How I Know Your “Relationship Style” Is Full of Shit
How do I know?

I’ve written extensively on the ways abuse culture crops up even in non-mono circles, especially in amatonormative ways. I created and talk about intersectional non-monogamy but apparently alternative Black people don’t grok what that means. I’ve written about the ableism, the class privilege, the hypocrisy.

But…hell, why didn’t I just get straight to the point?

YOUR “LOVESTYLE” IS RACIST AS SHIT!

See, there’s this thing y’all social justice types like to call social capital. Y’all just fucking love y’all fancy ass names for the most basic shit. You will do absolutely everything you can to defend your “right to desire whosoever you please”.

You will ignore the ways that this colonized culture has shaped your desire.

You will not think about why you have such an easy time finding partners while queer Black femmes are left to fend for themselves.

You will demand we “not get political” when we share our experiences being fetishized, ignored, and unwelcome in your circles.

You will be fucking shocked, absolutely fucking shocked, when that nice altBlack guy (yte guy) turns out to be an abusive fucking douche.

You will preach about communism and socialism and anarchy and your beautiful fucking utopia where you get in all the fucking,

and then turn around and squint when race comes up.

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['Michon Neal']
['Relationship Anarchy', 'Relationships', 'Nonmonogamy', 'Sex', 'Polyamory']