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t3_3h27ns | tifu | TIFU: By Letting My Dog Sleep Between My Legs And Farting | So i want to start of by saying, typically when i sleep, i lay on my stomach, when i sleep like this,my dog sleeps between my legs. He usually puts his head just above my knee on my leg. He loves this spot as it is directly in front of my window ac, and being a husky he loves it.
So today i had some homemade extra spicy tacos. They kind of gave me some sever gas. So i have been farting all night. When i went to lay down he came in like normal, and laid down between my legs. After about 5-10 minutes he was sleeping, when i felt it coming. I tried to hold it in, and let is disperse on its own but it wasn't going to go that way. As i shifted my leg, i let one rip, it was loud. It scared my dog, as he was jumping up and freaking out, his paws stomped my bag, at which point i rolled around. As i rolled around from the pain in my balls, i knocked my dog off the bed with my leg.
Sorry for grammar and spelling will fix as i notice | Dog sleeps between my legs, taco farts startled dog, as he is freaking, accidentally bags me, i rolled over, my leg knocks dog of the bed. |
t3_3l78jj | relationships | Me [21 F] with my new job and i'm ready to quit due to certain circumstances | Recently, I've started a new job and I was really looking to a new beginning. On my first day of work, someone asked me if I spoke spanish. I told her no and she informed that majority of my co-workers speak spanish and no english.
When it came to on the job training, the three people I worked with spoke little to no English. I felt uncomfortable due to the language barrier and not feeling like I wasn't properly learning the tasks for my job.
My manager found out that I wasn't comfortable and paired with two other people who spoke better English.
But, I've noticed majority of my co-workers have been rude to me because, I don't speak Spanish. We recently had a meeting about important information but, I didn't understand it all due to the fact that the entire meeting was conducted in Spanish. If I had known that there was going to be huge language barrier I wouldn't have accepted my new job. I'm just feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and depressed over this issue. | started new job, wasn't warned about language barrier, and i'm ready to quit. |
t3_4rvzir | loseit | Help! Can't seem to control my cravings anymore :( | Sorry for the wall of text that will follow.
So I don't know if anyone can help me on here or if just need to vent or not. My friends are kind of sick of hearing me talk about food and weight loss so I'm kinda of stuck.
I've been having real difficulty losing weight since March of this year. I'm down about 85 lbs (yay me!) but I still have about 25 lbs to lose. And I'm getting down on myself since I am so freaking close to my goal. I'm not sure why I'm having such trouble controlling my hunger and my cravings.
Last year I dropped 55 lbs easy. I didn't let myself go over my calorie limit for the day, I gave my self treat days so I could indulge a little bit here and there and it was great. I didn't feel like I was depriving myself of food and the weight just fell off. Since March of this year I have moved out on my own (lived with family after Divorce) and started dating again. So you would think that would be a motivator! But I can't seem to shut up that little voice in my head that tells me to eat that thing. Cheat days are turning into binge days and I'm finding myself going over my calorie limit every day. I'm not gaining, but I'm not losing either because of it.
I feel like every day I need to start over again :( Really starting to get to me and bring me down.
Anyone been through something similar before? Fall off the wagon? How did you get back on? | Lost 85 lbs, struggling to lose last 25 because can't control craving anymore. Help! |
t3_28p0n6 | relationships | Me [22 F] and socially challenged/insecure guys who befriend me and then our friendship dies? Am I a "Nice girl" for the "Nice guys". | First and foremost, there is nothing wrong with being nice, I am nice to everyone I meet and treat everyone equally. I think socially awkward guys are great people to befriend and although they can be a bit weird sometimes a lot of them are lots of fun. The problem is that the friendships with these guys doesn't last long.
In the experiences that I have had these are the things that happen:
I will meet them and initially they seem like regular confident people, and they are always very courteous. However over time they will begin to spill all their insecurities to me and their failed socializations and they always say that I make them feel at ease.
This makes me feel a bit like a shrink instead of a friend and then eventually they always confess a romantic interest.
I always say no and although they don't always persist, our friendship becomes ruined. They always say they though I was interested too because I am "nice and bubbly" around them.
In other situations it is obvious from the start of the friendship that they like me because they become extremely clingy to the point that I am unable to see past their attachment and end the friendship myself.
Do guys really confuse kindness with romantic interest? | Weird" guys always befriend me and cling to our friendship and then ask me out, which kills our friendship. Does kindness=flirtation? |
t3_27d019 | relationships | Me [31 M] and my wife [30 F] are constantly fighting about money and I don't know what to do anymore. | My wife and I fight multiple times a week about money. I believe that the issue is with her spending. Specifically, she is spending more than me on a consistent basis while I keep cutting back and the jealousy is getting bad.
Some examples are:
I get my hair cut at great clips and she goes to a high end salon.
I take the bus to work and she drives the car (and pays for parking).
I wear my shoes until they are falling apart and she goes shopping at Nordstrom for "retail therapy."
I go to a couple local baseball games with friends and she flies to visit an out of state friend.
I cut back on drinking (for health and money reasons) and she still drinks wine everyday (not often to excess though).
I am afraid that this is becoming a real strain on our marriage. I make about 50% more money than her but she is spending way more than me and the lifestyle jealousy is really starting to get to me. She tries to joke like "it costs a lot for me to look good" or "a girl has to go shopping."
To be fair, our finances are not THAT bad and we are more or less meeting our goals. The main thing is that I keep cutting back to save more money and she keeps seeing that we have "extra" money and spends it. | Wife spends more money on herself than I spend on myself and it is causing a lot of fights. |
t3_pgv2x | AskReddit | How to stop my girlfriends ex from using the internet against us? | So my girlfriend has started to get weird texts and phone calls from alot of people she dosn't even know. They all said that they saw a post on 4chan from someone claiming she was a "cheating liar and needs to be punished". I know exactly who the guy is that posted it, but how do I go about getting him to stop or getting him back for that? It's just cowardly of him to use other people to bully up on her for no reason other than jealousy. Thankfully, one of the 4chan-ers from Tennessee called my girlfriend and warned us in the first place about the post, so if he sees this (I wish) I really would want to thank him. | My girlfriend's ex is jelly, got mad, and is using 4chan to bully us. What should we do? |
t3_49el26 | relationship_advice | Screwing things up for me [21/F] and bf [23/m] | Where to begin...
My boyfriend and I are both motivated individuals that intend to pursue our education and both go to graduate school. However, we now know that we are going to separate schools that are very far away from one another. I have poked and prodded him about and his main sentiments are just ignore it until the last moment and then just say "uh.. see ya" when we both leave. And when I try to discuss further he just ignores me and waves it off. This is very annoying because I feel so strongly for him and at certain points felt like he was the one saw a future with him etc.
Except, I probably don't love him as much as I once thought because I almost cheated on him... or at least thought I had. I went out with friends and guy I had never met was there who I considered to be a very interesting person. Night progresses and I black out and just wake up next to him on a couch (snuggling) at a mutual friends house. My mind thinks we had to have done something, if just kiss. So I leave without saying a word to anyone.
Go a couple of weeks believing I cheated on my boyfriend, but just kinda ignoring it. I asked my friends if I had done anything embarrassing while BOD, but they said no. Go out again recently with same friends and he is there, end up asking if things had progressed while I was black out and he says no. But I am not happy to learn this, if anything I am disappointed. So, I have now developed a huge crush on this guy I barely know and am definitely emotionally cheating on my bf. This is frustrating because now I am in turmoil because I feel like I am losing someone I was so in love with, and I feel like I should break up with him now instead of waiting, but I am so sad and confused.
I think I already know the answer, but any advice would be greatly appreciated or if you could tell me how bad of a person I am for my actions. | In a situation where breaking up with my bf is inevitable, ended up emotionally cheating on him, now my body is in a fit of emotional turmoil. |
t3_f48a8 | self | Game Enthusiast, Reviewer, down on my luck...struggling | Reddit, after many different attempts at getting a start in one of the hardest industries ( Gaming ), I have almost given up.
I worked at Gamestop as a manager for over 4 years, was friends with a writer of Game Informer as well as a seasoned Guide writer for Nintendo. I have attempted to publish my reviews and news blurbs through many different online outlets and even submitting writing samples to multiple Gaming related magazines, websites ect..
After following tips suggested by my friends already in the business, I have yet to find anything that has worked out.
I am coming to you reddit and anyone out there in the Biz for advice, suggestions, anything that may come as helpful. | Many attempts at getting start in Gaming Industry, still failing. |
t3_2unzy4 | relationships | Keep finding my husband (27/m) wearing his ring on his right hand. I'm (26/f) mad! 5 year relationship. | My husband picked out his wedding band very carefully because he's not a ring guy and finds them uncomfortable. It took him seriously days to find one he liked. We got married 3 months ago. Last week, I caught him wearing it on his right hand. He said he hates the way it looks with his watch because it "clashes" and finds it to be more comfortable on his right.
I told him this hurt my feelings and the point is to wear it on your left hand. He said that he doesn't like it on his left, can't wear his watch on his right, etc. I told him to get a new watch. He refused. We just went in circles. He finally agreed to switch it back and I thought that was the end of it.
This morning as he was leaving for work, again, he has it on his right hand. I didn't say anything because I was just so mad. So, I now am wearing my engagement/wedding ring on my right hand. I'm keeping it here to get my point across. I know he'd be mad if I didn't wear mine or switched hands.
I don't know what else to do. It really bothers me. I know it's not a cheating thing. He works with my family and he's home with our kids. He doesn't even go out by himself. I trust him. It just annoys me. How can I get this across? Should I just keep mine on my right and see if he notices? I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like it. | Husband wears ring on right hand. I'm pissed. |
t3_33y0p3 | loseit | Confused on finding body muscle % | I have read if you know your body fat % then you subtract that from 100% to equal your body muscle %....
This doesn't seem right because my gym offers assessments and last month my BF% was 27.1 + BM% was 34.9=62.....they use an electric kind of weigh machine that gives them these numbers.
Do to issues I am doing it at my house on my own and have a weight scale that tells me everything but the body muscle and everything else was consistant with what they had last month....
Current stats
Age---------------------37
Height-----------------5'9
Weight----------------177.5
Body fat %----------24.1%
Body fat weight--42.7
Water %--------------55.4%
Bone mass-------- 7.9
BMI---------------------26.2
body muscle %---???? | how do I calculate my body muscle % |
t3_2a20j6 | relationships | Me [20F] with my Bisexual boyfriend [19M] of 8 months. I am uncomfortable when my boyfriend practises anla play? | My boyfriend is bisexual and has never had sex with a man. He has only made out with one in a club before me met me,
When he told me he wanted anal play i agreed and we bought some toys and we take part in it together.
I am uncomfortable when he starts playing with himself because I am not a man and he has never been with one so I am scared that after 10+ years down the line he might cheat on me?
Other facts to include could be that he feels more sexually attracted to men and had a bigger sex drive then myself.
Am I irrational for believing that he might cheat and its better if I just leave? | boyfriend takes part in anal play and it makes me uncomfortable |
t3_164h64 | offmychest | I don't know what to think, Reddit. | My ex-boyfriend showed all of his friends pictures of me naked a while ago. These friends then proceeded to show everyone I know. One friend in particular wouldn't stop spreading them everywhere. So I thought, fight fire with fire, I obtained very awkward nudes from him via via as well and I went to him and told him that if he didn't stop his shit, his nudes (very embarrassing ones) would be spread everywhere as well. The guy immediately stopped, to which I kept the nudes safely in my possession. I didn't release them even though I really fucking felt like it. No one had knowledge of my threat except me and him. Now, a few months later, suddenly everyone knows about the images and ridicules him (I know these are my images as well because I typed something on it and it's the same font and style). I SERIOUSLY did not distribute them, but I still think he got what he deserved. I somehow still feel bad. I just did the same hand that was dealt to me to another person. Maybe I handled this completely wrong.
Moral of the fucking story: don't share your nudes with ANYONE. | ex-boyfriend showed my nudes to his friends, one particular friend posted my nudes everywhere. Fight fire with fire, I was able to get a hold of this friend's nudes which I threatened to publicize if he didn't stop. The person stopped, but a few months later the nudes came out anyway without me being responsible for it. Did I handle this situation completely wrong? |
t3_3hah5y | offmychest | I sent it | Im guessing your asleep but I just want you to know how much I love you. Its unconditional and illogical and its a basic instinct but I still choose it every single day. I choose you. Even if you don't choose me and even if tho you fuxked up and quite possibly will again I will always love you I will always want you to be happy and healthy and content with your life. I didn't drink but I am high as fuck(just weed don't worry) amd Im probably coming on way to strong but I just need to get this off my chest without holding back or being afraid | love is a horrible wonderful fucked up thing |
t3_1kkk9g | pettyrevenge | Kick the back of my seat constantly? Enjoy the rest of the show with my head in the way... | Sorry in advance for spelling, formatting etc. Typing this out on my phone.
I've just been to a show and was sat up on the upper circle, front row. Now, I'm a tall chap (6ft 3in) and so when I usually sit in a theatre or cinema I slouch and slide forward in my seat so that the person behind me can see the stage / screen. I'm nice like that.
