
timorchya vivah parampara

timorchya vivah parampara (,,) timore betavaril vivahanna lagoo hotat, jeey indoneshiya aanee purv timormadhye vibhagale gele aahe. purv timormadhil serve vivahanpaiki jawaljawal nimmya vivahanmadhye ajunahi vivah parampara palalya jaatat. vasahatvadachya kalapasoon yaa paramparanche moolya aanee tyateel mahilanchya bhoomikebabat garmagaram vaad suru aahet.
parshvabhoomi.
jaree timormadhil vividh vanshik bhashik gatanchya bhasha aanee sanskrutik pranalinmadhye kadhikadhi khoop mothe farak aahet (udaa.jee. pitrusattak aanee matrusattak pranali), tyanchya vishvashastriy kalpana aanee samajik sanrachananmadhye dekhil anek samanata aahet.
asha kalpananche eka udaharan mhanje dwaitvad, assa vishvas qee () kinwa () sarkhya done moolbhut sankalpana ekmekanchya virodhat astitvat aahet. tyaa vishvasanusar, () varr purushache varchasva aahe, tarr () chey pavitra jug striche aahe, jyachya gabha pavitra, daad aahe. stree ghar chalavate aanee mulanchi kalji ghete, tarr pararashtra vyavhar hii purushachi jababdari asate. tattvatah, strila samajat uchch sthan aahe, parantu kutumbatach purush tichyavar niyantran thevanyachi dhamki deto, visheshtah jarr teey jodape tarun vayat vivahit asel tarr. 2002 madhye purv timorla swatantrya midalyapasun, asha timorchya paramparanni purv timorchya rajkaranavar aanee sarvasadharanpane samajat prabhav padala aahe.
timorchya kalat, lagnacha aadhar haah kutumbanmadhil karar asato, jenekarun vivah haah adhik "done kutumbanmadhil yutee" asel. yutichya atinvar vadhoo aanee varachya kakankadoon vataghati kelya jaatat.
timorchya vivah vidhicha bhag mhanoon kutumbanmadhye devanghevan jhalelya maulyavan bhetvastu (tetammadhye, jyanna asehi mhanatat) samaan pratikatmakata aanee sanskrutik mahatva asalelya asavyat, vadhuchya kutumbatil vastoo pratikatmakdrushtya shreshth manalya jaat asavyat, kaaran tee tyaa bajoone yete jee jivanacha pavitra srot manali jaate. vadhuchya kutumbala dilele heey sanmanache prateek aahe. teey vadhula moolya dete aanee ticha darja prasthapit karate. paise naan dene haah vadhuchya palakancha anadar manla jaato. maulyavan vastoo kvachitach eka prasangi purn dilya jaatat, parantu lagnachya darmyan kahee samarambhanmadhye haloohaloo tyanchi devanghevan kelee jaate. yamule vadhuchya kutumbala tyanchi mulgi aanee tichya mulanna kase vagavale jaate yavar kahee niyantran milate. bhetvastunchya devanghevanivyatirikt, pudhil vidhee jeevanat aanee mrutyuchya sanskaranmadhye dekhil jababdanya aahet.
aaa neey spasht kele aahe qee jeey eka majboot samaj aanee sambandh nirman karnyasathi karya karate. parampareshivay, timoras lokanna lokanmadhil sambandh pahoo shakanar naheet. parampara purush aanee striya doghannahi hinsacharapasun sanrakshn detat, kaaran tyaa sarvashrut aahet aanee pratyekachi najar anupalanavar () asate.
rajdhanichya shaharabaher rahana purvekadil timore lokansathi, dilee, timorchya parampara tyanchi olakh paribhashit karatat aanee gavanmadhil aanee lahan shaharanmadhil jivanavar tyancha motha parinam hoto.
vidhee.
timormadhil bahutek vivah samarambh vidhee () neey suru hotat, jevha kutumbatil pratinidhi prathamach bhetatat aanee varachya kutumbane lagnasathi parvanagi magitali. vadhuchya kutumbala () aanee varachya kutumbala () asey sambodhale jaate. tyanantar, sangh swikararh aahe qee nahee, kaay deu karave aanee dusya kutumbakadun kaay magave yabaddal vistarit kutumbanmadhye gupt vataghati suru hotat. nirnay ghetala gela aahe yachee khatri karnyasathi, antim nirnay hoiparyant khanyas manai aahe. tyanantar bhetvastunchi pahili devanghevan hote aanee vadhoo aanee varr donhi () kutumbanmadhil purvajancha aashirvad magatat.
