I don’t want to go to dads
Holy shit my stomach dropped to my stomach when I heard this.

Like what I am suppose to do about this. How am I suppose to react? What do I say? What do I do?

I would say after having this happen to me a few times I have a couple things for you to be consider.

First, have you been bashing on your ex so bad that your child wants to please you! That these words of “I don’t want to go” are coming from a place of making you happy instead of making themselves happy.

Second, don’t make a face or give a reaction when you child says this. Your reaction will guide them on what they say next, so keep it neutral so you can have a good conversation with them.

Third, your child will not be strong enough, mature enough and or mean enough to say these things to your ex so don’t expect it or demand it.

Fourth, it might be just a rough season or a phase. So don’t make harsh adjustments with paperwork right off the bat.

Fifth, there is paperwork you have to follow, don’t put yourself in a bad situation.

Sixth, you are your child’s advocate so get them a therapist to share these thoughts with. This therapist can then maybe work with you and your ex on what is going on so it doesn’t come from you.

There might be a new girlfriend or her new kids that are causing an issue. There might be a bedtime routine they don’t like. Hell it could be what they make for dinner that upsets your child.

You need to encourage your child’s relationship with our ex, their other parent. You need to be your ex’s number one cheerleader because you want that back when your child is at your house.

There is not definite answer on how to handle this situation. I think there needs to be a harsh look at yourself and then to see if your child is just trying to please you. But there is always the option that there is abuse or neglect too so be careful. Know your child and follow your gut.
['Samantha Boss']
['Coparent', 'Divorce', 'Visitation', 'Coparenting', 'Children']