Unfortunately, the person sat behind me tonight was an annoying kid and seemed to have great pleasure in kicking the back of my seat over and over with gradually increasing force.
After about 30 minutes of this I decided to get my petty revenge and so, after one final kick hit the back of my seat and pushed me over that fine edge, I nonchalantly stretched, adjusted myself and sat upright in my chair.
I hope he had fun watching the rest of the show with the back of my head in the way! | annoying kid kicks the back of my seat over and over, I block his view with the back of my head. |
t3_15mbjf | relationships | Together 2 years, he went to strip club, I feel betrayed...need advice | So basically...my amazing bf is 30m. He rocks, very attentive, learns from all his mistakes, handsome, treats me very nice and we've been together 2+ years.
I am 27f, love him tremendously.
He was dragged to a strip club tonight and as soon as he left, he called me to tell me and let me know that someone purchased him a lap dance.
I am so appreciative of the fact that he called and told me the truth, but I can't help but feel betrayed and cheated on.
Have any girls felt like this?
Any idea why I am feeling so betrayed?! | Bf went to strip club, told me about it after it happened, I feel betrayed. |
t3_1l10m9 | personalfinance | Small investment vehicle for a non-US resident family | Good evening, fellows. I live in a Southamerican country and work for my (extended) family business (legally, it would be the US-equivalent of a C Corp).
This family Corp. serves to invest a pool of family savings (~ $250k) in local fixed income and money markets (60% of portfolio), along with some stocks (40% of portfolio) of local companies related to our family traditional professions (construction and real state).
For some time now, my father and I have been diversifying our investments buying some ETFs and Treasuries in the US market through our brokerage account and the "board" of our family Corp. is interested in setting up and US-bases small company to function pretty much the same way we do here in our country and they instructed me to look into the details BEFORE hiring any accounting/law advisors.
I've done my homework (I think) and got a couple of questions:
1. I think that maybe the best structure would be that of what's usually used for hedge funds, meaning a LP (with the present shareholders of my family Corp as limited partners, about 5 people, non-US citizens nor residents) and the local (Southamerican company, that is) and the GP.
- Would this be appropiate if (in the medium term) we'd like to have a couple of US citizens (maybe residents) investors (future inlaws, long story) ?
- Is it correct that a LP that conducts business as a collective investment firm can have up to 15 partners before being required to register with the SEC ?
2. As foreign proprietors of the LP, can we act as US registered investors (in case we need to access products that require such status) even if we do not qualify in terms of assets ? Bottom line: would I be required to register the company at the SEC or any other federal agency after the regular incorporation and IRS paperwork ? | Foreign family wants to set up an investment vehicle for 5 non-US residents nor citizens plus two US citizens using an LP with a foreign corporation as a GP; is this suitable for our purpose ? Do we need any special licenses and/or RIA paperwork ? |
t3_2i766r | relationships | My friends that I [M/20] am "too serious" and "too sensitive" | I live with some guys at college and various times now I have heard from my closest friend who is there for most conversations that a lot of the guys in the house think that I'm too serious, I can't take a joke, and that I get too sensitive. This all comes from the fact that when they crack some jokes that I sometimes don't like, I let them know. This then sometimes leads to some arguments starting with "Dude, chill, it's just a joke" and I let them know that I am chill but that I do not appreciate the joke.
I am pledging a fraternity at the moment so the jokes often involve calling me "pledge" and saying "when are you going to go elephant walk, pledge" and "when does the house need to be cleaned, pledge". First few times it was funny, but after a while I got sick of it. I get enough shit from the pledge masters and so when I get home I don't want to hear anymore of it, but to them, it's all fun and jokes and I should lighten up. Maybe I should, but it still bothers me
Part of me thinks that maybe I could loosen up a bit, but the other part of me thinks that I shouldn't tolerate jokes from my friends that I don't like just so they think I'm not serious. If I should in fact loosen up, I am not too sure how to not let the jokes get to me, and on the other end, perhaps there is a better way to let them know that I don't appreciate said jokes.
Any advice is appreciated it. | My friends think I'm too serious and can't take a joke. Not sure if they're right or not. |
t3_1vmdg1 | relationships | Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [20F] 2 years, Odd absence of conflict | Okay, so we have been together for two years, as said in the title, and we never fight. The closest thing that we have had to a fight, is one night she came to my place after spending the day together, though I wanted to spend sometime by myself just to relax, without asking me. We didn't really argue, we just talked about it calmly. That was the closest thing we have had to a fight. We also both have fairly the same mind set on most things, and I can't think of a time that we have ever argued. | So my question is, is it weird, wrong, or bad that we don't fight or argue with one another? |
t3_47luye | relationships | I[27m] want to break up with my girlfriend[29f] to date another girl[22f], my girlfriend won't leave. | First a little about myself and career. My name is Ted, I work as a software consultant, it requires me to hop around place to place, and my coworkers are either older than me and married, or the ones my age are just super quiet.
As a result, I get really lonely, so whenever I go to a new location I try to find a girlfriend. About a year and a half ago I met my girlfriend Melissa a week after I moved to a new state. I told Melissa about my situation and she got it. I wasn't super in love with her, I just wanted to not be alone simple as that. Plus I like the perks of having a girlfriend, someone to eat food with, talk to, sex, and I just like having someone else around the house, makes me feel more comfortable.
her roommate was actually leaving so I moved into her apartment. Things were good, we both had a good time.
Then I ended up meeting Cindy at my gym, and she was really pretty. And I am just a lot more excited about her than I ever was with Melissa. I didn't cheat, I told Cindy hey I am in a relationship and I don't want to do anything with her until I am broken up.
So I ended up telling Melissa that hey I want to end things. And holy shit, she just got angry and pissed off and essentially said no. That this relationship isn't over, and that we are getting married. WHAT THE HELL. She ended up calling my mom telling her to smack some sense into me. She told my coworkers some crazy shit.
What the hell do I do? I went to talk to our apartment manager and Melissa ended up telling them that it was a mistake and a bunch of shit. She is really making things hard. What the hell do I do? | trying to break up with my girlfriend she won't let me. |
t3_1zotv0 | relationships | Me [15F] with my Boyfriend [16 M] of a year, I'm really confused and extremely regretful | Last December I cheated with my boyfriend by letting a guy masturbate to me on webcam with me participating. Yes he's in Texas (the friend whom participated and I'm in NY) and yes he's never done anything like that with me before and I've never done anything like this ever before also, but I still feel horrible about it.
It just started with regular talking and it ended with me agreeing to let him watch me without clothes and masturbate. I felt really bad that day and found an outlet with him when my bf was busy. (I'm not excusing my actions, just giving more background info)
The guilt of it has been killing me. I feel so bad for doing this to him. I always forget about it until my friend talks to me and I remember the situation all over again. I never intend to do anything like this ever again and I've been planning to come clean and hope he doesn't think too bad of me.
I feel like for 2 teenagers, our relationship is relatively nice. We listen to each other, are functional, and have been very, very happy. I just want some advice on what I should do so I don't completely mess it up.
(And yes I know we're young. That just makes me feel even worst. My first relationship ever and I messed it up. Please give helpful answers) | I let someone else masturbate to me and and am extremely regretful about it. Need advice on what I should do. |
t3_3eakm7 | tifu | TIFU by being sneaky and letting a girl scout see me butt naked. | I was showering, I realized when I was done that I forgot my towel. I was there for five minutes thinking about what I should do. I decided to sneak my way back to my room. The shower was in a hallway you could see from the door. It was on tne second floor. I started to sneak when my friend opened the door and girl scout was there. She started talking. I was halfway there. I almost made it until the girl stopped talking. I looked down, she was staring at my junk. At this point I ran into my bedroom door. I sat there and thought about it. An eleven year old girl saw me naked? I got back up and dressed up. | Forgot a towel and a girl scout saw me naked while sneaking to my room. |
t3_2mfyfd | relationships | Is it weird for Me [20F] to have feelings for someone 10 years older than me? [30M] | I met somebody in August and have really clicked with him. I genuinely enjoy hanging around with him, I like talking with him, and he listens to me (etc.).
We flirt a lot and I'm pretty sure he's interested, but I'm so shy and nervous I don't really know how to proceed and/or if I even should.
I'm worried that people will think the age difference is weird and/or creepy (I've heard my mother say in passing that 10 years was 'a little too much'), and to top it off, he's almost a foot and a half taller than I am (He's 6'7, I'm 5'2), possibly furthering the 'creep illusion'.
There are many other things I want to think about before I make a decision on whether or not to/how to make a move, but this is one of the most pressing for me, at least currently. | I am a short girl and I have a crush on a tall guy 10 years older than me. Worried about pursuing it for fear of people thinking the age difference is 'too much' or 'creepy' |
t3_1h37jh | relationships | I [24M] dated a friend [24F] briefly, and decided to be friends. She responds to all of my messages, but briefly / not full-heartedly. | The title says most of it. I [24M] dated a friend [24F] for 3 weeks. The morning after having sex for the first time, and talking about exclusivity, she told me she doesn't want to be having sex, or to be in a relationship. we should just be friends. she remained pretty warm and kind hearted to me for a few days after.
I was hurt, and got distant. I tried to talk to her about things a week later, a fight broke out. We apologized, and became friends again. she told me she's not mad at me and appreciates 1) that I apologized 2) that we opened up to each other. However, she responds to all of my messages, but only briefly and not full-heartedly.
Wtf do I do? I just want to be friends. I've done nothing wrong to her, and we've shared some good times. I don't get.
Should i try to just meet up with her in person? | dated briefly, decided to be friends, now she barely talks to me. what do i do? should i try to meet in person? |
t3_10r423 | running | Knee problem | I went from never having done any running to running 140 km (according to runkeeper) within 3 weeks, culminating in a half marathon. I realise this is against the recommendations of any sensible training plan, and I found out why.
By the third week of training, I'd noticed after training that my left knee got a bit sore after a run, but after the half marathon, I could hardly move my left knee at all, and it took much longer to recover. After a week of rest it felt ok, but I went to the doctor to check that I wouldn't get any lasting damage if I started running again. He said it was just overuse, and if it felt ok, it probably was. He also said it might be a problem with footwear, but I have a new pair of running shoes supposedly cutting edge, high tech materials and 'adaptive fit' and whatnot. They feel like the fit perfectly well, I don't want to waste money on a new pair unless I know they're the problem.
I gave it one more week of rest to be safe, but then after running 3k, my knees were already sore again. So what should I do? give it more rest still and hope it works out? get a second opinion from another doctor? Buy one of those knee support things? buy new shoes? | ran a lot in short time, knee got sore. Is ok after rest, but comes back almost instantly when I run again |
t3_4s1e88 | relationships | What should I (34 M) do about signs of unavailability in otherwise-fun, two-month relationship (32 F)? | I've been seeing a girl for a little over two months now and have been getting mixed signals. I'm getting both red flags about her history (and future) of unavailability as well as great indicators of her really liking me.
On the one hand, she has started introducing me to some family and friends, and always is interested in making plans and projects together, etc. We have great dates, deep conversations, and she's not seeing anyone else. On the other hand, she's been very open about her past of ending her relationships by uprooting/moving, broken engagement, being in AA, having anxiety and depression, currently not being happy at work, wanting to change careers or even countries, etc.
She says she thinks putting down roots will make her happy, yet she's always just uprooted/ran away in her past. Should I save myself the heartache and break up now, or ride it out and give her the benefit of the doubt? | New relationship is fun now. She thinks she might want to settle down but has a long history of uprooting which makes me nervous. Should I ride it out or call it off? |
t3_dznba | AskReddit | Nightmares affecting my sleeping and waking life.... | And yes, I am seeing a therapist about it (and other things), but as of our last session, neither of us are quite sure where these are coming from.
Backstory: I've had rape nightmares for the past... oh, 3 years or so. Initially they were to the point I was on anti-anxiety/anti-depressants for them, but I stopped taking those 2 years ago. As time goes on the rape nightmares become less frequent, but every couple months or so I'll wake up shaking and upset. This is somewhat normal. I am kind of used to it.
These nightmares I've been having for the past 3 weeks are *not* normal. At first I was the only one being trapped and tortured, but this morning I woke up so terrified and disgusted that I cried. I've been nauseous for the past 5 hours every time I remember it--basically, a woman captured these two teen boys, cut into them gruesomely, and pumped things into their urethrae until they bled. When they almost escaped, she caught up and started dragging them back down, and the one person who could save them didn't get a chance to before I woke up amidst the woman screaming she had merged boys with insects before, that they were her slaves, and that they ought to be happy they lived through her operations.
I'm having a hard time explaining the particular imagery and sensations that are setting me off, but it's affecting my waking life more and more. I'm sleeping less, I'm less effective at work (I work in an industrial environment), and when I am home I tend to game or surf the web to avoid sleeping and having more nightmares. | I'm having gruesome, wake-up-crying nightmares. I'm sleeping less because of it. I'm in therapy, but neither me nor my therapist can pinpoint why I'm having these kind of dreams, and neither of us are eager to jump into prescription meds again. |
t3_tyv38 | Advice | Was delivered a tank of home heating oil, was left bill in someone else's name. What should I do? | Just bought a house. Was delivered a tank of home heating oil, was left bill in the previous owner's name.