bhetvastunche swaroop aanee moolya aanee vataghati, vadhoo aanee varr konatya gharanshi aanee kulyashi sambandhit aahet aanee purvi teey ekmekanshi kase sambandhit hote yavar mothya pramanat avalambun asatat. vadhuchya sthitichi dekhil bhoomika asate, tasech (agadi vyavharikdrushtya) vistarit kutumb kaay gola karoo shakate. kutumb jitke adhik uchchabhru asel, bhetvastunchi devanghevan titakich adhik guntaguntichi aanee maulyavan asel. pahilya chulat bhavandanmadhil () vivah aanee asha prakare bhavachi mulgi aanee kulabaher lagn kelelya bahinicha mulga yanchyatil vivahala visheshtah protsahan dile jaate. yaa natyashivay kinwa itar vanshik gatambarobarhi kulanmadhil vivah samanya aahet, parantu nantar dirgh vataghati aavashyak asatat.
bhetvastunchi devanghevan mhanje eka kutumbatoon dusya kutumbat jeevan sthalantar karane. tichya purvajanshi asalelya strichya natyacha ant aanee tichya patishi asalelya tichya natyachi suruvat mhanoonahi yakade pahile jaate (jaree asey vanshik gut dekhil aahet jyamadhye purush paramparikpane tyachya patnichya kutumbat jaato, jase qee matrusattak bunak lock). manufahi nagarpaliket, varachya kutumbane vadhula eka soneri (chhatisamor paridhan keleli eka golakar dhatuchi chakati) bhet dyavi. stritvache heey prateek vadhuche shareer kinwa tichya mool shariramadhye haravalelya aatmyachi jaaga ghenyakarta aahe. tyanantar, () mhanoon olakhali jaanari bhet vadhuchya aaeela dilee jaate, jee balantpan kartana tichya garajancha sanket dete. hii bhet tichya mulichya janmachya velee tichya vedna aanee dukkhachi paratfed aahe. aaichya kutumbachya sanmanarth, aaichya bhawala aanakhi eka bhetvastu jaate. mukhya bhetvastu matra vadhuchya vadilanchya kutumbala jaate, jyala aajkal bahudha vadhuchi kimmat mhanoon upman keela jaato.
varchya kutumbatoon sampatti nirmitishi sambandhit bhetvastu yetat, udaharanarth panyachya mhashi, jyaa bhatshetimadhye nangar odhatat. vadhuchya bajoone mahilanni tayar kelelya vastoo yetat, jase qee purv timorche vaishishtyapurn sutee kapad kinwa dukaranna, jyaa mauu aanee strilingi vastoo manalya jaatat aanee jyaa sahasa mahilandware palalya jaatat. manee, sakhalya kinwa june dagine aanee sone kinwa chandichi nanee yasarkhya daginyansah itar anek vastoo dekhil aahet jyaa sambandhit vanshik gatavar avalambun aahet. teela aanee jodpyachya mulanche sanrakshn karnyachya vadhuchya naveen yazman kutumbachya kartvyacha haah eka bhag aahe.
vidhimadhye devanghevan jhalelya bhetvastu sahasa eka kutumbasobat rahat naheet, parantu sakhalipramane eka kutumbatoon dusya sambandhit kutumbat pravas karatat, jeey kiman saiddhantikdrushtya devanghevanichya bhetvastunchya sarvasadharanpane swikarlelya mulyachi hummy dete.
