Enjoy yourself alone
It is important to spend time with ourselves. Time when we are lonely and start enjoying the time we spend alone. No friends, no family, no lovers. Only ourselves.

Most people are afraid of being alone, while in reality is something that it needs to be embraced. Because when we spend time with ourselves, we learn to love ourselves. We no longer look to please other people, or to fill our time with someone else just because we can’t stand the fact that we can’t be alone.

Most people wear a mask all day. They are attached to the persona they created and when they are finally alone, their true self starts to show off. That is a scary thing. What if someone else see them? This is why most people do crazy things in the shower like dancing or singing, but would never dare to do that outside with the fear of being observed.

The way to cure that is to spend time alone. Want to go to the cinema? Go alone. Want to go to a bar? Go alone. Living with a partner? Now live alone. Even moving to another country where you don’t know anyone is a great solution. At the beginning it may drive you crazy, because you have never been that lonely. But after some months, something beautiful will emerge inside you. You will start showing an authentic part of yourself, and anywhere you go you will feel happy and alive. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know anyone, or if you meet some friends. You are already great alone.

When people meet you, they will feel there is something different with you. You instantly become a magnet to other people. They want to stay with you because there is a great energy. Essentially what you just did was heal yourself before. Now you have something to give to others.

Before being alone the glass was empty. You were a beggar begging for love and attention. But now the glass is full, you are able to share and you don’t need anything in return.

It is now, where you can start having a relationship with others. Before you were always trying to get something out of the other person. If we try to get something out of any relationship, it is not a relationship, it is a transaction. Love is about giving without expecting anything in return. And you can only give when you love yourself first. Otherwise there is nothing to share.

If there is any goal in life, it is to give. To give everything before we leave this world. Because one day, everything we know, everything we have and everyone we love will disappear from our lives. When death comes, it will take everything from you, so before it takes everything from you, you should give everything you got.

In every relationship, now there will be a part of you inside the other person. Even if you leave this world tomorrow, that part will still be there. Even if that person forgets you in some years. That person will change because of you. Even you, if you are reading this, you now have a small part of me.

Your job is only to give. How much you can give to the other person will entirely depend on how much you have to give and how intimate is your relationship with that person.
['Mao Mao']
['Motivation', 'Productivity', 'Depression', 'Digital Art', 'Painting']