I'm kinda curious here I stand.
The elderly couple that sold the house to us were amazing as they left us a lawn mower, hedge trimmer, wheel barrow, gas can, garden tools, ladders hose attachments for gutters... etc. Buncha great stuff a new home owner would need, and we're super thankful so I don't want to eff them over.
I'm thinking calling the oil company and thanking them for the free oil, then explain what happened. We were actually considering going with this oil company as they solicited along with many other heating companies, so they know who we are.
Hypothetically, couldn't I just say "eff off" I didn't order this, and they'd just give me the oil or have to pump it out and bill us for what we didn't use? lol
Another scenario would be going with this oil company and work out a deal due to the circumstance.
This is more incentive to switch to partial solar. Also, the likelihood of me subscribing to this oil company is going to be based on how they handle this, I guess.
Any advice where I stand would be helpful. Gonna call them tomorrow morning, but I'm kinda curious where I stand. Any help advice would be nice. | Was a delivered a tank of heating oil billed to someone else's name. Should I try to be a dick and try to get it for free because I didn't order it. Curious where I stand. |
t3_3bhrcx | tifu | TIFU by restarting an iMac | Obligatory disclaimer: this happened four years ago, when I went to Ball State University for five weeks thanks to a summer exchange program.
We were allowed to use the computers in the dormitory to do homework, and of course, surf the net.
Me and my friend were astounded at the sight of numerous iMacs - coming from a third world country, seeing them is damn rarity. Plus, the Internet was fast.
While we were in awe at five minute YouTube videos needing only .5 secs to buffer, the iMac my friend was using froze.
Of course, the logical course of action would be to restart the damn thing.
A few minutes later, this hulking African-American twice our size who we suspect is part of BSU's football team went over and asked to use his iMac - apparently, his term paper was saved there.
Only that it wasn't.
Because we restarted/rebooted the iMac...and all the saved documents were **automatically deleted**.
His reaction turned from "Can I use the computer pretty please" to "WHERE THE HELL IS MY PAPER?".
He stormed out of the lab, presumably off to reason with his professor. | Restarted an iMac and probably caused a guy to fail his summer course. |
t3_4ihsn8 | relationships | fiance (25f) and I (23m) of four years were on our way to breaKing up. I was becoming ok with it but she dumped me by Facebook tagging me in a pic of her and the guy she was cheating with. How in the world do I recover from this? | Morning | fiance dumped me over Facebook viciously. I'm so embarrassed I have no idea what to do. |
t3_11j40z | relationships | 20m My room-mate (also 20m) has an issue with my alarm clock... About to reach boiling point. | We are both 20 friends for 6 years, room-mates for 1 months, and living in the same apartment on campus. Every person has their own room. I am a very heavy sleeper so it takes a lot for me to get up in the morning. As such, my alarm is pretty freaking loud (or one of them at least). Anyway, my room mate in the beginning of the year had a problem with me not waking up to my alarm clock and it just running and running claiming that he could not sleep and it was waking him up. So one day for shits and giggles I close my door, his door, and go in his room with the alarm on. Guess what? You can't hear it. You can faintly hear it in the hallway though. So later that night, he's in his room and I do the same thing. He didn't even know it was going off until I told him what I was doing. So he finally stops coming to my room (which I started to lock) and banging on the door to try and get me up. Now, he started again, and I sometime while I do wake up from his banging, sometimes I don't. Last week I missed a class because he pounded on my door and asked me to turn it off, which I did. Today, I set my alarm for 10:30, woke up, and set it again for 1130 so I could sleep more. Well he turned the power off in the dorm rooms, causing my alarm to go off and reset because I didn't wake up from his pounding. I would have missed my class but I had set a back up alarm for 1230 and made it. | roommate makes big deal about my alarm, I turn it on, go in his room with him, and he didn't know it was on/couldn't hear it. It can be heard if you are in the hallway outside of my room. Room-mate is causing me to miss class because it takes a while for me to wake up from an alarm clock. Today, he reset the power in the room to shut it off and reset it. I would have missed class again had I not set a later alarm on my phone. What do? |
t3_2c3u4f | tifu | TIFU by returning 2DS systems to Walmart. | Today I fucked up when I tried to return some 2DS systems to Walmart.
It all started with this limited edition green 2DS.
I saw it. I wanted it. I told my friend about it and they wanted them too.
I saved up some extra dollars to be able to afford this.
Lo and behold a great sale comes upon Target and these suckers go on sale for $99 a piece. I have a target card so I go and order 3 (max limit) twice for me and all my friends. Put it on target credit card since I always pay it in full every month
They would all pay me a little extra for my effort and everyone gets what they want.
Then targets cancels my order and says they aren't stocking this green color anymore.
My friends tell me they only want green ones so I try to fix it.
I go to Target and get them to price check the blue ones to $99 and then order the green ones from Walmart for full price.
I'll just say they sent the wrong color, return the blue ones to Walmart and then everything will be great.
WRONG.
Apparently I'm extraordinarily not smart and they track the serials on these things by store and every other store knows what store they came from.
The lady behind the desk is pissed off I'm wasting her time and tells me I can't return them. Figured as much when tiny tickets started spouting out of the printer when she scanned the things.
Security comes up to the Walmart return desk and tells me I should probably just leave and not come back.
Got tsk'd out of the ghetto Walmart I went to because I figured they weren't too concerned with weird returns.
Now I have a bunch of 2DS that I paid too much for or no one wants with the pay off date for my card coming up. I'm so stupid. | Tried to trick Walmart into returning 2DS systems, Walmart tapped its acrylic nails in disappointment and told me to fuck off. |
t3_2dz29m | relationships | Girlfriend [18F] with anorexia and low heartbeat is about to take XTC, what do I do? | My girlfriend (18) since ~8 months, had severe anorexia in the past when her modeling agency told her to lose some weight. Doctors told her she most probably wouldn't make it, but anyway, 4 years later we met.
Three months ago, she failed her finals (not super weird, where I live), and she met with the same modelling agency again. She had to lose weight. When it didn't go as fast with sporting + 1500kcal diet, she decided to lose weight purely via her diet.
She's eating 600-800 kcal for weeks now. She pushed me away from her, broke up with me a few times. She's a total mess. The last two weeks were the worst, with a heartbeat of about 50 not eating, fully depressed and being dizzy.
Now she is about to take ecstasy pills this Saturday. What do I do? I don't know how dangerous this is, and to be honest, I dont think I can talk her out of it.
Do I contact her mother who is for two more weeks on vacation? That'll probably end her modeling career, and most probably it'll end our relationship/friendship for forever.
*thank you for your input... | Girl with severe anorexia, heartbeat around 50 is about to take XTC. What should I do? |
t3_1st4tn | loseit | Something I use to motivate myself - Achievemint | I wrote [a blog post this week] about how I've been using [Achievemint] to motivate myself to get healthy and build good habits and such. The prospect of a check at the end of the tunnel is kind of enticing, I have to admit-- and the fact that the fitness-oriented apps garner the most points really motivates me to hit the gym/trail and get moving.
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, I was in a slump-- burning out on tracking my food and generally sliding pretty rapidly into "winter weight gain mode." Ugh. So, I posted here on /r/loseit asking for help with staying exercise-motivated, and I went back to Achievemint to look at my point accumulation and remind myself to go rack up more points! Together, the website and this subreddit gave me the push to get out of that slide before it really gained momentum-- *something I have never been able to do before*.
($$ Disclaimer: aside from the program reward, I don't get anything from Achievemint, and my blog is ad-free.) | Workout. Track food. Profit! |
t3_3imtv8 | weddingplanning | FMIL and money | Hello everybody,
I have read that when you are planning the wedding, you should ask your families if they are willing to contribute. I asked my family and they are helping with the invitations and my stepdad paid for the dress.
When we came over to my FH family, FMIL said congratulations on the engagement, but didn't really told us about "let us know if you want us to help". So I told my FH that helping us with a cake would be nice. She hesitated, but said.. "ok.. I need to research into the cakes, which one do you like..." etc. She kind of hesitated. Then a month later she told my FH that they want to help us for our honeymoon and give us $3K so we have a nice one.
Summer came and went, and she never talked to either of us about the cake or about the honeymoon. Silence. I am the one planning everything, so my FH is not really involved much, he cares about certain things, but doesn't really bother about appointments, phone calls to vendors, researching into stuff.
So what do I do? Do I just wait? My stepdad was very straightforward with the money, saying "ok, send me dress pictures, and send me the price", he sent me the money right away.. With her.. I don't even know. What makes it harder is that we moved to another state and usually just text/call. We still have the wedding back there. My fiance is not the closest to her.. their relationships are kind of awkward. | We talked to FMIL about the cake, she said ok, then offered to pay for honeymoon, and hasn't mentioned it since. How do we nicely remind her? |
t3_drha1 | AskReddit | Can anyone give me the TL;DR on Israel/Palestine? | My mother (in her late 50s) was talking to me the other day, and I mentioned how my friend and her family moved to Israel under Jewish right (I'm not sure if that's the exact name of the program). She wondered why they would move from one hostile country (Venezuela) to yet another (Israel) instead of moving somewhere more "free".
I obviously mentioned the fact that the move was practically free for them because Israel sponsors the translation of Jewish families from one area of the world to Israel. She proceeded to state (not necessarily in an anti-Semitic fashion, just to prove her point that the move was pointless) there was never a "Palestine" in the first place, because no such country ever existed, even if such a kingdom did and that their move their may just fuel the conflict. (Load of bullocks, I know)
Since I'm not sure of my mom's credibility on the issue, I have to ask: **before Israel's founding mid 20th century, what exactly *was* that territory?** I'm sure I could Google it, but I'm sure Reddit could give me a better | on the subject and all its important ins and outs. |
t3_3d61gd | tifu | TIFU by chasing a dwarf in Asda | Obligatory "not today, blah blah blah", but anyway here goes. The title is pretty self explanatory.
When I was about 3 years old, my mother took my me shopping to Asda (UK Walmart). I was always looking to play with people in my young age and I found a kid in the store to play with so I started to run towards him. However, when I ran to play with my new friend a horrifying revelation was made.
The "kid" was not in fact a kid but instead, was a male dwarf. From this, my father had to try and explain to me that his dwarf in his mid-30s was not in fact a new friend but a man that I wasn't allowed to play with while also trying to contain his laughter.
As you can imagine, the dwarf was probably quite scared, you know what with a hyperactive 3 year-old boy chasing him around Asda trying to play with him.
Looking back, we always laugh when the topic is brought up. | When I was 3, I chased a dwarf around Asda (UK Walmart) thinking he was another kid to play with. |
t3_2ugnbs | relationships | Me [18F] with my "SO" [20M] of 2-3 months, not sure if he crossed a line | A little information about me: he was both my first kiss and date. I'm really inexperienced when it comes to relationships.
Him: he's had sex with two girls, both long-term relationships. He's much more experienced than I am.
We met in college and had a class together, but didn't really talk until the last few weeks of class. He then transferred to another college. We've talked as friends ever since June, and only began "talking" for these last three months. He came over and we had one first "date," and it was really bad. I was really sick and the whole thing was terrible. This is all backstory. We both agreed that we were exclusive about a month ago.
Now, on to the second date (and what's important). We went to a park and hung out, mostly talking a lot with kissing (I had my first kiss, but he kind of made it into a short make-out session). After a few hours, we decided to go eat, but as I was standing up to go he told me to follow him. He took us out of sight and began making out with me and grabbing my butt. I said no and walked away, and as I walked he laughed and spanked me once. I firmly semi-yelled "STOP." and he did immediately. He apologized right after and I acted as if it didn't happen because I wasn't sure of what to do. We ate and I acted as if nothing happened. We made out again before he left.
I don't have anyone to talk to about this, and I'm honestly so embarrassed. I'm not sure what to do, if a line was crossed, and I'm beating myself up over it. I kept blaming myself (although I know this is irrational and it's totally on him). What should I do? Should I give him another chance? Tell him how he made me feel and drop him? I'm so confused and inexperienced, I'm not sure if I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Any help would be appreciated :( | guy groped me on second date, told him to stop, he laughed and spanked my butt, I yelled "stop" and he did and immediately apologized. Now I'm unsure of what to do, I feel somewhat disrespected and very confused. |
t3_31a0dv | relationships | I [21F] should have met his [23M] friends by now (3 mos), right? | It's a simple question, really! We've been dating for 3 months now, and we are both head-over-heels goo goo for each other. It's quite gross, really. But I haven't met any of his friends except his roommate, and it's making me a little uncomfortable. I guess I should add that I dated a REAL ASSHOLE a couple years ago, who hid me from his friends so he could have other girls on the side. So I'm a little sensitive.
A few of his classmates are throwing a party next week. He mentioned the party a couple of days ago, but he hasn't invited me. I really want to meet his friends and be more involved in his life. Should I bring it up and invite myself, or just wait for him to mention it again? Should I mention my crappy past experience when/if I bring up meeting his friends?
He says he doesn't really have any friends (but I don't believe it, everyone has friends, right?), and he spends most of his time at home, alone. He even drinks alone! I believe him when he says this, but it can't be true 100% of the time? It sounds sad.