purvichya timormadhil serve vivahanpaiki jawaljawal nimmya vivahanmadhye nuktech varnan kelelya timorchya vivah paramparanche aajahi palan kele jaate. timorchya vegvegalya vanshik bhashik gatanmadhye jhalelya devanghevanimadhye kahee farak aahet, parantu varr namood kelelya vidhiche bahutek bhag sarvansathi samaan aahet. jaree tyanchyakade ajunahi vadhuchya aaisathi "garam paanee aanee jaalanyache lakud" bhetvastu asali taree, kahee matrusattak samuday apavadatmak aahet jeey sarav karat naheet. sarvasadharanpane, vadhuche matrusattak kinwa pitrusattak gatache sadasyatva heey ghadate qee nahee heey tharavate. jarr varachya kutumbala pureshi rakkam parvadat nasel, tarr varr tyachya patnichya kutumbasobat rahato aanee kiman tyaa badalyat pureshi nokri mileparyant rahato. paramparikpane yacha arth shetat kaam karane kinwa gharbhar madat karane assa hota. aajkal yaa kamat tyachya patnichya lahan bhavandanna tyanchya shikshanat madat karane samavisht asoo shakate. asha kamachi kamgiri patila shoshan aanee nairashyachya dhokyat aanate. garib kutumbatoon aalele kahee purush ajibat lagn karat naheet aanee tyamule tyanna mule naheet, tyamule tyanna purn praudh mhanoon manyata milat nahee.
alikadil ghadamodi.
portugij vasahatvad aanee tyanantarchya indonesian vyavasayane (1975-1999) purv timormadhil paramparik sanskruti kamkuvat kelee, parantu kautumbik sambandh aanee shraddha majboot kelya. 1963 chya eka lekhat asey mhatale hote qee, kahee kutumbanmadhye premal honyasathi kinwa udartemule, vivah sohalyasathi anek mhashincha balee deela gela, parinami varshabharat nantar tyanna prajnan kinwa kamasathi pranyanchi kamatarata bhasali. portugij vasahatvadi prashasanane utsavasathi marle jaau shakananya pranyanchi sankhya maryadit karoon heey sampavale.
portugij vasahatvadi kalachya akheris, eka hinsak vaad hota, tathakathit 'barleck warr' (), joou 1969 teey september 1970 aanee nantar punha julai teey december 1973 paryant chalala. yaa vadache kaaran portugij-taimori lekhakachi kavita (1969) aanee kadambari (1973), donhi hotee, jyat tyane assa nishkarsh kadhala hota qee vadhula eka vastoo banvine. timorchya vicharvantanni pratisad deela qee hii eka adhik guntaguntichi samajik prakriya hotee jee vastoonchya devanghevanipurati maryadit asoo shakat nahee.
yuktivadachya eka bajula maura aanee jaim naves heey mool portugij hote, jeey timore sanskraticha abhyas karat hote. teey lashkari karmchari mhanoon timorla aale hote. tyanna virodh karnare francisco zavier doow amral aanee nikolau doss rees lobato hote. teey deshachya vividh bhagantil pramukh kutumbanmadhil timoris hote, tyanni pashchimatya catholic shikshan ghetale hote aanee tyamule tyanna 'catholic' chaa darja midala hota. 1961 madhye heey vargikaran adhikrutpane radd karnyat aale asale taree, yamule purushanna portugij adhikadhyanshi samaan staravar vadavivad karnyasathi aavashyak asalele vajan midale. heey tighehi nantar fretilinmadhye aaghadiche sthan bhushavatil. maurachya prakashananvyatirikt, nantar vruttpatra, church masik aanee lashkari bulletinne haah vadavivad eka vishay mhanoon uchalala. naves heey sthanik redio stationche sampadak aanee vakta hote. yaa charchela, charchela aalelya timorinchi bajoo ghenara, aanakhi eka portugij lashkari manus, haah yaa pustakacha sampadak hota.
