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SIL upset I don't want to babysit her kids

So I take care of SIL kids (3) when her boyfriend and her want to go on dates. She takes care of our kids too when DH and I want to go out. It was pretty nice until last Saturday. She said they were going to watch a movie and eat. So I watched her kids. She dropped them off at 12 and said she would be back by 4. My husband was at work so I thought she would be back 4-4:30.

Well my husband gets home at 5:30 from work. He asked me what time his sister dropped them off I told him. He was like wth so he texted her asking when she was coming for them.
SHE DIDNT TEXT BACK UNTIL 7:30. I WAS LIKE WTF. She lied to my husband and said i said it was ok. I showed him the text and he called her out on it she just replied saying hahaha. He told her to come for her kids. She didn't come until 9:30. Like what the freak. I was so mad. I would of been ok with it if she asked me.

She ended up coming she said they went to an amusement park. My husband told her not to ask us to watch them anymore because that was really messed up and when she watches our kids she texts us within an hour asking when we're going for them. We don't even enjoy ourselves. All we ever go do is watch a movie and after we take our kids with us to eat dinner since she's always texting us saying she's tired and stuff. She just laughed it off.

Today she asked if I would watch them I didn't reply then 10 mins later I hear a knock on the door. Guess who? It's SIL with her kids. She asked and I said no because of what she did last weekend. I pretty much told her what DH said. Well she lied and said DH said we would watch them. I told her she would have to wait for him to come home then because I would not watch them.
She said I was being rude and she takes care of our kids. Like for an hour and a half.
She left. Texted Dh saying I was being disrespectful to her and she has never done anything to me. Dh told her to quit acting like a child and to leave us alone.

Was I being disrespectful?
I don't think I was. I was just being honest. She did text us apologizing then asked for us to watch them next weekend. DH told her to go get a sitter.

comments (149)

  • mommyytobabyDD said:
    I would rather pay someone to watch them.
    Definitely do that.
  • You're 100% fine. When I was younger and single, my sister and BIL pulled crap like that too where they'd show up significantly later than agreed upon, be completely unresponsive to text/calls when over 30 minutes late, so I stopped babysitting for them. My sister was upset, but honestly babysitting swap or relying on relatives for free babysitting only works if people are honest and direct about expectations.

    So being late aside (which is a big deal and incredibly disrespectful), she then lies to you and your husband about what was said? Then drops in with her kids and lies to you about what your husband said? Yeah, she's on her own. So many things not okay there. Definitely don't have Ms. Integrity-Impaired watch your kids anymore.
  • VioletNoRegard said:
    Why did you make another, almost identical screename, OP?
    I logged out and when I tried to log in it didn't let me get back in. I think I misspelled my email because I signed up again and I got an e-mail from baby center.
  • mommyytobabyDD said:
    Oh got it. I did a few double checks to make sure it was you.

    You did fine. YOU weren’t the disrespectful one. Your SIL is entitled and ungracious and it’s gross. You did the right thing and your DH backed you up. Now hold firm.
  • TheLadyLiu said:
    You're 100% fine. When I was younger and single, my sister and BIL pu…
    Yeah apparently she does it a lot.
    MIL stopped watching her kids because she would drop them off and pick them up so late. Some times just take them and not tell anyone she was leaving them.
    She expects people to just watch them for her.
    Ex: if her kids fall, get into dirt, cry, and so on she would start yelling at who ever is close to them telling them why they weren't watching her children.
  • VioletNoRegard said:
    Thanks. My husband and MIL told me I wasn't disrespectful but I wasn't sure. I was pretty upset when she showed up.
  • Also one thing she loves to do is come over to my house to eat. She doesn't know how to cook. We only let her because we feel bad for her kids. We tell her to bring ice or a soda and she will only bring one for herself. Like really?
  • Thank god you lock your door. Your SIL sounds like someone who would tell her kids to hide behind the sofa.

  • This has undertones of the Kid Behind The Couch! (Do-do-do-do, do-do-do-do, always check behind furniture.)

    Her poor kids though. They must feel so unwanted. I don't know what ages they are, but imagining they thought their mother was coming at a certain time, and then mum obviously doesn't care :/ 9.30 would be getting around bedtime too or beyond it, wouldn't it?
  • Kirstin68 said:

    Thank god you lock your door. Your SIL sounds like someone who woul…

    Haha posted at same time!