I've invited him to several outings that involve different circles of my friends, but he turns me down. None of my friends have met him, but they've heard all about him. | It's been 3 months, I should have met some of his friends by now, right?! |
t3_4hiyxo | relationships | Me (24 f) and my bf (26 m). 7mo. His friends wedding is the same day as my grandfather's funeral. | This is a very hard day for me. My grandfather passed away durring surgery today. I know a lot of people love their grandparents, but he was more my father than anything. I lived with him until I was 16, and then saw him at least 3 times a week after moving in with my mother. He is by far my closest family member.
My bf knew how hard I was taking his sudden illness. He had a stroke Tuesday and had a risky operation this morning. My bf took me to see him yesterday, and hes been really great and supportive.
I am not close to my family at all, especially my father's side. After my parents got a divorce I was ostracized, and my grandparents were the only ones to still treat me like family. My mom was asked to not attend the funeral, and my dad is an addict and an abuser, i dont like being around him, and going to the funeral of the man that raised me is hard enough, but I hate that my scummy famaily will be there.
The funeral and wake are on the same days as my boyfriends friends wedding, the wedding I was supposed to attend wkth him. I will obviously be going to the funeral instead, but my bf is still going to the wedding. He is a groomsman and I don't expect him to skip the wedding for my sake, but idk how to deal with this
This is going to be the most emotional draining day of my life so far and not only will i have no one there to support me, or have a shoulder to cry on..or even get a hug...but the person who I want to hold my had is going to be drinking and partying in anothet state for 3 days. I don't expect him to skip this but I'm just so hurt...
He also said he's going to ask his friend if she wants to go with him...they've been friends forever but it sucks that he can't even go stag... | grandfather who raised me passed away. Funeral is on the same day as a wedding I was supposed to attend with my bf. He is still going to the wedding and asking his female friend if she can join. Idk how to handle all these emotions. |
t3_31egzg | tifu | TIFU by thinking a guy was hitting on me at Tim Hortons | This actually happened a while ago, but after sharing the story with friends and still cringing at the event months later, I think it is Reddit worthy. And maybe I can finally get some catharsis from the embarrassment I still feel.
So I was waiting for a flight at the airport in Montreal, and had some time to kill so I went to Tim Hortons to get some food. I ordered, took my receipt, and headed to the side to wait for my food to be ready. As I was standing there, this short sort of unattractive guy next to me looked over, and asked me "What's your number?" I immediately blushed, looked confused, and went "What?" I was thinking, wow he really got straight to the point. He repeated, sounding a bit more frustrated now, "What's your number?" At this point I was like man - he's persistent. I was sort of smiling awkwardly and blushing at this point, and thinking man are you serious. I was feeling kind of bad - I did NOT want to give this guy my number, but I also have a heart and didn't want to be rude. So I finally said "I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend." He looked away a bit confused, and I was like oh man this is going to be awkward now. A few seconds later he turned back and said "I meant the number on your receipt."
It turns out he wanted to know how far he was from getting his order. I internally face-palmed about 100 times. I had never felt so awkward standing next to someone in my life. Thankfully at that moment my order was called. I literally bolted past him completely avoiding eye contact, grabbed my food and ran out of there as fast I could. | Thought a guy was asking for my number at Tim Hortons. Turns out he meant the order number on my receipt. |
t3_9x7qg | AskReddit | Advice for three entrepreneurial Redditors. | So two other friends (both long-time Redditors like myself, about 4 1/2 years between us) have started up a website to sell retro gaming consoles and games. We're gonna be selling basically anything that is/uses game cartridges.
We have already bought the domain name and host. It's up but skeletal (I'll share details/name when we have a complete inventory to launch within two weeks.) Anyway, we don't need much technical advice on the site, and we're using google merchant probably, but we were wondering if anyone had any good advice for how to get wholesale, bulk, or cheap old gaming stuff. We've been asking all around the Central Valley California area, and I'm an ebay sniper (though not the greatest), but we're still fairly bare compared to what we need to do this legitimately. | any advice for content, adspace (I know won't come for a bit), good merchandising buys, or good sources to learn how to refurbish systems? Feel free to private message me if you have something specific besides general advice. If this comes across as whoring, feel free to downvote, but we're both very excited and slightly nervous, and I thought I'd ask my favorite people =] |
t3_ub8fu | relationships | How do i deal with my GF's Insecurities?? | I don't really know how to deal with my girlfriend's insecurities, she says she feels like she's not good enough/pretty for me and she is afraid of losing me to another girl. I'm not sure why she say's that, she is one of those girls you can't call "hot" because she's just so flawless and beautiful, everywhere we go she gets compliments on how beautiful she is and what not. It hurts me when she calls me upset about it, I try to talk to her and ask her why and what triggers that feeling and she doesn't know, she falls into some sort of short depression and shuts down not wanting to walk about. I'm patient with her but it's frustrating when she gets like this. I reassure her I'm always going to be by her side and i tell her that i love her, because in reality i really do and she knows that.
How do i deal with this?. Can i help her some how or does she have to figure this out on her own?.
We are both 20 years old and have a very healthy relationship and we've been best friends for nearly 9 years and we've been together for 1 year. We're both hoping for a future together. | GF is insecure and i don't know what to do about it, Please help!. Thanks. |
t3_1kbxl6 | relationships | I [24F] care about my boyfriend [23M] very much, and we've had a great relationship for 6 years...but I no longer want to have sex with him. | Title pretty much says it all. My boyfriend is a great partner as well as an incredible person, and would do pretty much anything for me. We've never had any major issues and have had a satisfying sex life. But now that I'm getting a bit older and starting to think about what I want my life to be like, I'm realizing that we don't have the same vision, and never will -- and I'm thinking that the lack of physical desire might be a manifestation of these emotional thoughts. But the bottom line is that I have zero interest in sex with him anymore. I still have sexual desires...just not with him specifically. It's so unfair to him because he's attractive and eager to please, but he just doesn't do it for me anymore. Has this happened to anyone else? Can you just lose your sexual attraction to someone who is otherwise good for you? | No longer sexually attracted to my boyfriend, and am not totally sure why. Does this just happen to people sometimes? |
t3_3yhilp | relationships | Me [20M] with my family, was told I will never find love. I believe them. | I am going to keep this extremely short because I am on my phone. I went to dinner with my family and a conversation about family and kids came up. My siblings are talking about their relationships and how they see themselves in 10 years with kids and I end up saying I want a son. My family then looks at me and begins telling me that I am too closed off to ever find a person to love and doubt whether I have the potential to even date someone, let alone marry and have a kid. I tried real hard to downplay what they said but I can't get it out of my mind. I've never had a girlfriend but I'm pretty social and have a wide friend group. The problem is that I believe them. I just don't see myself ever opening up to anyone and it hurts just thinking about it cause I want it so badly. It's just really hard for me to open up after years of rejection I guess. | family told me I have little chance at finding love and I believe them. |
t3_54i9ub | relationships | I (25f) really want to believe him (30m) but th evidence is damning | Might be long. I have been acquainted with this guy for years. Never knew him well. I recently became single, and around the same time he informed me he was single as well. We went on a couple dates, things were going well, didn't have any reason to be concerned... Until his "ex" girlfriend popped up on my "people you may know" section on Facebook. It was a picture of him and her at a wedding. Obviously curiosity got me and I stalked, finding pictures of them on a vacation two weeks ago for his birthday and pictures of them at a wedding not too far before that. Looking at the dates all of this happened after he told me they broke up. I texted him, confronting him on the situation, with a screen shot of her profile, asking for an explanation. A few minutes after the text she blocked me. Now he is saying all of this is a misunderstanding, that the birthday was pre planned, so he was obligated to go etc. He wants to call and explain himself. Is there any chance I'm over reacting? Any at all? Obviously logic is telling me cut and run, but there is a small part of me hoping maybe I'm in the wrong and he isn't a lying asshole. | pretty sure I found his girlfriend on Facebook, he's saying it's a glitch in Facebook among other excuses, not sure if over reaction or proper reaction. Help. |
t3_2p62ng | relationships | Me [32F] with my bestie [38M]. Bestie for two years - we flirt, know each other super well, and have had two pretty hot make-out sessions. New to dating and seeking help! | Met him at work two years ago. He quit over a year ago and we've stayed in contact. Over the past six months, we've flirted more than we used to, talk almost every day. About 3 months ago we both got drunk and made out. A month later we had another pash session, this time sober. Both sessions lasted a couple of hours. We kissed chests, necks and lips. It was really hard not to go further.
I feel completely comfortable in his company and can tell him anything. We've talked about being fwb/fb's multiple times and agreed we didn't want to ruin the relationship we have. If I'm being honest, I feel we're too close for fwb's to work.
We recently decided that if we drink and have a late night, we'd be friends that could sleep in the same bed and spoon cos it's nice being held/holding someone. He has said there are things he loves about me and misses me.
I'm new to dating and I've never had a male friend I'm this close to. He has very recently started dating someone, which is a clear message he's not interested in taking it further with me.
I wanted to ask y'all your opinion on our friendship. I'm also a bit confused, aren't relationships meant to be based on friendship? And therefore cos we are such good friends and clearly sexually attracted to each other, would that make for a relationship? Can you be awesome friends and remain friends while dating others? We've never been this close before. | confused about best friend and our relationship |
t3_24x2tr | relationships | Me [18M] is frustrated with my GF[18F] because she is a terrible communicator. | My SO of about 13 months is awful at communication. She rarely gets back to me when I text her, she never asks me to hang out, and we haven't even talked face to face since Thursday. The last time we even had time together alone was over three weeks ago. My friends always ask me how she's doing and how we're doing and i just don't know. To me I'm getting the feeling that she doesn't show any desire or interest in this relationship anymore. I'm not sure if she if she means to give me this impression but it just makes me feel terrible that she doesn't talk to me. I don't understand how or why she would feel cold towards me i've been a great boyfriend and i love her a lot. Please help. | GF doesn't communicate well, gives me impression that she might be losing interest, and in general this makes me feel quite terrible. |
t3_3es2ny | relationships | My [30 M] husband pretty much had an emotional affair and I [30 F] don't know how to deal | I was recovering from a serious surgery when I found out my husband was talking to another woman (that he met out at a bar) for hours everyday behind my back. I felt like he screwed me over when I needed him the most, and to make matters worse stress brings on inflammation in my body (related to the surgery). Regardless, I was very hurt. This happened this past fall.
He stopped talking to her, but I'm not sure where it would have gone had he continued.
I am still having trouble dealing with this. I think I am going about it the wrong way, but I find myself talking to a guy almost as revenge (not for hours, but chatting on and off). He wants to hang out and I am debating it. I know reddit will sh*t on me for this.
Anyway my husband is going out of town for a week, and I'm not sure what he is up to. I asked to use his phone to text my friend a few days ago and he said "no". I definitely don't trust him, but I don't know if I am dealing with this all wrong, or if I should feel guilty for talking to someone. | Reddit, should I feel 'bad/guilty' for talking to someone (nothing serious just making convo) and maybe meeting up to hang out with someone after my husband's emotional affair?! |
t3_2y1olu | tifu | TIFU by ending something amazing for one fun night | So this I kind of going on now. So it there is any request I may update. MParky I'm just getting it out. So I had (had being the keyword) a pretty great girlfriend. Not perfect but who is. But lately I just felt like I was losing the love. She had done nothing wrong, I just feel I needed time to air out and was trying to find a way to say it.
Move to last Friday friends are having a college party and I go. But girlfriend can't. Being nice I use the time I would've needed to get her to pick up a friend and her friend. This is where fuck up beings.
At the party everyone is having fun and it's some
Good time. As theater people get many were making out and friend's friend (we can call her C). Wanted to get in. I of course found her attractive and wanted to kiss but had a girlfriend. When I saw C kiss another guy, and this sets some fire: I had to have her. So I tell her my dilemma with girl. We take a "smoke break" and end up kissing. Log story short we are flirty, I decide to leave. She comes with and when I drop her off at the dorms she brings me in and dirty may have happened.
Just yesterday I didn't tell all the details to my girl, but enough and end it. It was a bad break up, tears hurt, and worst of all she doesn't really know why I want to end it. And I can't explain it that well.
Forward to now, she is still texting me trying to make it right (making me feel like shit). And C, well we saw each other the other night and she said it was awkward since I still had a GF. But now that I don't, radio silence from C... | ended a year long good relationship because I got jealous of a cute girl kissing a guy. |
t3_5341sj | tifu | TIFU by suggesting my Latin class have an orgy | It's 1996, I'm in my 6th grad Latin class taught my Mr. Melee (he pronounced it like Mealy, but come on, that's a kick ass last name). I had wanted to take latin ever since I began to read the Asterix and Obelisk graphic novels. For those of you that done' know, Asterix and Obelisk is set during the roman empire, it's fairly light hearted and follows around 2 celts, Asterix, a smaller guy and Obelisk, a huge rotund guy.