maurachya kavita prakashit jhalyanantar, jyamadhye tyane eka timori mahilebaddal sangitale hote, jiche prem vikave lagel, araujone tichya sampadkala eka patra pathavale. nevsney anek lekhansah pratisad deela, jyamadhye tyane varr aanee vadhula pratyaksh gulam ghoshit kele, jyavar araujone () yaa lekhasah pratyuttar dile. lobato aanee amral yaa vadat sameel jhaale. 1973 madhye, maurachya laghupat prakashanamule maura, naves aanee thomas yanchyat tivra vaad jhaala. naves aanee maurala vatale qee timorchya strila ticha swatacha patee nivadanyachi parvanagi nahee aanee timorchya samajatil mahilanchya kathit adheen sthitimule hii 'berber' vyavastha aahe. maura yanni tyanchya kadambarichi jahirat 'eka timoras katha' yaa vakyasah kelee, jyamadhye lekhak premvivahachya guntaguntichya parshvabhumivar katheen parantu ghaigadbadit vijayavar bharr deto."khyan arthane dayalu timoransathicha marg mhanje tyancha vishvas aanee tyanche sanskar sodoon dene aanee khristi dharmacha sweekar karane assa kadhich vichar keela nahee. tyanchya matey, barleck hii neanderthal parampara hotee aanee lokanna khrishchan aanee susanskrut sanskratit aananyasathi tee kadhoon takane aavashyak hote. thomas yanni haah vaad kalbahya mhanoon fetalala aanee neanderthal heey "homo sapiens" navhate yakade laksh vedhale.
tee vadhucha anadar karnari nahee, kinwa teela jodidar nivadanyachya swatantryavar bandee ghalanyat aaleli nahee, yavar timorinni aakshep ghetala. aanee prem julanimadhye konatahi virodhabhas nasel. yavyatirikt, bhetvastunchya devanghevanimule vadhucha sanman hoil aanee teela moolya aanee uchch darja milel. jivanache mool mhanoon aanee african samajanpramane adhinastha nasalelya samudayatil tyanchya bhoomikemule vadhoo dekhil mahattvachya hotya. heey () yaa sandnyedvare spashtapane spasht kele jaeel. kautumbik darja rakhanyasathi keval niyojit vivahandvare vadhuvar nirbandh hote yakade thomas yanni laksh vedhale. araujo yanni timormadhil samajachya mahattvavar, kutumbanmadhil duva mhanoon bharr deela. tyanni, lobato aanee amral yanni vegvegalya tattvanvar bandhalelya timoris samajache eka guntaguntiche chitra kadhale, jeey tyanchya virodhakanna tyanchya european drushtikonatun samajoo shakale nahee. thomas yanni akheris portugij vanshikshastradnyanna vidvattapoorn pathimbyasathi patra lihile. aaplya uttarat, guerrero yanni vividh manavvanshashastradnyancha hawala deela aanee assa nishkarsh kadhala "... hunda heey vivah ektrikaranache sadhan aahe. too vastooncha vyavhar nahee."
yaa vadachya prakashat, heey gondhalat takanare aahe qee 1975 madhye fratillinne sthapan kelelya purv timorchya pahilya sarkarne bandee ghatali aanee pakshane aaplya jahiranamyat tyavar bandee ghatali. purv timoris mahilanchi lokpriy sanghatana () (apamt), fretillin mahila sanghatanechi sthapana rosa bonapartsarkhya mahilanni kelee hotee, jyanna portugalmadhye vidyarthi mhanoon maovadachi mahitee midali hotee aanee nantar, tyanchya matrubhoomit, mahilanchya samaan hakkansathi moheem rabavali aanee bahupatneetva aanee bahupatneetva yanchyaviruddha ladha deela.
tyaa pahilya purv timorchya sarkarmadhye, araujo yanchi arthvyavastha aanee samajik vyavhar mantri mhanoon niyukti karnyat aalee aanee amral heey adhyaksh hote, jaree indoneshiyansani deshavar kabja kareparyant sarkar keval nauu divas tikale. paramparik samajachya pathimbyachi garaj asalyane, indoneshiyaviruddhachya pratikar kalatach fratillinchi sthitee punha badalali. too samaj pratikarshakticha eka pramukh ghatak banala. indoneshiyananchya hakalpatti aanee hinsacharamule sanskrutik jeevan ashakya jhaale.
purv timorla swatantrya midalyanantar, kutumbanvaril aarthik oze qamee karnyasathi aanee tyanna shaley shikshan aanee kuposhan qamee karane yasarkhya adhik mahattvachya upkramanvar paise kharch karanyachi parvanagi denyasathi ermera nagarpaliket kharchavar maryada sthapit karnyat aalee. margdarshak tattve sthanikancha bhag bunley, paramparik paddhatinnusar samudayane tharavalele niyam.
