But the fact that she didn't even let me know hurt . Then someone a few nights ago basically pointed the finger at me as if I was the bad guy for wanting to take care of myself . I needed it because if I didn't it would have also taken it's toll not only on me but my relationship , friends , and family . I didn't need to do that . 
Question: What may have caused people to call you the bad guy in that situation ?
I had a desire to be independent .