Anyways, every year, the different language groups all come together and put on a festival type thing showcasing the language and culture for the languages we were learning. In Asterix and Obelisk I had read a chapter where the Romans were throwing and orgy, which really was just a party where they got together, and ate bread and melted cheese. I'm a chunky white kid so I fucking love bread and cheese. Nobody else was making any suggestions so I raised my hand, Mr. Melee called my name and I said "Let's have an orgy!"
His eyes grew a little wide and most of the kids turned to look directly at me, some laughed out loud, I heard one of the older girls say something like "Oh, gross!" I had no idea what I did wrong, I thought that somehow all of my classmates hated bread and cheese. The teacher knew what I meant but still had a hard time getting the class quiet after that. One of the kids explained to me what the *other* meaning was and I flushed beet red and had my head down for the rest of the class. Easily one of the more embarrassing moments of my life, I felt like people thought that I wanted to have sex with everybody in the classroom. | 6th grade latin class, for language festival I suggested having an orgy, meaning a traditional Roman party, at the time had no idea it also referred to sex with everybody in the room. |
t3_mnnly | AskReddit | How can I help out my sister? She wants to go to university for creative writing and does not see that this would be a bad idea. | Her logic is that she doesn't want to end up 'in a boring desk job'. I've been trying to convince her that if she takes creative writing, odds are she will either end up with no job, or a soul crushing service job.
I've also been trying to get her to consider taking writing as a minor and majoring in something more useful like business. One of the **main issues** though is there aren't really any academic subjects that she excels in or is particularly passionate about, so choosing a 'useful' major, I imagine, seems either daunting or depressing.
What can I do to help her out/what can I suggest? I feel like if she pursues this, she will be making a mistake that follows her through her whole life.
Obviously I'm not saying that one shouldn't follow their dreams or do what they like, but I think it's reasonable to have back-up skills to use to, you know, feed yourself. | Sister wants to major in creative writing. What might I tell her to convince her that this might be a bad idea? What alternatives might there be for her? |
t3_43rsk6 | tifu | TIFU by doing an art project in a hotel | This happened about an hour ago.
So my work has me living in a hotel for a month during a relocation process. I'm making my friend one of [these] for a wedding gift and I figured that it would be no big deal to just make it in the hotel bathroom on some newspaper. Wrong.
I had to stain a block of wood. I have never stained a block of wood in my life. I figured it was just like painting. Wrong again. I looked up essentially what I was doing, went out and got the supplies, sanded the wood, and covered the bathtub in newspaper.
Turns out stain spreads everywhere and does not have the consistency of paint. By the time I was done staining, the bathtub was blotched everywhere with greyish stain. No big deal, I'll wipe it off. Could not have been more wrong. It does not come off with water. It gets sticky and spreads around more with a dry towel. The bathtub is now straight up grey. I am frantically Googling how to remove stain from things. It says vegetable oil. I am living in a hotel and do not have cooking supplies conveniently on hand. I do, however, heart essential oils. So I run over and grab my lemon oil and begin dumping it in to the bathtub. Miraculously, it begins coming off. I spend 30 minutes scrubbing every inch of that bathtub with lemon oil.
The worst part is that the stain began to stick to blotches of unknown substance on the bathtub that were clearly not cleaned before I moved in here. The bathtub has a slight greyish hue to it now, RIP every washcloth and hand towel that they provided me (which I did soak and throw away in a water filled bag so they don't spontaneously combust), but that bathtub is probably cleaner than the day it was installed.
Also the wood block turned out beautifully, if anyone cares. | Tried to stain a piece of wood in a hotel bathroom, chaos ensued, tub is forever slightly grey. |
t3_423ly2 | relationships | I'm [30/M] considering breakup up with my girlfriend [25/F] who I've lived with for three years while grieving the loss of my mom. I don't know if I can trust my emotions right now. | Basically my girlfriend has always needed to lean more on me than I have on her. Typically this is in the form of complaining about certain events in the day or worries/concerns about the future or past and family issues (her mom is narcissistic and puts her younger sister against her). She's more external than I am with her emotions and is a little insecure. I, on the other hand, am more withdrawn and can typically navigate through my own stuff. I haven't felt like she's understood me for a while now, but she argues why that's not true when I bring it up. This is how things have been for a while with us..
Last month my mom passed away from aggressive cancer in her kidney, liver, spinal fluid, and bone marrow. I was with her holding her hand when she passed away. Now obviously this experience has had a pretty big hold on me. During this time, our relationship's very structure has been flipped upside down in that I really need support and don't feel like my girlfriend understands me well enough to get the support I need. She's been resistant to give me space because she's "not getting what she needs" in the form of my time, attention, and affection. I think that this situation has opened my eyes to the very real possibility that I'm not getting what I need and I might not have been getting that for a long time.
I know I was rather short with the details, it's sort of hard to jot everything down right now. Do you guys think I can trust myself and my jump to that conclusion right now given my emotional state? Feel free to ask any questions if you have them. Thanks for reading. | My girlfriend needs a lot of support I can't provide right now due to grieving my mom's death. Can I trust my emotions right now?? |
t3_2bg78c | relationships | Me [21M] with my GF [17F] - I think I want to break up, but afraid to hurt her | Even though it's not a big deal I know i'll probably get at least someone who will comment about the ages. I didn't go out seeking a younger girl. I didn't get her age when I first met her and her facebook said 18, so that's what I thought in the beginning.
Anyway when we first starting hanging out I just wanted a friendship really but she wanted it to be a real relationship pretty fast. We've been 'dating' for 3 months now. She started saying "I love you" really early on and is pretty clingy. I guess that's to be expected with a younger girl who hasn't ever dated before.
My issue is that as much as I really do like her, I don't really want to get in a real long term relationship. I sort of want to end it but I'm afraid because I know how much it's going to end up hurting her. She is in a rough patch with both family and friends right now and it feels like I'm the only person she has anymore.
Due to her bad home life she's recently been saying how she can't wait until she's 18 so we can move in together and this scares me pretty bad.
I'm afraid to leave because it will hurt her, but I don't want to stick around because at some point I'm just going to be in over my head(if I'm not already).
I'm not really sure what I'm looking for here but any input would be nice I guess. | Dating younger girl |
t3_4uxdgj | relationships | Immature relationship? | I ( 18M ) had surgery on my foot last week. I now have 7 screws and 1 plate, and a ton of pain. My girlfriend (18F) has been great helping me out and coming to see me a lot.
Things went south yesterday. Yesterday morning 2 girls from school came and brought me donuts by surprise. I was totally shocked and did not invite them over. They heard about my surgery on Twitter. (Also I go to a very small school where everyone is everyone's friend) Anyways, they talked to me about my foot while I ate at the table. Not at my bedroom. Before the left they signed their names on my cast.
Fast forward to that night my girlfriend came over. We were in bed and the covers were over my foot. I got up to use the restroom, and when I came back in bed she saw the names. She asked who they were. I told her they were friends from school who surprised me with breakfast. She immediately started getting upset and saying things how I'm a liar for not telling her. And honestly I just forgot about them coming over. I'm on pain pills.
I told her that I forgot and I would inform her if anyone else came over. She stated that "I don't care anymore" She stayed up set the whole night and went back home.
She texted me when she got home and told me "we should take a break from hanging out with each other for a day" I said okay even though this hurt me cause I didn't do anything with those two girls.
Today she posted photos of us on Facebook. I looked very drugged up in a photo and kindly asked if she could take it down. Instead of taking down that one photo, she took down all 11 of us. Now I'm my opinion she is being immature. She hasn't texted or called me all day.
Do I really deserve all of this? Did I screw up this bad? Is this relationship a good one? I don't deserve this. I enjoy any company I can get cause I can't leave the house for 6 weeks. I dont know what to think. | gf got mad cause two girls surprised me with breakfast because I had surgery. |
t3_3rsr46 | relationship_advice | I(25F) think my bf(26M) settled for me? | We've been together for almost 2 years which makes me think that if he had settled he wouldn't have stuck around for so long. Here's some stuff from the last 3 months that makes me think that he might love me but not be "in love" with me anymore.
He doesn't display any casual physical affection like holding my hand, brushing my hair, or stroking/kissing my face (unless he wants to have sex).
He says "I love you" back to me when I say it but otherwise I haven't heard him say it first in a long time.
He'll make last minute plans (if his friends haven't called him up) and if they do while he's hanging out with me, he'll have them come meet us. The last time we went out with his friends, a random guy started to hit on me while I was ordering a drink at the bar. He just sat back, watched, and thought it was funny.
In the last month he's started to say some kind of hurtful things. I'm fairly tall and clumsy. I've been this way since way before I even met him so it's not anything new or unexpected.
some examples: -I plugged my phone to charge on his desk and knocked his pencil cup with my elbow when I turned around. I didn't make a mess or break anything but when he came over he gave me a look and said "why aren't you ever careful with anything?"
He also said "you look like a drunk clown when you walk." | I think my bf is just keeping me around because it's better than being alone/good enough for now. What are some signs to know if we can still work things out or if it's completely over? |
t3_345viz | Advice | Is there truth to the phrase "If you love something, let it go"? If not, what's an alternative and has worked for you? | I'm the type of person to easily get dedicated in the things that interest me. Whether that be financial goals, that special someone, video games, personal accomplishments, you name it. It's worked out before, but I'm concerned about the things that end up not only not working out, but staying at a stagnant.
Take this girl for example. She's super interesting, and we've been spending a lot of time together. I'm comfortable with breathing room. Keeping in mind that we're both a little on the introvert side, so personal space is important. But she's pulling a David Blaine on me and disappearing. I feel once in a while poking in shows my interest, but I'm mad nervous about coming across as clingy. I haven't had much experience with tossing a line out and walking away to see if she bites.
I feel like I naturally put a lot of apples in one basket, because I've felt giving 100% is what's needed from me as a man. At what point do I just let it go? | How do I not chase every type of waterfall. |
t3_hk5nn | loseit | LA Fitness Personal Trainers | I have been working out for a good 3 months and recently decided it was time for me to switch gyms. I was at Planet Fitness, but felt it was time for me to move on to an actual squat rack and bench. I have been doing StrongLifts for these 3 months and have still been making gains, so I figured I'd reassess where I'm at doing it the right way, or without the Smith Machine (I know). When you join LA, they offer a free assessment with a personal trainer. I thought this was a great opportunity to talk to someone about my form, and pick up some knowledge from a certified personal trainer. Boy, was I wrong. He had me do low weight, high reps; which is knowledge anyone could gain from spending 10 min on the internet. Then, he refused to look at my form for the exercises I wanted him to. At the end, he got mad when I told him I didn't want to sign up for training sessions. My reasons were that I was confident I could do it on my own, and that I couldn't find the value financially. By the way, I said this all in a polite way, I made sure I didn't make him feel inadequate. He then goes on about asking what I do for a living, and goes off on some way where I can save $5 a day in order to pay for training sessions. Maybe I was in the wrong, but I felt offended. I told him if I wanted financial advice, I wouldn't goto a personal trainer. He then pretty much tells me If I don't sign up with him I will not lose weight, and begins laughing about it with his coworker who is sitting behind me. Rather than go on with him, I left and said maybe bullying will work for your next customer. I know they need people to sign up to make a living, but you are supposed to motivate and make people feel comfortable. This guy wouldn't listen to me, and then got mad when I didn't want to train with him. People who are just starting out don't want to think negatively about the gym, and bullying them into signing up for personal training sessions will certainly not help. | Had a free assessment, trainer was a dick, fuck him. |
t3_3c9hjb | relationships | (22 F) I'm pregnant and I think my boyfriend (25 m) may break up with me. | We've been together for over 3 years, and have had our ups and downs. Last night he told me he didn't know if he wanted to be with me anymore, and that he needed some time to figure it out.
I'm 2 months pregnant, and haven't told him yet. (I have irregular periods and haven't had any morning sickness, and not a lot of weight gain so he has no reason to suspect that I'm pregnant.) I'm afraid that if I tell him now, he'll either think I'm doing this to make him stay with me, or that he'll just stay with me for the baby even if he doesn't want to. | boyfriend of 3 years doesn't know if he still wants to be with me. 2 months pregnant and he doesn't know. I'm now stuck in a bad situation. |
t3_1w0yn9 | relationships | Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 2 years, want to get married, but don't agree on social issues | So I've dated this girl for a bit over a year, and honestly... everything is great and I want to marry her. My only problem is that she (and her family) disprove of gay marriage. She has a lot of gay friends and everything, but with her and her family's religious beliefs, she thinks gay marriage is morally wrong. I literally find those beliefs equivalent to racist thinking a few decades ago, and don't want to raise my kids in that atmosphere. I've talked to her about it, and it ends up with her saying "I understand people are born gay, but my belief system wants me to protect male/female marriage." She's definitely not stupid (Ernst & Young accontant.) And I know for a fact that her family are extremely awesome (better than most), and fun, loving people. How can I talk to her about it, without seeming like I'm attacking her and her family's beliefs? (serious answers only please) | me and my girlfriend disagree on social issues |
t3_o1a5z | AskReddit | Teenager trying to find a job, not working out. Help me out? | I'm 17, and I live in Myrtle Beach, SC, so I essentially live in a tourist trap where almost everywhere only hires during the big holiday seasons, and those jobs are instantly taken up by family/friends of the managers.