darmyan, swatantra purv timormadhil tarun, shahari pidhimadhye tyache mahatva qamee jhaale. paanee mhashisarkhya paramparik bhetvastunchi jaaga paisa adhikadhik ghet aahe. 1950 aanee 1960 chya dashakat 77 mhashinchi devanghevan jhaali, parantu aata itakya mhashi naheet mhanoon paishane pranyanchi jaaga ghetali. tasech, samkalin purv timorwasi yapudhe samarambh aanee utsavansathi itka vel gheu shakat naheet. aadhunik nokyanmadhye, eka mahinyachi sutty ghetali jaau shakat nahee. dilimadhye, jithe tarun lock kamachya shodhat yetat, tethe kautumbik sambandh gahal hotat. jevha 'aaa' varr sahmati hote, tevha vastavikta vicharat ghetali jaate aanee jodape fakt 'aaa' chee nivad karate. vadhoo aanee varr karjat budu ichchit naheet, parantu tyanchya sanskraticha aanee tyanchya palakancha sanmanahi karoo ichchitat. tathapi, alikadil abhyas asey darshavtat qee shahari kendranmadhil uchchabhru lokahi aata yacha vapar karatat.
2022 madhye, indoneshiyatil paschim timormadhil atambuache roman catholic bishop dominicus sakoo yanni yaa samarambhavar bandee ghatali, jyamadhye lagnachya aadalya divashi vadhoo aanee varr yanchya gharanchya darmyanchya thikani vadhuchi kimmat sadar kelee jaate. varr kombadya kinwa dukaranna aanato, jyanna marle jaate. haah sohala keval vegvegalya kulatil kinwa jamatinmadhil jodpyanchya lagnat hoto. bishop sakoo yanni dharmopadeshak padrinna lagnachya aadhi vivah jhaala asel tarr aashirvad deu naye ashee soochana kelee. tyanni yaa sohalyache varnan catholic shraddhechya viruddha asalela andhashraddha asey kele aanee teey mhanale qee yamule kutumbanvar aarthik boja padato.
teeka.
1960 chya dashakapasun, aanee visheshtah 2002 madhye purv timorchya swatantryapasun, kahee bhashyakaranni mahilanvaril niyantran aanee shoshanache kaaran aanee eka yantrana mhanoon pahile aahe. aaj, bahudha vadhuchi kimmat qamee kelee jaate, jee varane ektarfi kinwa tyahoon adhik rakkam mhanoon dilee jaate. yaa karanastav, strichya sandarbhat purushanchya kahee adhikarancha arth teela shist lavane, tichyavar niyantran thevane aanee hinsacharacha vapar karane assa keela jaato. timormadhye gharguti hinsachar hii eka vyapak samasya aahe, parantu heey lakshavedhi aahe qee heey visheshtah matruvanshiyanmadhye vyapak aahe, jyanchyakade tyanchya jodidaracha bhag mhanoon vadhuchi kimmat nahee. tyamule, mahilanvaril hinsacharasathi heey ekmev aanee keval eka alpavayin kaaran asalyache disat nahee. itar karananmadhye paramparik aanee rajya adhikadhyanchya dharana, timorchya samajat gharguti hinsacharachi sarvasadharan sweekruti, paramparik niyam gamavane aanee mahilanchya naveen swatantryanviruddha purushankadun sanrakshanatmak pratikriya yancha samavesh hoto.
yaa parinamababatcha aanakhi eka aarop assa aahe qee, paramparik paddhatinnusar, ticha aanee tichya prajanankshamatecha malak asalelya tichya patimule patnila teela pratyakshat havey tyapeksha jaast mule janmala ghalanyas bhag padale jaate. dusarikade, patichya kutumbansobat rahana mahilanche sanrakshn karane shakya aaheh jarr lagn ayashasvi jhaale tarr patni tichya kutumbakade parat jaate aanee patichya kutumbala nantar tyachi paratfed karavi lagel. tathapi, timorchya mahilanvaril hinsacharashi sambandhit vividh ghatak khoop ekmekanshi jodalele aahet aanee tyasathi pudhil sanshodhanachi aavashyakta aahe.
