': '98.680', 'text': 'And it is the'}, {'start': '96.680', 'end': '102.720', 'text': 'belief'}, {'start': '98.680', 'end': '105.680', 'text': 'that in some way that you are behind.'}, {'start': '102.720', 'end': '107.759', 'text': "Okay? So maybe you don't even realize"}, {'start': '105.680', 'end': '109.680', 'text': 'that you have this as a belief or maybe'}, {'start': '107.759', 'end': '111.439', 'text': "you do realize and you're like yeah but"}, {'start': '109.680', 'end': '114.640', 'text': "I am behind like I didn't get these"}, {'start': '111.439', 'end': '116.640', 'text': 'things done or I had my scary goal for'}, {'start': '114.640', 'end': '118.960', 'text': "this deadline and I didn't meet it or I"}, {'start': '116.640', 'end': '120.240', 'text': 'had like working towards my scary goal'}, {'start': '118.960', 'end': '123.439', 'text': "and I didn't do these things so"}, {'start': '120.240', 'end': '126.560', 'text': 'therefore I am behind. we have this idea'}, {'start': '123.439', 'end': '128.640', 'text': "of like where we're going to be, what"}, {'start': '126.560', 'end': '130.399', 'text': 'like time frame that things are going to'}, {'start': '128.640', 'end': '132.239', 'text': "happen and then when it doesn't happen"}, {'start': '130.399', 'end': '134.879', 'text': "in that time frame or we don't get the"}, {'start': '132.239', 'end': '137.200', 'text': "things done or we haven't done the piece"}, {'start': '134.879', 'end': '138.640', 'text': 'of work by the time someone has asked'}, {'start': '137.200', 'end': '141.599', 'text': 'for it or that we thought we would or'}, {'start': '138.640', 'end': '143.360', 'text': "that's been on our calendar, we our"}, {'start': '141.599', 'end': '145.200', 'text': 'brain like attaches this weight to it'}, {'start': '143.360', 'end': '148.239', 'text': 'and turns it into a story that somehow'}, {'start': '145.200', 'end': '150.160', 'text': "we are behind. Okay. So, maybe you don't"}, {'start': '148.239', 'end': '153.280', 'text': "even know that that's the story and"}, {'start': '150.160', 'end': '155.519', 'text': 'maybe it just comes up where you look at'}, {'start': '153.280', 'end': '157.280', 'text': 'like a deadline, you realize you either'}, {'start': '155.519', 'end': '159.599', 'text': "haven't met it or the deadline is pushed"}, {'start': '157.280', 'end': '162.239', 'text': 'out or something has changed and you'}, {'start': '159.599', 'end': '164.720', 'text': 'maybe feel a little bit of panic or a'}, {'start': '162.239', 'end': '166.319', 'text': 'bit of like and you maybe or maybe you'}, {'start': '164.720', 'end': '167.760', 'text': "don't even notice the panic coming up."}, {'start': '166.319', 'end': '170.480', 'text': "So, it depends where you're at. Like"}, {'start': '167.760', 'end': '172.239', 'text': 'some people some of us can notice'}, {'start': '170.480', 'end': '174.080', 'text': 'feelings and tune in with it. 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I didn't even realize like"}, {'start': '191.120', 'end': '194.159', 'text': 'what a thought was, that it was'}, {'start': '192.640', 'end': '195.840', 'text': 'optional, that my brain was just'}, {'start': '194.159', 'end': '199.120', 'text': 'offering me these every single day,'}, {'start': '195.840', 'end': '201.280', 'text': 'thousands of them and that I could'}, {'start': '199.120', 'end': '203.040', 'text': 'either believe them and get caught up in'}, {'start': '201.280', 'end': '204.720', 'text': 'them or I could drop back from them and'}, {'start': '203.040', 'end': '206.959', 'text': 'decide instead what I wanted to believe.'}, {'start': '204.720', 'end': '208.319', 'text': "I didn't know any of this. And so maybe"}, {'start': '206.959', 'end': '209.879', 'text': "this is you. Maybe you're on your"}, {'start': '208.319', 'end': '212.480', 'text': "journey where you're just understanding"}, {'start': '209.879', 'end': '213.599', 'text': 'like, oh, my brain offers me thoughts. I'}, {'start': '212.480', 'end': '215.360', 'text': "don't have to choose them. I don't have"}, {'start': '213.599', 'end': '217.120', 'text': 'to believe it. Like this is a story and'}, {'start': '215.360', 'end': '218.400', 'text': 'I can change it and I can rewrite it.'}, {'start': '217.120', 'end': '220.480', 'text': 'Because our brain has this amazing thing'}, {'start': '218.400', 'end': '222.959', 'text': 'called neuroplasticity. Like we can'}, {'start': '220.480', 'end': '224.720', 'text': 'change and rewire our brain based on'}, {'start': '222.959', 'end': '226.480', 'text': 'experience. 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You might not"}, {'start': '241.360', 'end': '247.360', 'text': 'even realize you are feeling like panic'}, {'start': '244.000', 'end': '249.920', 'text': 'or anxiety or something that has come up'}, {'start': '247.360', 'end': '251.920', 'text': "when you're in this place. Maybe it's"}, {'start': '249.920', 'end': '255.360', 'text': "through how you're behaving. Maybe you"}, {'start': '251.920', 'end': '257.120', 'text': 'notice like you look at your calendar'}, {'start': '255.360', 'end': '258.880', 'text': "and like something hasn't been done or"}, {'start': '257.120', 'end': '261.359', 'text': "you see there's a deadline coming up and"}, {'start': '258.880', 'end': '263.360', 'text': "you haven't done the amount of work you"}, {'start': '261.359', 'end': '266.560', 'text': 'thought you would have by this point in'}, {'start': '263.360', 'end': '269.600', 'text': 'time. And maybe you find yourself in'}, {'start': '266.560', 'end': '271.040', 'text': "this almost like rush scramble. 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Maybe"}, {'start': '481.360', 'end': '486.160', 'text': "we're looking at like booking a holiday"}, {'start': '482.960', 'end': '487.680', 'text': 'somewhere to like escape on our phones'}, {'start': '486.160', 'end': '489.199', 'text': 'going to the shops to go get chocolate.'}, {'start': '487.680', 'end': '492.479', 'text': "I don't know. Whatever the things are,"}, {'start': '489.199', 'end': '494.960', 'text': 'often we can then like as humans we are'}, {'start': '492.479', 'end': '498.080', 'text': 'wired to avoid discomfort. And the'}, {'start': '494.960', 'end': '500.720', 'text': 'discomfort that we are wired to avoid is'}, {'start': '498.080', 'end': '502.800', 'text': 'emotional discomfort. 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