Right before Summer last year, I went out and applied at 20+ places, called and checked up on all those applications at least twice, politely asked to talk to the manager, introduced myself, yada yada. I never got one call back. I always have references, hell, my main reference is a retired Colonel from the Army.
I really need a job, since I'm a junior in High School, and I need to save up $5000 to buy an instrument (euphonium) before I graduate high school, as I plan on joining a military band. | I live in a tourist trap city, everywhere I look only hires friends/family, I have no friends/family in retail/service industry, need money for a very expensive instrument. |
t3_c6kgu | self | This has to do with Star Wars. | My wife has never seen and absolutely refuses to watch Star Wars. She said it doesn't look interesting. I have tried everything i.e. going to see absolutely horrific romantic comedies with her at her request, promising her massages, to be her slave for a day, to relieve her of the duty of taking care or our child for set amounts of time in an effort to give her a break, taking her out to fancy restaurants, and finally I tried withholding sex (BTW fellas this doesn't work, take my word for it).
She turns down all of this stuff. She is the most stubborn woman I have ever met. Please give me some advice or tricks I can use to get her to watch it because I think she is really missing out. | Wife wont watch Star Wars, need advice on getting her to watch it. |
t3_37z4fa | relationships | Boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) broke up over alcohol | Boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years and lived together about 6 months. He told me he was uncomfortable about alcohol and would rather me not drink around him. Ok so i did that, also he said I can't have alcohol in our home. He flipped the script a few weeks ago saying i now can't go out and be around other men and alcohol (whether i went out with them, or there were men around period) without him. Matter of fact i can't be around guys without him period, shouldn't be hanging around guys regardless even if it is just classmates together or a group outing. Im a med student by the way. So now i can't go out without him, and if I'm with him i can't drink..hows that a compromise? So the other day i asked if i could at least drink at home so ill be safe and ill at least be with him. He flipped out and said I'm disrespectful and don't care about his feelings and I'm childish and selfish.
We've had other problems before, and he just isn't a good boyfriend when it comes to giving me attention or affection so this isn't our first big blowout or anything. I now packed all my stuff up and moved back home. Am i wrong for this? I don't think i should have to live with all of those rules when i don't do anything to blatantly disrespect the relationship. Im not a party girl at all, i don't have time to be, but its nice to get out once in a while. | Boyfriend and I broke up because he says i don't respect his opinions and I need to do what he says to make the relationship work |
t3_2l4846 | relationships | I[22 F] am shy, have never been on a date and am interested in [23 M] but don't if/how to ask him out. | I just moved to a new area for school in the past few months and one of the guys I have become friends with I have become interested in dating. He is in the same program, just a year farther along. We also have many overlapping interest and friends.
A big issue arises because I am shy, have never dated before and I am not convinced that he likes me in any other way than being a friend. We text some, and I almost never text so this is huge for me, and we hang out with groups of shared friends frequently. I know that even though I already feel like I am putting myself out there for most people my actions probably seem like I am just being friendly.
He has asked me to go events with him (and other friends) that are months from now and I recently invited him to hang out with a group of my friends and one of our mutual friends and he seemed very enthusiastic.
However we have only hung out together alone when at an event where our friends went out for an hour to do other things before meeting up with us again and the only physical contact that has occurred was a hug which I am pretty sure was the result of copious amounts of alcohol on his part.
I am not sure if it is worthwhile for me to try to ask him out to dinner. I thought since he is much more extroverted if he was interested in me he might have made a move, unless due to my shyness I just appear uninterested. | I am a shy, naive in dating girl who can't decide if crush is interested at all so that I can gain the courage to ask him out. Looking from advice/insight from people who are less dense when it comes to dating. |
t3_t72ht | AskReddit | My parents are starting to pull support. Advice please? | I woke up this morning to an angry call from my parents (currently away at uni.) They said that since my phone bill was over (last month it was over as well apparently) that this meant that not only would I need to get my own phone service, they are going to stop funding my schooling. I already reside in housing that isnt exactly the most legitimate situation. My family isnt poor by anymeans and I realize complaining about not having a phone is a first world problem. I guess Im simply afraid that everything wont work out as planned.
Adult hood is here and its kind of a bitch so far. How do I deal with her? How do you deal with waking up every morning knowing its just you against the world and, yeah, people would help you out if you absolutely needed it, but you gotta bring home the bacon. I guess this is all part of becoming a man or something..idk.. | dont worry about it, just kind of a rant, feel free to move along. |
t3_2rkud0 | tifu | TIFU by leaving my phone at home. | Today stayed as a normal school day where I woke up and got ready. However upon getting to school i noticed i left my phone. I shrugged it off and continued the day normally. After school i had a club that ended at 4:00. Before school I asked my grandmother if she could arrange a ride for me. She agreed and left to work. I say outside of the school till around 5:30 where i was getting impatient. I decided i would walk home. Biggest mistake. I didn't know exact distance and only knew the roads. So i began my journey. After about 40 minutes of walking i saw a little Valley lookin area. Like the wide open area you see for those big power lines. I saw cars at the other end and assumed that i could use this area as a shortcut. It wasn't. I was lost. I then started walking the wrong direction for about half a mile and a half until i went to someone's house for directions. He was s very old man with a hearing aid and no vehicle. He said my neighborhood was a mile the opposite direction i was going. I thanked him sighed and stayed walking again. It wasn't until i went to another stranger's house did i know where i was and was finally relieved. I found the final mile home and walked in the door, dropped on my knees and cried for a good 30 minutes. I got home at 7:30. | left my phone at home, had after-school meeting. And ended up walking two hours through the dark. |
t3_11uarx | AskReddit | What's the worst scam you've ever fallen for? (my story isn't bad but I want to share it with you as it's important) | The other day my dad received a phone call (as i was out at the time) and a I got a letter from a company claiming to be an eBay debt collection agency. Dad called me (I was at the pub at the time) and told me that this woman had called and i owed eBay money for an item that I had sold, and it was urgent and I needed to speak to her right away, so drunk me gave her a call, asking her what the fuck was going on. She told me that I owed money to eBay and that i just needed to give her my credit card details so I could pay off this money, my first thoughts were this is complete bullshit, so i went off at the lady, abusing her, she had a filipino accent which i picked up on as I used to work with a lot of filipinos, and no offence to any of you who are but I asked her why eBay had a debt collection agency in the phillipines, it just seemed very unlikely, she told me it was none of my business, i told her to go get fucked and she said there was no need for that language, so i said oh im sorry, have a nice fucking day you stupid c*** and hung up. then the day after dad contacted eBay just to make sure that it was actually a scam, and guess what.... it was. they are now being reported. theres a screenshot of what my messages look like and i can upload the letters if any of you have experienced similar things and want to get your money back. sorry for the | but i felt like blabbing |
t3_4cnrj6 | relationships | Me 50's [M] with my 50's [M] 3 year friendship, ungrateful | My wife and I have sent several clients to an acquaintance over the last few years. This means he's made some good money from this. He's never sent anyone our way. We meet for lunch once or twice a year and he's never ever offered to pick up the tab, it's always been me. He's never sent a Christmas card, never thanked us, nothing. It didn't bother me until the last time.
After the last lunch where he again made no effort to stop me paying the whole bill, I just stopped communicating with him. Today he wrote a long letter asking why he'd been cut off. Not sure if I should tell him, or just ignore him. He's not a part of my circle of usual friends.
Suggestions? | Ungrateful acquaintance wonders why we don't communicate anymore. |
t3_22zgep | relationship_advice | My[18/m] girlfriend[19/f] is great but we seem to have very different interests. | My girlfriend is really nice and helpful but we don't seem to have a lot of common interests. She spends most of her time involved with the LGBT Center at our university. I support gays being able to marry and stuff but I don't care to be that involved. When she isn't doing things in the center, she spends time with her friends from there. Because of this, quite a few conversations revolve around the LGBT stuff. I know I shouldn't feel this way but I feel like she should want to spend more time with me since I want to be with her so much.
When I'm with her, she's all that I can think about but when we're apart and she's doing stuff with the center I feel kind of neglected. I think I may be too needy.
She also doesn't have a very similar sense of humor. I can still get her to laugh but a lot of my jokes, she doesn't get or approve.
I feel like I have to sensor myself around her. By being involved with the center, she is very keen on not insulting a group of people. She will get on to me if I say "that's gay" or "that's retarded". She's also started saying "you people" instead of "you guys" because it's not fair to women. It's not that I'm insensitive to these groups of people but they're part of the common vernacular.
I think about other women more than I think is normal. I don't try to but I just do.
As a freshman I met her pretty early on in the year so really most of my friends were her friends first. This creates a problem in that, if we breakup, I may lose almost all of my friends.
I think I'm probably averagely attractive and one of my fears is that I won't find someone and if I do, she won't be as great and won't love me as much as she does.
She's great and makes me really happy when I'm with her but I feel like she's not a great fit for me I guess. What should I do? Should I break up with her? | My girlfriend is great but she spends a lot of her time in an organization that I don't care to become involved with and I feel neglected that she doesn't want to spend time with me. |
t3_10f89a | AskReddit | How can I help my friend see that he needs to break up with his girlfriend? | My friend has been with his girlfriend for almost two years now, and the longer their relationship goes on the more I see that he needs to get the fuck out. They bicker constantly about the same issues. Then the next minute she'll be all over him and they'll basically be making out for all to see (even his mom and family... ick). She basically has dozens of emotional issues - insecurity, problems with trust, no social tact, etc. She tags along on everything we try to do together, and feels like she's being rejected just by the fact that he wants to do something with his buddies for a change.
He clearly has some kind of guilt/saviour complex. He's afraid of what she will do if he breaks up with her (he has actually *SAID* this to me) and he's always telling me that he's trying to help her out and get her back on her feet etc, etc. Says she's in therapy and trying to get better. It really doesn't look like it though. She's as crazy as ever. She loves to tell him all about how much better off she is with him, and what would she do without him. This is also his first ever girlfriend. Oh, and she's 10 years older than him. I'm leaving out some details out of respect, but this pretty much gives the gist of it.
I don't really expect there to be an easy answer out there - or really expect Reddit to have a solution at all. I know there's not a whole lot I can do, and that he has to see this for himself. I've tried talking to him about it a bit - nothing too provocative, more just guiding his own thoughts and feelings on it. He really has made it sound like *HE WANTS* to break up, but he doesn't seem to recognize that he's even had the thought! And I've dealt with girlfriends of friends that I don't like before. I can deal with that. I just don't like how clear it is to anyone who has know my friend for very long (his whole family pretty much agrees with me) that she is wrong for him, and he just can't see it. | Friend stuck his dick in crazy and crazy is holding it hostage there. |
t3_pwnbx | AskReddit | Dear 17-25 year olds of reddit, what common misconceptions about your generation that older folks have piss you off? | * we were born wrapped in bubble wrap.
I remember in more than one occasion having bb gun battles with my friends and other kids. Not wearing helmets, knee-pads, etc.
Going to tell my parents how I got hurt and them telling me "you were playing, don't complain"
* MTV used to be good.
MTV has always sucked, the majority of music on MTV has always sucked. Stop it. Don't even argue it. MTV has always played 1-2 good clips once in a while that are good, the rest are a huge circlejerk.
* We have no real person interaction
No, in fact I am willing to argue that we had the same..and let's not forget that we are in fact one of the first age group to have gowned up considering condoms a standard for sex. So sex with multiple partners has a really low chance of any negative consequences. | if you're a 30+ person claiming that you "had it better", come here to prove it to me. I am willing to bet you're a shelterd anti-social person. |
t3_2seeli | tifu | TIFU: Saying the "N" word | Disclaimer: I'm Australian and am as racially tolerant as they come. Except in this case.
Many a moon ago a friend of mine had sent me a YouTube video from Bush's presidency. The video itself was not particularly noteworthy, but we delighted in reading the garbled racism of the YouTube commentators. We both found one particular quote to be amazing in its total tone-deafness and barely-concealed hatred; a long confusing spiel against the "Oil thieving sand n******". We had fun lampooning him before moving on.
Later that week we were walking through a park with another friend of ours who hadn't seen the video. I was mentioning some of the comments and he asked me for an example. Struggling to think of any particular ones, my brain shot straight to "sand n******". This is where I made my mistake. As I blurted it out, we passed a very burly black man who gave me a look of total and utter contempt. Embarrassed, I went red and blurted out "Sorry, I didn't mean you" before speeding away as my friends laughed at me. He did not look pleased. | Quoted a racist IRL, made me sound like a Grand Wizard |
t3_3h3wuz | personalfinance | Seeking counsel. | I've lurked on here a little bit but this is my first time posting.
I'm currently feeling overwhelmed because I feel like I'm "up to my eyes" in debt. I'm 22 years old, former military, and not a student. I have roughly $30k in debt which includes: car payment, credit cards, and school loans.
With all of the debt, I feel like I don't have the luxury of going back to school if I wanted to and at the same time paying for all of these debts and other monthly bills. I'm 2 months behind on my car payment, 4 months on my school loan, 1 of my credit cards is up to date, one is coming up, and the other hasn't been paid in a couple of months. My car payment is coming up and I have to pay it or risk getting my car repossessed. I work as waiter right now and will start bartending again here a few weeks which will start bringing in more money.
