Most of the research focuses on disruption to educational achievement. Obedience and respect are important. Women in South Africa describe the grief and mourning (Henderson, 2013), noting its impact on their mental health (Bray, 2012) which undermines their ability to parent young children to the standards to which they aspire (Bray & Brandt, 2007). The impact of multiple family bereavements on mothers' abilities to parent adolescents is not well-researched, and even less is known about the effects of multiple bereavements on men and fathering.