nakaratmak pratima vaidnyanik abhyasanmadhye dekhil aadhalu shakate, jyamadhye abhivyaktiche keval 'vadhoo kimmat' kinwa 'hunda' mhanoon chukiche bhashantar kele gele aahe aanee samatulya mulyanchi devanghevan mhanoon manyata dileli nahee. yache udaharan mhanje sanyukt rashtranchya loksankhya nidhichya (yu. aine. eff. pii. aii.) abhyasacha 2012 chaa ahwal. tyaa ahavalat, jaree lian nain mulakhatkaranni vyapak arth darshavila asala, taree haah shabd keval vadhuchi kimmat bharnyasathi vaparla jaato. dusarikade, hinsacharacha anubhav ghetalelya kahee mahilanni pratyakshat sangitale qee tyanchya patina vadhuchi kharedi mhanoon vadhuchya kutumbala dile jaanare paise samajale hote. sanskratikdrushtya mahattvachya vastunmadhun paishakade jaanyacha kharaa dhoka mhanje keval paishanchya devanghevanitun barlekcha kharaa arth nahisa hoil aanee madhya purv aanee aafriketil sanskratinpramane palakanna tyanchya mulisathi "paise dile jaatil". yavyatirikt, taichya kapadyansarkhya sanskrutik malmatteche utpadan dhokyat aahe.
anek purv timorchya mahilanna ajunahi tyachi ujjwal bajoo disate. lian nain yaa goshtivar bharr detat qee, devanghevanichya bhetvastunchi moolye tulanatmak asali pahijet aanee kutumbachya sadhananpeksha jaast nasavit. tyapaiki, asey dekhil mhatale jaate qee shrimant honyacha prayatna kelyane tyache aadhyatmik moolya qamee hote aanee tyamule aekhadyachi samajik sthitee dekhil qamee hote. ajunahi eka dhoka aahe qee kutumbe aanee itar samarambhansathi karjat budtil, mhanunach visheshtah shaharatil tarun rahivasi yapudhe sarav karat naheet. tathapi, anek timorchya mahilansah prachalit drushtikon haah purv timorchya mool sanskraticha paya aahe aanee samajik aanee vidhisambandhi sanvadachya guntaguntichya vyavasthecha eka bhag aahe. kahee purush rajkarnyansathi, hii kalpana eka rashtravadi drushtikonaparyant maryadit aahe jee sanskratila laingik samanatemadhye 'aantarrashtriy manakan' peksha pudhe thevate aanee pashchatya 'strivadi' uddishtanpasun tiche sanrakshn karane aavashyak aahe. sarvasadharanpane, vruddha, vivahit mahila yala pathimba detat aanee visheshtah jevha tyanna samajat qamee aadar vatato tevha tarun, avivahit mahila yala virodh karatat.
asha prakare, mahilanchya molacha sanman aanee sanrakshn karnari hii eka sanskrutik malmatta aahe qaa, kinwa mahilanna vivahasathi vikate, jithe teey gharguti hinsacharala balee padatat, yaa prashnavar yaa sanstheche moolyankan firate. shevati, sabhovatalache vaad heey purv timormadhil mahilanchya bhoomikevishayichya vyapak charchecha bhag aahet. mahila sanghatana nakaratmak atirekancha samna karatat. sarvasadharanpane, paramparet mahilanchi bhoomika punha lagoo karanyachi aanee tyaa mulyanvar bharr denyachi shifaras kelee jaate. bhetvastunchya samatulyatecha vichar keela tarr niyamanche punha palan karave lagel. yavyatirikt, bhetvastu keval sanskrutik vastunpuratya maryadit asavyat aanee tyat paise kinwa vastoo nasavyat. anafacha ahwal pudhe jaato aanee jithe nahee asha pradeshantil paramparik netyanchi udaharane dakhavanyachi shifaras karato. pitruvanshiy samudayanna tyanchya parampara badalanyasathi aanee tyaa purnapane qamee karnyasathi kinwa radd karnyasathi protsahit kele pahije. aajchya charcha tyanchya yuktivadatil 'barleck warr' sarkhya aahet heey lakshavedhi aahe.