For the time being, I really don't know what to do. I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. Any/all help is greatly appreciated in helping me solve this matter. Thanks for reading! | I have 30k in debt and need help. |
t3_2y7hp9 | relationships | [25/M] My girlfriend [25/F] of 7 years broke up with me 2 months ago and I'm still heart broken. Should we be friends? | About 2 months ago my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me after falling in love with her coworker whom of which I dont think she likes after all. Although im still heart broken talking to her actually does help me out and lifts my spirit a bit but the thing is that, I already accepted that there is no relationship between us. But I don't want her to gain and capitalize off of us still talking and having conversations. More background information about us: We were together every since high school. 7 years. So this is really like my best friend who I love but didn't really love me back. How should I handle this situation? | Continue being her friend although it makes me feel better or just drop the situation so she want gain anything out of it and just deal with the heart-ache? |
t3_2wk9lw | relationships | I [28F] want to get to know a man [30] but don't know how - ok to use facebook? | I am 28 f and have a crush on a 30 m. We do not know each other but during my recent (January) clinical training at the hospital he works I occasionally saw him and sometimes worked the same operating room (2 years ago in a group setting we said hi to each other and shook hands, that was it, our only face to face interaction).
During an operation I was observing, a nurse came up to me and told me that if I was looking for a future partner he's the man to go for - I had noticed him and wondered so that was just further affirmation.
At the time I was in a complicated short lived thing with a guy that was breaking up so I wasn't exactly thinking about making any advances. But am now completely rid of that.
As I am no longer doing my training how can I get closer to this possible mr. right. We do not belong to the same group of friends, I am not expecting to see him or run into him anywhere out and about or at a bar/club.
My only idea involves using Facebook and sending him a message, introduce myself and maybe ask him on a date of sorts - but I do not know if that's considered tacky or somehow not acceptable, I don't want to come off as a nutter/stalker/sth bad. (I do realize it depends on people themselves how they react and we are all different…)
So my question: in your opininon is it acceptable, or worth the try for a girl… woman(?) to approach a man, that she hardly knows, on Facebook with the intentions of it possibly leading to a date?
Do you have other suggestions? | I have a crush on a man that I hardly know, is it okay to use facebook to contact him to get to know him? Your thoughts? |
t3_xfus5 | AskReddit | Reddit, what's something a doctor has done that has really pissed you off? | My story is I had my doctor accusing me of absuing me pain medication after a major surgery. I had a neurosurgery so I had to get pain medication quite often and I had difficulties healing and since I'm under 18 doctors are super hesitant to prescribe pain medicine. I had a signed contract with this doctor that I wouldn't goto another doctor for pain medication or abuse my pills. Well, she thought I was selling me pills because I was going through them so fast but truth is I HONESTLY needed them. I'm still healing, still going through it, the surgery didn't fix the problem, just to add. Anyways, I agreed to take a drug test because I had nothing to hide. My doctor wanted to make sure the medication was in my system. She made a huge deal about trust and how serious the issue is. I took the drug [urine] test. I came back about a week later for the results and she informs me my urine got spilled so there were no results.
She then refused to see me again. | My doctor thought I was absuing pils, I took a drug test to prove I wasn't, she spilled my urine and then refused to see me again. |
t3_1hci2m | relationships | At what age did you have all your firsts? (kiss, bf/gf, etc.) | I'm a 21/F and I haven't had any firsts. It's really starting to get to me. I feel so left behind seeing all my friends have normal, healthy relationships around me. I'm a year away from graduating college and I feel like I should have created some sort of bond with someone. I like guys. I've been going out more since I turned 21, but I guess I don't meet that many new people. I have friends, I'm funny, I'm not the prettiest but I don't think I'm that bad looking, lol. What's wrong with me? At what age did you have all your firsts? | I'm sad and want to know I won't be alone forever. Should this be posted elsewhere? |
t3_3ijqtl | relationships | I (21M) think I fucked up | A month back I (21M) went to a birthday party where one of my friends (21M) attended but also brought his sister (19F). I got drunk and when I get drunk it's easy to pursuade me. We ended up in her bed. Because I'm a fool, I went back a few times thinking no harm done. The last time where we both drank, she told me we should be dating as I'm suggestable in that state I agreed.
I'm not sure I want this but don't know how to go back to before without destroying friendships or faking my death. She also lives approximately 8 hours from me which means that it would be a shotty long distance anyway.
Q: HOW FIX? | Slept with friends sister, she's clinging and I'm trying to avoid being murdered. |
t3_2sf4kl | relationship_advice | SO [20/f] and I [20/m] dont agree on a topic about my childhood/childhood in general | Typing this on my mobile plus english is not my native language so I apologize for typos and stuff :)
I've been with my gf for two years now. Recently we had a discussion about our parents and parenting in general. Now, we were raised in two very different households. Because my parents got divorced pretty early, i was raised by my mother. Her parents have been married for over 20 years now, naturally she grew up with mom and dad in a somewhat "textbook" family.
She often says that being raised by a single mom/dad is not the way a child should be raised because children need male and female role models. It may be necesarry (in case of a divorce or death) but its certainly suboptimal (is that even a word in english?)
When she talks about me (a single mom raised child) she emphazises that she thinks i still turned out pretty good but the conditions would have been better if i was raised by both parents.
I try to respect her opinion on this topic but cant really help but feel a bit insulted. I for myself remember my childhood as caring, loving and warm. I dont think i lacked male rolemodels because there were more men involved in raising me than just my dad (my stepdad, granddads, friends). I dont think its fair to say that its generally bad to be raised by a single mom. I dont think its fair to say that it would have been better if i was raised by both parents.
She argues i should not try to display single-mom-raising as equivalent to both-parents-raising because its simply not the ideal environment for a child, which is a fact i could not dismiss.
She compared it to being handicapped: you can make the best out of your situation (which can be pretty much), but it'd be better if you were healthy. I dont think you can really compare these two topics.
I dont want to dictate her my opinion but i think she is being a bit tactless on this topic. How can I aproach this without disrespecting her views on this? | gf thinks being raised by a single mom is bad for a child compared to being raised by both parents. Am raised by a single mom. How can I show her that i feel a bit disrespected without forcing her to change her view on single moms? |
t3_2ymf1w | relationships | I [26/M] just broke up with my LDR [22/F] gf of six months... I don't know whether to talk to her | Her: A recent graduate from a nursing school. She lives in Brazil and has zero interest in moving to the US. On a gap year before starting a masters in nursing, hopes to work in geriatrics.
Me: A returning student applying to transfer to four year schools from community college. I want to be a researching math professor. I'm extremely ambitious and hard working when it comes to academics. It's my top priority and I've already sacrificed a lot just to have a shot at the places I'm applying to. I have family in Brazil.
I met her once in Brazil when I was visiting several years ago. We started talking about seven months ago, quickly realized we really liked each other, started chatting all day and eventually skyping, and feelings developed. The other day she told me she loved me, which no girl has ever said to me before. However, there's really no long term plan. Moving to Brazil would almost certainly kill my career dreams and moving to the US is also too big a sacrifice for her to make. I'm not ok with this, especially since at the moment we are both on pretty limited incomes so visiting would be extremely difficult.
I told her I wasn't ok with being in a LDR with no plan. Twice we went for the 'let's be friends' option and it really didn't work out. We probably discussed how this wasn't working for me every day for the past two weeks. Last night I told her I thought we shouldn't talk anymore. She said she didn't agree but understood and respected the choice.
Today I feel just terrible. I miss her so much. She really is my best friend and I'm so excited when I get a message from her or a little video blog, or I send her one, or we talk by skype. She messaged me saying this was a terrible idea and she didn't want to give up on us. I'm really new to relationships and while this might seem like something a 26 year old guy should know I'm not really sure what to do or how to feel about it. It seems so cruel to just ignore her, but am I right in thinking I should? | Broke up with long distance love interest, but should I talk to her even though she really just wants to right the ship? |
t3_pbmmi | AskReddit | Would you like to know if you had a baby on the way? | If you were with a girl for less than.a month and then broke up, would you want to know if during that time you got her pregnant? I was with this guy for less than a month and he is older than I by 8 years, he has an amazing job income so.forth. The break up was over something stupid and I took 3 pregnancy tests all came up positive I made a dr appointment for thursday I'm really afraid to say anything to him because I know hes going to be more mad about the money issue or think I'm just trying to use him or something, guess I just needed to vent. | if you were in this situation but as the man would you want to know? |
t3_2uau4h | relationships | Me 21 M with my girlfriend 21F of 1.5 years, need advice on how to cope | Earlier this year I went interstate for an extra credit course. A few days before I came back from my month long trip, my girlfriend had to go to Asia to visit her family. She's going for about 40 days,
And it's been roughly 30 days since I last saw her.
I miss her like crazy! She left me some pics before she left, but I swear those only make me miss her more. I've also just started watching californication and the hank and Karen thing have Made my missing her even worse. I'm not depressed or mopey, but just really frustrated?
She doesn't have reliable access to the internet, so it's been roughly a week since we skyped/talked at all. :(
Does anyone whose been in a LDR have any advice for me, this is getting ridiculously hard. | Really miss my girlfriend and won't see her for another 30 days, advice on coping? |
t3_fkz60 | AskReddit | Got mindfucked by best "friend", need to mindfuck them back and hard. | Best friend led me on, turned me into an emotional wreck, used me in numerous ways for her gain and now pretends I don't exist. Time to turn the tables.
I know a lot of personal info about her, though so does she about me. Same circle of friends too if that matters. I know reddit's good at mind games, time to play. | Friend fucked with my head, need to take them down. |
t3_4s405c | relationships | My mom [49F] says I [24M] cannot join in on family vacation | My mom [49F], dad [45M], brother [16M], and sister [12F] are taking a week long vacation to the mountains in a few weeks. I [24 M] am not invited. I live in another state, but will be visiting back home while they will be on vacation. A few months ago when they mentioned planning the trip they said I could join them, but now mom says I'm not invited because they would have to get a second hotel room and I am too old for family vacations; I have had my share and now it is my siblings' turns.
I feel hurt because they would rather go without me. My friends all vacation with their families still. They are implying that because of my age we are less apt to enjoy each other's company. I do not feel that way. I just feel like my family would rather be without me. As far as getting another hotel room, I slept on the floor in a sleeping bag on my last vacation so that would not bother me. Should I tell mom that it hurt my feelings or just get over it? | family are taking a vacation and I'm not invited, it hurt my feelings but maybe I'm too sensitive. Should mention my feelings? |
t3_1eswrm | relationships | Need some advice (17m) | I am a 17 year old male in high school. I need advice about my relationship with my gf(19f). We gave been sating for 19 months now. Lately everything she does either pisses me off or annoys the crap out of me. She is constantly complaining about not getting to hang out with me when she knows I am super busy and involved in a lot of school related things and sports plus i have a job. She is a college student that doesn't do much other than school and her job. I just want some advice on what to do about my situation. | I need advice on about my girlfriend who has recently started annoying me. |
t3_1iq8a2 | relationships | I'm [M21] too dependent on others | So last year I joined the military and currently I'm stationed in Germany. I never knew until recently how dependent I was on having other people involved in my day-to-day life. By this, I don't mean friends and co-workers, because I've become adept at meeting new people and working with them. What I mean are people who are like family, people who I share a home with, and am involved with their life as much as they're involved in mine. While I don't consider this bad, it's just not something that isn't realistic given my current situation.
Growing up, my family (which consisted of my two brothers and mom) were very close and the relationships that I had in high-school and after were very close and I saw my girlfriend every day because we were (for the most part) neighbors. So now that I'm out in the world I don't have that same connection with anyone anymore. There are people I see every day but I don't have that same "familial" connection.
On top of that, even though I consider myself very self-motivated, I'm a homebody. If someone is going out and invite me or I can convince them to go out, I will. Most of the time, my friends just want to stay at home and play video games (this is also because I work a terrible schedule that conflicts with theirs.) | I just don't feel at home and am extremely lonely because I am dependent on having other people in my life on a consistent basis. |
t3_2ajok3 | tifu | TIFU by fucking a banana. | So, my family left friday morning to spend the weekend can't remember where, leaving me all by myself in my humble home.
All is going well, I'm just chilling, living the dream playing games all day, watching some Jack Bauer, eating microwave pizza and doing all other kinds of super chill boring activities like browsing reddit. Browsing reddit... A random comment on a random thread, it could be just an assumption that OP is a feg but not this time, this random redditor mentions how banana peels are great fapping devices. We all heard it before right? But this time, I was all alone and a thought comes to mind - "Sounds like a plan.".
So i walk to the kitchen and there it is, i peel it, take the fruit out, put it in the fridge, back to my room.
I start going at it, in case you're curious, let me tell you - it's not the best thing i inserted my weewee in but it's not the worst either, i give it a solid 5/10. So, if you're familiar with this kind of stuff there's a point where you shoot your rocket juice, i did it on a towel, personal preference. Feeling good, walk back to the kitchen, open the fridge, grab banana, eat it. Don't waste food boys.
Time to clean up. Never fuck up this part guys, mastabating is just like a murder, the tough part is making sure you didn't leave something behind that can trace you. Like a hand towel covered with genetic information on your bathroom floor.
Apparently, the weather was pretty bad during my families adventures and they decided to come back today. They arrive at arround 11 in the morning, my mom gives me shit because the kitchen looks like 1960s Vietnam, the usual.
Fast forward a little bit - its now midnight, i go take a piss, I wash my hands, i dry my hands, ...WAIT A SECOND, yep you guessed it, i just dried my hand on my microscopic offspring, and so did my whole family during the day. Someone must have found it on the floor and thought it fell from the hanger thingy. FML, just hope no one noticed. | fucked a banana peel, whole family now carries my DNA |
t3_1t72x2 | relationships | Girlfriend (19) of 2 months mom has cancer, is only child, what could come of this? | Met this girl at college. Known her for about 3 months now. Been my girlfriend for 1 month. Honestly, I have never felt this way about a girl before. We are both so into eachother it's crazy how all this happened so quickly. But we love being with eachother. She tells me all the time she's falling for me more and more and she's the first guy she has said I love you too. I've been with a lot of women but I have NEVER felt like this before. We even had unprotected sex for both out first times (she's on the pill).
So her father died about 6 months ago, and her mother has cancer (not sure what type). She has no siblings. She has friends, and me. I know it's early but I could see myself with the girl for the rest of my life. We never fight, we have so much chemistry it's amazing.
Was talking to my dad yesterday and he knows about her parents and he told me to watch out because I've got a clinger. Should I be worried at all? Like I said, I could see this girl with me forever. We always talk about the future together and all that. and I've honest to god have never felt this way about any of my exes. But what are your opinions on what my dad said? | girlfriend (19) and I (20) been together for one month, great chemistry, great everything. Her father passed away and her mother has cancer. Only child. My dad said she's a clinger. What should I think of this? |
t3_1qty3v | AskReddit | Young divorcees of Reddit, what happened? | **I know this isn't a super pointed question, but I was hoping some under-30 divorcees wouldn't mind sharing their experience going through a divorce at such a young age. What happened?**
In this Redditor's humble opinion, it seems disheartening to realize that two young couples I personally know (who've been married less than 5 years) are already divorced/filed for divorce. Personally, it creates such a sense of hopelessness that two people, who were once so in love, can't find that spark/settle their differences. Despite that sad notion, I still see so many of my facebook friends getting engaged and married at an alarming rate. | Was wondering young divorcees experience going through a divorce at such a young age, yet still I see so many young people getting married. Feels hopeless.* |
t3_33bygs | relationships | I (19/F) feel jealous of my SO's (18/M) new sex toy | So, recently, after breaking up with my boyfriend of almost two years, I started talking a friend of mine and long story short, we are going to start dating next week (when he is here, long-distance relationship). We are pretty sexual, masturbating together a few times a day, and we haven't had sex before, next week will be the first time.
He is not a virgin neither am I. He lost it to a girl who treated him really bad and overall he says the sex sucked pretty bad. Yesterday, he got the toy he ordered online, along some other stuff he got for me, and naturally I watched him try it. He loved it so much, moaned so loudly and came within minutes. He couldn't talk for some time but when he did, he was saying how amazing it is, how it's better than the sex he had, that it felt tighter and a lot better, and stuff.
I really am glad that he enjoyed himself... But I felt really horrible. Not like I got cheated on, nothing like that. I just... felt not enough for him. I am tight, but I don't think it's comparable to a sex toy designed for the very same purpose. I fear that he will like it more than our sex and to be honest, I really don't feel like having sex with him when he is here.
What do? | SO got a new fleshlight for himself, loved it so much, much more than his previous sexual experiences. Now I don't feel enough for him and feel really jealous. How to get over myself? |
t3_e4qdp | AskReddit | Reddit, have you ever had a supernatural experience? | I'd always been a real skeptic towards ghosts and the existence of an afterlife. Thought it was complete BS actually. But last year, I had what I felt to be a first-hand experience that changed all of this. What do you believe?
My Mom and I flew to California for my Nana's funeral and stayed at my Grandpa's house. The whole time, he kept saying that he felt like my Nana was there and that she was giving him signs. Naturally, I just drew the conclusion that he missed her too much and was making himself believe these things for comfort. In fact, my mom and I felt no presence whatsoever. We were even sleeping in the bed that she had died in, since she'd been sleeping in the spare room.
About four days passed of feeling no sign of her presence until the night of her funeral. You can imagine that after crying all day, I was knackered, and was sleeping pretty heavily (in the bed she died in, don't forget). Anyway, I woke up suddenly in the middle of the night after feeling what felt like a hand grabbing my waist. My first conclusion was that I had dreamt it, so I gave myself a minute to wake up and calm down. And then, laying there wide awake, I felt it again. It's hard to explain what it felt like, but it almost hurt? It was a hot, numbing feeling in the shape of a hand that would appear with a fair amount of pressure (enough to wake me up in the first place). It felt like she was stroking my waist, or trying to hug me, and appeared on both sides depending on which way I was laying.
So I freaked out. I woke up my mom and said I could feel something. She was shocked to say the least, to hear this coming from me. And like a big baby, I made her hug me because I was so scared. My mom said that even she had found it hard to sleep because she could feel how fast my heart was beating.
Worst sleep ever. I woke up sweating like a pedophile in a nursery and completely opened my mind to the supernatural.
Has anything like this every happened to you? | I think I felt my Nana hugging me in the bed she died in and nearly shat bricks. |
t3_b70w0 | AskReddit | Reddit, what is your opinion on buying American made products vs buying cheap products made in China (or other overseas countries)? | I personally stick by the belief (whether it is right or wrong) that outsourcing is one of the main problems with this country, and that companies like wal-mart are making it worse.
I know that some people can't afford to shop anywhere but wal-mart (sam's club, costco, most big box stores really), but I feel like every product that is not made in the U.S.A. (or Canada) takes away more jobs, which is increasing the American unemployment rate.
I have been unemployed for a while now, and am just a few years out of college (basically saying I am not rolling in money), but I will still go out of my way to buy products made in the U.S. or Canada (or even better, Minnesota). I will do this even if there are comparable products made overseas, unless the price difference is ridiculous, or there is no U.S. or Canadian option. I am constantly looking for labels on food, clothes and other products to find out where they were made.
Quality is also USUALLY better with American or Canadian products, IMO. | I go out of my way and pay more to buy American made products because I hate outsourcing. |
t3_10m9mw | AskReddit | What is your closest encounter of getting caught with drugs? | I'll start. I was a freshman in college and my boyfriend, who was a senior in high school, invited me to his prom. We took a limo with about 5 other couples and had liquor on the way to prom. The limo driver found out and confiscated it and we thought we were all going to be busted for MIP's. My boyfriend had about 5 Molly's on him. There were cops at prom so we thought we'd be questioned and searched there. We got out of the limo and nothing happened except having to shake the principal's hand while we had the Molly in the other. (We were ready to swallow the Molly in the case that we were questioned.)
This is my first post from a phone right before class, therefore sorry about grammar and everything else Reddit! | Went to prom with my boyfriend, had drugs on us, thought we were going to be searched and question and only had to shake hands with the principals. |
t3_10iftk | AskReddit | Have any of you ever gone from ready to completely take on the day to completely demotivated/demoralized after overhearing something at work? | Been at the same job over a year now and no raise. Been thinking about asking for a while. Recently a lot more responsibility has been added to my plate(not including the vast amount that has accumulated over the year). Today I gathered up the nerve to go up and ask, but just before I go ask, I hear the boss coming out of the accountant's office ranting about how he doesn't give out raises for taking on more responsibility, and went off for a few minutes about the co-worker who asked without directly saying the persons name coupled in with some of those "well he can go work for such and such for minimum wage, see if he gets a raise there" type comments. Needless to say I just turned around and went back to my desk without asking. Now I am sitting here with absolutely no motivation to do anything, had I not heard what I had just heard from the boss, I probably wouldn't be nearly as demotivated and demoralized to do work as I am at the moment. I'm not sure what to do with myself now. | went up to ask for raise, got shut down before even asking, now I'm demotivated/demoralized. |
t3_2kgey6 | relationships | Me 19F with my boyfriend 19M 8 months, I did something shitty in the early stages of our relationship and I feel guilty about it | Hey eveyone! I've lurked on here before and now I'm in need of help. I had to change the ages just a bit so hopefully it wouldn't be noticeable to people in the situation. I know Im fairly young and there are so many other big issues couples are going through but I need advice.
In the beginning of our relationship I really liked my boyfriend and we rushed into a relationship after one date. A friend of mine started to develop feelings for me while I was in the relationship and so when we would hangout it would be like us going on dates. Me and the guy friend would cuddle at the end of the night and he tried to kiss me twice although I didn't let him. I would flirt with him a lot and I went on these "hangouts/dates" like 3 or 4 times.
I know what I did was wrong and I try to rationalize and say I'm young and that I didn't sleep or kiss anybody so technically it isn't cheating. What I did wasn't right and my boyfriend is perfect now and I can't help but feel so guilty. If I told him he would breakup with me and I don't want that-I just don't know what to do. | I hungout with a friend and was flirty and cuddly with him during the beginning of my relationship with my current boyfriend. I feel real guilty and need advice! |
t3_50o8mo | relationships | I [24M] can't deal with the sories about my gf [26F] and her ex boyfriends and men she had bfore we met. | Hey reddit. Again you're my last sanctuary. Throwaway bc my gf knows my reddit name. | I can't handle stories of my gf of other men before we met and I don't know what to do. I feel lost and heartbroken. Please help. |
t3_35lr34 | relationships | I (32m) met a girl (28f) through an online post for a massage. We have been talking for a few months. She says she loves me. Don't know what to do. | Ok, a little backstory. I moved to a new city far away from where I had lived my whole life. Like the other side of the country. Not knowing anyone was hard, especially since I worked all the time, so I didn't really have time to go out and meet people. Well, i went on a classified site, looked up a private massage provider, and went to see her.
She is amazing. She is beautiful, intellegent, sweet, really everything I have ever looked for in a woman. The only problem is that I paid her for her services on more than one occasion.
Last time we got together, I pay for my massage, and after the massage, she asks if I would like to stay. Of course I said yes. We have an incredible weekend together. Incredible. She makes me feel so good.
The last day we spent together, she said that she is falling for me. That she is rapidly starting to love me and that she wants to be with me.
And I I would be ok with that, in fact I feel that I am falling for her, too. The only problem is that I am not her only client. She has said that she sees 2-4 clients a day. And I don't know what happens during those other sessions, but I know what happened after mine.
So what should I do? | hooked up with a private masseuse, she says she is in love, I'm afraid to get played |
t3_unqul | AskReddit | Would Americans (and other people from around the world) value more access to their representatives? | Here in New Zealand we had, until today, a TV programme called Back Benches where a couple of our members of parliament would go to a bar and discuss political issues of the day with each other and the public. we're gutted to see it go, but cutting its funding is part of New Zealand's version of austerity.
Anyone could turn up to this bar and heckle, question and talk to them. the format means there's less chance for media management and spin doctoring, and you get a sense of what the politicians are really like.
New Zealand's politicians are notoriously accessible, I personally have met two of New Zealand's Prime Ministers as well as the leaders of most of our current political parties.
What would the rest of the world think about this kind of access to their elected officials? | do you think politicians should be more accessible? |
t3_4mbw2n | relationships | Me [21 M] with my fiance [22 F] together for 3 years unsure about her new friend. | My fiance and I moved to California together a couple years ago to start a new life here lately things have been a little rocky between us but I have been assuming its normal stuff.
However she just made a new guy friend i havent met yet and they've been spending a lot of time together. She said that he is new here and depressed to the point of self harm and so she's been spending extra effort towards seeing him. This is all cool but she didn't come home twice because they had some beer and she didnt want him driving plus theres a spare room so she said she crashed there. No problem. But suddenly she seems more distant and her text are always deleted. She says its because he talks about his depression problems and drug issues and its very personal so i accepted that and have let it be. But then I saw some suggestive texts he sent while I had the phone just stuff like "i'd love to see you" instead of lets hang out "Hey pretty lady".
I spoke with her about it and she said he must have been drunk or something because she had been very clear about not being interested and having a boyfriend. and he had just gone to a bar she showed me the texts. We agreed the next time we hang out it be together and the texts were inappropriate but i think she left in his car when she said she was going with someone else tonight. How do i handle this reddit? | Girlfriend spending 1 on 1 time with new depressed friend I think she may really be cheating. |
t3_1j304l | relationships | Should I [25F] try to get back in touch with my ex [24M]? It's been a week but I am still devastated over it. | It's been a week since we broke up. He basically stopped contacting me and closed off most of our usual ways of talking. I'm afraid to just call him. Should I even do it?
We were in a relationship for over a year. We had a loving relationship though we argued over sex (he wanted it too much, and he usually guilted me into it or threatened that he would watch his friend who's does webcamming instead) and him taking out his anger on me (verbally).
I miss him terribly. Even though I'm pretty sure he's happier without me around. | Ex cut off all contact. It's been a week and I still want to get back together. Should I bother? If not, how can I get over this faster? |
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